Izidakamizwa Zokuzitika

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Ahhh, ehlobo. Njengoba ophaya bamaholide wasebusika namakhukhi kade ngemuva kwethu, singakhipha umoya wokukhululeka nomoya ohelezayo kulezi zinyanga ezifudumele ngezithiyo ezimbalwa ezinamafutha aphezulu endleleni yethu, akunjalo? Qagela futhi. Abaningi bethu "baneholide" - noma imuphi umgubho ofaka isigaba sokudla - okungenani kabili ngenyanga, unyaka wonke.

"Ezinyangeni ezifudumele, unoSuku Lomama, uSuku Lobaba, uLwesine kuJulayi, futhi mhlawumbe nemishado nezihlambi, izinsuku zokuzalwa nokunye," kusho umqeqeshi uqobo uSusan Cantwell, umbhali we I-Mind Over Matter: Izinketho Zomuntu Siqu Zokuphila Okufanelekile (I-Stoddart Publishing, 1999). "Futhi ngazo zonke lezi zinto kunengqondo 'yokuphela kwesikhathi' ongathatha ngayo ikhefu ekudleni okunempilo." Umphumela: uhlelo lokudla olonakalisiwe.

Kepha kunokuba uvumele ukudla kukulawule, ungavula amatafula ngamasu ambalwa. Ezinye izinyathelo zokulwa nokuzitika yizimbangi unyaka wonke:

1. Hlela imephu ngamaholide akho afihliwe. Maka umhleli wakho - qopha yonke imicimbi esindayo yokudla okulindele ukuhlangana nayo ezinyangeni ezizayo, hhayi nje emikhulu kuphela. Isibonelo, ungakhohlwa iphathi yosuku lokuzalwa yasehhovisi, i-Barbecue yoSuku Lwabasebenzi, iholide elizayo noma ukuhlangana komndeni. "Uma ngihlala phansi namakhasimende, bavame ukushaqeka uma bethola ukuthi banemicimbi efika kwemine kuya kwayi-10 ngenyanga lapho bakhonjwe ukuthi badla kakhulu," kusho uCantwell.

2. Dlala kabi, hhayi ukuzivikela. Njengoba amaholidi akho ekhonjwe, yiba nohlelo lomdlalo omncane ngaphambi kokuya kulowo nalowo. Uma kungenzeka, nquma ukuthi uzodla uphuze malini ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Isu elilodwa eliwusizo lemicimbi yendawo yokudlela: Shayela futhi ucele ikhophi yemenyu ethunyelwe ngefeksi -- ungenza isinqumo sakho sokudla ngaphambi kokuthi uhambe, ngaphandle kokucindezela kontanga.

3. Cela ababambisene nabo. Imicimbi yomndeni ingaba yinto ekhohlisa kunazo zonke, ngamasiko abo okudla alingayo nomlayezo wokudla konke okukulo ungcwecwe wakho. Ukuxhumana kubalulekile. "Ngaphambi kokuthi udlule, shayela ucingo uthi, 'Yilokhu engizama ukukwenza, futhi yile ndlela ongangisiza ngayo,'" kusho uCantwell, noma ngabe lokho kucela umndeni wakho ukuba ukulungisele amazambane abhakiwe eceleni. noma phaka umhluzi esikebheni esikhundleni sokudla.

4. Izwa ukuzethemba kwakho kwakha. Vele, akuwona wonke umuntu ozokufaka, noma abe wusizo. Futhi kwabanye abantu, kuyalinga ukweqa imicimbi ngokuphelele - isu lesikhathi esifushane elingakwazi ukubamba unomphela. Ekuqaleni, "abesifazane abaningi bazizwa sengathi bahlola uweta noma baphazamisa abanye ngokukhetha kwabo ukudla," kusho uCantwell. Ngenhlanhla, lokhu kuzicabangela kuyehla. Kufingqa uCantwell: "Njengoba uya ukhululeka ngokwengeziwe ekukhetheni kwakho, uzoba nokuzethemba okukhulu ukuzenza phambi kwabanye abantu."

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