Ukwelashwa kwe-constellation yomndeni: kuyini, kwenzelwa ini nokuthi kwenziwa kanjani

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• Yenzelwe ini
• Ukwelashwa kwenziwa kanjani

Umlaza womndeni uhlobo lwezokwelapha ngokwengqondo oluhlose ukwenza lula ukwelashwa kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ikakhulukazi lezo ezingakhuthazwa ngamandla omndeni nobudlelwano, ngokuhlonza izinto zokucindezeleka nokwelashwa kwazo.

Lena inqubo esungulwe ngudokotela wezifo zengqondo waseJalimane uBert Hellinger, owelapha ngongoti kwezokwelapha emndenini othole ubukhona bamandla avumayo nalawo angekho emabhizinisini omndeni. Ebheka amaphethini alobu budlelwano, kanye nokukhathazeka nemizwelo ebangelwa uhlobo ngalunye lobudlelwano, uBert wenza inqubo engeyona eyeyokuhlasela ukuze akwazi ukwenza umuntu ukuthi abuke umhlaba ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, amkhulule ezintweni ezithile ezicindezelayo, okungaba yimbangela yokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Ukwenza le ndlela kubalulekile ukubonisana nodokotela owelapha ngokukhethekile ekusetshenzisweni kwale nqubo, njengoba inemithetho ethile nezinhlobo zokusebenza, okudinga ukuhlonishwa ukuze kuvezwe imiphumela elindelekile.

Yenzelwe ini

Ngokombono wokuthi kusekela ukwelashwa kwemilaza yomndeni, izikhathi zingasiza ukuxazulula izinkinga zemvelaphi yomndeni, ubunzima bobudlelwano phakathi kwabazali nezingane, kanye nezinselelo ebudlelwaneni obuseduze.

Ngakho-ke, abantu abavame ukuphendukela emkhakheni womndeni yilabo:

• Bafuna ukuxazulula izinkinga zomndeni;
• Badinga ukubhekana namaphethini obudlelwano obubi;
• Bafuna ukunqoba isiphithiphithi sangaphakathi;
• Ngubani owathola ukuhlukumezeka noma ukulahlekelwa okuphawulekayo.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwelashwa kwemilaza yomndeni nakho kubonakala kuyithuluzi elihle kunoma ngubani ofuna ukuzuza izinga eliphakeme lempumelelo yobungcweti noma yomuntu siqu.

Ukwelashwa kwenziwa kanjani

Ngokuvamile, kulolu hlobo lwezokwelapha, iqembu labantu abangazani lisetshenziselwa ukuthatha indawo futhi lithathe indima yamalungu athile omndeni womuntu ofuna ukuthola isisombululo kubunzima noma ukukhathazeka abakulethayo .

Ngemuva kwalokho, umelaphi ukhuthaza ukuhlangana nala "malungu omndeni" bese ecela umuntu ngamunye ukuthi azame ukubona ukuthi yimiphi imizwa engemuva kwemishwana nokuziphatha komuntu ofuna isisombululo. Kubalulekile-ke ukuthi kungabi bikho kubantu abamele umndeni abazi umuntu owelapha noma inkinga ezokwelashwa, ngoba lezi zinto akufanele zithonye indlela okuhunyushwa ngayo imizwa.

Ngalesi sikhathi, umelaphi umi ngaphandle kokuxhumana futhi uzama ukuhlola yonke imibono, bese, kanye nemizwa ebikwe ngumuntu ngamunye, akhombise lowo muntu wonke amaqiniso ngokuxhumana kwabo "nomndeni", akhombe amaphuzu okucindezeleka okukhulu, okuthi idinga ukusetshenzwa.

Njengoba kungumuthi olinganiselayo, umlaza womndeni awulethi njalo imiphumela esheshayo, futhi kungadingeka izikhathi eziningi kuze kube yilapho umuntu eqala ukukhomba ukuthi yini okudingeka iguquke ekusebenzisaneni kwabo namanye amalungu omndeni. Kusuka kwesinye isikhathi kuya kwesinye, kujwayelekile ukuthi umelaphi ashintshe izindima "zamalungu omndeni" ahlukene aze athole inhlangano / iqoqo lezinkanyezi elisiza lowo muntu ukubona izithiyo zakhe.