UDenise Bidot Wabelana Ngokuthi Kungani Ethanda Amamaki Wokunweba Esiswini Sakhe

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Ungase ungamazi u-Denise Bidot ngegama okwamanje, kodwa cishe uzombona emikhankasweni emikhulu yezikhangiso abonakale kulo nyaka ye-Target kanye no-Lane Bryant. Yize u-Bidot emodela amashumi eminyaka, i-body pos advocate (wasungula i-No Wrong Way movement, "ekhuthaza wonke umuntu ukuthi amukele ubuyena obuyiqiniso") yephule imingcele emikhulu emhlabeni wokumodela osayizi omkhulu phakathi neminyaka embalwa edlule. Okuphawuleka kakhulu? Ngo-2014, waba imodeli yokuqala yosayizi ohlangene ukuhamba imibukiso yosayizi oqondile e-New York Fashion Week. Futhi ngasekuqaleni kwalo nyaka, isikhangiso sakhe esasingathintekile ngokuphelele sika-Lane Bryant (esinama-stretch marks esiswini sakhe) saba negciwane futhi savela kumagazini othi. Ezemidlalo Ziboniswe.

Njengengxenye yomkhankaso wakhe wakamuva noLane Bryant, #TheNewSkinny, ebungaza ijezi lomkhiqizo wezingubo elisanda kwethulwa leSuper Stretch Skinny, sikhulume nommeli nommeli womzimba ngomzabalazo wokuthenga amabhulukwe amancanyana njengowesifazane ogobekile, uphawu revolution, nokukhohlisa kwakhe ukukhulisa ukuzethemba okusheshayo.

Ikhredithi yesithombe: U-Lane Bryant ukhethekile ku-Shape

Kungani lawa ma-skinny jeans eshintsha umdlalo kwabesifazane aba-curvy.

“Njengomuntu wesifazane ojikajikayo, amajini ahlala etholakala kanzima, kumele ngihlale ngiwathunga ukuze alingane nomzimba wami ngoba ayangena emathangeni futhi awangeni okhalweni, ingijabulisa kakhulu lawa mabhunu. Kungumzuzu oqabulayo ukuthola ama-jean avele alingane kahle amajika ami futhi agcine isimo sawo-ngiyazonda lapho eqala ukugcotshwa emadolweni.Kuyinguquko esasiyidinga. amajini. "

Kungani ukuthozama komzimba * hhayi * kuyinkinga nje yabesifazane abakhulu.

“Ngikhulele esizukulwaneni lapho ubungaboni khona ukwehlukahlukana nokubandakanywa kuzo zonke izici zemithombo yezindaba, ngakho-ke ukuba sematheni kulokhu kuhle impela futhi ngiyaziqhenya kakhulu ngokuba yingxenye yakho. Kumayelana nokuma ndawonye. Ukuzethemba komzimba akuyona inkinga yabantu besifazane abakhulu kuphela, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile ukwamukela lokho. Kumayelana nokufaka wonke umuntu, noma ngabe ungumuntu odlulise ubulili, noma u-LGBTQ, kumayelana nokwamukela ukuvelela komuntu ngamunye. Kunobuhle obunjalo kuwo wonke umuntu futhi ngicabanga ukuthi kubalulekile ukuqala ukwephula leyo mingcele kanye nezindinganiso zobuhle ezivamile ezingafezi noma iyiphi injongo. ukuqhubeka nokubonisa izinhlobo ezahlukene zomzimba nezinhlobo zobuhle, ngoba sonke kufanele simane sithandwa futhi samukelwe njengoba sinjalo. "

Kungani ukubona ama-stretch marks kubaluleke kangaka.

"Ukusabela kwesithombe esingathintwanga bekungimangaze ngempela - ukuthululwa okukhulu kwesixhaso nenani labantu ababelane ngesithombe nokuthi sihamba kanjani ngokushesha okukhulu. Kungokwemvelo yami ukuthi ngifuna ukuthi sonke isithombe sami sibe yiqiniso kodwa Ekugcineni kosuku njengomodelayo, angihlali ngilawula indlela umuntu anquma ngayo ukubeka isithombe sami.Ngakho ngenza konke okusemandleni ami futhi ngizama ukukhuthaza abantu besifazane ukuthi bathande imizimba yabo futhi basekelane, ngakho-ke ngikhombisa ukuthi nge-Instagram yami enezithombe eziningi ezingatholakali.Bengimodela manje iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-20 futhi isikhathi eside bengicabanga ukuthi ngidinga ukushintsha umzimba wami ukuze ngibhuke, ngisho nemisebenzi engiyitholile, eminingi kakhulu izikhathi lapho bekhipha khona ukungapheleli. Ngakho-ke ukuba nemikhiqizo emangalisayo efana noLane Bryant noTarget bame ngemuva kwami ​​futhi badedele izithombe njengoba zinjalo kuyasinika amandla. Kungo-2017 futhi ekugcineni sizobona imizimba yangempela futhi sikulande lokho lapho futhi kube wusizo olukhulu kwabesifazane yonke indawo kuyaqabula futhi kukhulule ngempela. " (Okuhlobene: I-Target Ikhuthaza Ukwehluka Komzimba Nge-Incredible New Swimsuit Line Yayo)

Kungani ukuba ngumama nokuba nomuntu ongathandani akuhlangene ngokuphelele.

"UTess Holliday ungumngane omkhulu futhi siba nalezi zingxoxo njalo ezimayelana nokuba ngumama. Njengomama, kufanele uvunyelwe uthandeke futhi unikezwe amandla kanye nomphathi konke endaweni eyodwa. Ngemva kokuba nezingane, ngakhathazeka ngokuthi ama-stretch marks azongenza ngibe muhle kancane, kodwa kufanele uthole obakho ubuhle futhi kufanele uthole ubulili bakho. Ngakho-ke noma ngingumama, ngigqoka izingubo zangaphansi ezihehayo njalo ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi kufanele sivunyelwe ukuba sibe bahle futhi sibe mnandi noma ngabe sibadala kangakanani. ukhona, uvelaphi, noma ungumama noma cha. Kuyingxenye yokuba ngowesifazane. "

Kungani ungeke umbambe ngentambo yebhayisikili.

"Kunesikhathi eside ngizama ukucasha ngesudi yokubhukuda. Bengilokhu ngiwumlandeli wezingubo zokubhukuda ezinokhalo oluphakeme ngakho kwathi uma seziqala ukuphuma nama-plus size ngaba ngowesifazane ojabule kunabo bonke emhlabeni futhi kwaba umfaniswano wami wokubhukuda. ngenhla ye-bralette. Ngikhululeke kakhulu kuyo futhi angizizwa sengathi ngizowa. Njengoba senginethezeke ngokwengeziwe ngomzimba wami, ngehle ngaya phansi nangaphansi kwezingubo zokubhukuda kodwa awusoze wangibamba nganoma iyiphi indlela ngothando olukhulu. Angikaze ngibe yileyontombazane emgqeni webhikini. Ngakhulela eMiami ngakho-ke abangane bami abaningi badonsa ama-bikini ehlobo ngesikhathi sasehlobo. Ngizoba njenge, ntombazane ukugqokile lokho ngempela? Kodwa yilokho ozizwa unothando futhi uzethemba ngakho. Kufanele ukwazi ukugqoka noma yini oyifunayo. "

Kungani ekhetha izithende kunamateku lapho esebenza.

"Ngiyakujabulela kakhulu ukuthatha amakilasi wokudansa e-ballroom. Ngenye yezinto engizithandayo engizikholisayo-kumnandi nje futhi uzizwa sengathi uyaphila futhi ngihlala ngifunda iminyakazo emisha. Ikakhulu njengoba ngingowesifazane waseLatin, ukuze ngigqoke ezinye izithende futhi ziyadansa zize zijabule nje. Ngishiya ngokoqobo wonke amakilasi ngibuhlungu kakhulu futhi kuwukuzivocavoca umzimba okuhle kakhulu, futhi ngicabanga ukuthi kumnandi - uthola ukudansa nomlingani wami! Kungigcina ngimncane. "

Kungani ukuzizungezile nge-positivity kuzala injabulo nokuzethemba.

"Ngiyiloya muntu ozothanda i-Google, 'izingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo' noma ngibheke ama-hashtag ku-Instagram bese ngihlala lapho ngiwafunde. Ngivele ngiphelelwe amandla uma kuziwa ezintweni ezinjalo. Ngicabanga ukubeka umqondo olungile Ubuchopho bakho bubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho yengqondo kanye nendlela ozizwa ngayo usuku lonke nokuthi uzobhekana kanjani nosuku nezimo eziza kuwe. Ngihlale ngiphakela ubuchopho bami izingcaphuno ezikhuthazayo kanye nezinkulumo ezinhle. Kufanele ubheke okuhle okuzungezile. Ngihlala ngibheka lezo zikhathi. Ukujabula yikona okubaluleke kakhulu ukuze ngibe nokuzethemba nokuzethemba."

Kungani ethanda ama-stretch marks esiswini sakhe.

"Ngikuleso sikhathi empilweni yami lapho ngizokwanga khona zonke izingxenye zomzimba wami. Izimpawu zami, isisu sami engangibalekela ngasifihla iminyaka eminingi-ekugcineni ngifunde ukuthanda ukwanga. Yilokho engiyikho, kuyingxenye yami, futhi kumnandi ekugcineni ukwamukela iqiniso lokuthi sasingadalelwanga ukuba sibe abaphelele. Ngakho-ke ngiyasithanda isisu sami. "

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