Ubuchopho besilisa buvuliwe: Umona

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"Bengithandana naye." Lawa ngamazwi u-Oscar Pistorius awasebenzise enkantolo echaza ukuthatheka ayenakho ngentombi yakhe, uReeva Steenkamp, ​​ayidubula yambulala ngonyaka odlule. Noma ngabe uyayikholwa noma cha indaba kaBlade Runner mayelana nokuphatha kabi isithandwa sakhe njengomuntu ogqekeza, uvumile ukuthi unomhawu futhi unamandla ngaye.

Yiqiniso, amadoda amaningi ayakwazi ukulawula umona wawo. Kepha iningi alikwenzi. Eqinisweni, cishe wonke amadoda ahlangabezana nokuthatheka uPistorius avume ukuwenza ngaphansi kwesifungo. "Ubugebengu benkanuko ngokuvamile benziwa amadoda," kusho uHelen Fisher, Ph.D., isazi sesayensi yezinto eziphilayo kanye nombhali wezincwadi. Kungani Sithanda: Isimo Nemvelo Yothando Lwezothando. Abesilisa nabo banamathuba aphindwe kabili nesigamu okuzibulala kunabesifazane, kusho uFisher, enezela ngokuthi, ngokomzwelo, amadoda avame ukuba ntekenteke kakhulu futhi ashintshashintshe kakhudlwana kulobu bulili obubili uma kuziwa ebudlelwaneni (okungenani ebudlelwaneni). izigaba zokuqala).

Nakuba ingekho isayensi eningi eqinile mayelana ne-neurology yomona, nansi indlela engase iphazamise ngayo ingqondo yendoda uma yakha futhi yakha.

Usuku 1: Isonto Lokuqala Lobudlelwano

Ucwaningo lukhombisa ucansi (noma nje ukuthi kungenzeka yini ukuya ocansini) kubangela ukukhishwa kwe-testosterone, eyaziwa nangokuthi i-hormone yenkanuko. I-testosterone ikhukhula isifunda se-hypothalamus sobuchopho bendoda yakho futhi iqhube isifiso sayo sokuzala kabusha. Ngeshwa, u-T ubuye akhuphule ulaka nokuba nezinto ukuze esabise abanye abakhongi, kusho uFisher. Ngakho-ke lokho kuchaza ukuthi kungani engase akhethe ukulwa nabangane bakho besilisa futhi agqolozele noma yimuphi umfana ophakathi kwamamitha angu-20 nawe. Enye imbangela yalolu dlame lwakuqala ingase ihlobene nokukhuphuka kwamazinga e-hormone vasopressin, okuthi ezinye izifundo zezilwane zixhume nomuzwa ophakeme wendawo phakathi kwabesilisa abathandanayo, kuchaza uFisher.

Usuku 27: Isonto Lesine Lobudlelwano

Amaleveli T omuntu wakho asaphakeme. Futhi manje njengoba usakha isibopho sothando esiseduze, uFisher uthi kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangabezana namakhemikhali obuchopho be-euphoric njenge-dopamine (ethumela amandla akhe amandla futhi agxile ophahleni) kanye ne-norepinephrine (enikeza ukuphakama okungokomzwelo). Ehlanganiswe nomhawu, lawa mahomoni angaholela ekuziphatheni ngokweqile, uFisher uyacabanga. Izinga eliphakeme le-norepinephrine linganciphisa nesifiso sakhe sokudla uma ezizwa enomona.Ngokuyisisekelo, "uyisobho" lawo wonke la makhemikhali ahlukene obuchopho, angamenza isithunzi esingalindelekile sobuntu bakhe obujwayelekile, kusho uFisher.

Usuku lwama-85: Inyanga Yesithathu Yobudlelwano, Nangemuva Kwayo

Yize luncane ucwaningo ngemiphumela yesikhwele sesikhathi eside ebuchosheni, uFisher uthi ngeke amangale uma ukushaywa isikhathi eside kuba nomthelela ofana nengcindezi emzimbeni nasengqondweni yendoda yakho. I-Testosterone iyinto eyi-caustic, uthi, futhi ingagcina ibambe ukukhululwa kwamahomoni okukhathazeka njenge-cortisol, exhunywe nokuzuza isisindo, ukucindezeleka, nezinye izithiyo ezingenampilo. I-Testosterone ne-cortisol kungenzeka ukuthi icindezela ukukhishwa kwe-hormone yokulawula ukulala i-serotonin, ucwaningo oluvela e-University of Pisa e-Italy lukhombisa. Ngenxa yalokho, indoda yakho ayitholi ubuthongo obuqinile ebusuku, okungaba nomthelela esiphithiphithini esingokomzwelo. Amazinga aphakeme aphikisanayo ala mahomoni anganciphisa amasosha akhe omzimba, anyuse amazinga akhe okuvuvukala, kusho uFisher. Lokho kungamenza abe sethubeni lokugula, ucwaningo lukhombisa.

Phezu kwakho konke lokho, ucwaningo lwakamuva oluvela kwa-Israel luhlobanise i-oxytocin nemizwa engemihle njengenzondo. I-Oxytocin ivame ukubizwa ngokuthi "i-hormone yothando" ngoba iyaphika phakathi nezigaba ezintsha zokubopha phakathi kwabathandi. Kepha kungaphazamisa izimpendulo ezingokomzwelo zazo zonke izinhlobo-ezinhle noma ezingezinhle-ezingasiza ekuchazeni isimo esibuhlungu ngokwengeziwe kuwe, ababhali besifundo bathi.

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