Udlame lwasekhaya

Udlame lwasekhaya kulapho umuntu esebenzisa khona ukuhlukumeza ukulawula umlingani noma elinye ilunga lomndeni. Ukuhlukumeza kungaba ngokomzimba, ngokomzwelo, ngokomnotho, noma ngokocansi. Kungathinta abantu banoma ibuphi ubudala, ubulili, isiko, noma isigaba. Lapho udlame lwasekhaya lubhekiswe enganeni, kubizwa ngokuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwengane. Udlame lwasekhaya luyicala.

Udlame lwasekhaya lungafaka noma yikuphi kwalokhu kuziphatha:

• Ukuhlukumeza ngokomzimba, kubandakanya ukushaya, ukukhahlela, ukuluma, ukushaya ngempama, ukuklinya noma ukuhlasela ngesikhali
• Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi, ukuphoqa umuntu ukuthi abe nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lomsebenzi wezocansi angalufuni
• Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, kufaka phakathi ukubizwa ngamagama, ukuhlazeka, ukusongelwa umuntu noma umndeni wakhe, noma ukungamvumeli umuntu abone umndeni noma abangane
• Ukuhlukunyezwa kwezomnotho, njengokulawula ukufinyelela emalini noma kuma-akhawunti asebhange

Iningi labantu aliqali ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo. Ukuhlukumeza kuvame ukuqala kancane futhi kube kubi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, njengoba ubudlelwane buya ngokuya bukhula.

Ezinye izimpawu zokuthi umlingani wakho angahlukumeza zifaka phakathi:

• Ufuna isikhathi sakho esiningi
• Ukukulimaza uthi yiphutha lakho
• Ukuzama ukulawula okwenzayo noma obona bani
• Ukugcina ungaboni umndeni noma abangane
• Ukuba nomona ngokweqile ngesikhathi osichitha nabanye
• Ukucindezela ukuthi wenze izinto ongafuni ukuzenza, njengokuya ocansini noma ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa
• Ukugcina ungayi emsebenzini noma esikoleni
• Ukubeka phansi
• Ukwesabisa noma ukusongela umndeni wakho noma izilwane ezifuywayo
• Ukumangalela ngokuba nezindaba
• Ukulawula izimali zakho
• Usabisa ngokuzilimaza uma uzoshiya

Ukushiya ubuhlobo obuhlukumezayo akulula. Ungesaba ukuthi umlingani wakho uzokulimaza uma ushiya, noma ukuthi ngeke ube nokuxhaswa ngokwezimali noma ngokomoya okudingayo.

Udlame lwasekhaya akulona iphutha lakho. Awukwazi ukumisa ukuhlukunyezwa komlingani wakho. Kepha ungathola izindlela zokuzitholela usizo.

• Tshela othile. Isinyathelo sokuqala ekuphumeni ebudlelwaneni obuhlukumezayo kuvame ukutshela omunye umuntu ngakho. Ungakhuluma nomngani, ilunga lomndeni, umhlinzeki wakho wezempilo, noma ilungu lomfundisi.
• Yiba nohlelo lokuphepha. Lolu uhlelo uma kwenzeka udinga ukushiya isimo esinodlame khona manjalo. Nquma ukuthi uzoyaphi nokuthi uzoletha ini. Hlanganisa izinto ezibalulekile ozozidinga, njengamakhadi wesikweletu, ukheshi, noma amaphepha, uma kwenzeka udinga ukuhamba ngokushesha. Ungakwazi futhi ukupakisha ipotimende bese uligcina nelungu lomndeni noma umngani.
• Shayela usizo. Ungashayela inombolo yamahhala ye-National Domestic Violence Hotline ku-800-799-7233, amahora angama-24 ngosuku. Abasebenzi kule nombolo bangakusiza ukuthi uthole izinsiza zodlame lwasekhaya endaweni yakho, kufaka phakathi usizo lwezomthetho.
• Thola ukunakekelwa kwezokwelashwa. Uma ulimele, thola usizo lwezokwelapha kumhlinzeki wakho noma egumbini labezimo eziphuthumayo.
• Shayela amaphoyisa ucingo. Unganqikazi ukubiza amaphoyisa uma usengozini. Udlame lwasekhaya luyicala.

Uma umngane noma ilungu lomndeni lihlukunyezwa, kunezindlela eziningi ongasiza ngazo.

• Nikeza ukwesekwa. Othandekayo wakho angazizwa esaba, eyedwa, noma enamahloni. Menze azi ukuthi ukhona ukusiza lapho ungasiza khona.
• Ungahluleli. Ukushiya ubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo kunzima. Othandekayo wakho angahlala ebudlelwaneni naphezu kokuhlukunyezwa. Noma, othandekayo wakho angahamba abuye kaningi. Zama ukusekela lezi zinqumo, noma ngabe awuvumelani nazo.
• Siza ngohlelo lokuphepha. Phakamisa ukuthi othandiweyo wakho enze uhlelo lokuphepha uma kunengozi. Nikeza ikhaya lakho njengendawo ephephile uma edinga ukuhamba, noma usize ukuthola enye indawo ephephile.
• Thola usizo. Siza othandekayo wakho axhumane nenombolo yocingo kazwelonke noma i-ejensi yodlame lwasekhaya endaweni yangakini.

Udlame lomlingani osondelene naye; Ukuhlukunyezwa komlingani; Ukuhlukunyezwa kwabantu abadala; Ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane; Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi - udlame lwasekhaya

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Iwebhusayithi Kazwelonke Yezinombolo Zodlame Lwasekhaya. Siza umngani noma ilungu lomndeni. www.thehotline.org/help/help-for-friends-and-family. Kufinyelelwe ngo-Okthoba 26, 2020.

Iwebhusayithi Kazwelonke Yezinombolo Zodlame Lwasekhaya. Luyini udlame lwasekhaya? www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/abuse-defined. Kufinyelelwe ngo-Okthoba 26, 2020.

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