Ukuba Nesitho Sobulili Esithandana Ngempela… Ngize Ngithole Eyodwa

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• Umphakathi unesifiso esingenampilo ngezitho zangasese nezitho zomzimba
• Ubulili bomuntu we-transgender abuxhomekile ekuguqukeni kwezokwelapha noma kwezenhlalo
• Akuwona wonke ama-vaginoplasty ahamba ngokungenaphutha

Ngemuva kokuhlinzwa, ngikwazile ukuqhubeka nempilo yami.

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta ngamunye wethu ngokuhlukile. Le yindaba yomuntu oyedwa.

Ngingudade ozinikele, indodakazi enokwazisa, no-anti oziqhenyayo. Ngingusomabhizinisi wesifazane, umdwebi, futhi ngilwela amalungelo abesifazane. Futhi kusukela kule nyanga, ngibe nesitho sangasese iminyaka emibili.

Ngandlela thile, ukuba nesitho sangasese akusho lutho kimi. Kungukukhululeka emzimbeni we-dysmorphia okwenza wonke umehluko, inkululeko yokuba nomzimba omisiwe ngendlela engangizwisisi kimi.

Ngabe ngizizwa ngiphelele manje? Ngicabanga ukuthi bengingakusho lokho. Kepha ukuba nesitho sangasese kuyingxenye eyodwa kuphela encane yaso. Isipiliyoni sempilo yeTransgender sihlanganisa okuningi kakhulu kunanoma yisiphi isitho somzimba esisodwa esingafingqa.

Ngazizwa ngiqiniseka ukuthi ngingowesifazane ngenkathi ngisemncane kakhulu. Nami ngazizwa nginenkolelo efanayo lapho sengimdala, ngaphambi kokungenelela kwezokwelapha. Ngizizwa nginenkolelo efanayo manje, futhi ukuhlinzwa akwenzi mthelela kuyo.

Akubona bonke abantu be-transgender abezwa le arc efanayo. Abekho abantu ababili bama-transgender abazicabangela bona ngendlela efanayo. Kodwa ukuzibona kwami ​​akuvamile. Ngaphezu kwanoma yini, ushintsho kwezenhlalo nakwezokwelapha lwenze umhlaba ongaphandle ungiqonde kangcono, kunokuzivumelanisa noma ukuziguqula ngibe okuhlukile kunalokho engangiyikho.

Thina njengabantu besifazane nabantu simele izindlela eziningi zobuntu njengoba kukhona abantu abaphilayo emhlabeni.

Umphakathi unesifiso esingenampilo ngezitho zangasese nezitho zomzimba

Ukuvezwa kofuzo lomuntu empeleni kunemibono ebonakalayo kanokusho kanambambili ebesiyisebenzisa ukwehlukanisa abantu nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo. Kwembula ukuthi owesilisa noma owesifazane “ophelele” uyindaba elotshwe emphakathini engayinaki indawo ephelele yokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba ngumuntu.

Ngokuhlukanisa abantu njengabesilisa noma abesifazane kuphela, siphinde sibanciphisele ezitatimendeni ezinjengokuthi "Amadoda anezikhuthazo angakwazi ukuzilawula" noma "Abesifazane bangabondli." Lezi zitatimende ezilula ngokweqile, ezinciphisayo zivame ukusetshenziselwa ukuthethelela izindima zethu zenhlalo nabanye '.

Iqiniso ukuthi, ukuhlinzekwa akubalulekile kubo bonke abantu abadlulayo, futhi akubona bonke abesifazane be-trans ababheka i-vaginoplasty njengebalulekile endleleni yabo yokuphila. Ngicabanga ukuthi bonke abantu, banoma yisiphi isizinda, kufanele bavunyelwe le nkululeko efanayo nokuthi bangakanani futhi bangazibona ngaziphi izindlela ngemizimba yabo.

Abanye besifazane bazizwa bephoqelekile ukuba banakekele. Abanye bazizwa bephoqelekile ukuba babelethe. Abanye balabo besifazane bazizwa uxhumano olujulile ngesitho sabo sangasese, kanti abanye abakwenzi. Abanye besifazane bazizwa bexhumene nesitho sabo sangasese futhi abanayo inhloso yokuzala ngokwabo.

Thina njengabantu besifazane nabantu simele izindlela eziningi zobuntu njengoba kukhona abantu abaphilayo emhlabeni.

Ingxenye yesifiso sami se-vaginoplasty yayilula. Bengifuna ukukhululeka ekuphazamisekeni okungathandeki kokubamba nokubopha izitho zomzimba wami wangaphambilini ukuze zingabonakali. Ngangifuna ukuzizwa ngihle ngigqoke isudi yokugeza.

Lesi sifiso sokwenza izinto kalula sancoma ezinye izinkolelo, njengokufuna ukuzwa ucansi ngendlela ethile, futhi mhlawumbe ngokungafuni ukuzizwa ngingowesifazane kakhulu kunalokho ebengivele ngenza - ukuzizwa ngisondelene nomqondo wezenhlalo wokuba ngowesifazane ngemuva kokuzizwa ngihlukaniswe nawo isikhathi eside.

Ayikho indlela elungile noma engalungile yokuzizwa ngomzimba wakho, ayikho indlela elungile noma engalungile yokungenelela kwezokwelapha, futhi akukho buhlobo obulungile noma obungalungile ngesitho sakho sangasese noma ubulili bakho.

Lezi zinkanuko eziningi eziyinkimbinkimbi nezinhlobonhlobo zanezela kulokho okuzwakala njengokungaphili okungenakugwemeka phakathi kwengqondo yami nomzimba wami, futhi ngaphoqeleka ukuthi ngikulungise. Noma kunjalo, ayikho indlela elungile noma engalungile yokwenza ngakho. Ayikho indlela elungile noma engalungile yokuzizwa ngomzimba wakho, ayikho indlela elungile noma engalungile yokungenelela kwezokwelapha, futhi akukho buhlobo obulungile noma obungalungile ngesitho sakho sangasese noma ubulili bakho.

Ubulili bomuntu we-transgender abuxhomekile ekuguqukeni kwezokwelapha noma kwezenhlalo

Noma ngabe kungokhetho lomuntu siqu, ukwesaba, noma ukuntuleka kwezinsizakusebenza, umuntu oguqukayo angahle athathe izinyathelo zokungenelela kwezokwelapha. Lokhu akukuphikisi ukuthi bangobani, noma ukuba semthethweni kobuntu babo.

Ngisho nalabo abaphishekela ukuguqulwa kwezokwelapha bazithola benelisekile ngokuthatha ama-hormone. I-Hormone Therapy Therapy (HRT) ngokusobala iyisakhi esikhulu kunazo zonke futhi esinomthelela omkhulu ekuguqukeni kwezokwelapha.

Ukuthatha umuthi onqunyiwe wama-hormone ejwayelekile ocansini kuqala ukukhula kwezici zobulili zesibili umuntu abengazithola ejwayele ukuthomba futhi kuthinte imizwa yakhe yezocansi nesimo somzwelo. Endabeni yabesifazane abadlulayo, ukuthatha i-estrogen kuqala ukukhula kwamabele, kusabalalisa kabusha amafutha omzimba, kunciphisa noma kuguqule ikhwalithi yesifiso somuntu kwezocansi ezimweni eziningi, futhi kuveze umuntu ekuguqukeni kwemizwelo, okufana nemiphumela yomjikelezo wokuya esikhathini.

Kwabesifazane abaningi, lokhu kwanele ukuzwa ukuthula ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kobulili. Ngalesi sizathu, phakathi kwabanye abaningi, akubona bonke abesifazane abadlulayo abafuna i-vaginoplasty noma.

Kimi, ukufeza i-transgender vaginoplasty kwakusho umgwaqo omude wokusesha umphefumulo, ukwelashwa, ukubuyisela ama-hormone, futhi ekugcineni iminyaka yocwaningo kuyo yonke into mayelana nenqubo. Idamu lodokotela abahlinzayo liyakhula, kepha ngenkathi ngiqala ukuguquka, kwakukhona inani elilinganiselwe lodokotela abahloniphekile abangakhetha kulo futhi nocwaningo oluncane kakhulu olwenziwa ezikhungweni zemfundo.

Ukululama ku-vaginoplasty kudinga amasonto ambalwa okugadwa, ngakho-ke izindawo zokunakekelwa ngemuva nokusondela ekhaya yizinto okufanele uzicabangele, futhi. Ukufeza ukuhlinzwa kwami ​​futhi kwakudinga ushintsho lukahulumeni nolwezenhlalo ukuze kuthinte imibono yomphakathi ngabantu abangama-transgender: Ezinyangeni ezaholela ekuhlinzweni kwami, izwe laseNew York lenza imithethonqubo ebophezela abomshwalense ukumboza izinsizakalo zama-transgender.

Akuwona wonke ama-vaginoplasty ahamba ngokungenaphutha

Abanye abantu bagcina belahlekelwe yimizwa ngenxa yezinzwa ezinqunyiwe futhi bakuthola kunzima noma kungenzeki ukufeza i-orgasm. Abanye bazithola behlukumezekile ngomphumela wobuciko ongathandeki kangako. Abanye abantu babhekana nokuqothuka, kanti okunye ukuhlinzwa kuholela kukholoni ebhoboziwe.

Ngingomunye wabanenhlanhla, futhi ngijabule ngemiphumela yami. Yize ngingahle ngibe nama-nitpick wobuhle (futhi yini owesifazane angenayo?), Ngine-clitoris ezwelayo kanye nolwelwesi lwesitho sangasese sowesifazane. Ngiyakwazi ukufeza i-orgasm. Futhi njengoba kuvamile, manje nginesitho sangasese sangasese abalingani bobulili abangase bangasiboni njengomkhiqizo wokuhlinzwa.

Ngenkathi ezinye izici zempilo ye-transgender zihlala zingacwaningiswanga, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngemiphumela yesikhathi eside yokwelashwa kwamahomoni, amaqiniso angokwengqondo wesipiliyoni se-transgender acwaningwe kahle futhi abhalwa phansi. Kunokuthuthuka okungaguquguquki emiphumeleni yezempilo yengqondo yabantu abahlinzwa ngokwe-transgender njenge-vaginoplasty, i-phalloplasty, ukuhlinzekwa kobuso besifazane, i-mastectomy ephindwe kabili nokwakhiwa kabusha kwesifuba, noma ukukhuliswa kwesifuba.

Kungokufanayo nakimi. Ngemuva kokuhlinzwa, ngikwazile ukuqhubeka nempilo yami. Ngizizwa ngokwami ​​ngokwengeziwe, ngiqondaniswe kakhudlwana. Ngizizwa nginamandla okuya ocansini, futhi ngokuqinisekile ngijabulela isipiliyoni kakhulu manje. Ngizizwa ngijabule ngobuqotho futhi angizisoli.

Futhi nokho, njengoba leso sici se-dysmorphia sisemuva kwami, angichithi isikhathi sami njalo ngicabanga ngesitho sami sangasese. Kwakubaluleke kakhulu, futhi manje kuvele kufike engqondweni yami ngezikhathi ezithile.

Imomozi yami ibalulekile, futhi ngasikhathi sinye, akunandaba. Ngizizwa ngikhululekile.

Uma umphakathi uza ukuqonda kangcono amaqiniso ezokwelapha abantu ababhekene nawo, kanye nohambo lwethu ngokubona kwethu, singakwazi ukwambula amaqiniso ajulile namathuluzi awusizo wokugwema izinganekwane nolwazi olungelona iqiniso.

Imvamisa ngiba nokunethezeka "kokudlula" njengowesifazane we-cisgender, endiza ngaphansi kwe-radar yalabo abebengangibona njenge-transgender. Lapho ngiqala ukuhlangana nomuntu, angikhethi ukuhola neqiniso lokuthi ngingu-trans. Akungoba nginamahloni - impela, ngiyaziqhenya ngokuthi bengikuphi nokuthi nginqobile. Akukona ukuthi abantu bangehlulela ngokuhlukile uma bethola okwedlule, yize kuvunywa, leso sizathu singilinga ukuba ngifihle.

Ngincamela ukungasivezi isimo sami sokudlulisa zisuka ngoba, kimi, ukuba ngumuntu oguqukayo kukude kakhulu ohlwini lwezinto ezithakazelisa kakhulu nezihambisana nami.

Noma kunjalo, umphakathi obanzi usathola imininingwane yesipiliyoni se-trans namuhla, futhi ngizizwa nginesibopho sokumela mina nomphakathi we-transgender ngendlela enhle, efundisayo. Uma umphakathi uza ukuqonda kangcono amaqiniso ezokwelapha abantu ababhekene nawo, kanye nohambo lwethu ngokubona kwethu, singakwazi ukwambula amaqiniso ajulile namathuluzi awusizo wokugwema izinganekwane nolwazi olungelona iqiniso.

Ngikholwa ukuthi abantu be-transgender kanye ne-cisgender ngokufanayo bonke bazosizakala ngokuqhubekela phambili ngokuqonda ngokufanayo ulwazi lomuntu jikelele lobulili.

Ngifuna abantu bahlanganyele nami ngomculo engiwenzayo, umehluko engiwenzayo emphakathini wami, nomusa engiwubonisa abangane bami. Iphuzu lokuguquka kwezokwelapha, kubantu abaningi abadlulayo, ukuzikhulula emzimbeni we-dysmorphia noma we-dissonance yengqondo, ukuze lezo zinsiza zengqondo zisetshenziselwe ukuba ngumuntu nje, ukuxhumana nezwe ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kokungaphatheki kahle kwabo.

I-Healthline izibophezele ekuhlinzekeni okuqukethwe okuthembekile kwezempilo nokuphila kahle okufundisa futhi kunike abantu amandla okuphila impilo yabo eqinile, nenempilo. Ukuze ufunde kabanzi ngemithombo ye-transgender, ubunikazi, kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho, chofoza lapha.