Incwadi Evulekele Noma ngubani Ofihla Inkinga Yokudla

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• 1. Noma ungalulama wedwa, izingqinamba ezisemqoka kungenzeka ukuthi zibuye zikulume embongolweni.
• 2. Ubudlelwano bakho buhlupheka ngezindlela ongaziboni.
• 3. Unganeliseki ngokuthi "ululame ngokwanele."
• 4. Ukululama kungenzeka kakhulu uma uthola usizo.
• 5. Awuwedwa.
• 6. Unezinketho.
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Kudala, waqamba amanga ngoba ungafuni ukuthi umuntu akuvimbe. Ukudla okweqe, izinto ozenze endlini yokugezela, izicucu zephepha lapho ubulandela khona amakhilogremu nama-calories kanye no-gram kashukela-ukufihlile ukuze kungabikho muntu ongena endleleni yakho. Ngoba akekho noyedwa ozokuqonda, aqonde ukuthi kanjani kuyadingeka ukulawula umzimba wakho, noma ngabe kubiza malini.

Kepha ufuna impilo yakho ibuye. Impilo lapho ungalalela khona ingxoxo ephathini ngaphandle kokucabanga ngetafula lokudla, impilo lapho ungazange untshontshe khona izigxobo ze-granola ebhokisini elingaphansi kombhede womuntu ohlala naye noma wacasula umngane wakho omkhulu ngenxa yokuphazamiseka okukuvimbile. ukujima kwakusihlwa.

Ngiyakuthola. Oh Nkosi yami ngiyakuthola. Ngichithe iminyaka emine yempilo yami ngidliwe yizinkinga zokudla. Ngemuva konyaka wokuqala noma ngaphezulu, ngaba nesifiso sokululama. Ngachitha igazi; Ngangilele embhedeni ngiqinisekile ukuthi ngizokufa ngalobobusuku ngesifo senhliziyo. Ngaphula ikhodi yami yokuziphatha, kaninginingi. Impilo yami yancipha kwaze kwaba ayicaci, insali eshwabene yokuphila. Ukuzitika ngotshwala nokuhlanza kwephuze isikhathi namandla obekufanele ngisebenzise ukutadisha, ukulandela izintshisekelo zami, ukutshala imali ebudlelwaneni, ukuhlola umhlaba, ukukhula njengomuntu.

Noma kunjalo, angizange ngilufune usizo. Angiwutshelanga umndeni wami. Ngibone izinketho ezimbili kuphela: ukulwa nenkinga yami ngedwa, noma ngife ngizama.

Ngenhlanhla, ngalulama. Ngasuka ekhaya, ngahlala endlini yangasese nomuntu engangihlala naye, futhi-ngemuva kwemizamo eminingi engaphumelelanga-ekugcineni ngagqashula umkhuba wokuzitika ngotshwala nokuhlanza. Futhi ngazizwa ngiziqhenya ngokuthi ngangikunqobile ukuphazamiseka kwami ​​​​kwemikhuba yokudla ngedwa, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa abazali bami, ngaphandle kokubhekana nezindleko zokwelapha noma ukwelashwa, ngaphandle kokuzikhipha njengomuntu "onenkinga."

Manje, ngemva kweminyaka engaphezu kweshumi, ngiyazisola ngokungalufuni usizo nokuvulela abantu isifuba ngokushesha. Uma ubhekene nenkinga yokudla ngasese, nginesihawu esikhulu kuwe. Ngiyabona ukuthi uzama kanjani ukuvikela abantu empilweni yakho, uzama kanzima kangakanani ukwenza konke ngendlela efanele. Kepha kunezizathu ezibalulekile zokuvula. Nazi:

1. Noma ungalulama wedwa, izingqinamba ezisemqoka kungenzeka ukuthi zibuye zikulume embongolweni.

Wake wezwa igama elithi "dry drunk"? Izidakwa ezomile ziyizidakwa eziyeka ukuphuza kodwa azenzi izinguquko ezinkulu ekuziphatheni kwazo, ezinkolelweni zazo, noma ekuziphatheni kwazo. Futhi ngemuva kokululama kwami, ngangingu "bulimic owomile." Impela, angisazibophi futhi ngihlanze, kepha angizange ngibhekane nokukhathazeka, ukuzizonda, noma imbobo emnyama yehlazo nokuzihlukanisa okwangiholela ekubeni ngidle ngonakele kwasekuqaleni. Ngenxa yalokho, ngaqala imikhuba emisha emibi, ngakhanga ubuhlobo obubuhlungu, futhi ngokuvamile ngazenza ngidabukile.

Le iphethini ejwayelekile phakathi kwabantu abazama ukusebenza ngezinkinga zokudla bebodwa. "Ukuziphatha okuyinhloko kungahle kungasebenzi," kusho uJulie Duffy Dillon, isazi esibhalisiwe sokudla kanye nochwepheshe wokuphazamiseka kokudla eGreensboro, eNorth Carolina. "Kodwa izinkinga eziwumsuka zisekhona futhi ziyanda."

Umphumela walesi simo ukuthi ukwelashwa kwenkinga yokudla kungaxazulula okungaphezu nje kobudlelwane bakho nokudla. "Uma uthola usizo ekutholeni nasekubhekaneni nezinkinga ezisemqoka, unethuba lokusula iphethini yokuba semhlabeni okungakusizi, futhi unethuba lokuthi ube nokuphila okwanelisa ngokwengeziwe," kusho u-Anita Johnston , Ph.D., umqondisi womtholampilo we-'Ai Pono Eating Disorder Programs e-Hawaii.

2. Ubudlelwano bakho buhlupheka ngezindlela ongaziboni.

Impela, uyazi ukuthi abathandekayo bakho badidwa ukushintsha kwemizwa yakho nokucasuka. Uyabona ukuthi babuhlungu kangakanani lapho ukhansela izinhlelo ngomzuzu wokugcina noma ungena emicabangweni egxile kokudla lapho bezama ukuba nengxoxo nawe. Ungase ucabange ukuthi ukugcina ukuphazamiseka kwakho kwemikhuba yokudla kuyimfihlo kuyindlela yokunxephezela la maphutha.

Ngeke ngikunike enye into ozozikhathaza ngayo, ungase ucabange. Kepha imfihlo ingalimaza ubudlelwano bakho ngezindlela ongaziqapheli.

Uyakhumbula labo bazali engizame kanzima ukubasindisa? Ngemva kweminyaka engu-9 ngilulama ekuphazamisekeni kwemikhuba yokudla, ubaba wabulawa umdlavuza. Kwakungukufa okuhamba kancane, okuhamba kancane kabuhlungu, uhlobo lokufa okunikeza isikhathi esiningi sokucabanga ngalokho ongathanda ukukusho komunye nomunye. Futhi ngicabange ukumtshela nge-bulimia yami. Ngangicabanga ukuthi ekugcineni ngizochaza ukuthi kungani ngiyekile ukusebenzisa i-violin ngisemusha, yize azama kanzima ukungikhuthaza, yize ebengihambisa ngemoto ezifundweni isonto nesonto futhi ebhala ngokucophelela konke okushiwo uthisha wami. Nsuku zonke wayefika evela emsebenzini futhi abuze ukuthi ngiye ngaziqeqesha yini, futhi ngiqamba amanga, noma ngihlahle amehlo ami, noma ngibile ngentukuthelo.

Ekugcineni, angimtshelanga. Angichazanga. Ngifisa sengathi ngabe nganginakho. Eqinisweni, ngifisa sengathi ngabe ngamtshela eminyakeni engu-15 ngaphambili. Benginganqanda ukungezwani okungase kungene phakathi kwethu, uhlaka olwancipha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kodwa lwangabe lusasuka.

NgokukaJohnston, amaphethini abhubhisayo abangela ukuphazamiseka kokudla awakwazi ukuzibamba ebudlelwaneni bethu. Uthi: "Umuntu ovimbela ukudla kwabo, ngokuvamile uvimbela ezinye izinto ekuphileni kwabo: imizwelo yabo, okuhlangenwe nakho okusha, ubudlelwano, ukusondelana." Ngaphandle uma ubhekana nazo, lezi zinguquko zingakhinyabeza ikhono lakho lokuxhumana ngokujulile nabanye abantu.

Ungase ucabange ukuthi uvikela abantu obathandayo ngokufihla inkinga yakho yokudla, kepha awunjalo. Esikhundleni salokho ubaphuca ithuba lokukuqonda, ukubona ubumpumputhe nobuhlungu nobuqiniso besipiliyoni sakho futhi bakuthande noma kanjani.

3. Unganeliseki ngokuthi "ululame ngokwanele."

Ukuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla kusiqhubela kude nemikhuba yokudla okunempilo nokuzivocavoca kangangokuthi singase singazi nokuthi "okuvamile" kuyini. Iminyaka eminingi ngemva kokuyeka ukuzitika nokuhlanza, ngangilokhu ngingadli, ngidla ukudla okuwumsangano, ngizivocavoca kwaze kwaba yilapho ngingaboni kahle, futhi ngesaba ukudla engangikubize njengokungaphephile. Bengicabanga ukuthi ngikahle.

Ngangingekho. Ngemuva kweminyaka okuthiwa ngiyalulama, ngacishe ngaba nokushaywa uvalo phakathi nosuku ngoba ilayisi elaliku-sushi yami lalimhlophe esikhundleni sobunsundu. Indoda engaphesheya kwetafula ibizama ukungitshela ukuthi izizwa kanjani ngobudlelwano bethu. Ngangimuzwa kancane.

“Ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, abantu abathola ukwelashwa bathola ukululama ngokuphelele,” kusho uChristy Harrison, isazi sokudla okunempilo esibhalisiwe eBrooklyn, eNew York. Labo bethu abazihambela bodwa, uHarrison uthola, bavame ukunamathela ekuziphatheni okungalungile. Ukululama okuyingxenye enjengale kusishiya sengozini yokubuyela emuva. Phakathi kwabantu abadala abanenkinga yokudla uDillon abelapha, "iningi lithi laba nenkinga yokudla lapho abasebasha 'besazisebenzela ngokwabo,' kuphela manje lapho sebephenduke kakhulu ukuguqa."

Vele, ukubuyela emuva njalo kungenzeka, kepha usizo lochwepheshe linciphisa amathuba (bheka okulandelayo).

4. Ukululama kungenzeka kakhulu uma uthola usizo.

Nginenhlanhla, ngiyakubona lokho manje. Inhlanhla engasile. Ngokusho kwesibuyekezo ku- Izinqolobane ze-General Psychiatry, Izinga lokudla linezinga eliphakeme kakhulu lokufa kwanoma yisiphi isifo sengqondo. Lezi zindlela zokuziphatha zingase ziqale njengezindlela zokubhekana nesimo, noma ukuzama ukuthola kabusha ukulawula okungahleliwe okushelelayo kwempilo, kodwa zingama-bastards amancane acashile afuna ukuxhuma kabusha ubuchopho bakho futhi akwehlukanise nezinto-nabantu-obathandayo.

Ucwaningo luye lwabonisa ukuthi ukwelashwa, ikakhulukazi ukwelashwa kusenesikhathi, kuthuthukisa amathuba okululama. Isibonelo, abacwaningi baseLouisiana State University bathola ukuthi abantu abathola ukwelashwa kungakapheli iminyaka emihlanu bethola i-bulimia nervosa banamathuba aphindwe kane okululama njengabantu abalinda iminyaka engu-15 noma ngaphezulu. Ngisho noma usuneminyaka enkingeni yakho yokudla, yima isibindi. Ukululama kungahle kungabi lula, kepha uDillon uthola ukuthi, ngokwelashwa okufanele nokululekwa okufanele, ngisho nabantu abahlupheke iminyaka eminingi noma asebeke babuyela emuva bangakwazi "ukuthola amaphesenti ayikhulu."

5. Awuwedwa.

Izinkinga zokudla zivame ukubangelwa amahloni ngemizimba yethu, ukufaneleka kwethu, ukuzithiba kwethu - kepha ahlanganisa amahloni kunokukuxazulula. Lapho silwa nokudla noma ukuzivocavoca umzimba, singazizwa siphuke kakhulu, singakwazi ukuphatha nezidingo zethu eziyisisekelo.

Imvamisa, leli hlazo yilo eligcina sihlupheka ngasese.

Iqiniso ukuthi awuwedwa. Ngokusho kweNational Eating Disorders Association, abesifazane abayizigidi ezingama-20 nabesilisa abayizigidi eziyishumi e-United States balwa nenkinga yokudla esikhathini esithile empilweni yabo. Ngisho nabantu abaningi bahlushwa ukudla okungalungile. Ngaphandle kokuxhaphaka kwalezi zinkinga, ukucwaswa okuzungeze ukuphazamiseka kokudla kuvame ukuvimba ingxoxo ngazo.

Ikhambi lale nhlamba wukuvuleleka, hhayi ukufihla. "Uma ukungezwani kokudla nezindlela zokuziphatha ezingahambi kahle bekulula ukuxoxa ngazo phakathi kwabangane nomndeni," kusho uHarrison, "kungenzeka ukuthi sibe namacala ambalwa ekuqaleni." Ukholelwa nokuthi uma umphakathi wethu ububheka ukuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla ngokukhululekile, abantu bebezofuna ukwelashwa ngokushesha futhi bathole ukwesekwa okukhulu.

Ukukhuluma "kungangethusa" kuvuma uHarrison, "kepha isibindi sakho sizokutholela usizo oludingayo, futhi singasiza nokunika abanye amandla."

6. Unezinketho.

Woza, ungahle ucabange. Angikwazi ukukhokhela ukwelashwa. Anginaso isikhathi. Angizacile ngokwanele ukukudinga. Lokhu akulona iqiniso. Ngangiyoqala kuphi?

Kunamazinga amaningi okwelashwa. Yebo, abanye abantu badinga uhlelo lokulaliswa esibhedlela noma lwendawo yokuhlala, kodwa abanye bangazuza ekunakekelweni kweziguli ezingaphandle. Qala ngokuhlangana nomelaphi, udokotela wezokudla, noma udokotela onobuchwepheshe bokuphazamiseka kokudla. Labo ngoti bangahamba ngezinketho zakho futhi bakusize ukuthi uhlele inkambo yohambo lwakho lokutakula.

Ukhathazekile ngokuthi akekho ozokholwa ukuthi unenkinga? Lokhu ukwesaba okuvamile kubantu abanokuphazamiseka kwemikhuba yokudla, ikakhulukazi labo abangekho ngaphansi kwesisindo somzimba. Iqiniso ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kokudla kukhona kubantu babo bonke osayizi. Uma noma ngubani ezama ukukutshela ngenye indlela, phuma ngomnyango bese uthola uchwepheshe ofaka isisindo.

Bheka uhlu lwabahlinzeki bezokwelapha kanye nezinsiza ezihlanganiswe yi-International Federation of Eating Disorder Dietitians, i-National Eating Disorder Association, kanye ne-Recovery Warriors. Ukuthola uhlu lwabahlinzeki abafaka isisindo, bheka ku-Association for Size Diversity and Health.

Uma umelaphi wokuqala noma udokotela ohlangana naye engakulungeli, ungalahli ukholo. Qhubeka ubheka kuze kube yilapho uthola ochwepheshe obathandayo nobethembayo, abantu abangakuqondisa kusukela ekusithekeni nasekuvinjweni baye ekuphileni okugcwele, okucebile. Ngiyathembisa ukuthi kungenzeka.

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