Ingabe Ukukhala Ngemva Kocansi Kujwayelekile?

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• Kuvame kangakanani ukukhala ngemva kocansi?
• Kodwa ngani abantu bayakhala emva kocansi?
• Buyekeza kwe-

Kulungile, ubulili buyesabeka (sawubona, ubuchopho, umzimba, kanye nezinzuzo zokuqinisa izibopho!). Kepha ukushaywa yi-blues-esikhundleni senjabulo-ngemuva kweseshini yakho yokulala akuyona into ehlukile.

Nakuba ezinye izikhathi zocansi zingaba zinhle kakhulu zikwenze ukhale (ukuxhamazela kwe-oxytocin egcwala ubuchopho bakho ngemva kwe-orgasm kuye kwaziwa ngokubangela izinyembezi ezimbalwa zenjabulo), kunesinye isizathu sokukhala ngemva kocansi:i-postcoital dysphoria (PCD), noma umuzwa wokukhathazeka, ukudangala, ukukhala, nokuhlukumezeka (hhayi uhlobo olufunayo embhedeni) abanye besifazane ababhekana nabo ngemuva kocansi. Kwesinye isikhathi i-PCD ibizwa nge-postcoitaltristesse(IsiFulentshi seukudabuka), ngokusho kwe-International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM).

Kuvame kangakanani ukukhala ngemva kocansi?

Ngokwenhlolovo yabesifazane abangama-230 basekolishi abashicilelwe ku- Imithi Yezocansi, Amaphesenti angama-46 abhekane nesimo esidabukisayo. Abantu abangamaphesenti ayisihlanu ocwaningweni bake bazibonela ngawabo izikhathi ezimbalwa ngenyanga edlule.

Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi, abafana bakhala ngemva kocansi futhi: Ucwaningo lwe-2018 lwamadoda angaba ngu-1,200 luthole ukuthi izinga elifanayo lamadoda lihlangabezana ne-PCD futhi likhale ngemva kocansi. Amaphesenti angamashumi amane nanye abike ukuthi abhekene ne-PCD empilweni yabo kanti amaphesenti angama-20 abike ukuthi ayithola ngenyanga edlule. (Okuhlobene: Ingabe Kubi Ngempilo Yakho Ukuzama Ukungakhali?)

Kodwa ngani abantu bayakhala emva kocansi?

Ungakhathazeki, ukukhala kwe-postcoital akuhlangene ngaso sonke isikhathi namandla obudlelwano bakho, izinga lokusondelana phakathi kwakho nomlingani wakho, noma ukuthi ucansi lumnandi kangakanani. (Okuhlobene: Ungayithola Kanjani Injabulo Engaphezulu Kunoma Isiphi Isimo Sobulili)

"I-hypothesis yethu ihlobene nokuzicabangela wena kanye neqiniso lokuthi ukusondelana ngokocansi kungase kuhilele ukulahlekelwa umuzwa wakho," kusho uRobert Schweitzer, Ph.D., kanye nomlobi oholayo we Imithi Yezocansi funda. Njengoba ucansi luyindawo egcwele imizwa, noma ngabe uyibheka kanjani impilo yakho yothando, isenzo sobulili nje sithinta indlela ozibona ngayo, ingcono noma yimbi. Kubantu abanomuzwa oqinile wedwala wokuthi bangobani nokuthi bafunani (kokubili ekamelweni kanye nempilo), ababhali bocwaningo bacabanga ukuthi i-PCD mancane amathuba okuba i-PCD. "Kumuntu onomuzwa wobuthakathaka kakhulu wobuntu, kungaba yinkinga kakhulu," kusho uSchweitzer.

USchweitzer uthi kungenzeka ukuthi kukhona nengxenye yezakhi zofuzo ku-PCD futhi — abacwaningi baqaphele ukufana phakathi kwamawele alwa nemizwa yangemva kwezocansi (uma elinye iwele lakuthola lokho, elinye kungenzeka futhi). Kodwa ucwaningo olwengeziwe luyadingeka ukuhlola lowo mbono.

I-ISSM iphinde icaphune okulandelayo njengezizathu ezingaba khona zokukhala ngemuva kocansi:

• Kungenzeka ukuthi isipiliyoni sokuhlangana nomlingani wakho ngesikhathi socansi sikhulu kangangokuba ukweqa isibopho kudala usizi.
• Ukusabela okungokomzwelo kungase kuhlotshaniswe ngandlela thize nokuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili okwenzeke esikhathini esidlule.
• Kwezinye izimo, kungase kube uphawu lwezinkinga eziyisisekelo zobudlelwane.

Okwamanje, uma uhlupheka, isinyathelo sokuqala kungaba ukukhomba izindawo empilweni yakho ezingakwenza uzizwe ucindezeleke ngokwengeziwe noma ungazethembi, kusho uSchweitzer. (Isu lochwepheshe: Lalela iseluleko salezi zintokazi ezizethemba kakhulu zokuxosha noma yiziphi izinkinga ezicashile zokuzethemba.) Uma uvame ukukhala ngemva kocansi futhi kukukhathaza, kungase kube umqondo omuhle ukubonana nomeluleki, udokotela, noma umelaphi wezocansi.

Iphuzu eliyinhloko, noma kunjalo? Akusikho ukuhlanya ukukhala ngemuva kocansi. (Ngenye yezinto ezi-19 ezixakile ezingakukhalisa.)

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