Ama-Hacks Wansuku zonke Asiza Ukuphatha Ukukhathazeka Okusezingeni Eliphezulu

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• 1. Zazi izimpawu zakho ukuthi ziyini
• 2. Yenza abangane nokwesaba kwakho
• 3. Xhuma kabusha nomzimba wakho
• 4. Yiba nemantra, futhi uyisebenzise nsuku zonke
• 5. Funda ukuthi ungangenelela kanjani kuwe
• 6. Yakha iqembu lokusekela
• Ukuhamba Okungqondo: Ukugeleza Kwemizuzu eyi-15 YeYoga Yokukhathazeka

Uma ubheka u- "overachiever" esichazamazwini, ubungathola isithombe sami lapho incazelo kufanele ibe khona. Ngikhulele edolobhaneni laseWashington, D.C., futhi ngiwumkhiqizo wejubane layo elisheshayo, elisheshayo. Ngiye ekolishi elisezingeni eliphezulu futhi ngathola iziqu ePhi Beta Kappa, magna cum laude.

Futhi, kuyo yonke iminyaka yami yokusebenza, ngiphume phambili kuwo wonke umsebenzi engiwubambile. Ngangivame ukufika kuqala futhi ngigcine ukuphuma ehhovisi. Uhlu lwami lwezinto okufanele zenziwe beluhleleke kakhulu (futhi lunemibala eminingi kakhulu). Ngingumdlali weqembu, isikhulumi esidlangalaleni esidlangalaleni, futhi ngiyazi nje ukuthi ngithini noma ngenzeni ukujabulisa abantu abangizungezile.

Umsindo uphelele, akunjalo?

Ngaphandle kwamaphesenti angama-99.9 engisebenza nabo kanye nabaqondisi babengazi ukuthi nami ngiphila nenkinga yokukhathazeka ejwayelekile. Ukukhathazeka kuthinta cishe amaphesenti ayi-19 abantu abadala e-United States unyaka nonyaka. Ngenkathi abanye bebandiswe ukukhathazeka, ngiqhutshwa yilo ngamamayela ayisigidi ngehora. Uhlobo lwami oluthile lokukhathazeka "lusebenza kakhulu," okusho ukuthi izimpawu zami zifihliwe ngokweqile, ukucabanga ngokweqile, nokwenza ngokweqile.

Isikhathi eside, bengingaboni ukuthi ukusebenza kanzima nokunakekela okungaka kungangikhathaza. Babebonakala njengezici ezinhle, hhayi izimpawu zokuphazamiseka, okuyikho okwenza kube nzima ukuzibona.

“Cha
akukhathaleki ukuthi ngisebenze kanzima kangakanani noma ukuthi ngiziqhenya kanjani ngempumelelo yami, ukukhathazeka
ingxenye ethile yobuchopho bami yayingicwaninga, ingigxeke futhi ingiphathe kahle. ”

Kepha ngokukhathazeka okusebenza okuphezulu, akukho mpumelelo eyenele ukuthula ukuthula. Ngemuva kwakho konke ukwethula okuhle nephrojekthi engenasici kwakuyintaba yokukhathazeka. Ngangikhathazwa umuzwa wecala wokuthi angizange ngenze ngokwanele, noma angikwenzanga ngokushesha ngokwanele, noma angikwenzanga kahle ngokwanele. Ngangiphilela ukwamukelwa abanye futhi ngachitha amahora amaningi ngizama ukwenza ngezinga elingenakwenzeka elalikade likudala ukukhathazeka kwami. Kungakhathaleki ukuthi ngangisebenza kanzima kangakanani noma ngangiziqhenya kangakanani ngalokho engangikufezile, ingxenye ekhathazayo yobuchopho bami yayingibhekisisa, ingigxeke futhi ingiphathe kahle.

Futhi, okubi kunakho konke, ngahlupheka ngithule. Angitshelanga engisebenza nabo noma abaphathi. Ukwesaba kwami ​​ukwahlulelwa nokungaqondi kwakukhulu kakhulu. Ukuphela kwendlela engangikwazi ngayo ukubhekana nezimpawu zami kwakuwukuzama kanzima kancane futhi ngingaze ngehlise ijubane.

Ukukhathazeka kwakukhona esihlalweni somshayeli iminyaka eyishumi yokuqala yomsebenzi wami, kungithatha uhambo olwesabekayo nolungapheli ngamazinga amaningi aphezulu nangaphezulu kakhulu… Isitimela sashiya ujantshi eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule lapho ngazithola sengingena kwesikhulu inkinga yezempilo yengqondo.

Ngenxa yokwelashwa, ukwelashwa nokusebenza kanzima okukhulu, sengikwamukele futhi ngiphethe iqiniso lokuthi ngiphila ngokukhathazeka okusebenza kahle. Namuhla ngiyawabona amaphethini wami wokucabanga nokuziphatha futhi ngisebenzisa amakhono asebenzayo ukungenelela lapho ngizizwa ngingena ku-vortex yokukhathazeka.

Ama-hacks ayisithupha alandelayo avela ngqo kulokho engangikuphila.

1. Zazi izimpawu zakho ukuthi ziyini

“Ingqondo
izifo ziyingxenye yemvelo, futhi ngizama ukukhumbula ukucabanga ngokukhathazeka kwami
njengoba ngingenza noma yisiphi esinye isimo somzimba. Lokhu kungisiza ukuba nginqande ukukhathazeka kwami
ngokuthi ngizizwa kanjani ngalesi sigaba. ”

Uyazazi yini izimpawu zokukhathazeka okuphezulu? Uma ungakwenzi, yazi. Uma wenza kanjalo, qonda futhi uvume ukuthi zikuthinta kanjani wena. Ukukhathazeka kukhahlela ubuchopho bethu ekucwaningeni ngokweqile. “Kungani, kungani, kungani ngizizwa kanjena?” Kwesinye isikhathi, kuba nempendulo elula: "Ngoba sinokukhathazeka." Ukukhazimula ngesinqumo esilula, ukulungiselela umhlangano ngokweqile, noma ukukhathazeka ngokweqile ngengxoxo ngokuvamile akusho lutho ngaphandle kokuthi ukukhathazeka kwami ​​kuyasebenza.

Izifo zengqondo ziyingxenye yezinto eziphilayo, futhi ngizama ukukhumbula ukucabanga ngokukhathazeka kwami ​​njengoba bengingenza esinye isimo somzimba. Lokhu kungisiza ukuthi nginqande ukukhathazeka kwami ​​ngokuthi ngizizwa kanjani ngephasi. Ngizitshela ukuthi, "Nginexhala futhi kulungile." Ngingakwemukela ukuthi namuhla kuyinselelo ethe xaxa futhi ngigxile emandleni ami esikhundleni sendlela engingazisiza ngayo.

2. Yenza abangane nokwesaba kwakho

Uma unexhala, ukwesaba kungumngane wakho. Ungahle ungathandi, kodwa kuyingxenye yempilo yakho. Futhi kukhuthaza kakhulu okwenzayo. Ngabe umile ukuhlola uhlobo lokwesaba kwakho? Ngabe uyixhumile emuva kokuhlangenwe nakho okwedlule okungenzeka kukutshele ukuthi awuhlakaniphile noma awuphumelelanga ngokwanele? Kungani kungani ugxile kakhulu ekwamukelweni ngabanye?

Kokuhlangenwe nakho kwami, ukukhathazeka akukwazi ukushaywa indiva noma ukuzenzisa kude. Ngosizo lomelaphi, ngama ukuze ngibheke ukwesaba kwami ​​ebusweni. Esikhundleni sokuyondla ngokukhathazeka okwengeziwe, ngasebenza ukuqonda ukuthi ivelaphi.

Isibonelo, ngiyabona ukuthi ukwesaba kwami ​​akukhona kangako ngokuba nesethulo sezinkanyezi kepha kumayelana nesidingo sami sokuthandwa nokwamukelwa. Lokhu kwazi kususe amanye amandla elinawo kimi.

Lapho sengiqale ukukuqonda, ukwesaba kwami ​​kwehla kancane, futhi ngakwazi ukwenza ukuxhumana okubucayi phakathi kwesisekelo sokwesaba kwami ​​nokuthi ngangiziphatha kanjani emsebenzini.

3. Xhuma kabusha nomzimba wakho

“Ngiyathatha
uhamba ngaphandle, kwesinye isikhathi ngesikhathi sami sekhefu sasemini. Ngiyazivocavoca. Ngenza i-yoga. Futhi nini
Ngizizwa ngimatasa kakhulu noma ngikhungatheke kakhulu… Ngiyazenza lezi zinto noma kunjalo. Ngoba ngidinga
ngisho noma kuyimizuzu eyi-10 noma engu-15 kuphela ”

Ukukhathazeka kuyinto engokomzimba njengoba kunjalo ngengqondo. Abantu abanenkinga yokusebenza okuphezulu bavame ukuhlala emakhanda abo futhi bakuthole kunzima ukuphula umjikelezo wokucabanga nokwesaba. Ngangivame ukuchitha amahora ayi-10 kuye kwayi-12 ehhovisi nsuku zonke, futhi ngingalokothi ngivivinye umzimba. Ngangizizwa nginamathele, ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ingxenye ebucayi yokuthi ngibhekana kanjani nezimpawu zami namuhla ukuxhuma kabusha nomzimba wami.

Ngisebenzisa ukuphefumula okujulile usuku lonke, nsuku zonke. Noma ngabe ngisemhlanganweni, kukhompyutha yami, noma ngishayela ngiya ekhaya kuthrafikhi, ngingaphefumula kancane, ukuze ngijikeleze umoya-mpilo omningi, ngikhulule imisipha yami, bese ngehlise umfutho wegazi. Ngilula etafuleni lami. Ngithatha ukuhamba ngaphandle, kwesinye isikhathi ngesikhathi sami sekhefu sasemini. Ngiyazivocavoca. Ngenza i-yoga.

Futhi lapho ngizizwa ngimatasa kakhulu noma ngicindezeleke kakhulu… ngiyazenza lezi zinto noma kunjalo. Ngoba ngiyazidinga, noma ngabe yimizuzu eyi-10 noma eyi-15 nje. Ukuba nobudlelwano obunempilo nomzimba wami kungikhipha ekhanda lami futhi ngishayele amandla ami ethukile ngendlela ebheke phambili.

4. Yiba nemantra, futhi uyisebenzise nsuku zonke

Ngifunde ukuthi ngingakhuluma kanjani ngokwesaba kwami. Lapho lelo zwi elingelincane kangako ngaphakathi liqala ukungitshela ukuthi anginele ngokwanele noma ukuthi ngidinga ukuzisunduza ngokwengeziwe, ngithuthukise amabinzana ambalwa ukusho kuwo:

"Engiyikho njengamanje ungifanele."

"Ngenza konke okusemandleni ami."

"Angiphelele futhi ngiyazithanda ngenxa yalokhu engiyikho."

"Kungifanele ukuzinakekela kahle."

Leli thuluzi lisiza kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokubhekana nesifo esiyinselele sokukhathazeka okusebenza okuphezulu: ukuphelela. Ukuba nemantra kuyanginika amandla, futhi kunginikeza ithuba lokuziqeqesha nokuzimela nokubhekana nokukhathazeka ngasikhathi sinye. Ngiyakhumbula ukuthi nginezwi nokuthi engikudingayo kubalulekile, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngempilo yami yengqondo.

5. Funda ukuthi ungangenelela kanjani kuwe

“Lapho
qala ukukhathazeka futhi uhlole emuva naphambili, emuva naphambili, ngiyama. Ngiyazenza
ngiqhele kunoma yini ebangela ukukhathazeka kwami. ”

Ukukhathazeka kudonsa ukukhathazeka, njengebhola elikhulu leqhwa eligingqika phansi. Lapho usuzibonile izimpawu zakho, ungafunda ukuthi ungangenelela kanjani lapho zivela, bese uphuma endleleni ngaphambi kokuba ugingqike.

Ngikuthola kunzima ukwenza izinqumo, noma ngabe kumayelana nokuklama incwajana noma ukukhetha uphawu lomuthi wokuwasha izitsha. Lapho ngiqala ukukhathazeka futhi ngihlola emuva naphambili, emuva naphambili, ngiyama. Ngizenza ngihambe kunoma yini ebangela ukukhathazeka kwami.

Ithuluzi elilodwa engilisebenzisayo yisibali sikhathi. Lapho i-timer icisha, ngiyaziphendulela futhi ngihamba. Uma ngibe neviki elinengcindezi ikakhulukazi emsebenzini, angikulandeli lokho ngempelasonto egcwele i-jam. Lokhu kungasho ukuthi "Cha" bese udumaza othile, kepha ngidinga ukubeka phambili impilo yami. Ngihlonze imisebenzi engaphandle komsebenzi engiduduzayo, futhi ngizinika isikhathi sokuba ngiyenze.

Ukufunda ukuthi ngilinganise kanjani imizwa yami nokuziphatha kwami ​​ekuphenduleni ukukhathazeka kube yinto ebalulekile ekulawuleni izimpawu zami, futhi kwehlise izinga lami lokucindezeleka.

6. Yakha iqembu lokusekela

Enye yezinto engangizesaba kakhulu kwakuwukutshela abantu emsebenzini ngokukhathazeka kwami. Ngangesaba ukutshela abantu abaseduze kwami ​​ukuthi nganginovalo - khuluma ngomjikelezo wokucabanga ongemuhle! Ngangiwela enkambisweni yokucabanga emnyama nomhlophe yokungatsheli muntu noma ukutshela wonke umuntu. Kepha sengifundile ukuthi kukhona okuphakathi okunempilo.

Ngafinyelela kubantu abambalwa ehhovisi engangizizwa ngikhululekile uma nginabo. Kuyasiza ngempela ukwazi ukukhuluma nomuntu oyedwa noma ababili uma unosuku olubi.Lokhu kwangithwalisa ingcindezi enkulu, ngoba ngangingasenamandla okusebenzisa usuku ngalunye ngombono ophakeme wokulindela okuhle. Ukusungula iqembu elincane lokusekelwa kwaba yisinyathelo sokuqala sokwakha ubuqiniso kimi, emsebenzini wami nasempilweni yami uqobo.

Ngithole nokuthi ukuvuleleka kwami ​​kusebenza ngazo zombili izindlela, ngoba ngisheshe ngathola ukuthi engisebenza nabo bazoza kimi, okwangenza ngazizwa ngijabule kakhulu ngesinqumo sami sokuvula.

Wonke lawa ma-hacks wempilo angahlanganiswa abe ibhokisi lamathuluzi lokukhathazeka elisebenza kahle kakhulu. Noma ngabe ngisemsebenzini noma ngisekhaya noma ngihamba nabangani, ngingawasebenzisa la makhono ukuzibuyisela esihlalweni somshayeli. Ukufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokukhathazeka akwenzeki ngokuphazima kweso, into esiyithayiphayo engu-A ingakhathaza. Kepha ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi uma ngifaka noma ingxenyana yaleyo ndlela yokuthola amandla amaningi empilweni yami, imiphumela izoba mihle.

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