Okushiwo Ngempela Ukuba Nobuntu Bohlobo C

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• Izici ezivamile
• Ukunquma uhlobo lwakho
• Amandla okuguquguquka
• Udlala kahle nabanye
• Uthanda ukusiza
• Uzinikele
• Ungumhleli
• Uyawazisa amaqiniso
• Izinto okufanele zikhunjulwe
• Ukuziqinisa
• Inkulumo engokomzwelo
• Ukungqubuzana okunempilo
• Ukuphelela
• Ukuphelelwa ithemba
• Ukucatshangelwa kwezempilo
• Umthelela wezempilo yengqondo
• Okubalulekile

Uma ukujabulela ukufunda kabanzi ngobuntu bakho, awuwedwa nakancane.

Umthamo omkhulu wemibuzo yobuntu eku-inthanethi (Yikuphi “Umdlalo Wezihlalo Zobukhosi” Ukhona? Ukhona?) Kugcizelela ukuthi le ntshisekelo ivame kangakanani.

Ngenkathi kumnandi ukufanisa izici zobuntu nomlingiswa wakho oyintandokazi oqanjiwe (nakanjani hhayi ngokukhetha izimpendulo ezisobala ukuthola umphumela owufunayo), ochwepheshe bakhiqize izindlela eziningi zesayensi, ezisekelwa ngocwaningo zokuchaza ubuntu.

Lokhu kufaka phakathi i-Myers-Briggs Type Indicator ne-Big Five test ubuntu.

Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wezwa nangezinye izindlela ezingeyona inkimbinkimbi - ezinye zilula njengo-A, B, C no-D.

Ngenkathi ungahle ujwayelane nobuntu bohlobo A nohlobo B, ukuhlola okwakamuva kakhulu kwezimfanelo zobuntu bohlobo C kungenzeka ukuthi akukaze kufike kwi-radar yakho okwamanje.

Nasi isithombe esisheshayo: Abantu abanobuntu bohlobo C bavame ukubonakala:

• athule
• kugxilwe
• ungenise
• ecabangayo

Bangaba nenkinga yokuvula imizwa futhi baveze izidingo, bakhetha ukuvumela abanye babe nendlela yabo yokugcina ukuvumelana kweqembu.

Izici ezivamile

I- “c” yohlobo C ingamela:

• kuyavumelana
• ilawulwa
• ukuzola
• ukubambisana
• okudala
• ukumelana nezingxabano

Lezi zimfanelo zingabonakala ikakhulukazi kulezi zindlela zokuziphatha ezilandelayo:

• ukuthambekela kokufuna ukuphelela
• ubunzima bokuzivumelanisa nezinguquko ezingafuneki
• intshisekelo emininingwaneni emincane
• ukuzwela ngezidingo zabanye
• ukungazenzi kwangaphandle
• ukungabi nathemba
• ukuthambekela kokuphika noma ukugwema imizwa eyeqisayo
• umuzwa wangaphakathi wokungabi nalusizo noma wokungabi nathemba

Ukunquma uhlobo lwakho

Ubuntu bungaba yinkimbinkimbi, ngakho-ke akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi (noma ngempumelelo) ukubhoboza izici zakho ezihlukile namakhono akho esigabeni esisodwa.

Kepha uma ngaphezulu kwalezi zici ezingenhla zikuthinta, ungahle uzibuze ukuthi unganquma kanjani ukuthi empeleni, uthambekele ekuncikeni ebuntwini bohlobo C.

Ukuze uthole ukuqonda okwengeziwe, zama ukuzibuza le mibuzo engezansi:

• Ingabe ngizama ngakho konke okusemandleni ukusiza abanye, noma ngabe kunomthelela omubi emsebenzini wami, esimeni senhliziyo yami, noma enhlalakahleni yami?
• Ngabe ngiyacwaninga futhi ngibheke izinqumo zami (nemiphumela engaba khona) ngokucophelela ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo?
• Ingabe ngiyakhungatheka lapho kufanele ngisebenze nabanye abantu - kokubili ngoba ngithanda ukuba ngedwa futhi ngikholelwa ukuthi ngingenza umsebenzi ongcono ngingedwa?
• Ingabe nginenkinga ngokuzithiba lapho ngicindezelekile?
• Ngabe ngibona isidingo sokulawula indawo engikuyo?
• Ngabe ngichitha isikhathi esiningi ngiqinisekisa ukuthi umsebenzi wami awunamaphutha?
• Ingabe ngihlalisana kahle nabantu abaningi kodwa ngincamela ukuchitha isikhathi sami ngedwa?
• Ingabe ngijwayele ukuthula ngezinto ezingacasuli ezincane bese ngizimela ngasese?
• Ingabe kubalulekile kimi ukuthi wonke umuntu azwane?
• Ngabe ngithanda ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ngicwaninga ngezihloko nemibono emisha?
• Ngisebenza kanzima yini ukufeza izinhloso zami?
• Ingabe ngikuthola kunzima ukuveza izidingo nemizwa yami?
• Ingabe lokhu ukungakwazi ukusho engikufunayo kungenza ngizizwe ngikhungathekile noma ngingenakuzisiza?

Izimpendulo zakho azinikezi ubufakazi obuqand 'ikhanda besitayela sakho sobuntu.

Lokho kusho, ukuphendula ngoyebo kuningi (noma konke) kwemibuzo engenhla kusikisela ukuthi uhambisane kahle nencazelo evunyelwene ngokujwayelekile yohlobo C lomuntu.

Amandla okuguquguquka

Ubuntu bubalulekile kulokho oyikho, kodwa ubuntu uqobo abubi futhi abubi.

Njengabantu abaningi, ungahle uqambe amandla, noma izinto owaziyo ukuthi uzenza kahle, nezindawo ezimbalwa ongafuna ukuzisebenzela.

Uma unobuntu bohlobo C, kungenzeka ukuthi uqaphele ezinye zezici ezinhle ezilandelayo kuwe:

Udlala kahle nabanye

Abantu abanobuntu bohlobo C bathambekele ekubeni nokuzwela kakhudlwana ezidingweni nakwimizwa yabanye.

Ungadlala umenzi wokuthula, usebenza ukusiza wonke umuntu ukuba afinyelele esivumelwaneni - noma okungenani ukuyekethisa - emsebenzini, esikoleni, noma ebudlelwaneni bakho bomuntu siqu.

Abangane nezingane zakini bangafuna umbono wakho ngokungavumelani, futhi ungaba nekhono lokwenza abantu babambisane.

Lapho ukhungatheka noma ucasukile, uvame ukugwema ukuveza le mizwa.

Le akuyona njalo indlela ezuzisa kakhulu yokubhekana nale mizwa, kodwa iyabasiza abanye ukuthi bakubuke njengomuntu onomoya omuhle futhi okulula ukusebenzisana naye.

Uthanda ukusiza

Ukuba nosizo kuyisici esiyisihluthulelo sohlobo C. Ufuna izinto zihambe kahle, futhi ufuna ukugcina abantu bejabule, ngakho-ke ungahle ukhathazeke ngokuthi abanye bazizwa kanjani nokuthi bayakuthola abakudingayo.

Ngenxa yalokhu, ungahle ube ngowokuqala ukunikeza isisombululo lapho othile ebambeka.

Uma umuntu osebenza naye ekhathazeka ngokuthi ngeke aqede iphrojekthi yakhe ngesikhathi, ungahle unikeze ukuhlala isikhathi bese ungena.

Uzinikele

Uma unobuntu bohlobo C, kungenzeka ukuthi uneso elihle lemininingwane kanye nekhono elithuthukisiwe lokugxila.

Unesifiso esinamandla sokufeza. Le nhlanganisela ingakhuphula amathuba akho okuphumelela ngezinhloso zakho.

Awunankinga yokubona izikhubekiso ezingaba khona futhi uza nezisombululo endleleni, futhi kungabonakala kungokwemvelo ngokuphelele ukunamathela ezinqumweni zakho, uzilandele kuze kube sekupheleni.

Ungumhleli

Ukuze ufeze izinhloso zakho, uzimisele ngokuphelele ukwenza eminye imigomo eyengeziwe ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ukhethe indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphumelela. Lokhu kungabandakanya:

• ucwaninga ngobuhle nobubi bawo
• ukulungiselela imiphumela engadingeki
• ucabangela izimo ezahlukahlukene
• ukulungiselela izinguquko ezizayo

Konke lokho kuhlelwa ngokuvamile kuyakhokha, nakho.

Awuphumelelanga okokuqala? Kulungile lokho. Unezinhlelo zokulondoloza eyodwa (noma ezimbalwa) ephaketheni lakho.

Uyawazisa amaqiniso

Ubani ongakuboni ukubaluleka kobufakazi besayensi nolunye ulwazi oluyiqiniso?

Abantu abanobuntu bohlobo C bathambekele ekubeni nezimpendulo ezifanele. Uma ungazi okuthile, ngokujwayelekile uzothatha isikhathi wenze ucwaningo oluthile ukuthola impendulo nobunye ubufakazi bokukusekela.

Lokhu kuthambekela kokubeka phambili amaqiniso nobufakazi akusho ukuthi awunabuciko. Eqinisweni, kungakusiza ukuthi ucabange ngokwakha ngokwengeziwe.

Ungahle ube nethalenta lokuthola izindlela ezihlukile zokusebenzisa ulwazi ngaphandle kokuphambuka kulokho ongakufakazela, okungakusiza kahle emisebenzini efana nomthetho nemfundo.

Izinto okufanele zikhunjulwe

Sonke sinamaphutha nezindawo ezingasebenzisa intuthuko ethile. Ngemuva kwakho konke, singabantu kuphela.

Kepha ukufunda ukubona lezi zindawo zobuthakathaka kungenza kube lula ukubhekana nazo futhi kuthathe nezinyathelo zokuthuthuka.

Uma unobuntu bohlobo C, ungazabalaza:

Ukuziqinisa

Ungabona ukuvumela abanye babe nendlela yabo njengendlela yokwenza lula ukuvumelana.

Kepha ukungakhulumi ngokufunayo, noma kukhulunywa ngezinto ezilula njengokuthi iyiphi i-movie ozoyibuka, kungagcina kuholele ekukhungathekeni nasekucasukeni.

Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokuba nokukhathalela abanye, kodwa lesi sici singanikela ekuthambekeni okujabulisa abantu.

Ukufuna abanye bacabange kahle ngawe kungenza kube nzima ukuthi cha lapho othile ecela usizo, isibonelo.

Kepha uma ungafuni ngempela ukusiza noma usuvele unesimiso esimatasa, ukuthatha okuningi kuzomane kwandise ukucindezeleka kwakho.

Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi uveza izidingo zakho, futhi. Ingxenye yokuzikhulumela wena ithi cha lapho udinga ukuphatha ukuzibophezela kwakho kuqala.

Inkulumo engokomzwelo

Abantu abanobuntu bohlobo C bathambekele ekulweni nokwazi okuhle noma imizwelo engemihle. Abanye bangakubona njengomuntu onengqondo, ozimele ohlala ehlale epholile.

Yize ukuba nengqondo kungaba nezinzuzo zako, ukucindezela imizwa yakho nakho kungaba nokubi okuthile.

Kungaba nomthelela omubi ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ubunzima bokuveza imizwa yakho kungenza futhi kube yinselele ukuqonda imizwa nolimi lomzimba lwabanye.

Ungahle ucabange ukuthi abanye abantu bathukuthele noma bacasukile kanti akunjalo, isibonelo.

Kungathinta nempilo yakho. Abantu abacindezela imizwa bathambekele ekubeni namazinga aphezulu we-cortisol, i-hormone yokucindezeleka, kanye nokuzivikela okuncane ekuguleni.

Ukungqubuzana okunempilo

Awuthandi ukungqubuzana? Mhlawumbe ukuthola kukuthusa kakhulu futhi kukugwema ngangokunokwenzeka.

Lokho kujwayelekile impela njengoba ubuntu bohlobo C buya. Ungase ube nobunzima bokuletha imizwa yokukhungatheka nentukuthelo futhi uyiveze ngokusebenzisa ulaka-nje noma ubacindezele ngokuphelele.

Iningi labantu alifuni ukuphikisana. Kodwa ukungavumelani ngokuthile akudingeki kusho ukuthi niyaphikisana ngakho.

Abantu bahluke kakhulu, futhi ngisho nalabo abanobuhlobo obuseduze mhlawumbe ngeke bavumelane ngaso sonke isikhathi.

“Ukungqubuzana” kuvame ukubukeka njengegama elibi, kepha ungaba nengxabano eyakhayo nenempilo ngokuyiphatha ngendlela efanele.

Ukufunda ukulungisa ukungavumelani ngokuzuzisayo kuzohlomulisa ubudlelwano bakho, hhayi ukubalimaza.

Ukuphelela

Uyaziqhenya ngomsebenzi wakho. Ufuna ukuthola izimpendulo ezifanele futhi uqiniseke ukuthi imininingwane emincane kakhulu ilungile.

Ukwaneliseka komsebenzi owenziwe kahle kungakugqugquzela, kepha kungenzeka usebenzise imali encane futhi isikhathi esiningi uqinisekisa ukuthi zonke izici zomsebenzi wakho, zilungile.

Iqiniso liwukuthi, ukuphelela kunzima kakhulu ukukufinyelela.

Uma ugxila ekutholeni yonke into ilungile, noma ngabe wenza isethulo esibalulekile somsebenzi noma ukukhathazeka ngenxa yencwadi eya kumuntu othandana naye, uvame ukulahlekelwa okubaluleke kakhulu: ukusebenza kwakho kanzima nemizwa yakho yothando , ngokulandelana.

Ukufuna ukuphelela nakho kungakuvimba ekuqhubekeni phambili empilweni.

Uma ubambeka ekuzameni ukwenza okuthile kuphelele, njengobudlelwano, ilungiselelo lokuphila, noma umngani onamandla, ungahle wehluleke ukubona lapho leso simo singasahlangabezani nezidingo zakho.

Ukuphelelwa ithemba

Ngokulindela okubi kakhulu, ungathatha izinyathelo zokulungiselela leyo miphumela engafuneki, akunjalo? Ngaleyo ndlela, ukuthambekela kokungabi nathemba kungaba nezinzuzo ezithile.

Kodwa ukuphelelwa ithemba akusizi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Uma ugxila ezintweni ezingenakwenzeka, ungahle uzizwe uzesaba kakhulu izimo ezinzima kakhulu ukuthi ungathatha noma yisiphi isenzo.

Kungenzeka futhi ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi ithemba elibi livame ukuletha umngane walo osondelene, ukukhuluma okungalungile.

Uma uvame ukuba nemicabango engenathemba, ungahle uzizwe uphelelwa yithemba ngekusasa lakho noma ngamathuba okuphumelela noma uzigxeke ngezinye izindlela.

Ukucatshangelwa kwezempilo

Uhlobo C lomdlavuza…?

Uma ngaphambilini uke wafunda noma yini ngobuntu bohlobo C, kungenzeka ukuthi ukhubazekile lapho uthola ukuthi abantu abanobuntu bohlobo C basengozini enkulu yomdlavuza.

Bachwepheshe bokuxhumana okuphelele phakathi kwezici zohlobo C nomdlavuza. Kodwa-ke, obunye ubufakazi bukhombisa ukuthi uhlobo oluthile lwezinhlobo C lungaba nomthelela ezinkingeni zomdlavuza, ngokuxhumanisa ngokungaqondile lezi ezimbili.

Njengoba kushiwo ngenhla, imizwa ecindezelwe ingathinta amasosha akho omzimba. Uma amasosha akho omzimba engasebenzi njengoba kufanele, ungaba nengozi eyengeziwe yezifo eziningi, kubandakanya umdlavuza.

futhi kuphawula ukuthi abantu abanobuntu bohlobo C bavame ukuba nenkinga ekulawuleni ukucindezeleka, kufaka phakathi ingcindezi ehlobene nemizwelo ecindezelwe.

Ukukhuphuka kwengcindezi nokunye ukungalingani kwamahomoni kungakwenza ube sengozini yomdlavuza uma unezinye izinto eziyingozi.

Umthelela wezempilo yengqondo

Izici zobuntu zohlobo C zixhunyaniswe nokudangala nemizwa yokuphelelwa yithemba.

Ubunzima bokuveza imizwa bungadlala ekucindezelekeni. Lapho ungakwazi ukuveza izidingo zakho futhi uvimbe intukuthelo noma ukukhungatheka, ngokuvamile ugcina uzizwa unqatshiwe, uthukuthele, noma ungafuneki.

Uma leli phethini liqhubeka, ungakuthola kunzima ukucabanga ngezinto ezishintshayo, ezingaba nomthelela ekuphelelweni yithemba, ekuzigxekeni, nasemizweni ephansi.

Uma ulwa nokudangala noma ukungabi nathemba noma ukuthola kunzima ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho nabanye, umelaphi angakunikeza ukuholwa futhi akusize uhlole izinto ezinomthelela kulezi zinkinga.

Okubalulekile

Ubuntu bungathinta indlela ophendula ngayo ezinseleleni nakwezinye izici zempilo yansuku zonke, kepha ayizibangeli lezo zinkinga ngqo.

Uma unokukhathazeka ngezici ezithile zobuntu noma ufuna ukufunda izindlela ezintsha zokubhekana nokucindezeleka noma ukuxhumana nabanye, ukukhuluma nodokotela kungaba isinyathelo sokuqala esihle.

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