Izinto ezi-5 Engifisa Ngazazi Ngokukhathazeka Kwangemva Kokubeletha Ngaphambi Kokuxilongwa Kwami

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• Izimpawu zalesi sifo zingafaka:
• I-PPA ayifani 'nama-jitters amasha wabazali'
• Udokotela wakho kungenzeka angakuthathi ngokungathí sina ukukhathazeka kwakho ekuqaleni
• Kunolwazi olulinganiselwe mayelana ne-PPA online
• Ukungeza ukunyakaza enkambisweni yakho yansuku zonke kungasiza
• Omama obalandelayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana bangenza iPPA yakho ibe yimbi kakhulu
• Okubalulekile

Naphezu kokuba ngumama wokuqala, ngathatha ukuba ngumama ngokukhululekile ekuqaleni.

Kwakungesikhathi samasonto ayisithupha lapho "umama omusha ophakeme" ephela futhi ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwaqala. Ngemuva kokudlisa indodakazi yami ubisi lwebele ngokuqinile, ukunikezwa kwami ​​kwehliswe ngaphezu kwengxenye ukusuka osukwini olulodwa kuya kolandelayo.

Kwathi kungazelelwe angabe ngisakwazi ukukhiqiza ubisi nhlobo.

Ngangikhathazekile ukuthi ingane yami yayingatholi izakhamzimba ezazizidinga. Ngangikhathazekile ukuthi abantu bazothini uma ngondla ifomula lakhe. Futhi ikakhulukazi, bengikhathazeka ukuthi ngizoba ngumama ongafanelekile.

Faka ukukhathazeka kwangemva kokubeletha.

Izimpawu zalesi sifo zingafaka:

• ukucasuka
• ukukhathazeka njalo
• imizwa yokwesaba
• ukungakwazi ukucabanga kahle
• ukuphazamiseka kokulala nokudla
• ukungezwani komzimba

Ngenkathi kunenani elikhulayo lemininingwane elizungeze ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha (PPD), kunolwazi oluncane kakhulu nokuqwashisa uma kukhulunywa ngePPA. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi i-PPA ayiziveleli. Ihlala eceleni kwe-PTSD yokubeletha nangemva kokubeletha njenge-perinatal mood disorder.

Ngenkathi inani eliqondile labesifazane basemva kokubeletha abahlakulela ukukhathazeka lingakacaci, ukubuyekeza okungu-2016 kwezifundo ezingama-58 kutholakale amaphesenti alinganiselwa ku-8.5 omama basemva kokubeletha abahlangabezana nokuphazamiseka okukodwa noma ngaphezulu kokukhathazeka.

Ngakho-ke lapho ngiqala ukuthola cishe zonke izimpawu ezihambisana ne-PPA, bengingaqondi kahle ukuthi kwenzekani kimi. Ngingazi ukuthi ubani omunye engingaphendukela kuye, nginqume ukutshela udokotela wami oyinhloko mayelana nezimpawu engangibhekene nazo.

Nginezimpawu zami ezilawulwayo manje, kepha kunezinto eziningi engifisa ukuthi ngabe ngazi nge-PPA ngaphambi kokuba ngithole ukuxilongwa kwami. Lokhu bekungenza ukuthi ngisheshe ngikhulume nodokotela futhi ngilungiselele ngaphambi kokufika ekhaya nengane yami entsha.

Kepha ngenkathi kufanele ngisebenzise izimpawu zami - nokwelashwa - ngaphandle kokuqonda okuningi ngaphambi kwePPA uqobo, abanye abasesimweni esifanayo akufanele bakwenze.Ngiphule izinto ezinhlanu engifisa ukuthi ngabe ngazi ngaphambi kokuxilongwa kwami ​​kwe-PPA ngethemba lokuthi ingazisa kangcono abanye.

I-PPA ayifani 'nama-jitters amasha wabazali'

Lapho ucabanga ngokukhathazeka njengomzali omusha, ungacabanga ngokungakhululeki ngesimo esithile ngisho nezintende ezijulukayo nesisu esibuhlungu.

Njengomphumi weminyaka eyi-12 wempilo yezengqondo onesifo sokukhathazeka esijwayelekile kanye nomuntu obhekane ne-PPA, ngiyakutshela ukuthi i-PPA inzima kakhulu kunokukhathazeka nje.

Kimina, ngenkathi ngangingenandaba nokuthi ingane yami isengozini, ngangisetshenziswa ngokuphelele ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi ngangingenzi umsebenzi omuhle ngokwanele njengomama wengane yami. Ngiphuphe ngiba ngumama impilo yami yonke, kepha muva nje bengilungiselelwe ukwenza konke ngokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka. Lokhu kufaka phakathi ukuncelisa ingane yami ibele isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka.

Lapho ngingakwazi ukwenza lokho, imicabango yokungakwazi ukusebenza yathatha impilo yami. Ngangazi ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle lapho ngikhathazeka ngokungahambisani nomphakathi “webele kungcono” nemiphumela yokondla indodakazi yami ngebhodlela yaholela ekutheni ngingakwazi ukusebenza kahle. Kwaba nzima kimi ukulala, ukudla, nokugxila emisebenzini yansuku zonke nemisebenzi.

Uma ucabanga ukuthi uhlangabezana nanoma yiziphi izimpawu ze-PPA, khuluma nodokotela wezokwelapha ngokushesha okukhulu.

Udokotela wakho kungenzeka angakuthathi ngokungathí sina ukukhathazeka kwakho ekuqaleni

Ngavulela umhlinzeki wami wokuqala wokunakekelwa mayelana nokuphefumula kwami, ukukhathazeka okungapheli nokungalali. Ngemuva kokuxoxa ngakho kabanzi, waphikelela ekutheni ngibe nengqondo yengane.

I-Baby blues ibonakaliswa yimizwa yokudabuka nokukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha. Imvamisa kudlula kungakapheli amasonto amabili ngaphandle kokwelashwa. Angikaze ngibe nosizi ngemuva kokubeletha indodakazi yami, futhi nezimpawu zami ze-PPA azange zinyamalale kungakapheli amasonto amabili.

Ngokwazi ukuthi izimpawu zami bezihlukile, ngiqinisekisile ukuthi ngikhulume kaningi kukho konke ukuqokwa. Ekugcineni wavuma ukuthi izimpawu zami zazingeyona i-baby blues kepha, empeleni, babeyi-PPA futhi baqala ukungiphatha ngokufanele.

Akekho ongakusekela wena nempilo yakho yengqondo ngendlela ongakwazi ngayo. Uma uzizwa sengathi awulalelwa noma ukukhathazeka kwakho kungathathwa ngokungathí sina, qhubeka uqinisa izimpawu zakho nomhlinzeki wakho noma ufune umbono wesibili.

Kunolwazi olulinganiselwe mayelana ne-PPA online

Izimpawu zokuhamba kaningi zingaholela ekutholeni ezinye izifo ezesabekayo. Kepha uma ukhathazekile ngezimpawu futhi ungatholi lutho ngazo, kungakushiya uzizwa ukhathazekile futhi ukhungathekile.

Yize kunezinsizakusebenza ezinhle kakhulu online, ngamangala ngokungabi bikho kocwaningo lwezifundiswa nezeluleko zezokwelapha zomama ababhekana nePPA. Bekufanele ngibhukude ngiphinde ngithole izindatshana ze-PPD ezingapheli ukuthola amazwibela wezincazelo ezimbalwa ze-PPA. Noma kunjalo, noma kunjalo, ayikho imithombo ebinokwethenjelwa ngokwanele ukwethemba izeluleko zezokwelapha ezivela.

Ngikwazile ukumelana nalokhu ngokuthola umelaphi engizohlangana naye masonto onke. Ngenkathi lezi zikhathi zazibaluleke kakhulu ukungisiza ngilawule i-PPA yami, zanginika nendawo yokuqala yokuthola eminye imininingwane ngalesi sifo.

Sikhuluma Ngenkathi ukukhuluma nothandekayo ngemizwa yakho kungezwa ukwelashwa, ukuhumusha imizwa yakho nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo ongachemile kubaluleke kakhulu ekwelapheni nasekululameni kwakho.

Ukungeza ukunyakaza enkambisweni yakho yansuku zonke kungasiza

Nganginethezekile ngokwedlulele ngihleli ekhaya ngicabanga zonke izinyathelo engizithatha nengane yami. Ngayeka ukunaka ukuthi ngabe nginyakazisa umzimba wami ngokwanele yini. Kwakungesikhathi lapho ngasebenza khona, lapho-ke engaqala khona ukuzizwa ngingcono.

"Ukuzivocavoca" bekuyigama elisabisayo kimi, ngakho-ke ngiqale ngokuhamba amabanga amade ngidlula endaweni yangakithi. Kungithathe isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka ukukhululeka ngokwenza i-cardio nokusebenzisa izinsimbi, kepha zonke izinyathelo zibalwa nokululama kwami.

Ukuhamba kwami ​​ngizungeza ipaki akuvelanga nje ngokukhiqiza ama-endorphin agcina ingqondo yami igxilile futhi anginika amandla, kodwa futhi avumela nokusondelana nengane yami - into ebikade iyisikhubekiso kimi.

Uma ungathanda ukusebenza kodwa ukhetha ukwenza kanjalo kusethingi leqembu, hlola iwebhusayithi yomnyango wangakini wepaki noma amaqembu asendaweni e-Facebook ukuthola ama-meetups amahhala nezifundo zokuzivocavoca.

Omama obalandelayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana bangenza iPPA yakho ibe yimbi kakhulu

Ukuba ngumzali sekuvele kungumsebenzi onzima, futhi imithombo yezokuxhumana imane nje yengeze inani elikhulu lengcindezi engadingekile ukuze iphelele kuwo.

Ngangivame ukuzishaya lapho ngiphenya izithombe ezingapheli zomama "abaphelele" bedla ukudla okunomsoco, okuphelele nemindeni yabo ephelele, noma okubi kakhulu, omama bekhombisa ukuthi bangakanani ubisi lwebele abakwazi ukukhiqiza.

Ngemuva kokubona ukuthi lokhu kuqhathanisa kwakungilimaza kanjani, ngalandela omama ababebonakala behlala bewashwa futhi bedla ukudla kuhhavini futhi ngaqala ukulandela ama-akhawunti angempela omama bangempela engingahlanganyela nabo.

Thatha uhlu lwama-akhawunti omama owalandelayo. Ukuskrola kokuthunyelwe kwangempela kusuka komama abanomqondo ofanayo kungakusiza ukukukhumbuza ukuthi awuwedwa. Uma uthola ukuthi ama-akhawunti athile awakukhuthazi noma akunike ugqozi, kungahle kube yisikhathi sokungawalandeli.

Okubalulekile

Kimi, i-PPA yami yehlile ngemuva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa zokwenza ama-tweaks enkambisweni yami yansuku zonke. Njengoba bekufanele ngifunde njengoba ngangiqhubeka, ukuba nemininingwane ngaphambi kokuba ngihambe esibhedlela kwakuzokwenza umehluko omkhulu.

Lokho kusho, uma ucabanga ukuthi uhlangabezana nezimpawu ze-PPA, yazi ukuthi awuwedwa. Funa uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ukuze axoxe ngezimpawu zakho. Bangakusiza ukuthi usungule uhlelo lokutakula olusebenza kangcono kuwe.

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