Ukwesaba Ukulahlekelwa Yifoni Yakho? Kunegama Lalokho: UNomophobia

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• Ziyini izimpawu?
• Yini ebangela le phobia?
• Kutholakala kanjani?
• Iphathwa kanjani i-phobia?
• Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo
• Ukwelashwa kokuveza
• Imithi
• Ukuzinakekela
• Okubalulekile

Ingabe unenkinga yokubeka phansi i-smartphone yakho noma uzizwe ukhathazekile lapho wazi ukuthi uzolahlekelwa yisevisi amahora ambalwa? Ngabe imicabango yokungabi bikho kwefoni yakho iyakucindezela?

Uma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi ube ne-nomophobia, ukwesaba okwedlulele kokungabi nayo ifoni yakho noma ukungakwazi ukuyisebenzisa.

Iningi lethu lithembele kumadivayisi ethu ukuthola ulwazi nokuxhumeka, ngakho-ke kuyinto ejwayelekile ukukhathazeka ngokulahlekelwa yilawo. Ngokungazelelwe ukungakwazi ukuthola ifoni yakho kungenzeka kuqubule ukukhathazeka ngokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokulahlekelwa izithombe, oxhumana nabo, nolunye ulwazi.

Kepha i-nomophobia, efushaniswe ngokuthi "ayikho i-phobia yefoni ephathekayo," ichaza ukwesaba ukungabi nayo ifoni yakho ephikelelayo futhi enzima ethinta impilo yansuku zonke.

Imiphumela yezifundo eziningi iphakamisa ukuthi le phobia isakazeka kabanzi. Ngokusho, cishe amaphesenti angama-53 abantu baseBrithani ababephethe ifoni ngo-2008 bazizwa bekhathazekile lapho bengenalo ucingo lwabo, bengenalo ibhethri elifile, noma bengenayo insiza.

Ukubheka abafundi bezokwelapha abangu-145 bonyaka wokuqala eNdiya bathola ubufakazi obukhombisa ukuthi amaphesenti ayi-17.9 ababambiqhaza babene-nomophobia emnene. Kwabangamaphesenti angama-60 ababambiqhaza, izimpawu ze-nomophobia zazilinganisiwe, kanti kumaphesenti angama-22.1, izimpawu zazinzima.

Azikho izifundo zesayensi ezibike ngezibalo zase-United States. Abanye ochwepheshe basikisela ukuthi lezi zinombolo zingaphakama, ikakhulukazi phakathi kwentsha.

Funda ukuze ufunde kabanzi mayelana nezimpawu nezimbangela zokuzikhethela, ukuthi kutholakala kanjani, nokuthi ungaluthola kanjani usizo.

Ziyini izimpawu?

I-Nomophobia ayifakwanga ohlwini lwakamuva lwe-Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). Ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo abakanqumi ngezindlela ezisemthethweni zokuxilonga lesi simo.

Kodwa-ke, kuvunyelwene ngokujwayelekile ukuthi i-nomophobia iveza ukukhathazeka empilweni yengqondo. Abanye ochwepheshe baze baphakamisa nokuthi i-nomophobia imele uhlobo lokuncika kwefoni noma ukulutha.

I-Phobias uhlobo lokukhathazeka. Zibangela ukwesaba okukhulu lapho ucabanga ngalokho okuwesabayo, okuvame ukudala izimpawu zomzwelo nezomzimba.

Izimpawu ezingokomzwelo zifaka:

• ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, noma ukwethuka uma ucabanga ngokungabi nayo ifoni yakho noma ukungakwazi ukuyisebenzisa
• ukukhathazeka nokuphazamiseka uma kufanele ubeke ifoni yakho phansi noma wazi ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuyisebenzisa isikhashana
• ukwethuka noma ukukhathazeka uma kafushane ungakwazi ukuthola ifoni yakho
• ukucasuka, ukucindezeleka, noma ukukhathazeka lapho ungakwazi ukuhlola ifoni yakho

Izimpawu zomzimba zifaka:

• ukuqina esifubeni sakho
• Inkinga yokuphefumula ngokujwayelekile
• ukuthuthumela noma ukuqhaqhazela
• ukujuluka okwandayo
• ukuzizwa uphela amandla, udizizi, noma udidekile
• ukushaya kwenhliziyo okusheshayo

Uma une-nomophobia, noma i-phobia, ungahle ubone ukuthi ukwesaba kwakho kweqise. Ngaphandle kwalokhu kwazi, ungaba nesikhathi esinzima sokubhekana noma sokuphendula ukusabela okukubangelayo.

Ukugwema imizwa yosizi, ungenza konke okusemandleni ukugcina ifoni yakho isondele futhi uqiniseke ukuthi uyayisebenzisa. Lezi zimilo zingabonakala ziphakamisa ukuncika efonini yakho. Isibonelo, unga:

• uthathe umbhede, indlu yokugezela, noma ishawa
• kuhlole njalo, ngisho nangezikhathi eziningana ehoreni, ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi iyasebenza nokuthi awusiphuthelanga isaziso
• chitha amahora amaningana ngosuku usebenzisa ifoni yakho
• uzizwe ungenalutho ngaphandle kwefoni yakho
• qiniseka ukuthi uyayibona noma kunini uma ingekho esandleni sakho noma ephaketheni

Yini ebangela le phobia?

I-Nomophobia ithathwa njenge-phobia yesimanje. Ngamanye amagama, kungenzeka ukuthi kubangelwa ukuthembela okwandayo kubuchwepheshe nokukhathazeka ngalokho okungenzeka uma ngokungazelelwe ungafinyeleli kulwazi oludingekayo.

Imininingwane ekhona mayelana ne-nomophobia iphakamisa ukuthi kwenzeka kaningi entsheni nasebekhulile.

Ochwepheshe abakatholi imbangela ethile ye-nomophobia. Esikhundleni salokho, bakholelwa ukuthi kunezinto eziningana ezinganikela.

Ukwesaba ukuhlukaniswa, ngokuqondakalayo, kungadlala indima ekuthuthukiseni i-nomophobia. Uma ifoni yakho isebenza njengendlela yakho eyinhloko yokuxhumana nabantu obakhathalelayo, ungahle uzizwe unesizungu ngaphandle kwayo.

Ukungafuni ukuzwa lesi sizungu kungakwenza ufune ukugcina ifoni yakho isondele ngaso sonke isikhathi.

Enye imbangela kungaba ukwesaba ukungafinyeleleki. Sonke sigcina izingcingo zethu zisondele uma silinde umyalezo obalulekile noma ucingo. Lokhu kungaba umkhuba okunzima ukugqashula kuwo.

I-Phobias ayihlali ikhula ngokuphendula umuzwa ongemuhle, kepha lokhu kwesinye isikhathi kuyenzeka. Isibonelo, uma ukulahlekelwa yifoni yakho esikhathini esidlule bekubangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu noma izinkinga kuwe, ungahle ukhathazeke ngalokhu okwenzekayo futhi.

Ingozi yakho yokuthuthukisa i-nomophobia ingakhuphuka uma unelungu lomndeni eliseduze elino-phobia noma olunye uhlobo lokukhathazeka.

Ukuphila nokukhathazeka ngokujwayelekile kungakhuphula ubungozi bokuthuthukisa i-phobia.

Kutholakala kanjani?

Uma ubona ezinye izimpawu zokuzikhethela kuwe, kungasiza ukukhuluma nodokotela.

Ukuhlala usebenzisa ifoni yakho noma ukukhathazeka ngokungabi nayo ifoni yakho akusho ukuthi une-nomophobia. Kepha kuwumqondo omuhle ukukhuluma nomuntu uma ngabe unezimpawu izinyanga eziyisithupha noma ngaphezulu, ikakhulukazi uma lezi zimpawu:

• zivame futhi ziphikelele kulo lonke usuku lwakho
• kulimaze umsebenzi wakho noma ubudlelwano
• kwenze kube nzima ukulala ngokwanele
• kubangele izinkinga emisebenzini yakho yansuku zonke
• ube nomthelela omubi empilweni noma kwikhwalithi yempilo

Akukho ukuxilongwa okusemthethweni kwe-nomophobia okwamanje, kepha ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo abaqeqeshiwe bangazibona izimpawu ze-phobia nokukhathazeka futhi bakusize ufunde ukubhekana nezimpawu ngendlela ekhiqizayo yokusiza ukunqoba imiphumela yazo.

Isitshudeni se-PhD kanye noprofesa osebenzisana naye e-Iowa State University basebenze ukuthuthukisa uhlu lwemibuzo olungasiza ekuboneni ukuzonda igama. Bese benza isifundo ngo-2015 ebesibheka abafundi baseyunivesithi abangama-301 ukuze bahlole le mibuzo bese behlola nokuzonda kanye nemiphumela yako.

Imiphumela yocwaningo iphakamisa ukuthi izitatimende ezingama-20 ocwaningweni zingasiza ngokuthembekile ukuthola amazinga ahlukahlukene wokuzikhethela. Ucwaningo olufanayo lungasiza ochwepheshe ukuthi basebenze ukuthuthukisa izindlela ezithile zokuxilonga.

Iphathwa kanjani i-phobia?

Umeluleki mhlawumbe uzoncoma ukwelashwa uma uhlangabezana nosizi olukhulu noma unenkinga yokuphatha impilo yakho yansuku zonke.

Ukwelashwa kungakusiza ukubhekana nezimpawu ze-nomophobia. Udokotela wakho angancoma ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo noma ukwelashwa kokuvezwa.

Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo

Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (CBT) kungakusiza ufunde ukuphatha imicabango nemizwa engemihle evelayo uma ucabanga ngokungabi nayo ifoni yakho.

Umcabango othi "Uma ngilahlekelwa yifoni yami, angisoze ngakwazi ukukhuluma nabangane bami futhi" ungakwenza uzizwe ukhathazekile futhi ugula. Kepha i-CBT ingakusiza ukuthi ufunde ukuphonsela inselelo ngokunengqondo lo mcabango.

Isibonelo, esikhundleni salokho ungathi, "Engixhumana nabo benziwe isipele, futhi ngithola ifoni entsha. Izinsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala bezizoba nzima, kodwa bekungeke kube ukuphela komhlaba. ”

Ukwelashwa kokuveza

Ukwelashwa kokuvezwa kukusiza ukuthi ufunde ukubhekana nokwesaba kwakho ngokuchayeka kancane kancane kukho.

Uma une-nomophobia, uzojwayela kancane isipiliyoni sokungabi nayo ifoni yakho. Lokhu kungabonakala kusabisa ekuqaleni, ikakhulukazi uma udinga ifoni yakho ukuze uhlale uxhumene nabantu obathandayo.

Kepha inhloso yokwelashwa ngokuvezwa akukhona ukugwema ngokuphelele ukusebenzisa ifoni yakho, ngaphandle kwalapho kuyinjongo yakho uqobo. Esikhundleni salokho, kukusiza ukuthi ufunde ukubhekana nokwesaba okwedlulele ohlangabezana nakho lapho ucabanga ngokungabi nayo ifoni yakho. Ukuphatha lokhu kwesaba kungakusiza ukuthi usebenzise ifoni yakho ngezindlela ezinempilo.

Imithi

Imithi ingakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nezimpawu ezinzima zokuzikhethela, kepha ayiyixazululi imbangela. Ngokuvamile akusizi ukwelapha i-phobia ngemithi kuphela.

Ngokuya ngezimpawu zakho, udokotela wezifo zengqondo angancoma ukusebenzisa umuthi isikhashana njengoba ufunda ukubhekana nezimpawu zakho ekwelashweni. Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa:

• Ama-beta blockers angasiza ekunciphiseni izimpawu zomzimba ze-phobia, ezinjengesiyezi, inkinga yokuphefumula, noma ukushaya kwenhliziyo okusheshayo. Imvamisa uthatha lokhu ngaphambi kokubhekana nesimo esifaka ukwesaba kwakho. Isibonelo, bangakusiza uma kufanele uye endaweni ekude ngaphandle kwensizakalo yefoni.
• I-Benzodiazepines ingakusiza uzizwe ungesabi futhi ukhathazekile lapho ucabanga ngokungabi nayo ifoni yakho. Umzimba wakho ungathuthukisa ukuthembela kuwo, noma kunjalo, ngakho-ke udokotela wakho uzobanikeza kuphela ukusetshenziswa kwesikhashana.

Ukuzinakekela

Ungathatha futhi izinyathelo zokubhekana nokuzikhethela wedwa. Zama okulandelayo:

• Vala ifoni yakho ebusuku ukuze uthole ukulala ngokwengeziwe. Uma udinga i-alamu ukuze uvuke, gcina ifoni yakho kude, kude ngokwanele ukuthi awukwazi ukuyibheka kalula ebusuku.
• Zama ukushiya ifoni yakho ekhaya isikhathi esifushane, njengalapho wenza igilosa, uthatha isidlo sakusihlwa, noma uhambahamba.
• Chitha isikhathi esithile usuku ngalunye kude nabo bonke ubuchwepheshe. Zama ukuhlala ngokuthula, ukubhala incwadi, ukuthatha uhambo, noma ukuhlola indawo entsha engaphandle.

Abanye abantu bazizwa bexhumeke kakhulu ezingcingweni zabo ngoba bazisebenzisela ukuxhumana nabangane nabantu ababathandayo. Lokhu kungenza kube nzima ukuthatha isikhala kufoni yakho, kepha cabanga ukwenza okulandelayo:

• Khuthaza abangane nabathandekayo ukuthi babe nokuxhumana nabantu, uma kungenzeka. Singatha i-meetup, thatha uhambo lokuhamba, noma uhlele ukuphunyuka ngempelasonto.
• Uma abantu obathandayo behlala emadolobheni noma emazweni ahlukene, zama ukulinganisela isikhathi osichitha ocingweni lwakho neminye imisebenzi. Bekela eceleni isikhathi usuku ngalunye lapho uvala ifoni yakho bese ugxila kokunye.
• Zama ukuba nokuxhumana okuningi komuntu nomuntu nabantu abaseduze kwakho. Yiba nengxoxo emfushane nomuntu osebenza naye, uxoxe nofunda naye noma umakhelwane, noma uncoma ingubo yomuntu othile. Lokhu kuxhumana kungahle kungaholeli ebunganeni - kepha kungahle kwenzeke.

Abantu banezitayela ezahlukahlukene zokuhlobana nabanye. Akuyona inkinga uma unesikhathi esilula sokwenza abangane ku-inthanethi.

Kepha uma ukuxhumana kwi-inthanethi nokunye ukusetshenziswa kwefoni kuthinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke nezibopho zakho noma kukwenza kube nzima ukuqedela imisebenzi edingekayo, ukukhuluma nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo kungasiza.

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola usizo uma kunzima ukukhuluma nabanye ngenxa yemiphumela yokuxhashazwa noma ukuhlukunyezwa, noma izimpawu zokukhathazeka ngempilo yengqondo, njengokucindezeleka, ukukhathazeka komphakathi, noma ukucindezeleka.

Umelaphi angakunikeza ukusekelwa, akusize ufunde ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga, futhi akuholele kwezinye izinsizakusebenza uma kudingeka.

Okubalulekile

I-Nomophobia kungenzeka ingakahlukaniswa njengezimo ezisemthethweni zezempilo yengqondo. Kodwa-ke, ochwepheshe bayavuma ukuthi le nkinga yeminyaka yobuchwepheshe iyinkinga ekhulayo engathinta impilo yengqondo.

I-Nomophobia ibonakala ivame kakhulu kubantu abasha, yize abasebenzisi abaningi befoni beba nezimpawu ezithile zezimpawu.

Uma usebenzisa ifoni yakho njalo, ungahle ubhekane nokwethuka okwesikhashana lapho ubona ukuthi awunayo noma awukwazi ukuyithola. Lokhu akusho ukuthi une-nomophobia.

Kepha uma ukhathazeka kakhulu ngokungabi nayo ifoni yakho noma ukungakwazi ukuyisebenzisa ukuze ungakwazi ukugxila kulokho okudingeka ukwenze, cabanga ngokuthola usizo kumelaphi.

I-Nomophobia ingathuthuka ngokwelashwa nangoshintsho lwendlela yokuphila.