Ikhipha i-Narcissism Embi

-Delile

• Yiziphi izici zobubi be-narcissism?
• I-NPD
• I-APD
• Ulaka
• Usizi
• Ingabe kuyefana nokwenhlalo yabantu?
• Kuyelapheka?
• Ukufuna usizo
• Izinketho zokwelashwa
• Ukuqaphela ukuhlukunyezwa

I-narcissism enobungozi ibhekisa ekubonisweni okuthile, okungajwayelekile kokuphazamiseka kobuntu be-narcissistic. Abanye ochwepheshe babheka lokhu kwethulwa kwe-narcissism njengohlobo oluncane kakhulu.

Akubonwa njengokuxilongwa okusemthethweni kwi-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5). Kepha izazi eziningi zokusebenza kwengqondo kanye nochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo basebenzise leli gama ukuchaza isethi ethile yezimfanelo zobuntu.

Ngokusho kweCampbell’s Psychiatric Dictionary, i-narcissism eyingozi ihlanganisa izici ze:

• ukuphazamiseka kobuntu kwe-narcissistic (NPD)
• ukungahambisani nobuntu (APD)
• ulaka nokudabuka, kungaba kwabanye, wena uqobo, noma kokubili
• ukuphambana

Funda ukuze ufunde kabanzi nge-narcissism ebulalayo, kufaka phakathi izici ezijwayelekile, ukuthi iqhathaniswa kanjani nenhlalo yabantu, nokuthi iyelapheka yini.

Yiziphi izici zobubi be-narcissism?

I-narcissism enobungozi ingaletha ngezindlela eziningi - alukho uhlu olubekiwe lwezici. Kunzima futhi, ikakhulukazi kumuntu ongeyena uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo, ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwe-narcissism ebulalayo ne-NPD enamandla.

Lokhu yingxenye yokuthi kungani kungcono ukugwema ukusebenzisa leli gama (noma okuhlobene nalo, njenge-narcissist) ukubhekisa kothile, ikakhulukazi uma ungeyena uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo onolwazi ngemvelaphi yomuntu.

Futhi, akukho ukuvumelana kochwepheshe mayelana nenqubo ye-narcissism ebulalayo. Kepha ochwepheshe abaningi bezempilo yengqondo bayakweseka ukuba khona kwayo njengengxenye yomkhakha we-narcissism. Kukhona futhi nesivumelwano esithile ngokujwayelekile mayelana nokwethulwa kwezimpawu okungenzeka.

Kepha lolu hlobo lwe-narcissism lungavela nganoma iyiphi inhlanganisela yezimpawu ezivela ezigabeni ezilandelayo.

I-NPD

Njengokunye ukuphazamiseka kobuntu, i-NPD yenzeka kububanzi futhi ifaka uhla lwezimpawu. I-DSM-5 ibala izici eziyisishiyagalolunye ezisiza ukukhomba i-NPD, kepha kuphela ezinhlanu kuphela ezidingekayo ukuxilongwa.

Izimpawu ezivamile ze-NPD zifaka:

• amaphupho amakhulu nokuziphatha, njengokucabanga ngemicabango yempumelelo yomuntu siqu, amandla, nokuheha noma ukukhanga kocansi
• ukuzwelana okuncane noma okungenakho nhlobo kwemizwa noma imizwa yabanye abantu
• isidingo esibalulekile sokunakwa, ukunconywa, nokuqashelwa
• ukuzikhukhumeza kokuzibona ubalulekile, njengokuthambekela ekwenzeni ihaba lethalente noma impumelelo
• inkolelo yobungcweti bomuntu siqu nokuphakama
• umuzwa welungelo
• ukuthambekela kokuxhaphaza abanye noma ukuxhaphaza abantu ukuze bazizuzise
• ukuziphatha nokuzikhukhumeza nokuzikhukhumeza
• ukuthambekela kokufisa abanye futhi ukholwe ukuthi abanye bayabafela

Abantu abane-NPD bavame ukuba nenkinga yokubhekana noshintsho. Bangazizwa becindezelekile noma behlazekile lapho bezizwa bengelutho, baba nobunzima bokungavikeleki nokuba sengozini, futhi basabele ngokufutheka lapho abanye kubonakala bengababheki ngokubancoma abakudingayo nabazizwa bekufanele.

Lesi simo sivame ukubandakanya nobunzima bokulawula imizwelo nezimpendulo zokuziphatha ekucindezelekeni.

I-APD

Izici eziyinhloko zalesi simo ukunganakwa ngokungaguquguquki kwemizwa yabanye abantu. Lokhu kungafaka ukukhohlisa nokukhohlisa kanye nokuhlukumeza ngokomzimba noma ngokomzwelo. Enye into esemqoka ukungazisoli ngokwenza okungalungile.

Ukuziphatha okunodlame noma okunolaka kungaba uphawu lwalesi simo, kepha abanye abantu abaphila ne-APD abalokothi baziphathe ngodlame.

Abantu abaphila ne-APD bakhombisa izimpawu zokuphazamiseka kokuziphatha ebuntwaneni. Lokhu kungafaka udlame olubhekiswe kwabanye abantu nasezilwaneni, ukucekelwa phansi kwempahla, noma ukwebiwa. Ngokuvamile abacabangi noma abanandaba nemiphumela yezenzo zabo.

Abantu abadala kuphela okutholakala ukuthi bane-APD. Ukuxilongwa kudinga okungenani ezintathu zalezi zimpawu ezilandelayo:

• ukwedelela igunya nezinkambiso zomphakathi, okukhonjiswa ngokuziphatha okuqhubekayo okungekho emthethweni noma kokwephula umthetho
• iphethini yokukhohlisa, kufaka phakathi ukuxhashazwa nokuphathwa kwabanye abantu
• ukungaziphathi kahle, ukuxhashazwa, noma ukuziphatha okuyingozi okukhombisa ukungakunaki ukuphepha komuntu siqu noma ukuphepha kwabanye abantu
• ukuzisola okuncane noma okungekho neze ngezenzo eziyingozi noma ezingekho emthethweni
• isimo esinobutha ngokuvamile, esinolaka, esinolaka, esingenakuzola, noma esikhungathekile
• iphethini lokungaziphathi kahle, lokuzikhukhumeza, noma lokungahloniphi
• ubunzima bokuhlela phambili

Ulaka

Ulaka luchaza uhlobo lokuziphatha, hhayi isimo sempilo yengqondo. Abantu abanakutholakala benolaka, kepha uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo noma omunye uchwepheshe angaqaphela izenzo zokuhlukumeza njengengxenye yephrofayili yokuxilonga.

Ukuziphatha okunolaka kungenzeka njengempendulo yentukuthelo noma eminye imizwa futhi ngokuvamile kubandakanya inhloso yokulimaza noma yokucekela phansi. Kunezinhlobo ezintathu eziyinhloko zokuhlukumeza:

• Ubuthaulaka. Lokhu kuyindlela yokuziphatha ehlose ukulimaza noma ukubhubhisa umuntu noma okuthile.
• Ukuhlukunyezwa kwamathuluzi. Lesi isenzo esinolaka esihlobene nenhloso ethile, njengokuphula iwindi lemoto ukweba isikhwama semali.
• Ukuhlukunyezwa okuthintekayo. Lokhu kubhekisa ekuziphatheni okuvame ukuqondiswa kumuntu noma entweni okudala umuzwa. Kungabuye kuqondiswe kabusha uma kungenakwenzeka ukukhomba umthombo wangempela. Ukushaya udonga esikhundleni sokushaya omunye umuntu kuyisibonelo sobudlova obunamandla, ikakhulukazi lapho isenzo sibandakanya isifiso sokudala umonakalo.

Usizi

I-Sadism ithokozela ukuthobisa umuntu noma imzwise ubuhlungu.

I-DSM-5 ibala ukukhathazeka kocansi njengesimo esifaka phakathi ukuvuswa kocansi okuxhumene nomqondo wokubangela umuntu ongavumi ubuhlungu obungafuneki. Kepha i-sadism uqobo lwayo ayisiyo ukuxilongwa kwezempilo yengqondo, futhi akuyona njalo eyezocansi.

Abantu abanokuthambekela okunesihluku banga:

• jabulela ukulimaza abanye
• ukujabulela ukubuka abanye bezwa ubuhlungu
• bathola injabulo yezocansi ngokubona abanye besezinhlungwini
• sichitha isikhathi esiningi sicabanga ngokuhlukumeza abanye abantu, noma ngabe bengakwenzi ngempela lokho
• bafuna ukulimaza abanye lapho becasukile noma bethukuthele
• jabulela ukuhlazisa abanye, ikakhulukazi ezimweni zomphakathi
• uthambekele ezenzweni ezinonya noma ekuziphatheni
• ziphathe ngokulawula noma ngezindlela zokubusa

Abanye ochwepheshe basikisela ukuthi isimilo esibuhlungu sisiza ukuhlukanisa i-NPD ne-narcissism ebulalayo. I-narcissism imvamisa ifaka phakathi ukuzicabangela wena ngezifiso nezinhloso, kepha abantu abane-NPD basengakhombisa ukuzisola noma ukuzisola ngokulimaza abanye kule nqubo.

Ingabe kuyefana nokwenhlalo yabantu?

Abantu abaningi basebenzisa igama elithi sociopath ezingxoxweni ezingakahleleki. Ungase uzwe kusetshenziselwa ukuchaza abantu ababonakala bengenandaba nabanye abantu noma abasebenzisa futhi basebenzise abathandekayo babo.

I-Sociopathy imvamisa ibhekisa kuzimpawu nokuziphatha okuvame ukubonwa nge-APD. Kepha ngokufanayo ne-narcissism ebulalayo, i-sociopathy isetshenziswa kuphela njengegama elingakahleleki, hhayi ukuxilongwa okuthile.

I-narcissism enobungozi ayifani ne-sociopathy, ngoba izici ze-APD ziyingxenye kuphela yalesi sigaxa se-narcissism.

Kuyelapheka?

Ngokuvamile, ukwelashwa kungasiza noma ngubani ofuna ukwelashwa ngenhloso yokwenza imizamo yokuthuthukisa imizwa yabo, indlela abaziphethe ngayo noma ukusabela kwabo ngokomzwelo.

Impela kungenzeka ukuthi abantu abaphila ne-narcissism ebulalayo, noma olunye uhlobo lwe-narcissism, bangaya ekwelashweni basebenze ekushintsheni izindlela zokuziphatha ezinomthelela omubi kwikhwalithi yabo yokuphila noma kumalungu omndeni wabo, abalingani babo, nabangane.

Ukufuna usizo

Abantu abaphila ngezici zanoma yiluphi uhlobo lwe-narcissism kungenzeka bangazifuneli usizo bebodwa. Kaningi abaqapheli ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle ngezenzo zabo nokuziphatha kwabo.

Kepha bangaba nezinye izimpawu ezibashukumisela ekwelashweni, kufaka phakathi:

• ukudana
• ukucasuka
• izindaba zokulawulwa kwentukuthelo

Kwezinye izimo, bangahle bakhuthazwe ukungena ekwelashweni ngenxa yomyalelo wenkantolo, isiphetho esivela kumlingani othandana naye noma ilunga lomndeni, noma esinye isizathu.

Kodwa-ke, ukuze ukwelashwa kuphumelele, kufanele ekugcineni bazifunele ukwelashwa.

Izinketho zokwelashwa

Uma ucabanga ukuthi umuntu osondelene nawe kungenzeka ukuthi ubhekene nenkinga yobuntu, njenge-NPD noma i-APD, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuthi ushintshe. Ukwelashwa can usizo, inqobo nje uma bezimisele ukusebenza ukwenza umsebenzi obandakanyekayo.

Ukwelashwa kuvame ukuba nzima, kepha kuvame ukukhokha ngezinzuzo ezinkulu, kufaka phakathi:

• ubudlelwane obuqinile phakathi kwabantu
• ukulawulwa ngokomzwelo okuthuthukisiwe
• ikhono elingcono lokusebenzela izinhloso

Izinhlobo ezithile zokwelashwa zingasiza kakhulu ekwelapheni i-narcissism.

Ukubuyekezwa kwezifundo ze-2010 ezibheka i-narcissism ebulalayo kuphawula ukuthi ukwelashwa kungaba yinselele, ikakhulukazi lapho kuvela ukuthambekela okunolaka noma okubuhlungu ebudlelwaneni bezokwelapha.

Kepha ukuthatha umthwalo wakho wokwelashwa kungaholela emiphumeleni engcono. Izinhlobo zokwelashwa ezinconyiwe zibandakanya ukwelashwa okushintshiwe kokuziphatha okuguquguqukayo (DBT) nemibhangqwana nokwelulekwa komndeni, lapho kufanele khona.

Imithi efana ne-antipsychotic kanye ne-serotonin reuptake inhibitors ekhethiwe (i-SSRIs) nayo ingathuthukisa ezinye izimpawu, kufaka phakathi intukuthelo, ukucasuka, kanye ne-psychosis.

Umbhalo wephephabhuku wakamuva ovela kusikisela ukuthi ukwelashwa kwe-schema kungasiza futhi kwi-NPD nezinkinga ezihlobene. Olunye ucwaningo lusekela lokhu okutholakele.

Ezinye izindlela ezingathuthukisa imiphumela yokwelashwa zifaka ukwelashwa okugxile ekudluliseni nasekwelashweni okusekelwe emqondweni.

Kodwa-ke, idatha yomtholampilo ngalesi sihloko ayitholakali. Ucwaningo oluningi luyadingeka ekwelashweni kwe-narcissism.

Ukuqaphela ukuhlukunyezwa

I-narcissism nezinkinga ezihlobene nazo zivame ukufaka ubunzima obuhlobene nokuqonda imizwa yabanye abantu. Ungahle uqaphele izimpawu, njengokuziphatha kokuzenzela wena, amagama nezenzo zokukhohlisa, noma iphethini yobudlelwano obungenampilo noma obwehlulekile.

Ukugcina ubudlelwano bomndeni noma bokusebenzisana kungaba yinselele enkulu kumuntu one-narcissism eyingozi. Akuvamile ukuthi ubudlelwano buhilele ukulawula ukuziphatha, ukukhanyisa igesi, nokuhlukumeza okungokomzwelo.

Uma usondelene nomuntu ophila ne-narcissism eyingozi, kubalulekile ukuthi uzinakekele futhi ubheke izimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa.

Kunezinhlobo eziningi zokuziphatha okuhlukumezayo, kanti ezinye zingabonakala zingahlukumezi ngokusobala njengezinye. Izimpawu ezijwayelekile zingafaka:

• ukukhomba "amaphutha" futhi ubonakale ukujabulela ukukwenza uzizwe udangele noma ucasukile, noma uthi bakwenzela wena
• ukuqamba amanga noma ukukuxhaphaza ukuze ufeze izinhloso zabo, futhi bathethelele ukuziphatha kwabo futhi bangabonisi cala noma ukuzisola uma ubabiza ngakho
• ukukubeka phansi, ukukuhlaza, noma ukukusongela, esidlangalaleni noma ngasese
• ebonakala ethokozela ukulimaza ngokomzimba
• ukungabi nandaba nezidingo zakho noma imizwa yakho
• uziphathe ngezindlela eziyingozi noma eziyingozi, ngaphandle kokukhathalela uma wena noma abanye abantu nilimala kule nqubo (isb., ukushayela ngendlela eyingozi nokuhleka lapho uzwakalisa ukwesaba)
• ukusho noma ukwenza izinto ezingenamusa noma ezinonya futhi ubonakale uthokozela ubunzima bakho
• ukuphatha ngolaka kuwe nakwabanye abantu noma izinto

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