Ungabhekana Kanjani Nokulahlekelwa Yisilwane Esithandekayo

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• Isingeniso
• Amandla obudlelwano bezilwane ezifuywayo
• Ukudabuka ngokulahlekelwa isilwane
• Ukuqhubekela phambili ngemuva kokulahlekelwa
• Wazi kanjani ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthola isilwane esisha
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Isingeniso

Izibopho esizakha nezilwane ezifuywayo zinamandla. Uthando lwabo ngathi aluhambi, futhi banendlela yokusenza sizizwe singcono ngisho nasezinsukwini zethu ezimbi kakhulu - okwenza ukulahleka kwesilwane kube nzima kakhulu.

Funda ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngamandla obudlelwano bezilwane zasekhaya kanye nezinyathelo zokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokulahlekelwa okulimazayo, uma kwenzeka futhi nini.

Amandla obudlelwano bezilwane ezifuywayo

Ubudlelwano bethu besilwane buphakathi kwezinto ezinamandla kakhulu empilweni yethu yonke. Banikeza:

• ukusekelwa okuphawulekayo ngokomzwelo
• izinzuzo zempilo yengqondo
• ubungane obungantengantengi
• uthando ngezingane zethu namanye amalungu omndeni

Ukudabuka ngokulahlekelwa isilwane

Usizi lokulahlekelwa isilwane osithandayo lungaba lukhulu. Futhi yisimo esibucayi ngokwedlulele kunoma iziphi izingane ongaba nazo emndenini wakho. Cabanga ngezinyathelo ezilandelayo ngemuva kokuthi isilwane sakho senze ushintsho lwaso:

• Chaza ukulahlekelwa kwesilwane sakho ezinganeni ezincane ngendlela ezizoqonda ngayo. Ukufa ngeshwa kuyingxenye yemvelo yokuphila, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukwethembeka enganeni yakho. Kungaba yisilingo sokuvikela imizwa yengane yakho ngokuyitshela ukuthi isilwane sayo simane sahamba, kodwa lokhu kuzodala ubuhlungu benhliziyo, ukuba necala nokudideka ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Thembeka kepha mnene ngemizwa yengane yakho futhi ubazise ukuthi ukulahlekelwa isilwane sakho kukulimaza kangakanani manje, futhi.
• Vumela wena nomndeni wakho ukuba nidabuke. Ukulahleka kwesilwane kungaba yisikhathi esibuhlungu. Asikho isizathu sokuthi kungani wena nomndeni wakho kufanele kulindeleke ukuthi "niqhubeke." Nikeza umndeni wakho isikhathi esiningi njengoba udinga ukuba lusizi futhi ufinyelele usizo olwengeziwe uma kudingeka.
• Yenza indawo yokuveza imizwa yakho. Akungabazeki ukuthi ukulahlekelwa isilwane kuzokukhathaza. Ukuphelelwa yithemba, ukuzizwa unecala neminye imizwa kungavela njengoba iqiniso lakho elisha lokuphila ngaphandle kwesilwane sakho esifuywayo liqala ukucwila. Kunokuba uzame ukuqina futhi uchithe imizwa yakho, vumela ukuveze. Ukubhala phansi ngalesi sikhathi esibucayi nakho kungasiza.
• Dala insizakalo noma omunye umkhosi wokuhlonipha isilwane sakho. Noma ngabe kungumngcwabo noma omunye umcimbi, ukuhlonipha inkumbulo yesilwane sakho kungakunikeza wena nomndeni wakho umuzwa wokuvalwa. Bandakanya izingane zakho uma kungenzeka, uzivumele zisho amagama ambalwa noma zenze isikhumbuzo.
• Gcina amashejuli wakho wezinye izilwane ezifuywayo. Uma unezinye izilwane ezifuywayo, zingase zikhale ngokulahlekelwa ngumngane wazo, nazo. Ungaqaphela ubuvila, ukuncipha kwesifiso sokudla, noma ukuphelelwa yintshisekelo emisebenzini yabo ejwayelekile. Kubalulekile ukugcina amashejuli wokudla kwezilwane ezifuywayo futhi uzinikeze uthando olwengeziwe.
• Finyelela usizo. Ukuxhuma nabangani nezihlobo kungenza umthelela omkhulu enhlalakahleni yakho engokomzwelo kulandela ukulahleka kwesilwane sakho. Ungesabi ukufinyelela - ukumane ubalalele kungakwenza uzizwe ungcono njengoba usebenza ngemizwa yakho.
• Cabanga ukuthola iqembu lokuxhaswa kwesilwane. Buza udokotela wakho wezilwane noma indawo yangakini mayelana namaqembu okusekela izilwane endaweni yangakini. Ukuhlangana okunjalo kunikeza ithuba lokuba phakathi kwabanye abangazwelana ngokweqiniso nokulahlekelwa kwakho.
• Khuluma nomelaphi. Uchwepheshe wezinkulumo noma i-psychotherapist angakusiza ukuthi usebenze ngemizwa yakho futhi uthole izindlela zokubhekana nokulahlekelwa isilwane sakho. Ukuba nalolu hlobo lokusekelwa kusiza kakhulu ezimweni zokudangala. Abanye ochwepheshe bezengqondo baphinde basebenze nentsha, kuyilapho ukudlala abelaphi kungasiza izingane ezincane ukuthi zisebenze ngemizwa yazo.

Ukuqhubekela phambili ngemuva kokulahlekelwa

Ukubuyisa ekulahlekelweni yisilwane sakho nakho kuncike ezinyathelweni ezingeziwe ezidlula inqubo yokuqala yosizi. Cabanga ngezinyathelo ezilandelayo ezingakusiza ubhekane nazo njengoba isikhathi sihamba:

• Dala ibhuku lememori lesilwane sakho. Kungenzeka ube nezithombe eziningi zesilwanyane sakho efonini yakho, amakhasi wezokuxhumana, noma ikhompyutha. Kodwa ukuba nencwadi yememori ephathekayo noma i-albhamu yezithombe kungaduduza kakhulu kunezinto ezifakwa kwikhompyutha. Futhi, isenzo sokubeka incwadi ndawonye singakusiza ukwamukela izinkumbulo ngesilwane sakho osithandayo futhi ube isenzo sokuvalwa okunempilo.
• Siza ezinye izilwane ezifuywayo. Ukuvolontiya endaweni yokukhosela yendawo noma ukubuyisela esizeni senhlangano kungakwenza uzizwe kahle futhi kunikeze umuzwa wenhloso, ikakhulukazi uma wenza kanjalo egameni lesilwane sakho. Izinhlangano zezilwane zihlala zifuna usizo, kufaka phakathi ukuhamba ngezinja, ukugona ikati, ukuhlanza ikesi, umsebenzi wokuphatha, nokuningi. Noma ungakwazi ukunikela ngesikhathi sakho, ungaqoqa izinto esikhundleni salokho.
• Zijwayeze ukuzinakekela okuqhubekayo. Kubalulekile ukuqhubeka nezindlela zokuzinakekela ozisebenzisile ngemuva kokulahleka kokuqala kwesilwane sakho esikhathini eside. Ngokulandelayo, uzojabula futhi ube nempilo enhle. Qiniseka ukuthi uzivocavoca umzimba futhi udla ukudla okunempilo. Beka eceleni isikhathi esincane usuku ngalunye semisebenzi ethule yokucindezela, njengokuzindla noma ukufunda incwadi.
• Ungesabi ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Abeluleki bezosizi baqeqeshelwe ukukusiza ukuthi ubhekane nokulahlekelwa okukhulu empilweni yakho futhi nezilwane ezifuywayo azinjalo. Bheka i-psychotherapist enolwazi ekulahlekelweni kwezilwane - zingakusiza ukuthi wakhe uhlelo lwezinyathelo zokubhekana nesikhathi eside.

Wazi kanjani ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthola isilwane esisha

Ekuqaleni, kungabonakala njengomqondo omuhle ukusula usizi neminye imizwa engemihle ngokuthola isilwane esisha esizothatha indawo yalesi osilahlekile. Kodwa-ke, ngokuvamile akunconywa ukuthi uthole isilwane esisha ngokushesha ngemuva kokulahlekelwa okulimazayo ngoba awuzinikanga wena, umndeni wakho, nanoma iziphi ezinye izilwane ezifuywayo onaso isikhathi nendawo efanelekile yokudabuka ngokugcwele.

Kwabanye, lokhu kungathatha izinyanga. Abanye bangadinga iminyaka embalwa ukuze badabuke. Khumbula ukuthi awukho umugqa wesikhathi obekiwe wokudlula ekufeni kwesilwane sakho - ungahle ungakudluli ngokuphelele futhi lokho kujwayelekile. Ekugcineni uzokwazi lapho isikhathi silungile sokuletha isilwane esisha ekhaya lakho. Kuyisinqumo esikhulu esingafanele ukusheshiswa.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Ukulahlekelwa isilwane kungaba buhlungu njengokulahlekelwa ngumngane noma ilungu lomndeni.Ubungane nokwethembeka kwesilwane sakho kukhethekile futhi akunakuqhathaniswa, ngakho-ke kuyaqondakala ukuhlangabezana nobunzima bokubhekana nokulahlekelwa kwakho. Njengokunye ukulahleka, ukuhlala ngaphandle kwesilwane sakho kuzoba lula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Okubalulekile ukuzinakekela futhi uvumele inqubo yosizi iqhubeke ngenkathi ihlonipha uthando olukhethekile lwesilwane sakho.