Ubuhlungu nemizwa yakho

Ubuhlungu obungapheli bunganciphisa imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke futhi kukwenze kube nzima ukusebenza. Kungathinta nokuthi uhileleke kangakanani nabangane kanye namalungu omndeni. Abantu osebenza nabo, umndeni, nabangane kungadingeka benze okungaphezu kwesabelo sabo esijwayelekile lapho ungakwazi ukwenza izinto ojwayele ukuzenza. Ungazizwa uhlukanisiwe nabantu osondelene nabo.

Imizwa engafuneki, njengokukhungatheka, intukuthelo, kanye nengcindezi, imvamisa iba yimiphumela. Le mizwa nemizwelo ingabhebhethekisa ubuhlungu bakho emuva.

Ingqondo nomzimba kuyasebenzisana, akunakuhlukaniswa. Indlela ingqondo yakho elawula ngayo imicabango nesimo sakho sengqondo ithinta indlela umzimba wakho olawula ngayo ubuhlungu.

Ubuhlungu uqobo, nokwesaba ubuhlungu, kungakwenza ukuthi ugweme imisebenzi yomzimba neyenhlalo. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu kuholela emandleni amancane ngokomzimba kanye nobudlelwano obuntekenteke bomphakathi. Kungadala nokuntuleka kokusebenza nobuhlungu.

Ukucindezeleka kunemiphumela yomzimba nengokomzimba emizimbeni yethu. Kungakhuphula umfutho wegazi, kukhuphule izinga lokuphefumula kanye nokushaya kwenhliziyo yakho, futhi kubangele nokuqina kwemisipha. Lezi zinto zinzima emzimbeni. Zingaholela ekukhathaleni, ezinkingeni zokulala, nasekuguqukeni kokudla.

Uma uzizwa ukhathele kodwa kunzima ukulala, ungahle ube nokukhathala okuhlobene nokucindezeleka. Noma ungaqaphela ukuthi ungalala, kepha unenkinga yokuhlala ulele. Lezi yizona zonke izizathu zokukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngemiphumela engokomzimba ukucindezeleka okuba nayo emzimbeni wakho.

Ukucindezeleka nakho kungaholela ekukhathazekeni, ekucindezelekeni, ekuthembekeni kwabanye, noma ekuthembekeni okungenampilo emithini.

Ukucindezeleka kuvame kakhulu kubantu abanezinhlungu ezingapheli. Ubuhlungu bungadala ukudana komoya noma bube nzima kakhulu. Ukudana komoya kungenza nezinhlungu ezikhona zibe zimbi kakhulu.

Uma wena noma amalungu omndeni wakho ninokucindezeleka noma senikhona, kunengozi enkulu yokuthi ningahle nibe nokudangala kobuhlungu benu obungapheli. Funa usizo lapho kuqala uphawu lokucindezeleka. Ngisho nokudangala okuncane kungathinta ukuthi ungabusingatha kanjani kahle ubuhlungu bakho futhi uhlale usebenza.

Izimpawu zokucindezeleka zifaka:

• Imizwa ejwayelekile yokudabuka, intukuthelo, ukungabi nalutho noma ukungabi nathemba
• Amandla amancane
• Intshisekelo encane emisebenzini, noma injabulo encane emisebenzini yakho
• Kunzima ukulala noma ukulala
• Ukwehla kwesifiso sokudla noma kwesisindo okubangela ukuncipha okukhulu kwesisindo noma ukuzuza kwesisindo
• Kunzima ukugxila
• Imicabango ngokufa, ukuzibulala, noma ukuzilimaza

Uhlobo oluvamile lwezokwelapha kubantu abanezinhlungu ezingapheli ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo. Ukufuna usizo kumelaphi kungakusiza:

• Funda ukuthi ungaba kanjani nemicabango emihle kunaleyo engemihle
• Nciphisa ukwesaba kwakho ubuhlungu
• Yenza ubuhlobo obubalulekile buqine
• Thuthukisa umuzwa wenkululeko ebuhlungwini bakho
• Zibandakanye nemisebenzi othanda ukuyenza

Uma ubuhlungu bakho bungumphumela wengozi noma ukuhlukumezeka okungokomzwelo, umhlinzeki wakho wokunakekelwa kwezempilo angakuhlolela i-post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Abantu abaningi abane-PTSD abakwazi ukubhekana nezinhlungu zabo zangemuva baze babhekane nengcindezi engokomzwelo ebangelwe yizingozi noma ukuhlukumezeka kwabo.

Uma ucabanga ukuthi ungahle ucindezeleke, noma uma kunzima ukulawula imizwa yakho, khuluma nomhlinzeki wakho. Thola usizo ngokushesha. Umhlinzeki wakho futhi angaphakamisa imithi yokusiza ngemizwa yakho yokucindezeleka noma yokudabuka.

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