Amathiphu ama-5 Angisizile Ngakwazi Ukuzulazula Kwinhlekelele Enkulu eminyakeni engama-20

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• Cela usizo - futhi ucacise
• Qinisekisa izibuyekezo zakho zezempilo
• Ukubekezela ungumngani wakho omkhulu
• Funa usizo lochwepheshe
• Funda ukwamukela ukuthi impilo ayisoze yafana
• Ukubhekana nobunzima akukaze kube lula, kepha ukuba namathuluzi afanele okubhekana nakho kungasiza

Ngemuva kokuthola umdlavuza wobuchopho ngina-27, nakhu okungisizile ukubhekana.

Lapho usemncane, kulula ukuzizwa ungenakunqotshwa. Amaqiniso okugula nosizi angabonakala kude kakhulu, kungenzeka kepha kungalindelekile.

Kuze kube yilapho, ngaphandle kwesixwayiso, lowo mugqa ungaphansi kwezinyawo zakho ngokuzumayo, bese uzithola usuwelele ngaphesheya ungathandi.

Kungenzeka ngokushesha futhi ngokungahleliwe njengalokho. Okungenani yangenzela.

Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngemuva kokuhlanganisa iminyaka engu-27, kwatholakala ukuthi nginohlobo lomdlavuza wobuchopho olunolaka olubizwa nge-anaplastic astrocytoma. Isimila sebanga lesi-3 (kwelesi-4) esisuswe ebuchosheni bami satholakala ngemuva kokuthi ngikhuthaze i-MRI ehlola, yize odokotela abaningi bengitshela ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwami ​​bekungafanele.

Kusukela ngosuku engathola ngalo imiphumela, elakhombisa isisindo sebhola legalufu engxenyeni yami yangakwesokudla ye-parietal, kumbiko we-pathology owalandela i-craniotomy ukususa isimila, impilo yami yancibilika kusuka kokunye okungu-20 okusebenza esikoleni esiphothule umuntu onomdlavuza, elwela impilo yakhe.

Ezinyangeni selokhu ngathola ukuxilongwa, ngibe nebhadi ngokwanele ukubuka abanye abaningana engibathandayo bedlula kwezabo izinguquko ezimbi. Ngithathe ucingo ngaya kuma-sobs angalindelekile futhi ngilalele indaba yenkinga entsha ethambe umjikelezo wami wabangane phansi, bonke abaseminyakeni yabo yama-20.

Futhi bengilapho njengoba siziqoqosha kancane kancane.

Ngemuva kwalokhu, sekucacile kimi ukuthi ukuzilungiselela okuncane thina-20-somethings sikuthola kanjani ezintweni ezibuhlungu ngempela, ikakhulukazi eminyakeni embalwa yokuqala ngiphumile esikoleni.

IKolishi alifundisi ikilasi ngalokho okufanele ukwenze ngenkathi umlingani wakho noma umngane wakho omkhulu noma ingane yakini ihlinzwa okungenzeka ukuthi ayiphili. Ulwazi lokuthi yini okufanele uyenze lapho ukushaywa kwezinkinga kuvame ukufundwa kabuhlungu: ngokulingwa nangephutha nokuhlangenwe nakho okuphilayo.

Kodwa-ke kukhona izinyathelo esingazithatha, izindlela esingasizana ngazo, nezinto ezenza okungabekezeleleki kube lula ukuhamba kancane.

Njengesazi esisha esinqikayo emhlabeni wezinhlekelele ezisasele eminyakeni engama-20, ngiqoqe izinto ezimbalwa ezingisizile ngadlula ezinsukwini ezimbi kakhulu.

Cela usizo - futhi ucacise

Ngokusobala njengoba lokhu kungazwakala, ukucela usizo kubangani nomndeni kulenhlekelele kungaba enye yezinto okunzima kakhulu ukuzenza.

Ngokwami, ukuvumela abantu bangisize kube nzima. Ngisho nangezinsuku lapho ngigudluzwe yisicanucanu esibangelwa i-chemo, ngisazama kaningi ukukwenza nami. Kepha yithathe kimi; lokho ngeke kukuyise ndawo.

Omunye wake wangitshela, phakathi kwami ​​ngibhikisha ngosizo, ukuthi lapho kugadla inhlekelele futhi abantu befuna ukusiza, kuyisipho nje kubo njengoba kuba njalo kuwe ukuba ubavumele. Mhlawumbe okuwukuphela kwento enhle ngezinkinga ukuthi kucaca kanjani ukuthi labo obathandayo bayakuthanda futhi futhi bafuna ukukusiza ebubini babo.

Futhi, lapho ucela usizo, kubalulekile ukuthi ucacise ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngabe udinga usizo lwezokuthutha ukuya nokubuya esibhedlela? Ukunakekela izilwane noma ukunakekela izingane? Umuntu ozohlanza indlu yakho ngenkathi uya kudokotela? Ngithole ukuthi ukucela ukuthi ngilethwe ukudla kube ngesinye sezicelo eziningi eziwusizo selokhu ngathola ukuthi nginesifo.

Yazisa abantu, bese ubenza benze umsebenzi.

Ukuhleleka Amawebhusayithi afana ne-Give InKind, i-CaringBridge, i-Meal Train, ne-Lotsa Helping Hands angaba amathuluzi amahle wokubeka kuhlu lokho okudingayo nokuthi abantu bahlele ngakuso. Futhi ungesabi ukudlulisela umsebenzi wokwakha isayithi noma ikhasi komunye umuntu.

Qinisekisa izibuyekezo zakho zezempilo

Uma umuntu egula noma elimele, kujwayelekile kulabo abasondelene naye ukuthi bafune ukwazi ukuthi kwenzekani nokuthi benzani nsuku zonke. Kepha kumuntu odinga ukuxhumana nazo zonke izinto ezibalulekile, lokhu kungakhathaza futhi kube nzima.

Ngithole ukuthi ngivame ukukhathazeka ukuthi ngizokhohlwa ukutshela umuntu obalulekile empilweni yami lapho kwenzeka okuthile okukhulu, futhi ngizizwe ngidinwa ngumsebenzi wokuphinda ngibhale noma ukuphinda ngibuyekeze izibuyekezo zakamuva ekunakekelweni kwami, ekuxilongweni, nasekubikezelweni.

Ekuqaleni, othile uphakamise ukuthi ngakhe iqembu elivaliwe le-Facebook ukwazisa nokuvuselela abantu abasendleleni. Kwakungaleli qembu lapho abangane nomndeni babekwazi ukufunda izibuyekezo ngosuku lwe-craniotomy yami yamahora ayisithupha, futhi ngemuva kwalokho njengoba ngangilwela ukululama e-ICU.

Njengoba izinyanga ziqhubekile, sekuyindawo lapho engikwazi khona ukubungaza okufeziwe nomphakathi wami (njengokuqeda amasonto ayisithupha emisebe ye-radiation!) Futhi ngibagcine bonke besesikhathini ezindabeni zakamuva ngaphandle kokudinga ukutshela wonke umuntu ngamunye.

Ngale kukaFacebook I-Facebook akuyona ukuphela kwendlela yokwazisa labo obathandayo ukuthi uqhuba kanjani. Ungasetha futhi uhlu lwama-imeyili, amabhulogi, noma ama-akhawunti we-Instagram. Kungakhathalekile ukuthi ukhetha yiphi, futhi ungaba nomunye umuntu akusize uzigcine nazo lezi.

Ukubekezela ungumngani wakho omkhulu

Noma ngabe ubhekene nezinselelo zakho zempilo, ubuka umuntu elwela ukululama esehlakalweni esiyinhlekelele, noma ekujuleni kwemisele yosizi ehlobene nokufa nokulahlekelwa, ukuba nesineke kuzokusindisa njalo.

Kunzima ukwamukela. Kepha ngokushesha izinto zihamba ngezikhathi zenhlekelele, nazo zihamba kancane kabuhlungu.

Esibhedlela nasekululameni, kuvame ukuba nezikhathi ezide lapho kungashintshi lutho. Lokhu kungakhungathekisa. Yize kulula ukushiwo kunokwenza, ngithole ukubekezela kungatholakala ngezindlela ezahlukahlukene, kufaka phakathi:

• ukuthatha ikhefu
• ukuzijwayeza ukuphefumula okujulile
• ukubhala phansi ukuthi kungakanani osekuguqukile
• ukuvumela ukuthi uzwe yonke imizwa nokukhathazeka okukhulu
• ukuvuma ukuthi izinto ziyashintsha futhi ziyashintsha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi (noma ngabe kukhuphuke kancane kuphela)

Funa usizo lochwepheshe

Ngenkathi umndeni nabangane bengasiza kakhulu ekunikezeni ukusekelwa, kubaluleke ngokufanayo ukuthola umuntu osuswe kumbuthano wakho wangaphakathi ongakusiza uzulazule kule nkinga ezingeni elijulile.

Noma ngabe "usizo lochwepheshe" kungumelaphi, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, noma umeluleki wezenkolo noma ongokomoya, thola umuntu ogxile kulokho okudingayo ukuze usinde ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwamanje.

Amaqembu okusekela ayamangalisa, nawo. Ukuthola abantu abakuqonda kahle lokho obhekene nakho kubaluleke kakhulu. Kunganikeza umuzwa wokungabi wedwa kulolu hambo.

Bheka kubasebenzi bezenhlalakahle noma ezikhungweni zokunakekelwa ukuze uthole imininingwane yokuthi ungawatholaphi amaqembu ezokuxhaswa. Uma ungakwazi ukuyithola, yenze ibe yodwa kubantu ohlangana nabo ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho noma ku-inthanethi. Ungayeki ukufuna ukwesekwa. Khumbula: Ukufanele.

Ukuthola usizo olufanele wenaUma unentshisekelo yokukhuluma nochwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo, hlola le mihlahlandlela:

• Konke Mayelana Nezinsizakusebenza Zempilo Yengqondo
• Ungakuthola Kanjani Ukwelashwa Okungabizi

Funda ukwamukela ukuthi impilo ayisoze yafana

Yize singaphikisana nalomuzwa futhi silwe nakho konke okufanele sikusho ukuthi "ngeke kube njalo kimi," iqiniso ukuthi, ngemuva kwenhlekelele, konke kuyashintsha.

Kimi, bekufanele ngishiye uhlelo lwegrad engiluthandayo.

Ngilahlekelwe izinwele.

Bekufanele nginikele ngesikhathi sami nenkululeko ekwelashweni kwansuku zonke.

Futhi ngizohlala kuze kube phakade ngezinkumbulo ze-ICU nangosuku engizwe ngalo ukuxilongwa kwami.

Kepha kukhona ulwelwesi lwesiliva kukho konke lokhu: Akukhona ukuthi lonke ushintsho luyoba lubi ngempela. Kwabanye abantu, bafunda izinto ngabo, ngabathandekayo babo, noma ngomphakathi wabo obekungalindelekile.

Angikaze ngizizwe ngisekelwa njengoba ngenza manje, noma nginenhlanhla ngokuphila. Makube yiqiniso bobabili: Thukuthele, umemeze futhi umemeze bese ushaya izinto. Kepha futhi phawula ukuthi kuningi kangakanani okuhle okukhona. Qaphela izinto ezincane, izikhathi ezinhle eziyigugu zenjabulo ezisangena kuzo zonke izinsuku ezimbi, ngenkathi uzivumela uthukuthele ukuthi le nkinga ikhona nhlobo.

Ukubhekana nobunzima akukaze kube lula, kepha ukuba namathuluzi afanele okubhekana nakho kungasiza

Uma kuziwa ekuhlangabezaneni nenkinga, ayikho indlela yokuphuma ngaphandle kokudlula, njengoba kusho isisho.

Futhi yize kungekho namunye wethu okulungele ngempela ukubhekana nenhlekelele, noma ngabe sineminyaka engama-27 noma engama-72, kuyasiza ukuba namathuluzi ambalwa ku-arsenal yethu ukusisiza siqonde lezi zikhathi ezinzima kakhulu.

UCaroline Catlin ungumculi, isishoshovu kanye nomsebenzi wezempilo yengqondo. Ujabulela amakati, uswidi omuncu, nozwela. Ungamthola kuwebhusayithi yakhe.