Ukugijima Nesoka Lami Kushintshe Indlela Engicabanga Ngayo Ukuzivocavoca

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Lapho ngineminyaka engu-7, ubaba wami waqala ukulungiselela mina kanye nomfowethu iminyaka emihlanu esikoleni sethu samabanga aphansi. Ubesishayela siye kuthrekhi yesikole samabanga aphezulu nesikhathi lapho besizungeza khona, egxeka amagxathu ethu, ukunyakaza kwengalo, nokwehla kwezinyathelo ezisekugcineni.

Lapho ngiwina indawo yesibili ekugijimeni kwami ​​kokuqala, ngakhala. Ngambuka umfowethu ephonsa phezulu lapho ewela intambo futhi ngizibona nginqena ngokwehluleka ukufinyelela kulelo banga lokukhathala ngokuphelele.

Eminyakeni eyalandela, umfowethu wayezowina imincintiswano yabasebenzi basekolishi ngokugwedla aze aphalaze, bese ngivele ngiwele enkundleni yethenisi ngemuva kokusebenzisa ngokweqile iseluleko sikababa sokuthi "yiba lukhuni," ngicabanga ukuthi kuzoba buthakathaka ukuyeka. Kepha ngabuye ngaqhubeka nokuthweswa iziqu zami ekolishi nge-4.0 GPA futhi ngaba umbhali ophumelelayo ochwepheshe.

Ukugijima kuthathe isihlalo sangemuva kwaze kwaba kamuva eminyakeni engama-20 lapho ngihlala nesoka lami futhi sakha ama-jogs ngemuva kokusebenza azungeze indawo yangakithi. Kodwa, nansi into: Wangihlanyisa ngoba wayema ​​njalo lapho ekhathele. Kwakungeyona yini iphuzu lokuzivocavoca lonke ukucindezela umkhawulo womzimba wakho? Ngangigijimela phambili bese ngibuyela emuva ngiyohlangabeza-uNkulunkulu unqabe ukuthi izinyawo zami ziyeke ukuhamba. (Lolu hlobo lokucabanga konke noma okungenalutho empeleni akuyona inqubo ehamba phambili yokusebenza. Funda kabanzi ngokuthi kungani kufanele uziqeqeshele isikhathi sokuzivocavoca esiphelele, hhayi ngejubane noma ibanga.)

Ngaqala ukuqaphela lokhu kwehluka kwengqondo emikhubeni yethu yokuphila, futhi. Lapho sisebenza ndawonye ekhaya, wayebuyela esofeni lapho edinga ukuphumula, bese ngivuka ngolaka. Wayecabangani? Ubengazi yini ukuthi lamakhefu angadingekile azolula usuku lwakhe lokusebenza?

Ngolunye usuku, wazama ukungifaka ngentambo engubeni ngesikhathi sakhe sokulala. “Ngiyazama ukungalithathi ikhefu ngoba bese ngisheshe ngenze umsebenzi,” kusho mina.

"Ngiyazama ukuthatha amakhefu ngoba bese ngijabulela impilo kakhulu," ushaye wabuya.

Kuyavunywa, umcabango wami wokuqala wawuthi lokho kuzokutholani? Kodwa-ke ngathi kimi, ukujabulela impilo-umqondo onjani.

Uhlobo lwami lokujabulela impilo belulokhu luphusha kanzima ukuze ngithole umsebenzi (noma ukusebenzisa) kwenziwe ngokushesha ukuze ngithole isikhathi esithe xaxa ngemuva kwalokho-njengoba ubaba wami angifundisile. Kodwa, uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, ngingavele ngisebenzise leso sikhathi "samahhala" ukwenza umsebenzi owengeziwe. Ngomfanekiso (futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngokoqobo) ngenkathi isoka lami lihamba ngezikhathi ezithile, bengingaphaya ngigijima umncintiswano wokuzithokozisa okulibazisekile ongakaze ufike.

Phakathi nokugijima ngenye impelasonto ntambama, ngakhungatheka kakhulu ngokuma nokuhamba kwakhe kangangokuthi ngabuza, "Yini onethemba lokuzuza ngokuthatha ikhefu?"

"Angazi," ephakamisa amahlombe. "Yini othemba ukuyizuza ngokugijima ungami?"

“Zilolonge,” ngisho. Impendulo ethembeke ngokwengeziwe ngabe: Isidingo sokujikijela noma ukuwa. Umuzwa wokufeza okuza nalokho.

Ukuqeqesha kwami ​​okungacashile kwakungasho lutho, futhi ngakubona lokho. Wayengaqeqesheli lutho. Wayezama nje ukujabulela ukukhanya kwelanga entwasahlobo-futhi ngangimosha intokozo yakhe. (Okuhlobene: Ukugijima Kwangisiza Ekugcineni Nganqoba Ukucindezeleka Kwangemva Kokubeletha)

Mhlawumbe umgxeki wami wangaphakathi oziqondise naye wayekhule engasebenzi kahle, angikwazi ukukucisha eduze kwabanye. Noma mhlawumbe, ukutshela umlingani wami ukuthi asondele emsebenzini, azivocavoce, kanye nempilo ngendlela engangiyenza ngayo kwakuwumzamo wokuziqinisekisa ukuthi indlela yami yokwenza ilungile. Kodwa ingabe ngangiziqinisekisa ngempela, noma ngangiqinisekisa ubaba wami?

Yilapho-ke okwangithinta khona: Isiyalo, ukusebenza kanzima, kanye nekhono lokudlulisa iphuzu lapho ufuna ukuyeka ukuthi ubaba wangifaka kimi kungifikise kude emsebenzini wami, kepha lezi zimfanelo zazingangisebenzisi ekugijimeni kwami. Babengenza ngicindezeleke futhi ngikhathazeke kakhulu phakathi nalokho okwakufanele kube ukuphuka ezingcindezini zosuku lwami lokusebenza; isikhathi sokuphumula nokususa ikhanda lami.

Ngenkathi ngijabula ukuthi ubaba wami wangifundisa ukuthi ukuziphoqa kuyazuzisa, sengifunde ukuthi kunezincazelo eziningi ezahlukahlukene zomvuzo. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba akuyona impumelelo uma kukwenza ugule emzimbeni ngaphandle kwenjongo. Ukugoqa akusho ukuthi unikele ngaphezu komuntu oseduze kwakho. Futhi lolo hlobo lomqondo oqinile alukuvumeli ukuthi ujabulele impilo futhi ujabulele ukunyakaza.

Ngakho-ke nganquma ukuyeka ukushintsha izinsuku zethu zokugijima ngizenze esinye iseshini yokuqeqeshwa komjaho. Ngangithatha isitayela sesoka lami: ukumisa isikhashana emakethe yezikhuni ukuthola ijusi lepomegranati elisanda kufinywa, ukuhlala ngaphansi kwesihlahla ngomthunzi othile, nokucosha izigaxa ze-ayisikhilimu lapho usiya ekhaya. (Okuhlobene: Engikufundile Ngokubeka Izinjongo Zokuqina Ngemuva Kokuqalisa i-5K Yami Yokuqala)

Lapho sibuya emjahweni wethu wokuqala wokuzilibazisa, ngaxolisa kuye ngesimo sami sengqondo sokuprakthiza, ngixoxa izindaba zomsebenzi wami wokugijima wesikhashana wobuntwana. "Ngicabanga ukuthi ngiba ubaba wami," kusho mina.

“Ngakho-ke, ngithola umqeqeshi wamahhala,” encokola. "Kwakuhle."

"Yebo." Ngicabange ngakho. "Ngicabanga ukuthi nami ngikwenzile."

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