Izincwadi Ezi-10 Ezikhanya Ngokukhanyayo Ngomlutha

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• Lapho i-AA Ingakusebenzeli: Izinyathelo Ezinengqondo Zokuyeka Utshwala
• Ukuphila Sober
• Uhambo oluya e-Echo Spring: Kubabhali nasekuphuzeni
• Ukucima Umlilo: Ukukhumbula Izinto Engaphuza Ukuzikhohlwa
• Namuhla Kuyadabukisa: Izindatshana Zomuntu Siqu
• Impilo Yokuphuza: Isikhumbuzo
• Okomile: Isikhumbuzo
• Ukuphindwe kabili: Isikhumbuzo Esimbili Sotshwala
• Ngaphansi Kwethonya: Umhlahlandlela Wezinganekwane Namaqiniso Okudakwa
• Lo Mqondo Onqunu: Lawula Utshwala: Thola Inkululeko, Thola Injabulo, Futhi Shintsha Impilo Yakho

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

Umlutha ungadla impilo yakho, noma ngabe utshwala, izidakamizwa, noma isimilo esithile. Kubantu abanezidakamizwa, ukuthola ukwesekwa kungasho umehluko phakathi kwempumelelo nokubuyela emuva, noma ngisho nokuphila nokufa.

Cishe abantu abayizigidi ezingama-21.5 e-United States abaneminyaka eyi-12 nangaphezulu banezinkinga zokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa. Lokhu kubandakanya abantu abayizigidi eziyi-17 abaphila nenkinga yokusebenzisa utshwala. Kulezi zigidi zabantu nabaningi ababathandayo, iminjunju yokuluthwa nakho konke okuletha nakho kungokoqobo impela.

Siqoqe izincwadi ezinhle kakhulu zabantu abanomlutha nalabo ababathandayo.

Lapho i-AA Ingakusebenzeli: Izinyathelo Ezinengqondo Zokuyeka Utshwala

Ngokusho kuka-Albert Ellis, PhD, umbhali we "When AA Does Not Work For You," kunenye indlela yokwelapha ukuphuza ngokweqile. Yize i-Alcoholics Anonymous isiza abantu abaningi ekululameni kwabo, u-Ellis uthi abantu abanotshwala banemicabango nezinkolelo ezingenangqondo ezibagcina beboshwe ekuluthweni kwabo. Ngokusebenzisa ukwelashwa okunemizwa okunengqondo (i-RET) - okwenziwe ngu-Ellis - abantu abanemilutha yotshwala bangayiphonsela inselelo le micabango nezinkolelo bese beyifaka ezinempilo.

Ukuphila Sober

I- "Living Sober" yivolumu engaziwa eyenzelwe ukunikeza abantu imilutha amathuluzi okuphila impilo yansuku zonke. Le ncwadi ayigxili kuphela ekunikezeni ngotshwala noma ezidakamizweni, kodwa ithi lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala kuphela. Ukululama kwangempela kuza ezinsukwini nasemasontweni alandelayo, lapho uphonswa inselelo ngokuphila usangulukile noma ngabe impilo ikuphikisani.

Uhambo oluya e-Echo Spring: Kubabhali nasekuphuzeni

Ku- "The Trip to Echo Spring," umbhali u-Olivia Laing ungena ezimpilweni zababhali abaningana kanye nobudlelwano babo notshwala. ULaing uxoxa ngoF. Scott Fitzgerald, u-Ernest Hemingway, nokuningi, ehlola ukuthi ubuhlakani kulaba baculi buhlobene kanjani nokuphuza kwabo. Okubaluleke nakakhulu, uyayiqeda inkolelo yokuthi ngandlela thile utshwala buyimbangela yobuhlakani babo.

Ukucima Umlilo: Ukukhumbula Izinto Engaphuza Ukuzikhohlwa

Abantu baphuza ngezizathu ezahlukene. Kumlobi uSarah Hepola, ukuphuza kwakuyindlela yokuthola isibindi nokuzidela. Kodwa ukuphuza kwakhe kwakuvame ukuphela ngokucisha. Ku- "Blackout: Ukukhumbula Izinto Engaphuza Ukuzikhohlwa," uHepola uthatha abafundi ohambweni lwakhe ngokudakwa nokuphulukiswa. Uthole ukuthi utshwala abukwenzi impilo yakhe ibe ngcono, kodwa empeleni ubukhipha. Ekululameni kwakhe, wazitholela ubuntu bakhe bangempela.

Namuhla Kuyadabukisa: Izindatshana Zomuntu Siqu

Umbhali uMelissa Broder waziwa nge-akhawunti yakhe ye-Twitter @sosadtoday. Kwaba yindawo lapho angahlanganyela khona ngokungaziwa ubunzima bakhe bokukhathazeka, umlutha nokuzethemba okuphansi. Ku- "So Sad Today," uyanwebela ama-tweets akhe, anikeze abafundi ukuqonda ngemizabalazo yakhe yezinkondlo ngama-eseyi akhe. Le volumu ayisebenzisi kuphela abantu abaphila nokukhathazeka nokulutha, kepha noma ngubani ovumayo ukuthi impilo ayihlali iyinjabulo nenjabulo.

Impilo Yokuphuza: Isikhumbuzo

Kubantu abanotshwala, ukubuka emuva empilweni yokuphuza kungaba nzima, kepha futhi kungaba ukwelashwa. UPete Hamill wakhulela eBrooklyn nabazali bokufika. Ukuba nobaba ongumlutha wotshwala kwakha umbono wakhe wokuthi ukuphuza kwakuyinto yokwenza yobudoda - esemncane kakhulu, waqala ukuphuza. “Impilo Yokuphuza” yabhalwa eminyakeni engama-20 ngemuva kokuthi uHamill ethathe isiphuzo sakhe sokugcina, futhi kuyo uhlanganyela nokuthi ukuphuza eminyakeni yakhe yokuqala kuyithinte kanjani impilo yakhe.

Okomile: Isikhumbuzo

U-Augusten Burroughs wayehlala njengabantu abaningi abanotshwala: izinsuku nobusuku bezulazula, belangazelela isiphuzo esilandelayo. Futhi njengabaningi, iBurroughs ifune usizo kuphela lapho iphoqelelwa. Endabeni yakhe, ukuba umlutha wotshwala kwakuthinta umsebenzi wakhe, futhi umqashi wakhe wanxusa ngokuqinile ukuthi angene ekuvuseleleni. Ku- "Dry," uBurroughs ulandisa ngophuzo lwakhe, isikhathi sokuvuselelwa, nezingqinamba abhekana nazo eza nezingasile.

Ukuphindwe kabili: Isikhumbuzo Esimbili Sotshwala

Akuyona into engavamile ukuba nabantu abangaphezu koyedwa abanomlutha emndenini. Ku "Double Double," umbhali oyimfihlakalo uMartha Grimes nendodana yakhe, uKen, babelana ngamava abo nokuluthwa utshwala. Izikhumbuzo ezimbili kokukodwa, inikeza izinkambo ezimbili ezihluke kakhulu nemibono yokuphila nokulutha. Bobabili bachitha isikhathi ezinhlelweni eziyizinyathelo eziyi-12 nasezikhungweni zokugula, futhi bobabili banezabo ezithatha kulokho okwenza umsebenzi wokutakula.

Ngaphansi Kwethonya: Umhlahlandlela Wezinganekwane Namaqiniso Okudakwa

Kungani ungeke uyeke nje? Mhlawumbe kungenye yezinganekwane ezinkulu kakhulu ezungeze ukulutheka - ukuthi ukuzimisela okuphelele yikho konke okudingayo ukuze ukunqobe. Ku- “Under the Influence,” abalobi uJames Robert Milam noKatherine Ketcham bachitha le ndaba nezinye. Baxoxa ngokululama, ukuthi ungamsiza kanjani umuntu oluthwa utshwala, ungawandisa kanjani amathuba okuphulukiswa ngempumelelo, nokuthi ungasho kanjani ukuthi wena noma umuntu omthandayo unotshwala. Le ncwadi ibilokhu iphrintiwe amashumi eminyaka futhi ihlala isisetshenziswa esibalulekile.

Lo Mqondo Onqunu: Lawula Utshwala: Thola Inkululeko, Thola Injabulo, Futhi Shintsha Impilo Yakho

U-Annie Grace washiya umsebenzi wakhe wokuba nguchwepheshe wezokumaketha ukuze abelane ngohambo lwakhe notshwala. Umphumela uba ukuthi "Lo Mqondo Oze," umhlahlandlela wabantu abanotshwala ukuthola ukuthi yini ebenza bajabule ngaphandle kwebhodlela. Le ncwadi icwaningwe kahle kakhulu, ihlaziya ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuba umlutha wotshwala, futhi ihlakaza ubudlelwane obuphakathi kokuphuza nenjabulo. UGrace uqinisekisa ukutakula kwabafundi kungaphezu kwenqubo enzima - kuyindlela eya enjabulweni.