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• Amantombazane alahlekile
• I-Declassified Adoptee
• Ukuvuma Kokutholwa
• Ngamehlo Engane Yokutholwa
• Ibhulogi Labantu Abamukelwe
• Ngithathiwe
• Ukubuyiselwa Kwe-Adoptee
• I-Adoptionfind Blog
• Adoptee Ekutholeni
• Ama-American Indian Adoptees
• Izimvu Ezimnyama Amaphupho Amnandi
• UDaniel Drennan EIAwar
• EMpumalanga-Ntshonalanga yesihlahla seBodhi
• Inkawu kaHarlow
• Impilo Yokutholwa
• Akukho ukuxolisa ngokuba yimi
• Ukusunduza ngentambo
• Idayari ye-Asian-Not-So-Angry Adoptee
• Bonke Emndenini Wokutholwa
• Umntwana Omuhle: Ama-Adoptee Diaries

Siwakhethe ngokucophelela lawa mabhulogi ngoba asebenza ngenkuthalo ukuze afundise, akhuthaze, futhi anike amandla abafundi bawo ngezibuyekezo ezivamile nolwazi olusezingeni eliphakeme. Uma ungathanda ukusitshela ngebhulogi, bakhethe ngokubathumelela i-imeyili [email protected]!

Umbuso waseMassachusetts waphasisa umthetho wokuqala wesizwe wokutholwa ngo-1851. Kusukela lapho, imithetho nemithethonqubo - ingasaphathwa eyokubaluleka kwamasiko - kokutholwa kushintshe kakhulu e-United States.

Namuhla, cishe zingu-135,000 izingane ezitholwa e-United States minyaka yonke. Noma igama elithi "ukutholwa" lingahlazeki kakhulu kunalokhu elaliyikho eminyakeni engama-40 noma engama-50 edlule, izingane eziningi ezitholwa ngabantu zithwala imizwa eminingi ngenxa yalokho. Yize kungebona bonke abamukelwa abazizwa ngale ndlela, abaningi babhekana nemizwa yokushiywa nokungafaneleki okungaqhubeka iminyaka, uma kungenjalo impilo yonke.

Imvamisa ukulandisa okungokwesiko kokutholwa kutshelwa ngokukhethekile ohlangothini lomzali wokutholwa - hhayi abamukeli uqobo. Amabhulogi esiwabhale ohlwini ayakushintsha lokho. Kubandakanya uhla lwamaphimbo ahlukahlukene akhanyisa ukukhanya ngezingqinamba, ukukhathazeka, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho komphakathi wokutholwa.

Amantombazane alahlekile

Kwaqala ngo-2011, iLost Daughters ukubambisana okuzimele kwabantu besifazane ababhala ngamava abo okutholwa. Inhloso yabo ukudala indawo ephephile yokuthi abamukeli baphendukele lapho kudingeka baziveze khona. Ababhali babhekana nezindikimba zokushiya nokuqina, bahlole izikhungo ezelusa futhi zikhuthaze ukutholwa, futhi bakhuthaze indawo evulekile yezingxoxo ezikhiqizayo mayelana nokwamukelwa.

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I-Declassified Adoptee

Le bhulogi, ebhalwe ngu-Amanda Transue-Woolston, inobuntu obukhulu. Uqale ukubhala ngesipiliyoni sakhe sokuthola abazali bakhe bokuzalwa. Lapho esekufezile lokho, waphendulela izintshisekelo zakhe kubushoshovu bokutholwa. Isayithi lakhe linikezela ngolwazi oluningi maqondana nenqubo yokwamukelwa ngokusemthethweni. Inhloso yakhe ukuphonsela inselelo umbono wokuthi ukutholwa kuyinqubo engaqondakali, futhi sicabanga ukuthi usendleleni efanele.

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Ukuvuma Kokutholwa

Le bhulogi yokutholwa engaziwa iyindawo enhle ephephile kulabo abamukelwa futhi abafuna ukuhlanganyela okuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Okuthunyelwe lapha kuluhlaza. Imininingwane eminingi ukungavikeleki okuvame ukuza ngokuba ngumuntu owamukelayo. Lokhu kufaka ukungakwazi ukwethemba, kanye nezinkumbulo ezibuhlungu zokususwa emakhaya abazali bokuzalwa. Uma ungumuntu wokutholwa futhi uhlangabezane nalezi zingqinamba noma eminye imizwa ngokutholwa futhi ufuna indawo yokuveza lezo zinkathazo, nansi indawo yakho.

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Ngamehlo Engane Yokutholwa

Kule bhulogi yomuntu siqu, uBecky ubhala ngohambo lwakhe lokuthola abazali bakhe bemvelo. Wabelana nabafundi ngemicabango yakhe ejulile nobunzima uma kukhulunywa ngesipiliyoni sakhe sokutholwa. Okunye kokuthunyelwe kwakhe okuthakazelisa kakhulu kufaka phakathi ukwehlukaniswa kwezindleko ezihambisana nokwamukelwa kwakhe uqobo, nokuthi kwakunjani ukuzwa ukuthi ubaba wakhe omzalayo wayenenkinga yezempilo.

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Ibhulogi Labantu Abamukelwe

Le bhulogi inikeza izibalo eziningi maqondana nenqubo yokutholwa, kanye nenqwaba yama-akhawunti wabantu bokuqala. Imibono nemibono iyahlukahluka. Isibonelo, okuthunyelwe mayelana nobuhle nobubi bokubungaza usuku lokutholwa kwengane yakho ngokuqhathaniswa nosuku lwabo lokuzalwa langempela, kuveza izimpikiswano ezinhlangothini zombili. Okunye okuthunyelwe okwabantu, kanti okunye kukhuluma ngezindaba ezingeni likazwelonke. Kepha konke kunikeza imibono ethokozisayo nehehayo emhlabeni wokutholwa.

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Ngithathiwe

UJessenia Arias akazibambi uma kukhulunywa ngokuhlukumezeka izingane ezivame ukubhekana nakho ngesikhathi nangemuva kokutholwa. Izinsizakusebenza ziyatholakala zabafundi ezibandakanya amaqembu okusekela okwamukela abantu bebala. Uzothola nokuthunyelwe ngemiphumela yesikhathi eside engokomzwelo yokutholwa. Nezeluleko zokuthi ubathethelele kanjani abazali bakho bokuzalwa kanye nezinsizakusebenza zokuthola izifundi zemfundo zezingane zokutholwa.

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Ukubuyiselwa Kwe-Adoptee

Le bhulogi ilungele abantu abafuna ukuqonda okungcono kokutholwa ngokombono womphakathi wamaKristu. Ngokujulile ngokomoya, umbhali webhulogi uDeanna Doss Shrode ubhale izincwadi ezingekho ngaphansi kwezine ngokutholwa. Njengongqongqoshe, isikhulumi somphakathi, kanye nomuntu owamukelayo, uDoss Shrode uletha etafuleni umbono oyingqayizivele. Ukholo lwakhe lunikeza isisekelo sesibindi sakhe sokukhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe.

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I-Adoptionfind Blog

V.L. UBrunskill ungumbhali owamukelekayo futhi owaziwayo owathola abazali bakhe abazalwa naye eminyakeni engama-25 edlule. Imibhalo yakhe yokuthi isimo samanje sezepolitiki sikuthinta kanjani ukutholwa kunekhwalithi yezincwadi. Okunye kokuthunyelwe kwakhe okuthinta inhliziyo kakhulu bekuvela kuSuku Lomama. Ubhale isiqeshana esihambayo lapho akhuluma khona ngothando ngomama wakhe wokutholwa nomama omzalayo.

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Adoptee Ekutholeni

UPamela A. Karanova uthole ukuthi wamukelwa esemncane eneminyaka emihlanu. Uchithe iminyaka engama-20 efuna abazali bakhe bemvelo. Okuthunyelwe kwakhe kokuqala kuyincwadi evulekele umama wakhe wokuzalwa, lapho echaza khona ukuphupha ngokuhlangana kwabo okujabulisayo nokuthi lokho kuqhathaniswa kanjani neqiniso. Lokhu okuthunyelwe ngumphefumulo kubeka isisekelo sokunye okuqukethwe kubhulogi yakhe.

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Ama-American Indian Adoptees

Le bhulogi ingumcebo wolwazi kubantu boMdabu baseMelika abamukelwe. Izincwadi, amacala asenkantolo, amaphepha ocwaningo, nama-akhawunti wabantu bokuqala - konke kulapho. Buka amavidiyo abonisa izingqinamba umphakathi waseMelika waseMelika obhekene nazo mayelana nokutholwa, funda ngezindaba zakamuva zomthetho ezimayelana namalungelo okuthola, nokuningi.

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Izimvu Ezimnyama Amaphupho Amnandi

Umbhali wamaBlack Sheep Sweet Dreams uyi-African-American futhi wamukelwa emndenini omhlophe ophakathi nendawo. Wenza umsebenzi omuhle wokusebenzisa imultimedia ukuhlinzeka ngemininingwane ebalulekile ngokutholwa. Isayithi lakhe limayelana nokusekela abanye abafuna ukuthola abazali babo begazi, nokuthi bangenza kanjani ukufeza leyo njongo.

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UDaniel Drennan EIAwar

UDaniel uzibiza ngomuntu omdala owamukelwe. Ukholelwa ukuthi ukutholwa kuyamakethwa njengenqubo efakwe uswidi ebonakala ngathi ayinandaba ngemindeni uqobo kanye nezingane ezikuthintayo. Kokunye kokuthunyelwe kwakhe, ukhuluma nge-The Adoption Honness Project, okuyinhlangano ayisungula ngenhloso "yokubuyisa" igama ukwamukelwa kusuka emibonweni engemihle esivame ukuhlotshaniswa nayo, ikakhulukazi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.

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EMpumalanga-Ntshonalanga yesihlahla seBodhi

I-East-West yesihlahla seBodhi ilandisa ngempilo kaBrooke, owesifazane waseSri Lankan owathathwa njengengane ngumndeni wase-Australia. Inhloso yakhe ukwenza inqubo yokwamukelwa ibe ngeyakho uqobo ngokugxila kubantu abathola izingane zokutholwa. Okuthunyelwe kwakhe kumboza izindaba ezinjengobuhlanga, impikiswano yokuthi ushintshe igama lakho noma cha, nokuningi.

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Inkawu kaHarlow

Le bhulogi ibhekana nezinkinga ezivame ukuhlangana zokwamukelwa kwamazwe omhlaba kanye nobuzwe. Umbhali uJaeRan Kim wazalelwa eSouth Korea futhi wamukelwa emndenini waseMelika ngo-1971. UKim uyakwazi ukuchaza ukududulwa nokuba ngumuntu onebala emndenini omhlophe, ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba ngumKorea, nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba WaseMelika. Uma usuqale ukufunda, ngeke ukwazi ukuyeka.

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Impilo Yokutholwa

I-Adopted Life iletha udaba lokutholwa kobandlululo phambili naphakathi nendawo. Kwaqala njengohambo lomuntu u-Angela Tucker, ongumAfrika-waseMelika futhi wamukelwa emndenini wabamhlophe. Namuhla, indawo yakhe ibuye ibe nochungechunge lwamavidiyo wegama elifanayo. UTucker uxoxa nezivakashi ezizulazula ukutholwa. Izingxoxo ziyajabulisa, ziyaqonda, futhi ziyamangaza.

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Akukho ukuxolisa ngokuba yimi

Ibhulogi kaLynn Grubb igcwele izinsizakusebenza zanoma ngubani oza ngokuvumelana nokwamukelwa. Futhi kunezigaba zokuhlolwa kwe-DNA nokuthi ikusasa likuphatheleni ngokwamukelwa. Ubuye anikeze izincomo zokufunda zokubhekana nemiphumela engokomzwelo yokutholwa nangezinto ezisemthethweni zokuthola abazali bakho bokuzalwa. UGrubb futhi ungumbhali wencwadi ethi "The Adoptee Survival Guide."

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Ukusunduza ngentambo

UTerri Vanech uthatha iposti yebhulogi eyodwa ngesikhathi. Akukhona konke okuthunyelwe okuphathelene nokwamukelwa. Isibonelo, okunye okuthunyelwe okumnandi kumayelana nengxoxo phakathi kwabapayipi bamanzi ababesebenza emapayipini abolile endlini yakhe. Okunye okuthunyelwe kukhuluma ngendaba enameva yomthetho wokutholwa kanye nemfihlo ezungeze ukutholwa okuningi. Umfundi angahlala amahora amaningi phezu kwenhlanganisela yokuqukethwe okumnandi nokujulile.

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Idayari ye-Asian-Not-So-Angry Adoptee

UChristina Romo washiywa esemncane eSeoul, eKorea.Akasikhumbuli leso sikhathi, kepha kokuthunyelwe kwakhe kubhulogi, udala ukulandisa okuzungeze imizwa yakhe ngalolo suku olubi. Ngeke ukwazi ukufunda okuthunyelwe kwakhe, njenge-Dear Subway Station Baby, ngaphandle kokuhanjiswa.

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Bonke Emndenini Wokutholwa

Enye ibhulogi enkulu yokutholwa komuntu siqu, Konke Ekukhulisweni Komndeni, ibhalwe nguRobin. Ibhulogi yakhe iqukethe ukuxuba kokuqukethwe - eminye imibhalo yomuntu siqu kanye nezinsizakusebenza zocwaningo zabemukeli abafuna ukuthola abazali babo bokuzalwa. URobin futhi wenza umsebenzi omuhle wokuqhakambisa amanye amabhulogi abhalwe ngombono womuntu owamukelekayo. Woza lapha ukuze ufunde okuhlukahlukene!

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Umntwana Omuhle: Ama-Adoptee Diaries

Umbhali u-Elaine Pinkerton wamukelwa eneminyaka engu-5. Waqala ukugcina idayari eneminyaka engu-10, kwathi emashumini amane eminyaka kamuva wanquma ukuguqula iminyaka engama-40 yamaphephabhuku abe incwadi. Okuthunyelwe kwakhe kubhulogi kumboza imisebenzi yakhe, ukuhamba kwakhe, nokuthi ukushicilela indaba yakhe kumsize kanjani ukuthi aphulukise ekutholeni kwakhe.

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