Okungaphezu Kokukhathala: Izindlela ezi-3 Zokuchaza Ukuthi Ukukhathala Okungapheli Kuyini Ngempela

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• Ukubaluleka kokuzizwa kuqondwa
• 1. Kuzwakala njengaleso senzakalo ku 'The Princess Bride'
• 2. Kuzwakala sengathi ngibona konke kusuka ngaphansi kwamanzi
• 3. Kuzwakala sengathi ngibheka incwadi engu-3-D ngaphandle kwezingilazi ezi-3-D

Akuwona umuzwa ofanayo nokuphelelwa amandla lapho uphilile.

Impilo nokuphila kahle kuthinta ngamunye wethu ngokuhlukile. Le yindaba yomuntu oyedwa.

“Sonke siyakhathala. Ngifisa sengathi nami ngangingalala njalo ntambama! ”

Ummeli wami okhubazekile wangibuza ukuthi yiziphi izimpawu zami ezingapheli zokukhathala (i-CFS) ezithinta kakhulu impilo yami yansuku zonke. Ngemuva kokumtshela ukuthi bekungukukhathala kwami, leyo kube yimpendulo yakhe.

I-CFS, kwesinye isikhathi ibizwa nge-myalgic encephalomyelitis, ivame ukuqondwa kabi ngabantu abangahlali nayo. Ngijwayele ukuthola izimpendulo njengezommeli wami lapho ngizama ukukhuluma ngezimpawu zami.

Nokho, iqiniso liwukuthi i-CFS ingaphezu nje kokuthi “ukhathele nje.” Kuyisifo esithinta izingxenye eziningi zomzimba wakho futhi sidale ukukhathala okuqeda amandla kangangokuthi abaningi abane-CFS balaliswa ngokuphelele embhedeni ngobude besikhathi obuhlukahlukene.

I-CFS ibuye ibangele nobuhlungu bemisipha nobokuhlangana, izingqinamba zokuqonda, futhi ikwenze uzwele ekugqugquzelweni kwangaphandle, njengokukhanya, umsindo, nokuthinta. Uphawu lwesimo lesi yi-malaise yangemva kokuzivocavoca, okuyilapho umuntu aphahlazeka ngokomzimba amahora, izinsuku, noma izinyanga ngemuva kokusebenzisa umzimba ngokweqile.

Ukubaluleka kokuzizwa kuqondwa

Ngikwazile ukuyibamba ndawonye ngenkathi ngisehhovisi lommeli wami, kodwa ngithe ngingaphandle ngavele ngakhala izinyembezi.

Yize ngizijwayele izimpendulo ezinjengokuthi “Nami ngiyakhathala” nokuthi “Ngifisa ukuthi ngingalala sonke isikhathi njengawe,” kusababuhlungu uma ngibezwa.

Ukubhekana nokugula okungalapheki nokukhubazeka sekuvele kungumzwangedwa futhi kuyahlukanisa, futhi ukungaqondwa kahle kwandisa leyo mizwa. Ngaphandle kwalokho, lapho abahlinzeki bezokwelapha noma abanye abanezindima ezibalulekile kwezempilo nasenhlalakahleni yethu bengasiqondi, kungathinta ikhwalithi yokunakekelwa esikutholayo.

Kubonakale kubaluleke kakhulu kimi ukuthola izindlela zokudala zokuchaza ubunzima engabhekana nabo neCFS ukuze abanye abantu baqonde kangcono engangibhekene nakho.

Kepha uyichaza kanjani into lapho omunye umuntu engenayo ifreyimu yereferensi yayo?

Uthola ukufana nesimo sakho ezintweni abantu abaziqondayo nabanolwazi oluqondile ngazo. Nazi izindlela ezintathu engizichaza ngokuhlala neCFS engizithole zilusizo ngokukhethekile.

1. Kuzwakala njengaleso senzakalo ku 'The Princess Bride'

Wake wayibona ifilimu ethi "The Princess Bride"? Kuleli filimu yakudala ka-1987, omunye wabalingiswa ababi, uCount Rugen, wasungula umshini wokuhlushwa obizwa nge- “The Machine” wokuncela impilo unyaka nonyaka wabantu.

Lapho izimpawu zami zeCFS zimbi, ngizizwa sengathi ngiboshelwe kulowo mshini wokuhlushwa noCount Rugen ehleka njengoba eguqula ukudayela kuya phezulu. Lapho esuswa kuMshini, iqhawe le-movie, uWesley, alikwazi ukunyakaza noma ukusebenza. Ngokufanayo, futhi kungithatha konke enginakho ukwenza noma yini engaphezu kokulala ngokuphelele.

Izinkomba ze-Pop-culture kanye nama-analogies kukhombisile ukuthi kuyindlela ephumelela kakhulu yokuchaza izimpawu zami kulabo abasondelene nami. Banikeza uhlaka lokubhekisela ezimpawu zami, ezenza zithandeke futhi zingajwayelekile kwamanye amazwe. Isici samahlaya kuzinkomba ezifana nalezi sisiza ekudambiseni okunye ukungezwani okuvame ukuvela lapho kukhulunywa ngokugula nokukhubazeka nalabo abangakutholi ngokwabo.

2. Kuzwakala sengathi ngibona konke kusuka ngaphansi kwamanzi

Okunye engikuthole kuwusizo ekuchazeleni izimpawu zami kwabanye ukusetshenziswa kwezingathekiso zemvelo. Isibonelo, ngingahle ngitshele othile ukuthi ubuhlungu bami bezinzwa buzwakala njengomlilo wasendle ogxuma usuka kolunye uhlangothi uya kolunye. Noma ngingahle ngichaze ukuthi ubunzima bokuqonda engibhekene nabo ngibona sengathi ngibona konke kusuka ngaphansi kwamanzi, kuhamba kancane futhi nje kungafinyeleleki.

Njengengxenye echazayo kunoveli, lezi zingathekiso zivumela abantu ukuba babone ngeso lengqondo engibhekene nakho, noma ngingenakho okuhlangenwe nakho kwami.

3. Kuzwakala sengathi ngibheka incwadi engu-3-D ngaphandle kwezingilazi ezi-3-D

Lapho ngisemncane, ngangithanda izincwadi eza nezingilazi ze-3-D. Ngangikhangwa ukubheka izincwadi ngaphandle kwezingilazi, ngibona izindlela izinki eziluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka nokubomvu ezazigqagqana ngayo kancane kodwa hhayi ngokuphelele. Kwesinye isikhathi, lapho ngizwa ukukhathala okunzima, yile ndlela engicabanga ngayo ngomzimba wami: njengezingxenye ezigqagqene ezingahlangani kahle, okwenza isipiliyoni sami sifiphaleke kancane. Umzimba nengqondo yami akuhambisani.

Ukusebenzisa okwenzeka emhlabeni jikelele noma kwansuku zonke umuntu okungenzeka ahlangane nakho empilweni yakhe kuyindlela ewusizo yokuchaza izimpawu. Ngithole ukuthi uma umuntu abe nokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo, maningi amathuba okuthi aqonde izimpawu zami - okungenani kancane.

Ukuqhamuka nalezi zindlela zokudlulisela okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​kwabanye kungisizile ngazizwa ngingeyedwa. Kuvunyelwe nalabo engibakhathalelayo ukuthi baqonde ukuthi ukukhathala kwami ​​kungaphezu kokukhathala.

Uma unomuntu empilweni yakho onesifo esingalapheki esiqondakala kanzima, ungamsekela ngokumlalela, umkholelwe, futhi uzame ukuqonda.

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