Kusho Ukuthini ukuba yi-Biromantic?

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• Kusho ukuthini ngempela i-biromantic?
• Usho ukuthini uma uthi ‘noma ngaphezulu’?
• Kubukeka kanjani ukwenza i-biromantic ekusebenzeni?
• Kwehluke kanjani lokhu ekubeni yipanicantic?
• Ukuba biromantic kuhlangana kanjani nokuziphatha kwakho ngokobulili?
• Ngakho-ke ungaba biromantic hhayi ngithanda abesilisa nabesifazane?
• Kungani lokhu kuphikisana kangaka?
• Ukwenza kanjani lokhu wabelana ngakho nabantu abasempilweni yakho?
• Ungafunda kuphi kabanzi?

Kusho ukuthini ngempela i-biromantic?

Abantu abathandanayo bangakhangwa ngothando kubantu bobulili obubili noma ngaphezulu - ngamanye amagama, ubulili obuningi.

Kuhlukile ekuthandeni abesilisa nabesifazane ngokuthi ukuba biromantic kumayelana nokuheha kwezothando, hhayi ukukhangwa ngokocansi.

Usho ukuthini uma uthi ‘noma ngaphezulu’?

Isiqalo esithi “bi-” sisho ukuthi “okubili,” kepha ubungqingili kanye ne-biromanticism akumayelana nobulili obubili kuphela.

Ubulili abuyona into kanambambili - ngamanye amagama, "abesilisa" kanye "nabesifazane" akubona abesilisa kuphela ongahlonza nabo.

Umuntu ongekho kanambambili akakhombi kuphela njengendoda noma owesifazane.

I-nonbinary yigama lesambulela elihlanganisa ubunikazi obuningi bomuntu ngamunye, njenge-bigender, i-pangender, i-genderfluid, ne-agender, ukubala nje ezimbalwa.

Incazelo ye- “bisexual” ne- “biromantic” ingabandakanya abantu abangazinikeli, yingakho ubungqingili kanye ne-biromanticism zimayelana nokuheha abantu ababili noma ngaphezulu ubulili.

Kubukeka kanjani ukwenza i-biromantic ekusebenzeni?

Ukuba yi-biromantic kubukeka kwehlukile kubantu abahlukile. Kungabonakala ngathi:

• ukuheha kothando kwabesilisa nabesifazane, kepha hhayi abantu abangabhalisile
• ukuheha kothando kubantu besilisa nabangabizi, kepha hhayi abesifazane
• ukuheha kothando kwabesifazane nabantu abangabhalisi, kepha hhayi amadoda
• ukukhanga kothando kwabesilisa, abesifazane, nabantu abanobunikazi obuthile obungasetshenziswanga
• ukukhanga kothando kubantu bazo zonke izinhlobo zobulili
• ukukhanga kothando kubantu abangabhalisi bobunikazi obuhlukahlukene, kepha hhayi abantu kanambambili (okungukuthi, abantu abakhomba kuphela abesilisa noma abesifazane)

Uma u-biromantic, ungazithola uhlobene nesinye sezitatimende ezilandelayo:

• Uthola ukuthi ubulili abuyona into ebalulekile kuwe uma kuziwa ekunqumeni ukuthi ufuna ukuthandana nobani futhi uzibophezele kubani.
• Ufise ubudlelwano bezothando nabantu abalingana neqembu elilodwa lobulili nabantu abalingana nelinye iqembu lobulili.
• Uma ucabanga umlingani wothando wesikhathi esizayo, awuhlali umfanekisela umuntu wobulili obufanayo.

Khumbula, ayikho indlela eyodwa yokwenza i-biromantic - bonke abantu biromantic bahlukile. Ngakho-ke, ungahle ube yi-biromantic ngaphandle kokuhlobene nalokhu okungenhla.

Kwehluke kanjani lokhu ekubeni yipanicantic?

I-Panromantic isho ukuba namandla okuthandana nabantu be konke ubulili.

I-Biromantic isho ukuba namandla okuthandana nabantu be amaningi ubulili.

I-Biromantic ivuleke kancane njengoba kungasho ukuthi ukhangwa ngothando kumaqembu amabili, amathathu, amane, amahlanu, noma wonke amaqembu wobulili.

IPanromantic, ngakolunye uhlangothi, imayelana konke amaqembu ezobulili. Ngamanye amagama, kunokugqagqana okuncane.

Abanye abantu bakhomba njengokubili kwe-biromantic ne-panromantic. Kwesinye isikhathi, abantu basebenzisa igama elithi biromantic esikhundleni se-panromantic ukucacisa ukuthi abathandi ngothando kuwo wonke amaqembu wobulili.

Isibonelo, omunye umuntu angazithola ehehwa ngabesifazane nabantu abangaqashiwe, kepha hhayi amadoda. Kulokhu, i-biromantic ibachaza kahle, kepha i-panromantic ayenzi kanjalo.

Ekugcineni kukuwe njengomuntu ukuthi ukhetha yiphi ilebula noma amalebula akuvumelayo.

Ukuba biromantic kuhlangana kanjani nokuziphatha kwakho ngokobulili?

Kungenzeka ukuthi ube ngababili abesilisa nabesilisa nabesifazane. Lokhu kusho ukuthi nobabili niheha ngothando nangokobulili kubantu bobulili obuhlukahlukene.

Kodwa-ke, abanye abantu abathandana nabesilisa abanezinkanuko zobulili ezihlukile kwezothando lwabo.

Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi "i-orientation exubile" noma "i-cross-orientation" - lapho uheha ngothando eqenjini elilodwa labantu futhi ukhangwa ngokocansi kwelinye iqembu labantu.

Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa zabantu abane-biromantic abane-orientation exubile:

• Umuntu othanda abantu abathandana nobulili obuthile uheha ngothando kubantu bobulili obuhlukahlukene, kepha uthola okuncane kokukhanga ngokocansi.
• Owesifazane oyintandokazi, ongqingili ukhangwa ngothando kubantu bobulili obuhlukahlukene, kepha ukhangwa kuphela ngabesifazane.
• Indoda ethanda abantu bobulili obufanayo, ethandana nabantu bobungqingili iheha ngothando kubantu bobulili obuhlukahlukene, kepha iheha abesilisa kuphela.
• Owesifazane ongathandani nobulili obuhlukile, uthandana nabantu bobulili obuhlukahlukene, kepha ukhangwa abesilisa kuphela.
• Umuntu ongathandani nobulili obubodwa uyathandeka kubantu bobulili obuhlukahlukene, kepha ukhangwa ngokobulili kubo bonke ubulili. Mhlawumbe bazithola bethandana nabesilisa nabantu abangabhali, kepha hhayi abesifazane.

Lezi yizibonelo ezimbalwa kuphela zokuthi ukubukeka okuxubile kungabukeka kanjani. Lezi akuzona ukuphela kwezindlela zokuzichaza.

Ngakho-ke ungaba biromantic hhayi ngithanda abesilisa nabesifazane?

Yebo. Imvamisa, "abesilisa nabesifazane" kusetshenziselwa ukuchaza zombili ezothando nezocansi.

Kodwa-ke, njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, ukuma okuxubile kuyinto futhi ungaba nobungqingili ngaphandle kokuthanda abantu - futhi okuphambene nalokho.

Kungani lokhu kuphikisana kangaka?

Abantu abaningi banomuzwa wokuthi ukukhangana ngokocansi nangothando kuyinto efanayo.

Abanye bathi igama elithi abesilisa nabesifazane lisho ukuthi uthandana nabesilisa ababili noma ngaphezulu, kanye nokuheha abesilisa nabesifazane ababili noma ngaphezulu.

Eminyakeni yamuva nje, sifunde ukuthi ukuma okuxubile kuyinto yangempela, nokuthi kunezindlela eziningi zokuthola ukukhanga.

Ukwenza kanjani lokhu wabelana ngakho nabantu abasempilweni yakho?

Ngakho-ke, usuthole ukuthi ungumuntu othanda izingane. Kuyesabeka! Ngalesi sikhathi, ungahle uthande ukutshela abantu abasempilweni yakho.

Kwabanye abantu, ukuphuma kungazizwa kungumkhosi. Kwabanye, kuyinto evamile. Ukuphuma kungabonakala:

• ukuqoqela abangane bakho nomndeni wakho mathupha ubatshele ukuthi uyizintandokazi
• ukukhuluma nomuntu ngamunye nabantu obathandayo ubatshele ukuthi ungumuntu othanda abantu
• ukwenza okuthunyelwe kwezokuxhumana lapho uchaza khona ukuthanda kwakho kwezothando
• ubuke iNetflix nomngani wakho futhi ngokunganaki uthi, "Kodwa, ngiyisithandwa sami!"

Iqiniso ukuthi ayikho indlela "efanele" yokuphuma njenge-biromantic - konke kukuwe ukuthi unqume ukuthi yini ezwa ukhululekile.

Lapho uphuma njenge-biromantic, ungahle uthande ukusebenzisa amaphuzu alandelayo okuxoxa:

• Qala ngokusho ukuthi kukhona ongathanda ukukuhlanganyela nabo. Batshele ukuthi uyizintandokazi.
• Chaza ukuthi kusho ukuthini. Ungase uthi, "Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngiyakwazi ukuheha ngothando kubantu bobulili obuhlukahlukene." Mhlawumbe chaza ukuthi yibuphi ubulili okhangwe yibo.
• Uma ungathanda, chaza nokuthanda kwakho ezocansi, nomehluko phakathi kokuheha kwezothando nezocansi.
• Batshele ukuthi hlobo luni losizo oludingayo. Isibonelo, ungathi, “Ngingathanda ukukhuluma ngemizwa enginayo. Ngingakuvezela? ” noma "Ungangisiza ngitshele abazali bami?" noma "Bengifuna ukukwazisa ngoba kubalulekile kimi."

Uma uphumela kumuntu mathupha futhi unovalo ngokusabela kwabo, kungaba ukuhlakanipha ukuza nomngani ozokusekela.

Awuyena umlandeli wezingxoxo zabantu? Cabanga ukuphuma ngombhalo noma ucingo. Abantu abaningi baphuma ngemithombo yezokuxhumana, ebasiza ukuthi batshele abantu abaningi ngasikhathi sinye futhi baqoqe uthando nokusekelwa kulabo ababazungezile.

Ungafunda kuphi kabanzi?

Ukuze ufunde kabanzi nge-biromanticism, hlola izinsiza ezilandelayo ze-inthanethi:

• I-Asexual Visibility and Education Network, lapho ungasesha khona izincazelo zamagama ahlukene ahlobene nezocansi nokuzikhethela
• I-Bisexual Resource Center neBiNet USA, okuyimithombo yomibili yolwazi nokusekelwa kwabantu abathandana nabesilisa nabesifazane
• IGLAAD, enezinsizakusebenza eziningi nama-athikili kusayithi labo

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