U-Queer Yoga Uthisha uKathryn Budig Wamukela Ukuziqhenya Njenge- 'Most Real Version' Yakhe

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UKathryn Budig akayena umlandeli wamalebula. Ungomunye wothisha be-Vinyasa yoga abadume kakhulu emhlabeni, kodwa waziwa ngama-pepper Burpee kanye nojakhi abagxumela kwezinye izindlela zendabuko. Ushumayela ubuhle bezithukuthuku, ubungqabavu namandla, kepha uzozigoqa njalo ngezindwangu ezicwebezela kakhulu nezimfashini ezicwebezelayo, njengoba kufakazelwa yi-Instagram yakhe. Ngakho-ke lapho ubuza uBudig - owashada nentatheli yezemidlalo nomlobi uKate Fagan ngemuva kokuhlukanisa nomyeni wakhe - ukuthi achaze ubulili bakhe, akayekile ukwenza lokho.

"Ngikholwa wukuthi uthando akumele lube nelebuli," esho ngesikhathi kufona uZoom evela ekhaya lakhe eliseCharleston, eSouth Carolina, kanti uFagan ugaya ngemuva. "Kodwa njengomuntu obeshade nendoda, ngibe sengikhomba esidlangalaleni njengothile, lapho ngaphakathi, ngangazi ukuthi ngithanda abesilisa nabesifazane - kodwa futhi, angiwathandi amalebuli." UBudig uthi ngenkathi ezizwa ephoqelekile ukuthi ahlukanise ubulili bakhe, wathembela egameni elithi 'uketshezi,' kepha selokhu wasusa amagiya. "Manje ngithanda 'i-queer' ngoba yilesi sisho esihle, esihlanganisa konke esingijabulisayo." (Okuhlobene: Iglosari ye-LGBTQ Yobulili Nezincazelo Zobulili Abalingani Okufanele Bazazi)

Futhi uBudig akanamahloni, ngokungenakuphikwa ujabulile - isimo sokuzwana ngamandla kangaka emakilasini akhe aku-inthanethi. (Njengomfundi osekunesikhathi eside engumfundi kaBudig, angikwazanga ukuzibamba ngibona ukushintsha kobuntu bakhe eminyakeni edlule.) Ngenkathi okuqukethwe kwakhe kuhlala kuhlala kunomphefumulo, kumnandi, futhi kuvame ukuhlekisa eminyakeni edlule (uzokukhahlela imbongolo kodwa enza amahlaya ngesibhakela sakhe u-Ashi asendleleni), uBudig ubonakale ebonakala ethamba njengamanje, wamukela iziqu zakhe, futhi wakhuthaza abafundi bakhe ukuthi benze okufanayo.

"Kube yinguquko enkulu kimina, futhi ngijabule ngayo," esho, evuma ukuthi selokhu ashada noFagan ngo-2018, usethuthuke waba "inguqulo yangempela" yakhe. "Ngokusobala, ukuthandana noKate kwakuyingxenye enkulu yalokho - kwavula amehlo ami ezintweni eziningi. Umsebenzi wami njengothisha ukwenza abafundi bazizwe bephephile futhi bamukelekile. Akunakwenzeka ukujabulisa wonke umuntu, kepha sekube yinto enkulu ingxenye yamakilasi ami manje ukuze nginikeze izinguquko eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ngicacise ngezinqumo zami zolimi - kuze kufike ebululani bokuzama ukuhlanganisa izabizwana zobulili. Eminyakeni emihlanu kusukela manje, cishe ngizobheka ikilasi engalithwebula. izolo nokuzikhandla, kepha leyo yinqubo yokuthuthuka nokuzama njalo ukwenza kangcono. "

Ngikholwa wukuthi uthando akumele lube nelebuli.

UKathryn Budig

Ukuzinikela kuka-Budig ekuzithuthukiseni kuqale kusenesikhathi - umfundisi owazalelwa e-Kansas, eNew Jersey uthi waqala ukwenza i-yoga eseyingane. Ngesikhathi ephothula eNyuvesi yaseVirginia, wayeseqale ukuthandana nalo, echitha cishe amahora amabili ngosuku emakilasini e-Ashtanga anzima. Kepha lokhu kugcina kugcine kuholele ekutubekeni, kwathi ngemuva kokulimala kaningi, washintsha umbono wakhe waqala ukuhlakulela umkhuba athi wawuzizwa ukondla umoya wakhe futhi uqinisile ngendlela ayefuna ukubonisa ngayo abafundi bakhe. Wahlangana nendoda ayezoshada nayo kamuva lapho eqala ukuzwa ubuhlobo bakhe ne-yoga, kodwa ngemva konyaka, u-Budig ukhumbula eqaphela ukuthi wayenokuningi kokuzitholela yena ngaphambi kwakhe.

"U-Kate nakanjani waphendukisa umhlaba wami ubheke phansi ngazo zonke izindlela," esho. "Ngase ngishade unyaka nomyeni wami wangaphambili manje, futhi sase sindawonye iminyaka emine ngaleso sikhathi. Ngangisemcimbini we-ESPNW Summit eSouthern California kanti uKate wayesebenza njengephaneli. Wayemuhle futhi nginethalente futhi ngiyamangalisa futhi ngokushesha ngamthanda. " (Okuhlobene: Amathoyizi Ocansi Ongawathenga Emabhizinisini Amancane Ngokugubha Ukuziqhenya)

U-Budig ukhumbula encike kumngane wakhe emcimbini futhi ehleba, "oh nkosi yami, muhle kakhulu," umngane waphendula wathi, "'ngena kulayini - wonke umuntu uyamthanda." Ngenkathi ukuthatheka kukaBudig kukhula, isithandwa sakhe sancokola ukuthi mhlawumbe osanda kushada kufanele aqale ukucabanga ngomshado wesibili.

"Kwakukhona isithunzi!" ahleke. "Kodwa kwaqhubeka futhi kwakhanyisa iqiniso lokuthi ngangingeneme ebudlelwaneni engangikubo, hhayi ngoba ngangingahlali nowesifazane - ngangingajabule ngoba ngangingakhethi umlingani ofanele engizohlala naye impilo, futhi bekwazi lokho isikhathi eside."

Yize kunjalo, uBudig uthi akazisoli ngokwedlule futhi ukholelwa ukuthi ukube akazange abone ukungagcwaliseki komshado wakhe wokuqala, wayengeke akwazi ukubona amandla kazibuthe azizwa ewaFagan. "Anginalutho ngaphandle kokubonga," esho. "Isehlukaniso asimnandi, kepha singenze ngaba uthisha onozwela ngokwengeziwe - ngiyabaqonda abafundi bami kakhudlwana futhi ngiyakwazi ukubona izinto ngamalensi ahlukene. Kuningi kakhulu ulayini wesiliva lapho."

UBudig uthi ukuhlangana noFagan kuvuse imizwa angayinqanda ngokungazi. Uthi: “Ngangingomunye wamantombazane amancane akhulela ezinganekwaneni. "Ngangazi ukuthi kuningi kakhulu - okwakumele kube nobambiswano lweqiniso. [Ubudlelwano bami bangaphambilini] bangifundisa ukungalokothi ngizinze."

Ngenkathi uBudig eqopha inganekwane yakhe noFagan, ubudlelwano babo abuzange bube ngaphandle komzabalazo. Nakuba abangani bakhe nomndeni base besamukela ngokushesha isinqumo sakhe sokufaka isehlukaniso futhi baphishekele ubambiswano olusha, abafundi bakhe abaningi kanye nabalandeli be-inthanethi babengaphansi kokusekela, beshiya amazwana anonya emibhalweni yakhe ye-Instagram futhi bengalandeli i-akhawunti yakhe ngobuningi.

"Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu bebezwa ukuthi kukhona izinga lokukhaphela," usho kanje. "Ngicabanga ukuthi abantu banamathela kulokho abafuna uthando lubukeke, ngisho noma bengazi ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela ebudlelwaneni babo bonke laba bantu abababona ngesikrini sefoni noma emakilasini. Ngakho-ke ngicabanga ukuthi bekukhona izinga. wokukhaphela kanye nokuzonda ukuzonda abathandana nobulili obufanayo. " (Okuhlobene: Hlangana ne-FOLX, i-TeleHealth Platform eyenziwe ngabantu be-Queer for Queer People)

U-Budig uthi ukuhlaselwa kokungabi nandaba okuku-inthanethi kwakunzima kakhulu - hhayi ngoba ekhathazekile ngokuthi ukuncipha kokulandela kwakhe izinkundla zokuxhumana kuzowuthinta kanjani umsebenzi wakhe, kodwa ngoba ezwa ukuthi impendulo imele inzondo yabantu abathandanayo ejulile futhi ephikelelayo, kungakhathalekile ukuthi ingakanani inqubekelaphambili. yenziwe ngokumelwa kwe-LGBTQ. "Kwakungatheni ngokukhathazeka ngomsebenzi wami futhi kwakungaphezulu kokuzwa ukudabuka okujulile ngesintu," esho. "Kuyadabukisa kakhulu ukuphawula lapho sikhona njengamasiko kanye nocingo olukhulu lokuvuka."

UBudig uphinde wathi ukusabela okungakholeki kwabasekeli nakho akusizi ngalutho. "Abantu abazi ukuthi kubuhlungu kangakanani ukuthi, 'Angikholwa ukuthi lokhu kusengenzeka ngo-2021 - ukuzonda abantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo akukabi yinto yangempela!'" kusho yena. "Kuyajabulisa ukuthi abakaze bazibonele mathupha, kepha abantu bomphakathi we-LGBTQ bayaqhubeka nokuhlangabezana nakho njalo."

"Ingxenye enhle [mayelana nokuvuleleka mayelana nobulili bami] kube ukuthi abantu abaningi bangitshele ukuthi abakuqondi futhi bafuna ukukusho," esho.

Kathryn budig

Yize kunjalo, uBudig uthi ngokwengxenye enkulu, yena noFagen babe "nenhlanhla" maqondana nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo kokuzonda ongqingili kodwa uyavuma ukuthi lezi zithandani zenza umzamo wokubambisana wokugwema izindawo nabantu abangazizwa bephephile.

Kunohlangothi olugqame kakhulu ekubeni sengozini u-Budig abelane ngakho phakathi nobudlelwano bakhe no-Fagan. “Ingxenye enhle kube ukuthi abantu abaningi bangitshele ukuthi abayiqondi futhi bafuna ukuyizwa,” usho kanje. "Ngiyababonga kakhulu abantu abafuna ukuqonda futhi mhlawumbe abanawo amava angaka ngaphandle komhlaba onamandla futhi abakwazi ukusonga izingqondo zabo ngokuhlukanisa indoda bese bethandana nowesifazane." UBudig uthi ukuvuleleka kwakhe kugqugquzele nabanye besifazane abanezinkinga ezifanayo ukuthi bafinyelele. “Benginabesifazane abaningi abafika kimina ngezabo izindaba ezifanayo abazwakalisa ukubonga ngokuthi ngivuleleke futhi ngivuleleke emphakathini,” usho kanje. "Ngikholelwa ukuthi ukungafihli lutho esingakunikeza, abantu abaningi bangazizwa bebonakala futhi bephephile." (Okuhlobene: Ngingumuntu omnyama, uQueer, noPolyamorous: Kungani Lokho Kubalulekile Kodokotela Bami?)

Njengoba u-Budig eqhubeka nokuvela ngokwakhe nangokomsebenzi (usanda kwethula inkundla yakhe ye-yoga eku-inthanethi ebizwa ngokuthi i-Haus yase-Phoenix), ucabangisisa okwedlule futhi unethemba elikhulu ngekusasa.

"Bengingenayo indaba emangazayo ezophuma - eyami ibikhuluma ngokuwela ngaphakathi," usho njalo. "Ngikholwa ukuthi sonke siwumkhiqizo wesiko lama-patriarchal futhi singakhulula isidingo sokuhlukanisa futhi sibhale ubulili. Ngingathanda ukuthi abantu bayeke le mingcele eqinile yokuthi bangubani cabanga kunjalo. Uma izingane zikhuliswe ngaphandle komqondo wokuthi 'upinki usho intombazane' kuthi 'okuluhlaza kusho umfana,' besizobanika inkululeko yokuba ngabantu nje. "

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