Yiba ne-Orgasm Emangazayo: Yeka Ukuzama Ukuphuma

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Ingabe ngithatha isikhathi eside kakhulu? Kuthiwani uma ngikwazi ukwenza i-orgasm ngalesi sikhathi? Uyakhathala? Ingabe kufanele ngiyikhohlise? Abaningi bethu mhlawumbe bake baba nale micabango, noma uhlobo oluthile lwayo, kwesinye isikhathi noma kwesinye. Inkinga ukuthi, lolu hlobo lokuzihlola ngokwalo kwengqondo lubangela ukukhathazeka. Futhi ayikho indlela eqinisekile yokuvala ucansi lwakho kunengcindezi, kusho uthisha wezocansi u-Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., umbhali we Umhlahlandlela Wokuhle Embhedeni Wama-Orgasms Abesifazane.

Kungakho ephakamisa ukuya ocansini ngaphandle kwe-orgasm njengenhloso yakho yokugcina. Kwehlisa okunye kwalokhu kukhathazeka kokusebenza okuchoboza i-libido, kukushiye ukhululekile ukujabulela ucansi.

Futhi kukhona okuhlekisayo okwenzekayo lapho ususa i-orgasm yakho etafuleni, kunezela uNagoski. "Kufana nalokhu: Noma yini oyenzayo, ungacabangi ngebhere eligqoke itutu elibomvana. Kwenzekani?" Ucabanga into enjengale, akunjalo? "Uma uzama kanzima ungenzi okuthile, kulapho ukuqapha okuncane ebuchosheni bakho kubheka khona ukuthi uyathuthuka yini, nakho okungakwenza uvuke kakhudlwana." (Izindlela Eziyisi-8 Zokukhohlisa Ubukeka Njengochwepheshe Embhedeni.)

Kepha kungaba nzima ukukholisa amanye amadoda ukuthi empeleni, awufuni ukuphuma ngalesi sikhathi: Imvamisa abazizwa sengathi ucansi lwenziwe baze bafinyelele kuvuthondaba, futhi bacabanga ukuthi kunjalo ngabesifazane. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye abafana babona ikhono labo lokukunikeza i-orgasm njengesilinganiso sobudoda babo. (Izinto Ezi-8 Amadoda Afisa Abesifazane Bazazi Ngocansi.)

Ngakho lapho uxoxa ngendaba, zama ukuyibeka ngendlela ehlobene. "Mtshele ukuthi ukuthanda kangakanani ukulala naye, kodwa umazise ukuthi ubuzizwa unengcindezi enkulu yokuthi eze, nokuthi kwenza kube nzima ukuthi kwenzeke kuwe," kuphakamisa uNagoski. "Ungaze usho into enjengokuthi, 'Uma ngikhazimulise ipipi lakho ngakufunela ukwakhiwa njengamanje, kungaba nzima kuwe. Leyo yindlela engizizwa ngayo.'" Bese uthi ufuna ukuba ucansi ngaphandle kokucabanga nge-orgasming ukuze uzithokozise ngempela.

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