Funda Lokhu Uma Ungazi Ukuthi Ungakhuluma Kanjani Nomuntu One-Autism

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• Okokuqala, ake siqale ngezincazelo
• 1. Yiba nomusa
• 2. Yiba nesineke
• 3. Lalelisisa
• 4. Naka
• 5. Sifundise - kodwa kamnandi
• Okubalulekile

Cabanga ngalesi simo: Umuntu one-autism ubona i-neurotypical esondela ephethe isikhwama esikhulu semali, bese ethi, "Ngesikhathi engangicabanga ukuthi izinto ngeke zisithole isikhwama semali!"

Okokuqala, kukhona ukungaqondi: “Kusho ukuthini lokho? Awungithandi lapha? ” kuphendula i-neurotypical.

Okwesibili, kunomzamo wokucacisa ukungaqondi kahle: "O, ha, bengingaqondile ... bengisho ukuthi ... bekufanele kube yipun," umuntu we-autistic unikeza, kabi.

Okwesithathu, kukhona ukwethulwa kwemizwa ye-neurotypical eyoniwe ngenxa yokuhunyushwa okungalungile: "Hawu, kunjalo, ucabanga ukuthi ngenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu!"

Okwesine, umzamo wesibili we-autistic wokucacisa: "Nooo… bekuyisikhwama sakho…"

Futhi, ekugcineni: "Noma yini, ngiphumile lapha."

Sivame ukuzwa ukuthi ungamazi kanjani umuntu one-autism nokuthi ungamphatha kanjani. Kepha akukho okuningi laphaya mayelana nokuthi ungaqala kuphi uma ungayazi i-autism, ukuthi ubhekana kanjani nokungaphatheki kahle kwakho, nokuthi yini okucatshangwa ukuthi kuyacasula.

Cabanga ngalokhu kudlula kwakho kwesiteji sangemuva okubandakanya konke ukuthi ama-neurotypicals angahlobana kanjani nathi esiphila ne-autism.

Okokuqala, ake siqale ngezincazelo

I-Aspie: Umuntu one-Asperger's syndrome, esesigabeni se-autism.

I-Autism: ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa okubonakala ngokuziphindaphinda, ubunzima bokuxhumana, nezinkinga zokusungula nokugcina ubudlelwano.

Ukuqwashisa nge-Autism: Ukunyakaza mayelana nokusabalalisa ukuqwashisa nokwamukela abantu ku-spectrum ye-autism.

I-Neurotypical: Umuntu ongakhombisi amaphethini wokucabanga noma yokuziphatha.

Ukunciphisa: Ukuzinyakazisa, ukuziphindiselela kokunyakaza komzimba okwenziwa ngabantu abane-autistic ekuphenduleni ukukhuthaza ngokweqile noma ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo. Ama-‘stim ’ajwayelekile ashukumisela ukunyakaza okubuyela emuva naphambili, ukushaya izandla, nokuhlikihla ingalo nomlenze.

1. Yiba nomusa

Noma thina Aspie's sikwenza ungakhululeki kancane, umusa omncane ungahamba ibanga elide! Singaziphatha ngezindlela ezikudidayo, kodwa ngethembe, nawe uziphatha ngezindlela ezisididayo nathi.

Lapho abantu bezama ukuthatha amandla ethu engqondo, kusebenza kuphela ukukhombisa ukungabaza kwabo ngesimo sethu. Lokhu kudala intukuthelo futhi sizizwa sicasukile ngoba kusenza singasebenzi - isb. "Kungani ungeke wenze lokhu manje kanti ubungakwenza izolo?"

Kuphoqa ukuzivikela kwethu kokuthi "I'm autistic." Umehluko phakathi kwezingqondo ze-autistic ne-neurotypical mkhulu kakhulu. Gwema ukungabaza amandla ethu, futhi esikhundleni salokho gxila ethembeni nasekuqinisekiseni. Amazwana ancoma noma akhuthazayo angakha uhlaka lobungane obuhlala njalo.

2. Yiba nesineke

Asikwazi ukukutshela njalo ukuthi sizizwa kanjani, ngoba asihlali sinamagama okuveza imizwa yethu. Uma usibekezelela, uzokwazi ukusitshela esikudingayo ngokushesha okukhulu, ngoba ngeke wethuke kakhulu, ukhathazeke, noma ucasuke ngokuzama ukuthola ukuthi yini inkinga.

Ukubekezela kuza lapho ubona ukuthi okuwukuphela kwendlela yokutshela ukuthi sizizwa kanjani ukusilalela ngokucophelela, futhi usibuke ngokunyakaza okungajwayelekile ngezikhathi ezicindezelayo. Ungazivumeli ukuba uzizwe ukhathazekile noma ucasuke lapho sibhekene nezimpawu.

Kungcono kuwo wonke amaqembu uma ubekezela ngamakhono ethu okuxhumana - noma ukuntuleka kwawo. Lokho kungiletha kokulandelayo…

3. Lalelisisa

Sicubungula ukuxhumana kuphela ekusebenzeni kwamagama hhayi izinkomba zobuso ezicashile, ngakho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi singaqondi kahle incazelo yamagama owasebenzisayo, ikakhulukazi ama-homophones. Siphinde sidideke ngokunyusa amandla.

Isibonelo, sinenkinga ngokubhuqa. Umama wayehlala athi "Ngiyabonga," lapho singakwenzi lokho akucelayo. Ngakho-ke ngesinye isikhathi lapho ngihlanza khona igumbi lami, waphendula ngokuthi “Ngiyabonga!” Ngaphendula ngathi, “Kodwa ngiyihlanzile!”

Yilapho ukulalela kwakho kusisiza sobabili. Ngoba mhlawumbe uzobona ukungaqondi ngaphambi kokuba sikwenze, sicela ucacise ukuthi uzama ukuthini uma izimpendulo zethu zingahambisani nalokho okushoyo. Umama wakwenza lokho, futhi ngafunda ukuthi kuyini ukubhuqa nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuthi “Ngiyabonga”.

Singase futhi siqonde okuthile ngokuhlukile ngoba ukucubungula kwethu umsindo ongokomzwelo kuvame ukudideka kancane lapho sizama ukuzwa. Ngokuvamile asiziphathi kahle izingxoxo ezinenhlonipho noma inkulumo encane, ngakho-ke ukuthola okwethu kulungile kuningi lethu. Sijabulela ukuxhumana njengawo wonke umuntu.

4. Naka

Ungahle uqaphele uma siqala ukuncipha. Lokhu sikwenza lapho sihlangabezana nemizwa eyeqile noma isisusa sezinzwa. Akubi njalo, futhi akukuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kunjalo nje.

Iningi labantu abane-autism linokukhathazeka komzimba ezintantayo kwamahhala noma ngabe sijabule, futhi ukuncipha kusiza ukukulawula lokho. Uma ubona ukuthi sihamba ngaphezu kokujwayelekile, qhubeka usibuze ukuthi kukhona yini esikudingayo. Elinye icebo eliwusizo kungaba ukucisha amalambu nanoma yimuphi umsindo okweqile.

5. Sifundise - kodwa kamnandi

Siyakucasula? Sitshele. Abantu abane-autism bangabhekana nokungaqondi kahle kwesitayela se-avalanche. Lokhu kuvimbela ukwakheka nokugcinwa kobudlelwano obuhlala njalo, futhi kungenza impilo enesizungu kakhulu.

Kithina, ukuhlakulela amakhono omphakathi kubalulekile ekuvaleni igebe lokungezwani. Asizalwa sinala makhono, futhi abanye bethu bebengafundiswanga kahle ngokuziphatha komphakathi noma ngezindlela zokubhekana nazo. Ukungazi ukuthi izinto ngokwemvelo kwenza ukuxhumana kube nzima kakhulu.

Uma sicubungula izinkomba zomphakathi, singahle siphuthelwe okuthile futhi ngengozi sisho okuthile okuvela njengobuwula, okukhohlakele, noma okuhlaselayo. Ngaphandle kwalezo zikhombo ezingokomzwelo zomzimba ukuqondisa impendulo yethu, sisale sinamagama nje, kwesinye isikhathi okwenza kube yinto engathandeki ye-neurotypical.

Ukukhombisa ubunzima obubangelwa yilokhu, zama ukuvala amehlo akho ngokuzayo lapho umuntu othile ekhuluma nawe. Izokunikeza umbono wokuthi siphuthelwa kangakanani. Kukholelwa ukuthi ngaphezu kwengxenye yakho konke ukuxhumana akukhona okokukhuluma. Uma uyi-neurotypical engxoxweni, kuyisibopho sakho ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ucacile encazelweni yakho. Ukusazisa uma ngabe sicasukile uzothola ukuxolisa kithi ngokushesha okukhulu kunokwenza ubuso obucasulayo kithi.

Okubalulekile

Abantu be-Neurotypical bakha iziphetho ezisuselwa kuzimpawu ezicashile ezingokomzwelo ezinikezwe yilabo abanabo. Uma ubona ukuthi umuntu okhuluma naye akakwenzi lokho, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhuluma nomuntu one-autism.

Ukuzilolonga ngalezi zeluleko okwamanje kungakusiza ukuthi ulungele izimo eziyinkimbinkimbi zenhlalo lapho uhlangana nomuntu one-autism. Basize futhi bazicacisele uma bebonakala bedidekile. Ngokukhumbula okwamanje, uzozizwa ukhululeke ngokwengeziwe ukuxhumana nabantu kwi-spectrum.

Ikilasi lichithiwe.

U-Arianne Garcia ufuna ukuhlala emhlabeni lapho sonke sizwana khona. Ungumbhali, umdwebi nommeli we-autism. Ubuye futhi abhulogi ngokuhlala ne-autism yakhe. Vakashela iwebhusayithi yakhe.