Konke Okudingeka Ukwazi Ngendlela Yokukhala

-Delile

• Yini indlela ye-CIO?
• Indlela kaWeissbluth
• Indlela kaMurkoff
• Indlela kaBucknam no-Ezzo
• Indlela kaHogg noBlau
• Indlela kaFerber
• Indlela kaGiordano no-Abidin
• Ngeminye imininingwane
• Isebenza kanjani indlela ye-CIO
• 1. Sungula isimiso sasebusuku esingalindeleka
• 2. Faka ingane yakho embhedeni wayo
• 3. Bukela bese ulinda
• 4. Thambisa, kepha ungalibali
• 5. Cabanga ngezinye izimo
• 6. Ungaguquguquki
• Kude kangakanani uma kukhulunywa ngokukhala?
• Iminyaka yokuqala
• Abaxhasi bathi…
• Abagxeki bathi…
• Ukuthatha

Sifaka imikhiqizo esicabanga ukuthi ilusizo kubafundi bethu. Uma uthenga ngezixhumanisi ezikuleli khasi, singathola ikhomishini encane. Nansi inqubo yethu.

“Lala lapho ingane ilele,” kusho bona. Kepha kuthiwani uma okwakho kungabonakali kukuthanda kakhulu ukulala kube bonke?

Awuwedwa. Kunenqwaba yezincwadi zokubeletha ezibhalwe ngqo ngezindlela zokuqeqesha ukulala, ezinye zazo ezibandakanya ukuvumela ingane yakho ikhale isikhathi esithile.

Yize ingazwakala inokhahlo, umqondo ngemuva kokumemeza, njengoba ubizwa kanjalo, ukuthi ingane ingafunda ukuzidambisa ukulala ngokuya ngokuthembela kumnakekeli ukuze ibathobise. Futhi ukuzithambisa kungaholela kumakhono okulala aqinile nokuzimela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Ake sihlolisise indlela yokukhala ukuze ubone ukuthi kuyinto ofuna ukuyizama yini.

Yini indlela ye-CIO?

"Khala" (i-CIO) - noma kwesinye isikhathi "ukukhala okulawulwayo" - igama lesambulela elisetshenziselwa ukuchaza izindlela ezahlukahlukene ezibandakanya ukuvumela umntwana akhale njengoba befunda ukuzimela bodwa.

Ungahle ujwayelene neFerber Method, isibonelo, enabazali abasethe izilinganiso zesikhathi ezithile zokuhlola ingane uma ikhala - kodwa kukhona eziningana ezinye izinhlelo zokuqeqesha ukulala ezibandakanya amazinga ahlukahlukene we-CIO.

Indlela kaWeissbluth

Ngale ndlela, uMarc Weissbluth, MD, uchaza ukuthi izingane zisengavuka kuze kube kabili ebusuku ngezinyanga eziyi-8 ubudala. Kodwa-ke, uthi abazali kufanele baqale izindlela ezingalindeleka zokulala - ukuvumela izingane zikhala imizuzu eyishumi kuya kwengu-20 yokulala - nezinsana ezinamasonto amahlanu kuya kwayisithupha ubudala.

Lapho-ke, lapho ingane inezinyanga ezine ubudala, u-Weissbluth uncoma ukwenza lokho okubizwa ngokuthi “ukuqothulwa okugcwele,” okusho ukuvumela ukuba bakhale baze bayeke / balale ngaphandle kokuxhumana / kokuhlolwa kwabazali.

Indlela kaMurkoff

UHeidi Murkoff uchaza ukuthi ngezinyanga ezine ubudala (amakhilogremu ayi-11), izingane azisadingi okuphakelwa ebusuku. Lokhu kusho nokuthi bangalala ubusuku bonke - futhi lokho kuvuka ebusuku emva kwezinyanga ezinhlanu ubudala kuwumkhuba.

Ukuqeqeshwa kokulala - ukuqothula iziqu, ukuvuswa okuhleliwe, ukuqiniswa kwesigqi sokulala - kuqala ngemuva kwezinyanga ezine ubudala njengoba kukhethwe ngabazali. Ezinyangeni eziyisithupha, uMurkoff uthi "turkey ebandayo" i-CIO ifanelekile.

Indlela kaBucknam no-Ezzo

URobert Bucknam, MD, noGary Ezzo - abanikeze incwadi yabo ethi “On Becoming Babywise” isihlokwana esithi “Ukunikeza usana lwakho isipho sokulala ebusuku” - banomuzwa wokuthi ukufundisa umntanakho ukuzithambisa kuyisipho esizosiza ingane ukuhamba kwesikhathi. U-Ezzo noBucknam bathi izingane ezinamasonto aphakathi kuka-7 no-9 ubudala ziyakwazi ukulala kuze kube amahora ayisishiyagalombili ebusuku. Kumaviki awu-12, lokhu kukhuphuka kuze kufike emahoreni ayi-11.

Indlela ye-CIO lapha ifaka ukuvumela ukukhala imizuzu eyi-15 kuye kwengama-20 ngaphambi kokulala. Kubalulekile futhi ukuqaphela ukuthi le ndlela ibeka isigqi esithile sokulala kwasemini kanye (idla-wake-sleep).

Indlela kaHogg noBlau

"Intetheleli yengane" uTracy Hogg noMelinda Blau bathi ngesikhathi ingane isisindo samakhilogremu ayi-10, bakulungele ukulala ubusuku bonke. Lokho kusho ukuthi bancoma ukondliwa kwamaqoqo kusihlwa nokwenza okuphakelayo kwamaphupho.

Mayelana ne-CIO, ababhali bathi izingane zizokwenza "ama-crescendos" amathathu okukhala ngaphambi kokulala. Abazali bavame ukunikezela phakathi naleso sikhathi esiphakeme. Ngale ndlela, abazali bavunyelwe ukuphendula - kepha bayakhuthazwa ukuthi baphinde bahambe futhi ngemuva nje kokuhlalwa kwengane.

Indlela kaFerber

Cishe indlela eyaziwa kakhulu ye-CIO, uRichard Ferber, MD, isebenzisa imodeli yokuqothula iziqu eqala lapho ingane inezinyanga eziyisithupha ubudala. "Ukuthweswa iziqu" ngokuyisisekelo kusho ukuthi abazali bayakhuthazwa ukuba balalise ingane lapho bayozela kodwa bengakavuki.

Ngemuva kwalokho, kufanele uvumele ingane yakho ikhale imizuzu engu-5 ngaphambi kokuphendula okokuqala. Ngemuva kwalokho, ungangeza isikhathi phakathi kwezimpendulo ngokukhushulwa kwemizuzu engu-5- (noma ngaphansi).

Indlela kaGiordano no-Abidin

USuzy Giordano noLisa Abidin bakholelwa ukuthi izingane ziyakwazi ukulala amahora ayi-12 ngasikhathi ngaphandle kokudla kwasebusuku ngamasonto ayi-12 ubudala. Lapho ingane ifinyelela emasontweni ayisishiyagalombili ubudala, le ndlela ivumela ukukhala ebusuku imizuzu emi-3 kuya kwengu-5 ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Esikhundleni sokuphakelwa ebusuku, ababhali bakhuthaza abazali ukuthi bondle izingane njalo emahoreni amathathu emini.

Ngeminye imininingwane

Thenga ku-inthanethi ukuthola izincwadi ngalezi zindlela ze-CIO:

• Imikhuba Yokulala Enempilo, Ingane Ejabulayo ngu-Weissbluth
• Ongakulindela: Unyaka Wokuqala kaMurkoff
• On Becoming Babywise nguBucknam no-Ezzo
• Izimfihlo Zengane Ehlebezayo nguHogg noBlau
• Xazulula Izinkinga Zokulala Zengane Yakho nguFerber
• Ukulala kwamahora ayishumi nambili ngamaviki ayishumi nambili nguGiordano no-Abidin

Isebenza kanjani indlela ye-CIO

Ukuthi uhamba kanjani nge-CIO kuya ngeminyaka yengane yakho, ifilosofi oyilandelayo, nokulindela kwakho ukulala. Ayikho indlela yobukhulu obufanayo, futhi okusebenzela ingane eyodwa noma umndeni kungahle kungasebenzeli omunye.

Ngaphambi kokuqeqeshwa kokulala usebenzisa i-CIO, ungahle uthande ukukhuluma nodokotela wezingane wengane yakho ukuze uthole ukucaciseleka ngokuthi ingane yakho kufanele ilale kangakanani ebusuku ngeminyaka yayo, noma ngabe idinga ukudla kwasebusuku noma ikuphi okunye okukhathazayo ongase ube nakho.

Nansi indlela eyisampula yokuqala i-CIO:

1. Sungula isimiso sasebusuku esingalindeleka

Ochwepheshe abaningi bomzali bayavuma ukuthi ngaphambi kwe-CIO, kufanele ufake ingane yakho esigqini sokulala. Ngaleyo ndlela, ingane yakho iyakwazi ukuqala ukuphumula futhi ithola ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokulala. Lokhu kungafaka izinto ezifana:

• kufiphaza izibani ekhaya lakho
• ukudlala umculo othambile noma umsindo omhlophe
• ukugeza
• ukufunda indaba yokulala (nansi eminye yemisebenzi yethu)

2. Faka ingane yakho embhedeni wayo

Kepha ngaphambi kokuphuma egumbini, qiniseka ukwenza imikhuba yokulala ephephile:

• Ungayijwayezi i-CIO nengane esagoqiwe.
• Qinisekisa ukuthi isikhalazo asicacile kunoma yiziphi izilwane ezifakiwe noma imicamelo.
• Beka ingane yakho emhlane ukuze ilale.

3. Bukela bese ulinda

Uma unevidiyo noma umsindo wengane, lalela ukubona ukuthi ingane yakho yenzani. Kwezinye izimo, bangase balale. Kwabanye, kungaba nokuxabana okuthile. Yilapho indlela yakho ethile ingena khona ngokuphendula kwakho:

• Uma ulandela ukuphela ngokuphelele, kusamele unake ingane yakho ukuze uqiniseke ukuthi iphephile.
• Uma ulandela indlela yokuthweswa iziqu, qiniseka ukuthi ugcina ithrekhi yezikhathi ezahlukahlukene njengoba uzoyithambisa kancane ingane yakho.

4. Thambisa, kepha ungalibali

Isibonelo, uma ulandela indlela ye-Ferber:

• I- kuqala ebusuku, ubuzongena ngemuva kwemizuzu emi-3, bese uphinde ungene ngemuva kwemizuzu emi-5, bese uphinda futhi ngemuva kwemizuzu eyi-10.
• I- okwesibili ubusuku, izikhawu zingahle zifane nemizuzu emi-5, imizuzu eyi-10, imizuzu eyi-12.
• Futhi i- okwesithathu ubusuku, imizuzu engu-12, imizuzu engu-15, imizuzu engu-17.

Ngaso sonke isikhathi uma ungena, mane ukhethe ingane yakho (noma cha - kukuwe), qinisekisa, bese uhamba. Ukuvakasha kwakho kufanele kube yimizuzu engu-1 kuya kwemibili, eziqongweni.

5. Cabanga ngezinye izimo

Kwesinye isikhathi, ukukhala kuyizimpawu zengane yakho zosizo.Ngakho-ke, kunezikhathi lapho ingane yakho kungenzeka ikhale futhi ikudinge ngempela. Uma ingane yakho inenkinga ngempela, thatha isinyathelo emuva bese uhlola isithombe esikhudlwana:

• Ingabe bayagula? Ukuthambisa?
• Ngabe igumbi lishisa kakhulu noma libanda kakhulu?
• Ingabe inabukeni labo lingcolile?
• Ingabe balambile?

Kunezizathu eziningana ingane yakho engakhala futhi empeleni idinga usizo lwakho.

6. Ungaguquguquki

Kungaba nzima ukugcina i-CIO ubusuku nobusuku uma uzizwa ukuthi imizamo yakho ayisebenzi ngokushesha. Ekugcineni, ingane yakho kufanele ithole umqondo.

Kodwa-ke, ukufika lapho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukuhlala ungaguquguquki futhi ulandele uhlelo. Ukuphendula ngezikhathi ezithile hhayi kwabanye kungadida ingane yakho.

Okuhlobene: Ingabe kufanele uvumele ingane yakho ikhale ikhala?

Kude kangakanani uma kukhulunywa ngokukhala?

Noma ngabe ulandela ukuqedwa ngokuphelele noma uhlelo lokuqothula iziqu lweCIO, kuzoba nephuzu lapho ungazibuza khona: Kufanele ngiyeke ingane yami ikhale isikhathi esingakanani? Ngeshwa, ayikho impendulo eyodwa kulo mbuzo.

UNicole Johnson, isazi sokulala nombhali webhulogi elidumile i-Baby Sleep Site, uthi abazali kufanele babe nohlelo olucacile ngaphambi kokuqala.

Inhloso ye-CIO ukuthi umntwana alale ngaphandle kwezinhlangano zokulala, njengokuzanyazanyiswa umama noma ubaba. Ngakho-ke, kuyinkohliso, ngoba ukungena ukubheka ingane kungabandakanya ukuzamazama noma ezinye izinhlangano zokulala.

UJohnson uthi abazali badinga ukunquma ndawonye ukuthi yini “ende kakhulu” Esikhundleni sokulinda lokho okuzwakala “kukude kakhulu” okwamanje, zama ukuthola imininingwane ngaphambi kwesikhathi.

Futhi futhi uthi wazi ngezimo lapho ukukhala okude kwengane kungakhombisa khona ukuthi ingane idinga usizo (ukugula, ukubhoboza amazinyo, njll.).

Okuhlobene: Uhlelo lokulala kwengane yakho ngonyaka wokuqala

Iminyaka yokuqala

Ochwepheshe babelana ukuthi ngenkathi izindlela ezahlukahlukene zisho ukuthi ungaqala i-CIO ezinyangeni ezi-3 kuye kwezi-4 ubudala (kwesinye isikhathi zincane), kungahle kube kuhle ngokwengeziwe ukuthi ulinde ingane yakho ingaphezu kwezinyanga ezine.

Ezinye izindlela ze-CIO zihamba ngesisindo sengane njengesincomo sokuthi siqala nini. Abanye bahamba ngokweminyaka kuphela.

Noma ngabe yikuphi, kuhlobene nokuthuthuka kanye nemibono ehlukile mayelana nokuthi ingane idinga ukuphakelwa ebusuku nini uma ikulungele ukuhamba ngaphandle kwayo. (Futhi, ukuchaza kanjani ukuthi "ukungadli ebusuku" kubalulekile. Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokuhamba amahora ayisithupha ukuya kwayisishiyagalombili ngaphandle kokuphakela nokuhamba amahora ayi-12 ngaphandle.)

Ithebula elilandelayo likhombisa iminyaka izindlela ezehlukene ezithi abazali bangaqala ngayo izinto ezinjenge "cold turkey", "extinction", noma "extinction extinction" CIO nezingane.

Kungumqondo omuhle ukukhuluma nodokotela wezingane ngaphambi kokuqala noma yini Uhlelo lwe-CIO, njengoba ingane yakho ingaba nezidingo ezithile zezempilo noma zokondla ezingabhekwanga izincwadi zabazali.

Njengazo zonke izinto zokuba ngumzali, zama ngakho konke okusemandleni ukuthi ungadluli kakhulu encwadini futhi ubheke izidingo zengane yakho ngayinye.

Okuhlobene: amathiphu ama-5 okusiza ingane yakho ilele ubusuku bonke

Abaxhasi bathi…

Cishe unomngani noma ilungu lomndeni ofunga ngokuphelele ukuthi i-CIO bekuyithikithi labo lempumelelo yokulala ebusuku.Hhayi-ke, uma usengumbono omncane wale ndlela, kunezindaba ezithile ezimnandi: Ucwaningo lwango-2016 lwalugxile emiphumeleni engokomzwelo yokuvumela izingane zikhale. Imiphumela ayibonisanga ukuhlukumezeka okuhlala isikhathi eside.

Kubalulekile ukuveza ukuthi ucwaningo lubheke ngqo izindlela zokuqeqesha ukulala ezibandakanya ukuqothulwa kweziqu, lapho abazali bephendula khona ukukhala ngezikhathi ezibekiwe.

Ukwenza ucwaningo, ososayensi balinganise amazinga ama-cortisol ezingane (“i-hormone yokucindezela”) besebenzisa amathe abo. Ngemuva kwalokho, unyaka ongu-1 kamuva, izingane zahlolwa ngezinto ezifana nezinkinga ezingokomzwelo / zokuziphatha nezinkinga zokunamathiselwa. Abaphenyi abawutholanga umehluko ophawulekayo kulezi zindawo phakathi kwezinsana esivivinyweni namaqembu okulawula.

Abaphenyi baphinde bahlola ukuthi izindlela ze-CIO ziholela ekulaleni okungcono noma cha. Nakulokhu futhi, impendulo yayiqondile. Izingane ezikhale empeleni zilale ngokushesha futhi zibe noxinzelelo oluncane kunezingane eziseqenjini lokulawula. Izingane ze-CIO nazo zazinamathuba amaningi okulala ubusuku bonke kuneqembu elilawulayo.

Yize lesi kuyisampula esisodwa nje, imiphumela ehlolwe yesikhathi eside yokuqeqeshwa kokulala. Imiphumela yayifana. Eminyakeni emihlanu emva kokuqeqeshwa kokulala, abacwaningi banqume ukuthi ukungenelela okunjalo akubanga nemiphumela emibi - futhi kwakungekho mehluko phakathi kokuhlolwa namaqembu alawulayo.

Abagxeki bathi…

Njengoba ungacabanga, umqondo wokuvumela umntwana akhale isikhathi esithile ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka kwabazali uthola ukushisa kubagxeki. Kepha kukhona yini ucwaningo olusekela umbono wokuthi ukukhala kungalimaza izingane?

Omunye uphakamise ukuthi izingane zinamathele ngokuphepha kunina lapho ukuhlangana kwasebusuku kuyinto enhle - okuwukuthi, lapho umama (noma ubaba, mhlawumbe, yize isifundo sibheke omama) ethatha futhi aduduze ingane uma evuka ekhala.

Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMacall Gordon uchaza ukuthi izindlela ezithandwayo zokuqeqesha ukulala zibonakala zithatha isimo sokuthi amandla okulala isikhathi eside aqondile, okusho ukuthi inani ingane yakho elala ngalo ebusuku kufanele lenyuke ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.

Kodwa-ke, uveza ukuthi ukulala kungahle kuhlanganiswe nezinto ezifana:

• ukukhula kwengqondo
• isimo somntwana wakho ngamunye noma i-physiology
• ukwehla kwamasiko nentuthuko onyakeni wokuqala

Ngamanye amagama: Ukulala akunqanyulwa futhi komile, futhi alukho uhlelo oluthile - olubandakanya ukukhala noma cha - oluzokwenza ingane yakho ilele ngokwethembeka amahora ayi-12 ubusuku ngabunye.

Okuhlobene: Ingabe indlela yokuthatha, yokubeka phansi iyasebenza ukuze ingane yakho ilale?

Ukuthatha

Ungasebenza emikhubeni engcono yokulala nengane yakho ngaphandle kokubhalisela noma iyiphi indlela ethile yokuqeqeshwa kokulala. Amanye amathiphu:

• YIBA nesimiso sokulala esingaguquguquki ubusuku ngabunye bese ufaka ingane yakho embhedeni wayo iyozela kodwa ivuke.
• YENZA ingane yakho ixabane kancane bese ucabanga ukusebenzisa i-pacifier ukuyisiza ixazululeke.
• YENZA umsebenzi wokuqonda okulungele ukukhula okufanele ukulindele enganeni yakho uma kukhulunywa ngokuvuka / ukuphakelwa ebusuku.
• UNGAKHATHAZI uma izindlela ozizama zingasebenzi.

Ezinye izingane zizalwa zilala kahle. Kwabanye, inqubo engathatha isikhathi esithile. Uma unokukhathazeka ngemikhuba yokulala kwengane yakho, unganqikazi ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti nodokotela wezingane zakho.

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