Kungani Kufanele Uzindle Ngaphambi Kwa Njalo Ngedethi Yokuqala

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• 1. Izothula zonke lezo ~ nerve ~.
• 2. Uzogxila kulokhu futhi manje.
• 3. Kuzovula ingqondo nenhliziyo yakho.
• 4. Uzoxhumana kakhulu nalokho okufunayo nokudingayo.
• 5. Izophinda iphole nosuku lwakho.
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Izintende ezijulukile, izandla eziqhaqhazelayo, inhliziyo egijimayo, isisu esinamafindo-cha, lokhu akukhona phakathi kokujima kwe-HIIT. Kusele imizuzu emihlanu ngaphambi kosuku lokuqala, futhi cishe unovalo lwe-AF. Kukhona okuthile mayelana nedethi yokuqala (ikakhulukazi idethi engaboni kahle noma idethi ye-inthanethi, lapho uhlangana khona nomuntu IRL okokuqala ngqa njalo) okungase kukuthumele ku-tizzy isiyonke. Ukukhetha ingubo ekhuthaza ukuzethemba kanye nokujima kungase kugcwalise umzimba wakho ngokuthi "Nginalokhu" imizwa nama-endorphin azizwa ejabule, kodwa lokho akufanele kube ukuphela kwezinto okufanele uzenze ohlwini lwakho lokuhlola lokulungiselela usuku lwakho lokuqala.

Kuvela ukuthi, ukuzindla kungase kube into yokuqala ingqondo nomzimba wakho okudingayo ukuze ulungele i-roulette engumhlaba wesimanje wokuqomisana: i-eharmony isanda kuhlangana nohlelo lokusebenza lokuzindla Misa, Phefumula & Cabanga ukuze wenze ucwaningo lwabasebenzisi bayo futhi uthole ukuthi ukuzindla kunakho ngempela okuzuzisa impilo yakho yokuphola.

Baqhathanisa amalungu e-eharmony angama-311 abuye asebenzise iStop, Breathe & Think nelinye iqembu lamalungu angama-311 angazange asebenzise uhlelo lokusebenza lokuzindla (kepha ayeneminyaka efanayo, ubulili, indawo futhi ayebhalisele i-eharmony ngasikhathi sinye). Bathola ukuthi abasebenzisi abazindayo babengena kuhlelo lokuphola ngamaphesenti angama-81 kaningi, babhekabheka amaphrofayili angama-92 ngaphezulu wamaphrofayili wabo wemidlalo kunabangezona izindondo, futhi babukwa yimidlalo yabo ngamaphesenti angama-53 kaningi. Futhi okhahlelayo: Abasebenzisi be-Stop, Breath & Think babe nokulinganisa okungamaphesenti angu-85 ngaphezulu ekukhulumisaneni okubili kanye nama-boo abo angaba khona (funda: empeleni bebethumelelana imiyalezo).

Kodwa musa nje ukuthatha izwi eharmony ngakho. Lapha, zonke izizathu ozidingayo ukwenza ukuzindla ngento ebaluleke kakhulu kuhlu lwakho lokuhlola lwangaphambi kosuku (KULUNGILE, lokho, nokugijimisana noBeyoncé).

1. Izothula zonke lezo ~ nerve ~.

Isikhathi esincane se-zen singasebenza njengephilisi elizolile langaphambi kwedethi ngendlela efanayo elingakuthobisa ngayo ngaphambi kokulala noma phakathi nomzuzu wokuxakeka, noma likusize ukukhulula ukucindezeleka ngokuphelele.

"Ngaphambi kosuku lokuqala, ingqondo yakho ingaqala ukugijima," kusho u-Amy Baglan, umsunguli we-MeetMindful, uhlelo lokusebenza lokuphola oluxhuma abantu abazinikele ekuphileni ngokwengqondo. “Le ngxoxo yengqondo ephazamisekile yilokho amaBuddha akubiza ngokuthi ‘umqondo wezinkawu.’” Zama ukuhlala futhi uzindle imizuzu eyi-10. "Kungenza izimanga ukuthulisa lawo mandla angaphumuli futhi kukubuyisele esimweni esinokulinganisela ukuze ubonakale njengomuntu wakho wangempela, omangalisayo," usho kanje.

Izinzwa eziphansi (uyazi, izimvemvane ~ ~) kulindeleke. (Kuyamangaza-empeleni zikulungele futhi!). Kodwa-ke, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngalesi simo kungalimaza usuku ngalolo suku: "Izinsuku zokuqala ziba nzima ngokwengeziwe lapho umuntu ekhathazeka kakhulu," kusho uJill P. Weber, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somtholampilo esinelayisense nochwepheshe weMindsail, i-smartphone uhlelo lokusebenza lokuzindla."Ukucabanga ngokweqile nokuhlaziya ngokweqile kungumbulali we-libido futhi kukuyisa kude ekuboniseni ubuwena bangempela." Ngakho-ke uma ukhathazekile ngokweqile, usuku luzoba lubi kakhulu, futhi uzoqala ukukhululeka ngokwengeziwe-ukukuthumela emoyeni owethusayo owehlayo.

Uma ukhathazekile usuku luzofana nokuthile ku Izinsuku ezivela esihogweni, ukusebenzisa ukubona ngeso lengqondo ngesikhathi sokuzindla kungasiza, kusho uSanam Hafeez, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo yomtholampilo nelungu lobuchwepheshe e-Teachers College, e-Columbia University. "Kuyindlela enhle yokudlala ukuthi ufuna usuku luhambe kanjani ngaphambi kokuba lwenzeke." Kulula: Vala amehlo akho imizuzu eyi-10 kuya kwengu-15, phefumula, bese uzicabanga uhlangana nomuntu omkhulu, unezingxoxo ezimnandi, futhi uzizwa kamnandi.

2. Uzogxila kulokhu futhi manje.

"Ukuzindla kuyasiza ukuzibeka esimweni sakho njengamanje," kusho uHafeez. Ukuthatha imizuzu embalwa ukuzindla kuzokuthumela osukwini ngengqondo ecacile imfuhlumfuhlu (njengezinsalela zosuku lokusebenza olunengcindezi) bese ugcina imicabango yakho kumuntu nengxoxo ephambi kwakho (hhayi kwi-ex yakho, noma lolo suku olwesabekayo obunawo ngesonto eledlule). Kuzosiza nix izinkathazo mayelana nokuthi ufika kanjani osukwini lwakho nokuthi uzozizwa yini uxhumano, kusho u-Weber, ukuze ukwazi ukujabulela isikhathi ngenkathi kwenzeka ~organically~.

BTW, uma uzindla, umgomo awukona Ima ecabanga. "Iphuzu liwukwenza isikhala empilweni yakho ukuze uxhumane nawe ngendlela ehlukile ehlanganisa ukucabanga okuncane nokuqwashisa okwengeziwe ngolwazi lwakho lwangaphakathi," kusho u-Weber. "Ungazigxeki ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho imicabango yakho ikuthatha ikwenza ngendlela ehlukile noma uphazamiseka ... kepha yazi ukuthi imicabango yakho ikusa kuphi." (Nawa wonke amathiphu owadingayo ukuze uzindle.)

3. Kuzovula ingqondo nenhliziyo yakho.

Ukuzindla akugcini ngokusiza ukukugcina ungabonisi kuze kube yimanje ukungcola okujulukayo, kodwa okuzolungiselela ingqondo nenhliziyo yakho ithuba lokuthi ungaxhuma ngempela nomunye umuntu. (Futhi ucabanga ukuthi yini? Kukhona nokuzindla okuqondene ngqo nokusiza wena ukuvula inhliziyo yakho.)

Ukuqaphela kukwenza uqaphele kakhulu imizwa yakho nendlela ozizwa ngayo. Uma uzizwa ungcono, uzoheha izinto ezingcono empilweni yakho-futhi lokho kufaka nabantu, kusho uHafeez. Cishe ubusazi vele ukuthi i-karma ibuya nxazonke, kepha ukuzithemba nakho kuyenzeka. "Ukunaka imicabango yethu kusivumela ukuthi sisuse imicabango engemihle, engenathemba, ekhathazayo iye ezinhle, ezinethemba lokusikhulisa ekukhathazekeni noma ekucindezelekeni sibe nethemba nomdlandla," esho.

Futhi lo mthelela udlulela ngale kosuku lokuqala: Ukukhuthaza ingqondo kukukhuthaza ukuthi uthole ukucaca futhi uphathe izinto ezake zazizwa njengezivimbamgwaqo—noma okubi nakakhulu, isiphetho esifile, kusho u-Baglan. "Ukucabangela kungasiza ekubhekaneni nezindaba zokwethembana, ukuxazulula izinkinga njengoba ziphakama, ukusondelana kujulise, futhi kunqamuke amaphethini okuziphatha amadala. Akwenzeki ngokuphazima kweso, kodwa ngomsebenzi nokuba khona kwakho ungathola ushintsho olukhulu empilweni yakho yokuphola."

4. Uzoxhumana kakhulu nalokho okufunayo nokudingayo.

Ukukhumbula ngokwengeziwe noma ukuzazi kungakusiza ukuthi ungazethembi kwasekuqaleni-okusho ukuthi kulula kakhulu ukukhombisa kuze kube usuku olubuyisela wena uqobo, kusho uWeber. Kukusiza ungazazi ukuthi ungubani ngaphakathi-futhi ubani omfunayo ngaphandle.

Ukucabangela kungakusiza ukukhomba ukuthi hlobo luni lomuntu ofuna ukumheha, kusho uHafeez. "Lapho ungagxila kakhulu kulokho wena funa esikhundleni salokho wena angifuni, Ini wena funa ingena empilweni yakho.

Ukuxhumana nalokho okufunayo kungakusiza ukuthi ubone kuleyo cocktail (noma ezine) bese unquma ngobuqotho ukuthi ngabe lo muntu ufanele usuku lwesibili.

5. Izophinda iphole nosuku lwakho.

Ucingo lungahle luhambe ngazo zombili, kodwa kuvele kuthathe *oyedwa* umuntu ocabangayo ukususa isimo ngendlela eyakhayo. "Uma umuntu ozindla ezizwa ecacile futhi ekhululekile ekuhlanganyeleni, lawo mandla angaba nomthelela komunye umuntu, amenze akhululeke," kusho uHafeez. Ukhiye: Yiba nokulindela okuhle ukuze ulwazise usuku, uma uqhathanisa nokuchitha sonke isikhathi ufuna izizathu ongezona umdlalo, usho kanje.

Futhi, njengoba ungaqagela, uma kokubili abantu bavela nalesi simo sengqondo esimangalisayo, izinhlansi cishe ziqinisekisiwe ukuthi zizondiza: "Sibonile ukuthi imibhangqwana enomkhuba wokuzindla kokubili ivame ukuba nokuxhumana okucebile komunye nomunye," kusho u-Baglan. "Ekupheleni kosuku, ukuzindla akuhloselwe ukuba kube yizinhlamvu zesiliva zokulungisa izinkinga zokuphola, kepha kungakusiza impela ukuthi ubonakale ulungele ulwazi olujulile, olujabulisayo."

Isikhathi sokuswayipha ku-Tinder, engeza "isithandi sokuzindla" ku-Bumble bio yakho, noma gxuma ku-MeetMindful. Umlingani wakho weNkosana noma iNkosazana-nokuzindla-kungenzeka abe lapho uswayipha (futhi uyazindla) ngawe.

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