UKristen Bell Usitshela Ukuthi Kunjani Ngempela Ukuphila Nokucindezeleka Nokukhathazeka

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Ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka yizifo zengqondo ezimbili ezivame kakhulu abesifazane abaningi ababhekana nazo. Futhi nakuba singathanda ukucabanga ukuthi ukucwaswa okuphathelene nezinkinga zengqondo kuyaphela, kusenomsebenzi okufanele wenziwe. Indaba: I-#HeadsTogether PSA kaKate Middleton, noma umkhankaso wokuxhumana nabantu lapho abesifazane bethumela izithombe ozishuthe zona ku-Twitter eqeda ukucindezeleka ukuze balwe nokucwaswa kwezempilo yengqondo. Manje, uKristen Bell uhlanganyele neChild Mind Institute ukuthola esinye isimemezelo sokuletha ukunakwa okuthe xaxa ngokubaluleka kokususa inhlamba ephathelene nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo. (PS Bheka Lo wesifazane Okhombisa Ngesibindi Ukuthi I-Panic Attack Ibukeka Kanjani Ngempela)

UBell uqala ngokwabelana ngokuthi uhlangabezane nokukhathazeka kanye / noma nokudangala kusukela eneminyaka engu-18. Uqhubeka etshela ababukeli ukuthi bangacabangi ukuthi abanye abalwi nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo.

“Engingakusho kweyami encane ukuthi ungakhohliswa yilo mdlalo wokuphelela odlalwa ngabantu,” usho kanje. "Ngoba i-Instagram kanye nomagazini nezinhlelo ze-TV, balwela ubuhle obuthile, futhi yonke into ibukeka yinhle futhi abantu babukeka sengathi abanankinga, kodwa umuntu wonke umuntu."

Kule vidiyo, uBell ukhuthaza nabantu ukuthi babheke izinsizakusebenza zempilo yengqondo futhi bangalokothi bazizwe sengathi izingqinamba zempilo yengqondo kufanele zifihlwe noma zinganakwa. (Okuhlobene: Ungamthola Kanjani Umhlinzeki Ongcono Kakhulu Wakho)

Uthi: "Ungalokothi uzizwe unamahloni noma unamahloni ngokuthi ungubani." "Kunezinto eziningi ongazizwa unamahloni ngazo noma onamahloni ngazo. Uma ukhohlwa usuku lokuzalwa lukamama wakho, zizwe unamahloni ngalokho. Uma ujwayele ukuhleba, zizwa unamahloni ngalokho. Kepha ungalokothi uzizwe unamahloni noma unamahloni ngokuhluka kwakho . "

Emuva ngo-2016, uBell wavula ngomzabalazo wakhe wesikhathi eside wokudangala esihlokweni esithi Isiqubulo-nokuthi kungani engasahlali ethule. Uyabhala: "Angizange ngikhulume obala ngokulwa kwami ​​nempilo yengqondo eminyakeni yokuqala engu-15 ngisebenza. "Kodwa manje ngisesikhathini lapho ngingakholelwa ukuthi noma yini okufanele ibe yinto engafanele."

U-Bell ubize "ihlazo elidlulele ngezinkinga zempilo yengqondo," ebhala ukuthi "akakwazi ukwenza amakhanda noma umsila ukuthi kungani kukhona." Ngemuva kwakho konke, "kunethuba elihle lokuthi wazi umuntu onenkinga nakho ngoba cishe amaphesenti angama-20 abantu abadala baseMelika abhekana nohlobo oluthile lokugula ngengqondo esikhathini sabo sokuphila," uyachaza. "Manje kungani singakhulumi ngayo?"

Uqhubeke nokugcizelela ukuthi "ayikho into ebuthakathaka ngokulwisana nokugula ngengqondo" nokuthi, njengamalungu "eqembu labantu," kuphezu kwawo wonke umuntu ukuthi asebenzisane ukuze aqhamuke nezixazululo. Ubuye abheke nokuhlolwa kwezempilo yengqondo, akholelwa ukuthi kufanele kube "njengokujwayelekile njengokuya kudokotela noma kudokotela wamazinyo."

UBell uphinde wanikeza inhlolokhono esihloko sithi Valiwe Ikhamera no-Sam Jones, lapho akhuluma khona amaqiniso amaningi mayelana nokubhekana nokukhathazeka nokucindezeleka. Isibonelo, noma ngabe 'ufisa ukuba ngomunye wamantombazane athandwayo esikoleni esiphakeme, ukhuluma ngokuthi wayehlala ekhathazeke kangakanani nge-AF, okwamenza wakha izintshisekelo ngokuya ngalabo ababemzungezile, kunokuthola ukuthi wayeyini ngempela interested in. (Cabanga ibhulukwe lamabutho kaCady nama-flip-flops ku Asho Amantombazane.)

UBell uthi ukujabula kwakhe okwaziwayo kuyingxenye yalokho okwamkhuthaza ukuthi abelane ngento enjalo. "Ngangikhuluma nomyeni wami, futhi kwafika kimi ukuthi ngibonakala ngingumuntu okhululekile futhi onethemba," esho engxoxweni edlule no. NAMUHLA. "Angikaze ngihlanganyele ngempela ukuthi yini engifikise lapho nokuthi kungani nginjalo noma izinto engisebenze ngazo. Futhi ngizwe sengathi bekungumthwalo wesimo senhlalo ebenginaso-ukungaveli nje ngimuhle futhi nginethemba."

Kuqabula kakhulu ukubona umuntu ofana no-Bell (ofanekisa ngokuyisisekelo ukuba ngumuntu othandekayo nomangalisayo) ethembeka kakhulu ngesihloko okungakhulunywanga ngaso ngokwanele. Sonke kufanele sikwazi ukuxoxa ngokuthi ingcindezi yokudangala nokukhathazeka ingazizwa kanjani-sonke sizokuzwela kangcono. Buka yonke ingxoxo yakhe engezansi - kufanele ulalelwe. (Bese uzwa abanye osaziwayo abayisishiyagalolunye abakhuluma ngezinkinga zempilo yengqondo.)

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