Ukuthatha Okushisayo: Ukugaya Ngumthetho Wocansi Ophansi Kakhulu

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• Uh, Uqonde Ukuthini Ngokuthi... Ukugaya?
• Kungani Ukugaya Amatshe Wocansi
• Ungayenza Kanjani Ukugaya Ucansi Ukuzizwa Kungcono Kakhulu
• 1. Gqoka umcimbi.
• 2. Faka i-lube.
• 3. Gcoba ipulaki ezinqeni.
• 4. Letha umngani onebuzzy.
• 5. Zama ukuma ucansi lokugaya.
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Nakuba wonke umuntu othanda injabulo wamukelekile emibonweni yakhe kanye nalokho akuthandayo, (*faka izwi lika-Carrie Bradshaw*) angikwazanga ukuzibamba kodwa ngiyazibuza: "Ingabe abantu bayashintsha injabulo yabo ngokushiya ukugaya esikhathini esidlule?"

Ngokusobala, nganginombono wokuthi impendulo yayiwu-YEBO omkhulu. Kodwa ngiyintatheli ephrofeshinali yocansi, ngakho ngathatha indlela yophenyo ngakhuluma noTaylor Sparks, uthisha ovusa inkanuko futhi umsunguli we-Organic Loven, kanye nabanye abathanda ubumnandi abaye bagcina lesi senzo encwadini yabo yocansi kudala' d uqale ufunde Umzingeli On The Rye.

Uh, Uqonde Ukuthini Ngokuthi... Ukugaya?

Ngaphambi kokuthi singene esitatimendeni sami sethisisi (ukuthi ukugaya yiyona ndlela ehamba phambili futhi ebukelwa phansi kakhulu yocansi), ake singene ekhasini elifanayo mayelana nokuthi kuyini ukugaya. Ngempela, ukugaya noma yisiphi isenzo socansi lapho okungenani umuntu oyedwa evuselela izitho zabo zangasese zangaphandle kokuthile noma kothile.

Kungakujabulela wedwa usebenzisa umcamelo, ingalo yombhede, izinduku zakho, noma isilwane esigxishiwe, kusho uSparks. Noma, ingajatshulelwa nozakwenu. Ngesikhathi sokudlala okuhlanganyelwe, ukugaya kungabukeka njengokuhlikihlwa kwesitho sangasese sobulili, ngezingubo noma ngaphandle. Kepha, kungabukeka futhi njengokufana nobulili-ethangeni, isitho sangasese-okhalweni, njll, ukugcoba, usho kanjalo.

Ukugaya kungaziwa nangokuthi i-outercourse, ukuqondanisa komshado, ubuhlanga (ukugaya i-vulva-on-vulva), noma ukuphulula okunzima. Lapho wonke amaqembu abandakanyekayo embethe ngokuphelele, kubizwa nangokuthi omile, ngenkathi lapho wonke amaqembu enqunu ngokuphelele futhi ehlikihla izitho zabo zangasese ndawonye, ​​kwaziwa njengokuklwebha. Kukuliphi izwe lapho isenzo sobulili esingajabulisi singaba neziteketiso ezingaka? (Ngeke!)

Kungani Ukugaya Amatshe Wocansi

Amagama amabili: Ukuvuselela i-Clitoral. Ubuwazi ukuthi amaphesenti angama-73 wabanikazi bezitho zangasese noma isidingo ukugqugquzela kwe-clitoral kuya ku-orgasm noma ube nama-orgasms angcono nge-clitoral stim? "Ukugaya kunika abanikazi bezitho zangasese amandla okugqugquzela kakhulu okudinga i-orgasm," kuvuma uSparks.

Ngokwami, ngiyakujabulela ukugaya ngoba ngiyakuthokozela ukukhuthazeka, kepha i-glans clitoris yami (leyo yingxenye yangaphandle) izwela kakhulu. Uma ihlumela elincane likhuthazwa kakhulu, ngokushesha okukhulu, ngokuzumayo sonke isimo siba umdanso obucayi wokugwema i-clit yami. Ayijabulisi neze. Kodwa-ke, ukugaya - ikakhulukazi, ukugaya okugqokile - kunikeza ingcindezi engaguquki ezwakala kahle kakhulu ngokumelene ne-clit yami futhi ikwazi ukwenza kanjalo ngaphandle phezuukuyikhuthaza.

U-Sparks ungeza ukuthi i-G-spot nayo ingavuselelwa (ngokungaqondile) ngokugaya. "I-G-spot ihleli ngaphansi nangaphansi kwethambo le-pubic, ngakho-ke ukufaka ingcindezi esidulini kungashukumisa leyo ndawo futhi kunikeze umuzwa ovusa inkanuko."

Okokugcina: Ukugaya kungase kujabulise nakubantu abanepipi, futhi.Kunengqondo uma ucabanga ngakho: Ingabe umsebenzi wezandla, ubulili bomlomo, nokuya ocansini okuthinta inhliziyo kufana ngani? Zonke zibandakanya ukuvuselela ingxenye yangaphandle yomthondo. “Ngenxa yokuthi ukuhlikihla nokugaya kuhlanganisa nokushukumisa ingxenye yangaphandle yenduku, nakho kungamkhuthaza kakhulu umnikazi wepipi,” kusho uSparks. Uma abanikazi bepipi bengasokile, "ukunyakaza emuva naphambili kungagudluza ijwabu phezulu naphansi umthondo ngendlela engakhuthaza ngendlela emangalisayo."

Ngaphezu kokuzizwa kahle, ukugaya yilokho u-Theo, 26, indoda ye-trans akubiza ngokuthi "ubufakazi bobulili besikhathi," yingakho esithanda kakhulu isikhundla. Uyachaza: "Isikhathi sami singinikeza i-dysphoria yezobulili." (Ubulili i-dysphoria kulapho umuntu eba nezinkinga ngobulili bakhe bemvelo noma izitho zangasese ezingafani nobunikazi babo.) Ngenxa yalokho, akakuthandi ukuzibandakanya ezenzweni zocansi ezingagqokiwe lapho esesikhathini. “Ukugaya ucansi kungivumela ukuthi ngigcine zonke izingubo zami phakathi naleso sikhathi senyanga, bese ngithola ubumnandi,” usho kanje. Futhi, ngivame ukuba ne-orgasm.

U-Dawson, 24, owesifazane othandana nabanye besifazane naye uncoma lesi sikhundla ngokuqinisekisa ukuthi ungubani. "Ukugaya ngezingubo kungivumela ukuthi ngilale nomuntu othile (ngokwesibonelo, isitendi sasebusuku obubodwa) ngaphandle kokudinga ukuba nengxoxo esondelene kakhulu ngezitho zami zobulili, engikuthandayo okubizwa ngakho, njll."

Khonamanjalo, uCourtney, 32, owesifazane we-quiser cisgender uyakujabulela ngoba kungumsebenzi ophansi onobungozi. "Ngine-herpes, futhi angikho kuma-antiretrovirals," esho. "Uma ngicabanga ukuthi kungenzeka ngibe nokubheduka kwesifo, ukugaya ngezingubo zangaphansi kungenye yezindlela mina nesoka lami esiqhubeka ngayo nokwenza ucansi."

Uqinisile: Ukugaya kuyinto isenzo socansi esinobungozi obuphansi - kepha i-FTR, ezimweni ezithile, kusenobungozi bokudluliswa kwe-STI nokukhulelwa. Uma nobabili nembethe, ubungozi bokudluliswa kwe-STI empeleni abuyiqanda. Uma, nokho, kukhona ukuthintana kwezitho zangasese nezitho zangasese kungenzeka ukuthi izifo zocansi zisabalale ngokuthintana kwesikhumba (i-HPV, i-herpes, ugcunsula, i-trichomoniasis) noma uketshezi locansi (HPV, HSV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV), futhi. (Okuhlobene: Ingabe Ama-STD Angazihambela Wodwa?)

Ukukhulelwa kuyenzeka noma nini uma umuntu onamasende kanye nomuntu onesibeletho nesibeletho benza ucansi epipini esithweni sangasese. Nakuba ukugaya ngokuvamile akuhambisani ne-P-in-V, awekho amaphoyisa okugaya, ngakho-ke, uma ufuna ukulinganisa i-P-in-V njengokugaya - noma usebenzise ukugaya njengesandulela se-P-in-V - Ngeke ngijabulele i-yum yakho. Qaphela nje ukuthi ukukhulelwa kungenzeka uma lezo zidingo ezishiwo ngenhla zifinyelelwa.

Ungayenza Kanjani Ukugaya Ucansi Ukuzizwa Kungcono Kakhulu

Themba, lezi zeluleko ezinhlanu zokugaya zizokuguqula - nozakwenu - nibe abalandeli.

1. Gqoka umcimbi.

"Izinhlobo ezahlukene zezindwangu zokugqoka zizokhiqiza izinhlobo ezahlukene zokugqugquzela," kusho uSparks. Okuzwakala kukuhle kuwe kuzohluka ngokuya ngokuncamelayo komuntu ngamunye. I-denim ne-corduroy, ngokwesibonelo, baziboleka kahle ekuxabaneni okukhulu, njengoba kwenza noma yimaphi amabhodlela agcwele imicu. Usilika, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungcono kakhulu emuzweni owandayo wokushelela ezinqeni zakho, usho kanje.

Ngokwami, ngithanda ukugaya ngenkathi ngigqoke ama-leggings alula noma ngijuluka, okungivumela ukuthi ngivule imilenze yami kalula, futhi ngingene endaweni eyenza ukugqugquzela izindawo zami ezishisayo kube lula.

2. Faka i-lube.

Ungavumeli isiteketiso sayo ("i-humping eyomile") sikugcine ekungezeni ubumanzi obuncane obuthengwe esitolo kumdlalo wakho! Ngokwami, ngithanda ukufaka i-dab encane ye-lube phakathi kwe-labia yami ukunciphisa ukungahambi kahle kokungqubuzana phakathi kwezindebe zami ezingezansi. (Bheka: Kungani uLube Enza Zonke Izimo Zocansi Zingcono)

3. Gcoba ipulaki ezinqeni.

"Ungasebenzisa ipulagi cishe nganoma yisiphi isenzo socansi - kungakhathalekile ubulili bakho, ubulili, noma ezocansi," kusho u-Alicia Sinclair, uthisha oqinisekisiwe wezocansi kanye ne-CEO ye-b-Vibe, inkampani yomkhiqizo wokudlala ezimpundu, ngaphambilini Umumo. "Kungumkhiqizo wenjabulo yanoma yimuphi umzimba nanoma ngubani."

Ngenkathi ngingazami ukugqoka ipulagi ngesikhathi sokugaya, uCarter, 32, nomlingani wakhe uHannah banakho. "UHannah ufaka ipulagi njalo lapho siya emcimbini womphakathi," kusho uCarter. “Ngaleyo ndlela uma sinyonyoba siye ekamelweni lejazi noma endlini yokugezela ukuze siyigqoke, singakwenza ngazo zonke izingubo zethu, futhi usengakwazi ukwehla.

4. Letha umngani onebuzzy.

Ngokweqiniso, noma yiluphi uhlobo lwesidlidlizi lungasetshenziswa lapha, kodwa ngincoma ama-wand vibrator.

Ngesonto eledlule nje ngiqede ukuqaqa isidlidlizi se-Le Wand wand esisha (Buy It, $140, babeland.com) ngenkathi i-boo yami ifika. Ufinyelele into ebabazekayo etafuleni lami lasekamelweni lokuphumula (oh, impilo yombhali wezocansi) wayivula. Lapho ngimqabula sawubona, waqala ukusebenzisa into ebabazekayo emhlane wami. Njengoba siqhubeka nokuqabulana, waqala ukuhudula induku ehlisa emzimbeni wami.

Ekugcineni, wabamba induku phakathi kwemizimba yethu ngenkathi singqubuzana futhi singqubuzana nemizimba yomunye egqoke ngokugcwele kwaze kwaba yilapho, njengoba i-bop ye-Trey Songz ihamba, umakhelwane wawazi amagama ethu womabili.

5. Zama ukuma ucansi lokugaya.

“Ukuma nomlingani wakho, futhi nigaye (noma nimelane nabo), kanti omunye wenu uncika odongeni kungaba mnandi kakhulu futhi kwanelise,” kusho uSparks. Ngokuyisisekelo, uncoma ukuphinda usebenzise indawo yokudansa ebheke phambili othisha bakho besikole esiphakathi nasesikoleni esiphakeme abangavumanga.

"Ukwengeza endaweni ehehayo kungakuyisa ezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu lokushisa kocansi," uyanezela. Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe ungazama ukuzama ukugaya ikhabethe lejazi emcimbini wakho olandelayo. Isexwayiso esifanele: Njengoba indaba eshiwo ngenhla iphakamisa, ukugaya kusengakhalisa, ngakho-ke ungenza kahle ngokunaka umsindo uma usesidlangalaleni.

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