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UMelissa Etheridge ube sematheni kuleli sonto lapho ekhuluma khona ngensangu ikakhulukazi etshela uYahoo ukuthi "kungcono abheme" nezingane zakhe esezikhulile kunokuthi abe notshwala. Ngenkathi lesi sitatimende sibangela ukukhala okukhulu nokuhlasela, kufanele ngithembeke kuwe: I-Etheridge nezingane zayo akubona bodwa ababhema ukhula ndawonye. Mina nobaba besilokhu sibhemela ibhodwe ndawonye kusukela ngineminyaka engu-18, futhi kungcono kakhulu kunanoma yisiphi isikhathi lapho sinengilazi yewayini (noma amabili, noma amathathu). Ngiyazi ukuthi mhlawumbe kunethani lenu elinikina amakhanda ngokungakholwa, kodwa ake ngibuyele emuva nginitshele indaba.

Ekukhuleni kwami, angikaze ngingene ezikhwameni zikabhiya, okokupholisa iwayini, noma ama-skimmings aphuma phezulu eqoqweni lotshwala labazali bomunye. Noma ibuphi utshwala obukhona, angikaze ngidayiswe ngabo. Mhlawumbe kwakungenxa yokuthi utshwala abuzange buhlale kahle kimi.

Engikwenzile ngazama-futhi ngagcina sengingumlandeli-kwakuyinsangu. UMelissa Etheridge uthi waqala ukuthola ukhula lapho ebhema insangu yokwelapha yokwelashwa ngamakhemikhali ngo-2004. Futhi yize engenawo umdlavuza namuhla, usakhanya njalo. "Bekungivusa kimi," kusho u-Etheridge etshela uYahoo. "Ngenkathi ngiyisebenzisa njengomuthi, kwangicacela bha ukuthi yenziwa kabi futhi ayiqondakali, futhi ngangifuna ukusiza abantu abahluphekayo." (PS Nakhu ukuthi kungani kungafanele uqhathanise ukhula nokulutha kwe-opioid.)

Kuyavunywa, angitholanga ukhula ngokusemthethweni njenge-Etheridge (futhi angikuhambeli ukwephula umthetho namuhla): ngangineminyaka engu-16, emcimbini owawusendlini, futhi othile wangiphathela i-bong rip. Ngaphandle kokukhwehlela cishe imizuzu engama-20 eqondile ngemuva kwalokho (uma ubheka emuva, i-bong hit yayiyindlela ENKULU yokuqala impilo yami njengekhanda lembiza), i-calorie-free, i-vibe ekhululekile yangigeza, futhi angiphindanga ngabheka emuva kusukela ngaleso sikhathi. Kodwa kwakungeminyaka nje embalwa kamuva, lapho ngangibungaze abangane abambalwa ekhaya lami ekuseni ngovivi futhi ngibhaka, lapho ngathola khona ingxenye yelunga elibhemayo kuvulandi wethu owawuhlolwe. Ngikhumbula ngihlanganisa izingcezu-ngizihlanganisa ngamatshe, ukuze ngiqophe umlando—futhi ngabona ukuthi kwakungubaba owayengomunye owakhanda ngamatshe ekhaya.

Njalo intombazane kababa, sasizwana kakhulu ngisakhula. Uma ngithole amamaki amabi esivivinyweni noma kwenzeka okuthile okubi ngomfana, ngivame ukutshela ubaba kuqala. Yena nje ngitholile mina futhi ngangimthola njalo. Ngakho-ke lapho nginomzuzu wokuza kuJesu wokuthi sobabili besingamatshe, cishe kwadala ukungqubuzana ebudlelwaneni bethu ngezindlela eziyindida kakhulu. Sobabili sasinemfihlo efanayo (futhi nami wayazi his), kepha akekho phakathi kwethu owayekwazi ukukhuluma ngakho. Okokuqala, umama nomfowethu bebengekho esitimeleni sebhodwe. Futhi, ngangisafunda isikole samabanga aphakeme futhi insangu yayisengavumelekile ngokuphelele esimweni engakhulela kuso, ngokwezokwelapha noma ngenye indlela.

Kuthathe umzuzu wokufundisa ukuthi sibheme ndawonye: Ngaleso sikhathi wathola i-bong esetshenzisiwe emotweni yami. (Funda: imoto wangithengela yona.) Ukuphatha izinto ezazisetshenziswa ngaleso sikhathi kwakuyicala lobugebengu, futhi wangishaya ngokunganaki. Futhi lalela, wayeqinisile impela. Ngoba ngenkathi ngithanda imbiza yokubhema, isiqu semoto yakho akuyona indawo enhle yokugcina izinto zakho. Kepha kusivulele ingxoxo yokuthi ngamunye wethu ubhema kanjani, futhi ungitshela izindaba zokukhandwa ngamatshe phakathi neminyaka-emihle, njengama-1970s-futhi ekugcineni, esimisweni sethu sokuqala ndawonye. (Okuhlobene: KuneGym entsha yokuvulwa kwabathandi bensangu eCalifornia)

Amakhono ami okuhlanganisa ngokuhlanganyela amhlaba umxhwele; Kwangimangaza izindlela zakhe zokuhogela. Sahleka kakhulu ngalolo suku, kuyilapho sikhumbula nokuthi kunini lapho kupholile ukukhandwa ngamatshe nalapho akufanele nhlobo ubheme. (Njengemoto, isibonelo.) Ingxoxo mhlawumbe bekuyiyona esobala kunazo zonke esake saba nayo isikhashana-uhlobo lwengxoxo engakaze ifike nengilazi yewayini noma ubhiya ngesidlo sakusihlwa.

Selokhu savutha ndawonye izikhathi eziyisigidi (manje ngokusemthethweni, i-BTW). Kuze kube namuhla, ngingahlala ngiphakamile njalo ngibe nengxoxo enhle nobaba kunokuba nama-cocktails ambalwa bese ngichitha amahora angama-24 alandelayo embhedeni ngizama ukungaphumeleli ukuthola isemishi leqanda-noshizi. Ake sithi nje ngingaba umngani omkhulu kaMary Jane. Ngaphandle kukababa, lokho kusho.

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