Le ndaba Yomuntu Oma Nobusuku Obunye Izokushiya Uphefumulelwe

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• Isinqumo esishintsha impilo
• Ukuxilongwa okuguqula impilo
• Izwi elihle lokuqwashisa nge-HIV

Ngahlangana nommeli we-HIV uKamaria Laffrey ngo-2012 ngenkathi ngisebenza njengomfundisi wezempilo wezocansi wentsha. U-Laffrey ukhulume emcimbini esiwuhambele sobabili, lapho akhulume khona ngempilo yakhe eyaholela ekutholakaleni kwakhe nge-HIV.

Sangithanda kakhulu isibindi sakhe sokuveza isimo sakhe se-HIV kanye nezinselelo abhekana nazo ngokuphila naleli gciwane - indaba abantu abaningi abaphila ne-HIV abasabayo ukuyitshela. Le yindaba kaLaffrey yokuthi wayithola kanjani i-HIV nokuthi yayishintsha kanjani impilo yakhe.

Isinqumo esishintsha impilo

Yize izimo zengqondo sezishintshe kakhulu emashumini ambalwa edlule, kusenokuningi okulindelwe, ukuphoxeka, kanye nemizwelo ehambisana nezocansi, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngokuma okungajwayelekile kobusuku obubodwa. Kwabesifazane abaningi, imiphumela yokuma ubusuku obubodwa kwesinye isikhathi ingaholela ekubeni necala, ukuphoxeka, nokuhlazeka.

Kepha kuLaffrey, ukuma kobusuku obubodwa kwashintsha kakhulu empilweni yakhe kunemizwelo yakhe. Kwaba nomthelela kuye kuze kube phakade.

Phakathi neminyaka yakhe yasekolishi, uLaffrey ukhumbula ukuba nabangane abakhangayo, kepha ehlala ezizwa engelutho. Ngobunye ubusuku, ngemuva kokuthi umuntu ahlala naye ehambile ukuyozihlalela nomfana othile, uLaffrey wanquma ukuthi naye kufanele azijabulise.

Wayengumfana ayehlangane naye emcimbini ngesonto eledlule. Ejabule ngocingo lwakhe, uLaffrey akazange adinge okuningi ukuze azithengise. Ngemuva kwehora, wayesephandle elinde ukuthi amlande.

“Ngikhumbula ngimi ngaphandle ngimlindile… Ngabona iloli elihambisa i-pizza ngaphesheya komgwaqo ngamalambu alo ... leyo moto yahlala lapho yahlala lapho,” uyakhumbula. “Lo mqondo ongajwayelekile ufike kimi futhi ngazi ukuthi nginesikhathi sokubuyela egumbini lami ngikhohlwe yonke le nto. Kepha futhi, benginephuzu okufanele ngilifakazele. Kwakunguye [owayeselolini le-pizza] ngahamba. ”

Ngalobo busuku, uLaffrey nomngani wakhe omusha baqhuma iphathi, baya ezindlini ezahlukahlukene beyozipholela baphuze. Njengoba ubusuku bancipha, babuyela endaweni yakhe futhi, njengoba kusho isisho, into eyodwa yaholela kokunye.

Kuze kube manje, indaba kaLaffrey ayihlukile neze. Akufanele kusimangaze ukuthi ukuntuleka kokusetshenziswa kwekhondomu futhi ukuphuza kuyizinto ezejwayelekile phakathi kwentsha yasekolishi. Ekusetshenzisweni kwekhondomu nasekuphuzeni ngokweqile phakathi kwabafundi basekolishi, amaphesenti angama-64 ababambiqhaza abike ukuthi abayisebenzisi njalo ikhondomu ngesikhathi socansi. Ucwaningo lubandakanya nomthelela wotshwala ekuthathweni kwezinqumo.

Ukuxilongwa okuguqula impilo

Kepha emuva kuLaffrey: Eminyakeni emibili ngemuva kokuma kwakhe kobusuku obubodwa, wahlangana nomfana omkhulu futhi wathandana. Wayenengane naye. Impilo ibimnandi.

Kwathi ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa ebelethile, udokotela wakhe wambizela ehhovisi. Bamhlalisa phansi baveza ukuthi une-HIV. Kuwumkhuba ojwayelekile odokotela ukunikeza omama abazobe bebavivinya izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi (STDs). Kepha uLaffrey akazange alindele ukuthola lo mphumela. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ubelokhu enza ucansi olungavikelekile kuphela nabantu ababili empilweni yakhe: umfana ahlangana naye eminyakeni emibili edlule ekolishi nobaba wengane yakhe.

“Nganginomuzwa wokuthi ngehlulekile empilweni, ngangizokufa, futhi akukho ukubuyela emuva,” kukhumbula uKamaria. “Bengikhathazekile ngendodakazi yami, akekho umuntu owake wangithanda, ongashadi, futhi wonke amaphupho ami engenanjongo. Ngaleso sikhathi ehhovisi likadokotela, ngase ngiqale ukuhlela umngcwabo wami. Noma ngabe ngivela kwi-HIV noma ngithatha impilo yami, bengingafuni ukubhekana nokudumaza abazali bami noma ukuhlanganiswa nokucwaswa. ”

Ubaba wengane yakhe wahlolwa engenalo igciwane lengculazi. Yilapho uLaffrey abhekana khona nokwazi okumangazayo ukuthi isitandi sakhe sobusuku obubodwa kwakuwumthombo. Umfana oselolini le-pizza wayemshiye enosizi olungaphezu kwalokho ayengakucabanga.

"Abantu bayabuza ukuthi ngazi kanjani ukuthi nguyena: Ngoba wayeyedwa umuntu engangikanye naye - ngaphandle kokuvikelwa - ngaphandle kukababa wengane yami. Ngiyazi ukuthi ubaba wengane yami wahlolwa futhi akanayo. Ubuye futhi waba nezinye izingane kusukela ingane yami inabanye abesifazane futhi zonke zimbi.

Izwi elihle lokuqwashisa nge-HIV

Ngenkathi indaba kaLaffrey ingenye yeziningi, iphuzu lakhe linamandla amangalisayo. ibika ukuthi e-United States kuphela, kunabantu abayizigidi eziyi-1.1 abaphila negciwane le-HIV, futhi umuntu oyedwa kwabangu-7 akazi ukuthi banalo.

Ngisho noma umama ene-HIV. Ngemuva kokuhlolwa okuningana kwe-HIV nokuqapha okusondele, kwatholakala ukuthi ingane kaLaffrey yayingenayo i-HIV. Namuhla, uLaffrey usebenza ukugxilisa ukuzethemba endodakazini yakhe, into athi idlala indima enkulu kwezempilo yezocansi. “Ngigcizelela ukuthi kumele azithande yena kuqala futhi angalindeli ukuthi noma ngubani amkhombise ukuthi angathandwa kanjani,” usho kanje.

Ngaphambi kokuhlangana ne-HIV ubuso nobuso, uLaffrey akazange acabange okuningi ngama-STD. Ngaleyo ndlela, mhlawumbe ufana nabaningi bethu. “Ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kuphela ngezifo zocansi ngaphambi kokuba ngitholwe ukuthi bekuyinqobo nje uma ngingazizwa zimpawu lapho kufanele ngilunge. Ngangazi ukuthi kukhona ezinye ezazingenazo izimpawu, kodwa ngangicabanga ukuthi abantu ‘abangcolile’ kuphela ababenazo, ”kusho yena.

ULaffrey manje usengummeli wokuqwashisa nge-HIV futhi uxoxa indaba yakhe kuzingxenyekazi eziningi. Uqhubekela phambili ngempilo yakhe. Yize engasekho noyise wengane yakhe, ushade nomuntu ongubaba omkhulu nomyeni ozinikele. Uqhubeka nokuxoxa indaba yakhe ngethemba lokuthi uzokonga ukuzethemba kwabantu besifazane - kwesinye isikhathi ngisho nezimpilo zabo.

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