Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi: kuyini, ungakhomba kanjani nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nakho

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• Izimpawu ezisiza ukukhomba ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
• Indlela yokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi
• Imiphumela engokomzimba nengokomzwelo yokwephula
• Ungabhekana kanjani nokuhlukumezeka okubangelwa ukudlwengulwa
• Amakhambi okudambisa nokulala kangcono
• Amasu okwandisa ukuzethemba
• Okuholela ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi

Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi kwenzeka lapho umuntu ephulula omunye ngokocansi ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe noma ebaphoqa ukuthi baye ocansini, esebenzisa izindlela ezingokomzwelo noma ukuhlukumeza ngokomzimba. Ngesikhathi sesenzo lesi, umhlukumezi angafaka isitho sakhe sangasese, iminwe noma ezinye izinto endaweni esondelene naye ngaphandle kwemvume yesisulu.

Ezinye izici zokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kulapho isisulu:

• Akanalo ikhono lokubona lesi senzo njengolaka, ngoba uyingane futhi akamdala ngokwanele ukuba aqonde ukuthi kwenzekani noma ngenxa yokuthi unokukhubazeka komzimba noma ukugula kwengqondo;
• Udakiwe noma usebenzisa izidakamizwa ezivimbela isisulu ukuba sibe semqondweni wakhe ofanele futhi esingamtshela ukuthi ayeke.

Ezinye izinhlobo zokuhlukumeza ngokocansi yilapho umuntu othile ephoqa omunye ukuba aphulule izitho zakhe zangasese noma abone izingxoxo ngokuqukethwe kwezocansi, abuke izenzo zocansi noma imibukiso engamanyala, aqophe ifilimu noma athathe izithombe zalowo ohamba ze enqunu ukuze azibonise abanye.

Izisulu ezinkulu zalokhu kuhlukunyezwa ngabantu besifazane kodwa ongqingili, intsha kanye nezingane nabo bavame ukuba yizisulu zalolu hlobo lobugebengu.

Izimpawu ezisiza ukukhomba ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi

Isisulu obekucaca ukuthi sihlaselwe ngokocansi kungenzeka singakhombisi zimpawu zomzimba, noma kunjalo, iningi linezimpawu nezimpawu ezilandelayo:

• Shintsha ekuziphatheni njengoba kwenzeka lapho umuntu ayekhululekile kakhulu, futhi abe namahloni kakhulu;
• Balekela ukuxhumana nabantu futhi ukhethe ukuba wedwa;
• Ukukhala okulula, ukudabuka, isizungu, usizi nokukhathazeka;
• Lapho isisulu siseyingane, singagula ngisho nokubalekela ukuxhumana nabanye;
• Ukuvuvukala, ubomvu, ukuqhekeka noma ukuqhekeka ezingxenyeni zangasese;
• Ukuqhekeka kwamaHymeni, emantombazaneni nakwabesifazane abebesezintombi nto;
• Ukulahleka kolawulo lomchamo nendle ngenxa yezimo ezingokomzwelo noma ukukhululeka kwemisipha kulesi sifunda ngenxa yokudlwengulwa;
• Ukulunywa, ubuhlungu, noma ukukhishwa kwesitho sangasese sowesifazane noma kwendunu;
• Uphawu olu-purple emzimbeni nasezingxenyeni eziyimfihlo;
• Izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, amantombazane noma abesifazane bangakhulelwa, lapho-ke kungenzeka ukuthi basebenzise isisu ngokusemthethweni, inqobo nje uma kufakwa umbiko wamaphoyisa ofakazela ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi.

Ukufakazela ukuhlukunyezwa nelungelo lokuhushula isisu, isisulu kumele siye emaphoyiseni siyobatshela ngokwenzekile. Njengomthetho, owesifazane kufanele abheke ngokucophelela umzimba wesisulu ngezimpawu zokuhlukunyezwa, ukudlwengulwa, futhi kuyadingeka ukwenza ukuhlolwa okuthile ukukhomba ubukhona bezimfihlo noma isidoda esivela kumhlukumezi emzimbeni wesisulu.

Kuhle ukuthi isisulu singagezi futhi sigeze indawo esondelene nayo ngaphambi kokuya esiteshini samaphoyisa ukuze uketshezi, izinwele, izinwele noma imikhondo yezipikili ezingaba wubufakazi bokuthola nokwenza icala umenzi wobubi angalahleki.

Indlela yokubhekana nokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi

Ukubhekana nemiphumela emibi edalwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi, isisulu sokudlwengulwa kufanele sisekelwe abantu abasondele kakhulu esibathembayo, njengomndeni, umndeni noma abangani, ukuze bezolulama ngokomzwelo futhi kungakapheli amahora angama-48, kufanele baye esiteshini samaphoyisa bhalisa ubugebengu isikhalazo ngokwenzekile. Ukulandela lesi sinyathelo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze umhlukumezi atholakale futhi aquliswe, ukuvimbela ukuhlukunyezwa ukuthi kungenzeki kumuntu ofanayo noma kwabanye.

Ekuqaleni, umuntu owephuliwe kufanele abonwe ngudokotela ukuze enze izivivinyo ezingakhomba ukulimala, ama-STD noma ukukhulelwa okungenzeka.Kungadingeka ukusebenzisa imishanguzo ukwelapha lezi zimo kanye nezithambisi nezidambisi ezingagcina isisulu sizolile ukuze sikwazi ululame.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuhlukumezeka okungokomzwelo okubangelwe ukuhlukunyezwa kufanele kulashwe ngosizo lwe-psychologist noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo ngoba lesi senzo sishiya izimpande eziningi zokungathembi, ukufutheka neminye imiphumela elimaza impilo yomuntu ngalutho.

Imiphumela engokomzimba nengokomzwelo yokwephula

Isisulu sihlala sizizwa sinecala ngokudlwengulwa futhi kujwayelekile ukuba nemizwa enjengokuthi 'Kungani ngiphume naye?' Noma 'Kungani ngadlala ngothando naloyo muntu noma ngamyeka wasondela?' Kodwa-ke, yize umphakathi kanye nesisulu yena ezizwa enecala, akulona iphutha lakhe, kodwa elomhlaseli.

Ngemuva kwalesi senzo, isisulu singaba namamaki ajulile, amaphupho amabi aphindaphindayo, ukuzithemba okuphansi, ukwesaba, ukwesaba, ukungazethembi, ubunzima bokuxhumana nabanye abantu, ubunzima bokudla ngezinkinga ezifana ne-anorexia noma i-bulimia, ukuthambekela okukhulu kokusebenzisa Izidakamizwa zokubalekela iqiniso hhayi ukudlula ekuhluphekeni, ukuzama ukuzibulala, ukungabi namandla, ulaka, ukusebenza esikoleni esiphansi, ukushaya indlwabu okuphoqelela okungalimaza izitho zangasese, ukungazwani nabantu, i-hypochondria, ukudangala, ubunzima bokuveza imizwa yabo nokuhlobana nabazali, izingane zakwabo, izingane nabangane.

Ungabhekana kanjani nokuhlukumezeka okubangelwa ukudlwengulwa

Ohlukumezekile kumele wesekwe umndeni nabangane futhi akumele aye esikoleni noma emsebenzini, abe kude nale misebenzi aze alulame ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.

Esigabeni sokuqala sokululama, ngosizo lwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, isisulu kufanele sikhuthazwe ukuthi siqaphele imizwa yaso nemiphumela yokwephulwa, okungaba ukuphila nengculaza noma ukukhulelwa okungafunwa, isibonelo.

Amanye amasu amabili okubhekana nemiphumela yokuhlaselwa ngokocansi yile:

Amakhambi okudambisa nokulala kangcono

Ukusetshenziswa kwezinto zokutholisa imishanguzo kanye nezidambisi ezifana ne-Alprazolam ne-Fluoxetine, kungakhonjiswa ngudokotela noma udokotela wezifo zengqondo okufanele kusetshenziswe izinyanga ezimbalwa ukuze umuntu azole futhi akwazi ukulala ephumule kahle. La makhambi angasetshenziswa isikhathi eside kuze kube yilapho umuntu ezizwa engcono futhi egcina imizwa ibheke ngisho nangaphandle kwayo.

Bona izixazululo zemvelo ukuze wehlise umoya kuzeluleko eziyi-7 zokulawula ukukhathazeka nokwethuka.

Amasu okwandisa ukuzethemba

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo singakhombisa ukusetshenziswa kwamasu athile, njengokuzibona wena nokukhuluma esibukweni, usho ukuncoma namagama okuvuma nokusekela ukuze lokhu kusize ukunqoba ukuhlukumezeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amanye amasu angasetshenziswa ukwandisa ukuzethemba nokwelashwa kwengqondo ukuze isisulu sikwazi ukululama ngokuphelele, yize lokhu kuyinkqubo ende engathatha amashumi eminyaka ukuyifeza.

Okuholela ekuhlukunyezweni ngokocansi

Kungaba nzima ukuzama ukuqonda ukuthi kwenzekani emqondweni womhlukumezi, kepha ukuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi kungabangelwa ukuqubuka kwengqondo nezinye izinto ezinjengalezi:

• Ukuhlukumezeka noma ukulimala esifundeni sangaphakathi sobuchopho, indawo elawula imizwa yezocansi;
• Ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa ezilimaza ubuchopho futhi zikhiphe imizwa yokuya ocansini nangolaka, ngaphezu kokuvimbela ikhono lokwenza izinqumo ezilungile ngokokuziphatha;
• Ukugula kwengqondo okwenza umhlukumezi angasiboni isenzo esinukubeziwe, noma azizwe enecala ngezenzo azenzileyo;
• Ukuba yisisulu sokuhlukunyezwa ngokocansi impilo yakho yonke nokuba nempilo yocansi edidekile, kude nokujwayelekile.

Kodwa-ke, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi akukho kulezi zici ezivikela ulaka olunjalo futhi wonke umhlaseli kufanele ajeziswe.

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