Izinyathelo ezi-5 Zokusebenza Ngokuhlukumezeka, Ngokusho Kwezokwelapha Osebenza Nabaphenduli Bokuqala

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• Ukuthobeka
• Ukubekezela
• Uzwela
• Ukuthethelela
• Ukukhula
• Buyekeza kwe-

Ezikhathini ezingakaze zibonwe, kungaduduza ukubheka abantu abakhonza abanye njengesikhumbuzo sokubekezela komuntu nokuthi kusekhona okuhle emhlabeni. Ukuze ufunde kabanzi mayelana nokuthi ungahlala kanjani unethemba ngesikhathi sokuxineka okukhulu, kungani ungabheki kumuntu osiza labo bantu abasemigqeni engaphambili ukuthi babhekane nalokhu?

ULaurie Nadel, udokotela wezifo zengqondo oseNew York City futhi ongumbhali we Izipho Eziyisihlanu: Ukuthola Ukuphulukiswa, Ithemba Namandla Lapho Kugadla Inhlekelele, usechithe iminyaka engu-20 edlule esebenza nabaphenduli bokuqala, abasinde enhlekeleleni, kanye nabantu abaphila ezikhathini zokucindezeleka okukhulu—kuhlanganise nezingane ezashonelwa abazali ngo-September 11, imindeni eyalahlekelwa amakhaya phakathi neSiphepho uSandy, nothisha ababekhona eMarjory Stoneman Douglas Elementary. ngesikhathi sokudubula eParkland, Fl. Futhi manje, iziguli zakhe zifaka abaphenduli bokuqala bezokwelapha abalwa nobhadane lwe-COVID-19.

"Ngibiza abaphenduli bokuqala ngamaqhawe azwelayo," kusho uNadel. "Baqeqeshiwe futhi banamakhono okubeka izimpilo zabanye abantu phambili." Kodwa-ke, ngokusho kukaNadel, bonke basebenzisa igama elilodwa ukuchaza ukuthi bazizwa kanjani njengamanje: bakhungathekile.

"Lapho ubhekene nezenzakalo eziphazamisayo, kudala izimpawu ze-visceral, ezingokomzimba, ezingahlanganisa umuzwa wokungabi namandla nomuzwa wokwesaba-futhi ngisho nochwepheshe banayo le mizwa," kusho uNadel. "Le mizwa eyeqile ijwayelekile ngoba uke waba sesimeni esibi kakhulu."

Kukhona ithuba elihle lokuthi nawe uzizwe ngaleyo ndlela, noma ngabe ukhosele endaweni. Ukuhlukumezeka ngalezi zikhathi ezingaqinisekile akugcini kubaphenduli bokuqala (noma, esimweni sobhubhane lwe-coronavirus, izisebenzi ezihamba phambili, ochwepheshe bezokwelapha, noma abantu abachayeka ngokuqondile egciwaneni). Kungabangelwa futhi ukubona izithombe eziphazamisayo noma ukuzwa izindaba ezicasulayo — izimo ezimbili ezifanele ikakhulukazi ngenkathi zigcinwa zodwa, lapho izindaba zingudonga nodonga i-COVID-19.

Lokho abantu ababhekene nakho manje ukucindezela okukhulu, okungazizwa kufana ne-PTSD, kusho uNadel. "Abantu abaningi babika ngokuphazamiseka ezindleleni zokulala nokudla," esho. "Ukuphila ngalokhu kuyakhathaza kakhulu emqondweni ngoba zonke izinhlaka zethu zokujwayela isimo seziqediwe."

Nakuba abaphenduli bokuqala beqeqeshiwe—esikoleni nangokuhlangenwe nakho komsebenzi—ukusingatha izimo ezicindezelayo, bangabantu kuphela, futhi badinga amakhono nesiqondiso ukuze babhekane nakho, futhi. (Bheka: Ungabhekana Kanjani Nengcindezi Njengomsebenzi Obalulekile Ngesikhathi Se-COVID-19)

UNadel weza nezindlela ezithile zokulawula ingcindezi ezincike kokuhlangenwe nakho kanye nokuphendula kwabaphenduli bokuqala — lokho akubiza ngokuthi izipho ezinhlanu zokubekezela — ukusiza ukubeluleka bona kanye nanoma ngubani omunye othinteke ngqo ezinhlekeleleni. Uthole ukuthi lezi zinyathelo zisiza abantu ukuthi badlulise usizi, intukuthelo, nokukhathazeka okuqhubekayo okuvela ekuhlukumezeni abakubonile. U-Nadel uchaza inqubo yengqondo kulabo abaphakathi kwesimo esibucayi esingabasiza ukuba baphule futhi babhekane ngokuphumelelayo nenselele ngayinye njengoba ifika. (Uthole ukuthi abantu bajwayele ukubhekana nezimpawu ngale ndlela, yize ekhuthaza abantu ukuthi bazithobe uma bezithola ngokuhlukile.)

Lapha, udabula ngasinye sezipho noma imizwa nokuthi zingasiza kanjani ngalesi sikhathi — kubasebenzi bokuqala abaphambili nalabo abahlaliswe bodwa ekhaya.

Ukuthobeka

"Kunzima kakhulu ukwamukela into ongacabangeki," njengenhlekelele yemvelo noma ubhubhane, kusho uNadel. "Kodwa ukuthobeka kusisiza ukwamukela ukuthi kunamandla amakhulu kunathi - ukuthi akuyona yonke into ephethwe yithi."

“Siyazithoba uma umhlaba usinyakazisa ezimpandeni zethu bese siqala ukuhlola ukuthi yini ebalulekile empilweni yethu,” kusho uNadel. Uphakamisa ukuthi uthathe imizuzu emihlanu ucabange ngezinto ezibalulekile kuwena-ngisho noma zithintwe yi-coronavirus (noma esinye isigameko esibuhlungu okukhulunywa ngaso), lapho ungacabanga ngalokho othathe uthathe ezikhathini ezimnandi. Ngemuva kokuphela kwemizuzu emihlanu, yenza uhlu lwalezo zinto bese ulikhomba ngokuzayo lapho uqala ukukhathazeka noma uzizwe ukhungathekile, okufana nomkhuba wokubonga.

(Bona: Ukuthi Ukukhathazeka Kwami Konke Okwenzeka Empilweni Kungisize Kanjani Ukubhekana Nenkinga YeCoronavirus)

Ukubekezela

Lapho sonke sibuyela endleleni yokuphila kwakho kwansuku zonke, kuzoba lula ukukhohlwa ukuthi abantu abaningi basazabalaza ngokwengqondo (futhi mhlawumbe ngokomzimba) emiphumeleni ye-COVID-19, noma ngabe babazi othile ompilo yakhe yanyuselwa noma babhekana nosizi ngokwabo. Ngalesi sehlakalo, kuzobaluleke kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili ukuthola ukubekezela ngesikhathi sokuphulukiswa kuwe nakwabanye. "Ukubekezela kuzokusiza uqonde ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi usazizwa ulimele ngemuva kokuphela komcimbi futhi leyo mizwa ingabuya ngezikhathi ezehlukene." Cishe awukho umugqa wokuqeda noma umgomo wokuqeda-kuzoba inqubo ende yokwelashwa.

Uma, ngemuva kokwenyuswa kokuvalwa, usakhathazekile ngokunye ukuvalelwa noma umsebenzi wakho—lokho kujwayelekile. Ungazithukutheli ngokuqhubeka nokucabanga ngalokhu nakuba izindaba sezidlulele phambili.

Uzwela

"Sibona ukuzwelana okukhulu manje ngokuxhuma nangomphakathi," kusho uNadel, ebhekisa ekukhishweni kokusekelwa komphakathi kwezingenzi-nzuzo namabhange okudla, kanye nemizamo yokuxhasa abasebenzi bezempilo ngokuqongelela imali, ngokunikela ngezinto zokuzivikela (PPE) ), kanye nokujabula ngesikhathi sokushintsha kwamashifu emadolobheni amakhulu. Zonke lezo zinto ziyizindlela ezinhle zokusebenzisa uzwela kulo mzuzu wamanje ukusiza abantu badlule kulesi sikhathi esinzima. "Kodwa futhi sidinga ukuzwelana okusimeme," kusho uNadel.

Ukufeza lokhu, uNadel uthi kudingeka sazi ukuthi abanye abantu-abaphenduli bokuqala kanye nabanye ababevalelwe bodwa noma abanokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu-kungathatha isikhathi eside ukwelashwa, futhi kufanele sibasekele ngokuzayo. "Uzwela luyabona ukuthi inhliziyo inezikhathi zayo futhi ukwelashwa akuyona into eqondile," kusho uNadel. "Esikhundleni salokho, zama ukubuza, 'Udingani? Ingabe kukhona engingakwenza?'" Ngisho nangemva kokuphela kwalesi sikhathi sokuqala sokungaqiniseki.

Ukuthethelela

Ingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokuphulukisa ukuzixolela ngoba awukwazanga ukunqanda lokhu ukuthi kwenzeke kwasekuqaleni, kusho uNadel. "Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa uthukuthele ngenxa yokuzizwa ungenalusizo," ikakhulukazi uma kungekho omunye umuntu noma enye into ephathekayo ongayisola.

"Wonke umuntu ufuna isikhohlakali, futhi kwesinye isikhathi lezi zinto aziqondakali," usho kanje. "Kufanele sisebenzele ukuthethelela noma yimaphi amandla anesibopho sokuba nomthelela omkhulu kangaka futhi siphoqelele uhlobo loshintsho ezimpilweni zethu esingaluthandi - njengokuzihlukanisa yedwa."

UNadel uphinde waveza ukuthi ukuvalelwa ejele kungadala ukucasuka — ukulwa nalokhu, ukhuthaza abantu ukuthi bazijwayeze ukuxolelana beqala ngabantu ababazungezile. Ekuzixoleleni nakwabanye, kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi uqaphela izimfanelo ezinhle, ezinozwela, nezinamandla — futhi ukhumbule ukuthi, ezimeni eziningi, abantu bazama konke okusemandleni abo ngaphansi kwezimo ezinzima.

Ukukhula

“Lesi sinyathelo sizofika lapho ngelinye ilanga ungabheka emuva kulo mcimbi bese uthi, ‘Ngifisa sengathi ngabe akukaze kwenzeke lokho futhi angisoze ngakufisela omunye umuntu, kodwa ngabe angiyilokhu engiyikho ukube angizange. ngifunde engikudingayo ukuze ngikufunde, '"kusho uNadel.

Lesi sipho singakusiza futhi ukuthi udlule ezikhathini ezinzima ukuze ufike kulelo qophelo; okuhlinzekwa yilesi sipho esikhathini samanje kuyithemba, usho kanjalo. Ungayisebenzisa njengendlela yokuzindla. Thatha isikhashana ukugxila esikhathini esizayo lapho "ungazizwa ukuthi kunjani ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ukuthi ukhule uqine ngenxa yalokho okufundile kule nkathi yobunzima."

Zama ukwenza uhlu lwazo zonke izinto ezinhle eziye zavela kulobu bunzima—kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukugxila okwengeziwe emndenini noma ukuzibophezela ekuzibophezeleni kancane kuma-akhawunti akho ezinkundla zokuxhumana. Futhi ungabhala phansi ubunzima obubhekane nabo ukuze ukhumbule ukuzithoba kuwe ngokwakho nakwabanye njengoba uqhubekela phambili.

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