Izindlela Ezi-5 Ezimangazayo Ezokuxhumana Zingasiza Ubudlelwano Bakho

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• 1. Ingakusiza uzizwe uvikeleke kakhulu-ikakhulukazi kusenesikhathi.
• 2. Kwenza kube lula ukukhombisa ukwazisa nge-S.O yakho.
• 3. Ukubungaza ingqophamlando esidlangalaleni kungasiza ekwakheni ukusondelana.
• 4. Kukusiza ukuthi uhlale uxhumekile ngamashejuli amatasa.
• 5. Kungakunika okuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe.
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Imithombo yezokuxhumana ithola ukushisa okukhulu ngokwenza ibhizinisi libe nobudlelwano bezothando-kanye nokuletha ukuthambekela okungavikeleki kakhulu, okunomona kithi sonke. Okunye kwakho kulungile ngokuphelele. Yebo, ukuba nezinsizwa ezishisayo ku-DM yakho noma owakwakho akwengeze ku-Snapchat kungakhuphuka isilingo. Futhi awukho umuzwa obuhlungu njengokuvaleliswa amehlo insizwa osanda kuhlukana nayo iqhamuke ku-Instastory yenye intombazane. (Futhi kubantu abangashadile, izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuqomisana zingaletha inqwaba yezinkinga zempilo yengqondo. Bona: Izinhlelo Zokuthandana Akukulungele Ukuzethemba Kwakho)

"Akunakuphikwa ukuthi imithombo yezokuxhumana iguqule indlela esihlangana ngayo, senza ucansi, sithandane, futhi siphume othandweni, kodwa engikuthathayo ukuthi imithombo yezokuxhumana isiphenduke imbuzi yezinkinga zethu zabantu," kusho u-Atlanta- umeluleki wobudlelwano osuselwe uBrian Jory, Ph.D., umbhali we I-Cupid Ekulingweni. "Ubudlelwano buyahluleka ngenxa yezizathu eziningi, futhi akumele sigxeke izinkundla zokuxhumana ngezinkinga esizenzele zona." Thinta.

Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma kukhona uguquko olusha lwezobuchwepheshe-izimoto, i-imeyili, izidlidlizi-kufanele sifunde ukuzivumelanisa nendlela ezishintsha ngayo ukuphola, ubudlelwano, nokusondelana, uyagqamisa. UJory ukhomba inhlolovo ye-Pew Research Center ka-2014 ethole abantu abaningi-amaphesenti angama-72-abazizwa njengezinkundla zokuxhumana noma i-inthanethi zinethonya langempela ebudlelwaneni babo. Futhi kulabo abakwenzayo, abaningi bathi kuwumphumela omuhle.

Yebo yebo, imithombo yezokuxhumana ngokuqinisekile ingenza kube nzima ukuba nobudlelwano obunempilo ngo-2019. Nakhu okuhlanu kanye nokunye okuwusizo okumele kwenziwe nokungafanele kwenziwe, ngokuya ngobuhle bobudlelwano.

1. Ingakusiza uzizwe uvikeleke kakhulu-ikakhulukazi kusenesikhathi.

I-convo ye-DTR nakanjani ikusiza uzizwe sengathi usekhasini elifanayo ne-S.O yakho entsha, kepha ukuqinisekiswa okwengeziwe kusengahamba ibanga elide. "Ekuqaleni kobudlelwano, ukwabelana ngesithombe senu sobabili kungenza isitatimende sokuthi nizimisele ngalokhu," kusho umqeqeshi wezobudlelwano ozinze eNew York uDonna Barnes.

"Ukwenza ukuzibophezela ekubeni izithandani akuyona into eyenzeka ngasese phakathi kwabantu ababili - kungumcimbi wokuzijabulisa futhi obeka umngcele osondelene nokusondelana kwabo futhi kwazise abanye ukuthi kukhona ukuxhumana phakathi kwabo okungaphezu kokuvamile, "UJory uthi, ukungeza ukuthi kungumlenze obalulekile wonxantathu wothando, ukusondelana nokuzibophezela.

FYI, bobabili ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi le yinto okufanele ukhulume ngayo ngokuthumela kuqala isithombe somuntu noma ukushintsha isimo sobudlelwano bakho kuFacebook ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngakho kuqala kungadala ingxabano phakathi kwenu.

2. Kwenza kube lula ukukhombisa ukwazisa nge-S.O yakho.

Inkundla yezokuxhumana yenza kube lula kuwe ukuthi wabelane ngezinto ozigqajayo ngozakwenu ngokuqedela amaphrojekthi, ukuthola ukukhushulwa, noma yini ayisebenzele kanzima, kusho u-Barnes. "Ukwamukela umlingani wakho kahle kuyindlela enhle yokugcina ukuxhumana kwakho kothando, futhi izinkundla zokuxhumana zenza kube lula ukubakhombisa ukuthi ubazisa kangakanani," esho. (Okuhlobene: Ngokusobala, Ukucabanga Ngomuntu Omthandayo Kungakusiza Ukubhekana Nezimo Ezicindezelayo)

Futhi, vele uqiniseke ukuthi usekhasini elifanayo mayelana nokuthi yini onethezekile ngayo emhlabeni wonke ngokwazi. Ukuthumela obala kungabuhlomulisa ubudlelwano, kepha udinga ukusetha imithetho yokuthi uzokwabelana ngani ku-inthanethi - futhi lowo mthetho kungenzeka kube ukugcina imisindo eguquguqukayo yemizwa empilweni yangempela. "Yenza isivumelwano sokuthi imizwa yakho komunye nomunye ingeyakho - hhayi umhlaba wonke-futhi leyo mizwa izoqina uma iyimfihlo," kusho uJory.

Uma kusesekuseni ebudlelwaneni ukuthi ube naleyo ngxoxo, bambelela emthethweni wokungabeki ngokweqile: Ukuthumela izinto ezisondelene noma ezingezinhle kunciphisa ukuheha komphakathi kwalowo ovezayo, kusho ucwaningo ku Amakhompyutha Ekuziphatheni Komuntu.

3. Ukubungaza ingqophamlando esidlangalaleni kungasiza ekwakheni ukusondelana.

"Ukwakha i-scrapbook yobudlelwano bakho ku-inthanethi nokugubha amatshe amakhulu - uhambo lwenu lokuqala nihlangene, isikhumbuzo senu sonyaka owodwa-kuhle ekwakheni ukusondelana, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni obusha," kusho uBarnes. Futhi nakuba ungakwazi ukwabelana ngokuningi kakhulu, ukubhala imibhalo yokuqala emikhulu nakho kungasiza abangani bakho nomndeni wakho ukuthi bazi i-S.O yakho entsha. futhi unikeze isiqinisekiso sokuthi zikufanele, uyanezela.

"Ukunquma ukuthi yiziphi izithombe noma amavidiyo okufanele uwathumele, iyiphi indaba okufanele uyixoxe, yini ehlekisayo nengeyona umdlalo wezithandani eziningi," kusho uJory. Ukudlala ngendlela owabelana ngayo imininingwane nezinyathelo njengoba izithandani zingangeza kulokho okwabiwe ngakho.

4. Kukusiza ukuthi uhlale uxhumekile ngamashejuli amatasa.

Uma uke wathumela i-S.O yakho i-Instagram DM ye-meme ehlekisayo ekukhumbuze ngayo ngokuphelele, noma i-Snapchat yenja enhle oyibonile eceleni komgwaqo, lapho-ke uyazi ukuthi inkundla yezokuxhumana ingaba yindlela ejabulisayo yokuhlala uxhumekile ezimpilweni zomunye nomunye, noma ngabe ungakwazi. nibe ndawonye ngokomzimba.

Ucwaningo lwe-Pew lwasekela lokho: Izithandani zesikhathi eside zithe ukuthumela imiyalezo kubenza baxhumane lapho behlukene-emsebenzini noma bengekho ohambweni lwebhizinisi-futhi abanye babika ukuthi ukubona ozakwabo behamba nabangane ezithombeni kubasondeze eduze. "Eminye imibhangqwana futhi [isebenzisa imiyalezo nezokuxhumana] ukwakha inkanuko yezocansi ngama-innuendos noma izinkulumo zocansi ezicacile-kungaba mnandi futhi kukhuthaze," kusho uJory. (Ungazama futhi lezi zikhundla ezi-10 ezahlukahlukene zocansi ukuze uzinongoze kulobubusuku.)

5. Kungakunika okuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe.

"Okuhlangenwe nakho okwabiwe kuyisisekelo sokwakha ubudlelwano obuhle isikhathi eside," kusho uJory. Lezi yizinto ezikugcina "ekuhlukaneni" noma ekulahlekelweni intshisekelo komunye nomunye. Ingxenye eyodwa yobudlelwano obuseduze yilokho enikwabelana ngakho nobabili nibhekane ubuso nobuso, ukuhlola ucansi-kodwa ingxenye enkulu yokusondelana ukuxhumana "ngesandla nesandla" - izintshisekelo ezifanayo enihlanganyela ngazo ndawonye lapho ukugxila akukhona komunye nomunye kodwa esikhundleni sentshisekelo eyabiwe, umgomo, noma umuntu wangaphandle.

Isibonelo: "Lapho uthumela isithombe sengane yakho, lokho kuwukuzizwisa okwabiwe njengomzali," kusho uJory. Impela, mhlawumbe kungenxa kagogo, naye, kepha futhi kungakusondeza wena nomlingani wakho. (Kuyafana nangesilwane esifuywayo!)

Ukubanjwa okukodwa okubalulekile? Vele uqiniseke ukuthi ukhetha izikhathi ezingenasikrini nge-S.O yakho. Ucwaningo ku I-Psychology yeSiko leMidiya elidumile kubika ukuthi ukubheka ifoni yakho ngaso sonke isikhathi uma unesithandwa sakho kudala umona. "Ukuze sibe nempilo enhle ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba, sidinga futhi ukuxhumana ubuso nobuso-ukuthinta isikhumba sangempela, sibheke emehlweni angempela acwayizayo noma akhala," kusho uJory. Inkundla yezokuxhumana ingasekela isisekelo osidala ungaxhunyiwe ku-inthanethi, kodwa ubudlelwano bangempela buthatha ingxoxo yangempela, njengezwi eliphuma emlonyeni wakho elinemisho ephelele. "Kumayelana nokunakekela nokuzinikela ngomqondo ophelele womzimba."

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