Ungaba Kanjani Umuntu Ongcono Kuzinyathelo Ezingu-12

-Delile

• 1. Hlakulela ukubonga
• 2. Bingelela wonke umuntu ohlangana naye
• 3. Zama ubuthi emzimbeni
• 4. Sebenzisa inkulumo yakho eyakhayo
• 5. Prakthiza izenzo ezingahleliwe zomusa
• 6. Yidla okungenani isidlo esisodwa ngengqondo
• 7. Lala ngokwanele
• 8. Phefumula ngokuqaphela
• 9. Hlanza imizuzu engama-30
• 10. Zithethelele wena nabanye
• 11. Bamba iqhaza ekuzinakekeleni
• 12. Yiba nomusa kuwe
• Okubalulekile

Kuyinto evamile ukuzizwa sengathi ungenza okuningi uma kukhulunywa ngokuzithuthukisa. Kodwa ukuba umuntu ongcono akubandakanyi ukuzikhandla ngokweqile kuwe. Eqinisweni, kuphambene impela.

Lapho uzikhuthaza ngokwengeziwe futhi uzwela ngokwengeziwe, uyobe ukuhlomela ngokwengeziwe ukuphatha labo abakuzungezile ngendlela efanayo. Futhi, ukwenzela abanye okuhle kunganikeza impilo yakho umqondo ojulile wencazelo. Kungasiza nokuthuthukisa impilo yakho ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo.

Nakhu ukubuka ezinye izindlela zokwakha ukuzithuthukisa enkambisweni yakho yansuku zonke futhi uyeke imicabango engemihle ngawe.

1. Hlakulela ukubonga

Mhlawumbe uzwile izikhathi eziyizigidi, kodwa ukugcina iphephabhuku lokubonga lalokhu okubongayo kungaba nomthelela omkhulu emqondweni wakho. Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukufaka ukubonga empilweni yakho yansuku zonke kungasiza ukuvimbela ukucindezeleka, ukuthuthukisa ukulala, nokuhlakulela ubudlelwane obuhle bomphakathi.

U-Anna Hennings, MA, umqeqeshi wokusebenza kwengqondo kwi-psychology yezemidlalo, uncoma ukusebenzisa i-GIFT efushanisiwe ukukusiza ukuthi ubone ukuthi yini oyithandayo.

Uma ucabanga ngezinto ozibongayo, funa izimo ze:

• Growth: ukukhula komuntu, njengokufunda ikhono elisha
• Minanspiration: izikhathi noma izinto ezikukhuthazile
• Friends / umndeni: abantu abacebisa impilo yakho
• Ti-ranquility: izikhathi ezincane, eziphakathi, njengokujabulela inkomishi yekhofi noma incwadi enhle
• Surprise: okungalindelekile noma umusa omuhle

Lapho ufaka kuhlu izinto ozibongayo, uphawula uHennings, qiniseka futhi ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi kungani leyo nto ikwenza ubonge.

2. Bingelela wonke umuntu ohlangana naye

Noma ngabe uvuma ngekhanda noma umoyizela abantu ongabazi abadlulayo noma uthi “sawubona” kubo bonke abangena ehhovisi, yenza umzamo wokwazisa labo abaseduze kwakho lapho ubabona, kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMadeleine Mason Roantree.

Ngokwenza njalo, uzoqaphela ukuthi ungazithola uzizwa ukhona kakhulu futhi uxhumeke kulabo abaseduze kwakho, noma ngabe ungenabo ubudlelwano obuseduze nabo.

3. Zama ubuthi emzimbeni

Ukukhipha isikhashana ngisho nesikhathi esincane kungasiza enhlalakahleni yakho. Ngokuzayo lapho uzithola ungenalutho ongalwenza, shiya kude nefoni yakho amahora ambalwa.

Esikhundleni salokho, zama ukuhambahamba futhi uxhuma nemicabango yakho.

Shiya kude nefoni yakho amahora ambalwa noma uthathe usuku lonke kumadivayisi. Esikhundleni salokho, zama ukuphuma ngaphandle futhi uxhumane nemvelo, noma uhlangane nabangani be-IRL. Khumbula: Noma ikhefu elifushane efonini yakho lingakusiza ekuphumuleni futhi ugxile kokukulethela injabulo.

4. Sebenzisa inkulumo yakho eyakhayo

Kulula ukubanjwa ngokuba nokhahlo ngokweqile nokugxeka ukwehluleka kwakho okubonakalayo. Le nkulumo yokuzikhulumela engemihle, engenamsebenzi inganciphisa isisusa sethu, kuchaza uHennings.

Uma uhlala uzitshela ukuthi awuyena umuntu olungile, ngokwesibonelo, kunzima ukuthola ugqozi lokuthatha izinyathelo zokuzithuthukisa.

Zijwayeze ukukhuluma ngokwakho ngokusho iqiniso bese ulandela ithemba elithile.

Ngesikhathi esilandelayo lapho uzizwa uzizwa ungenakho ukusebenza noma ukhungathekile, zama ukuzitshela:

“Ngiyazi ukuthi lolu shintsho luzoba yinselelo, kodwa ngibeke umcabango omkhulu kulo futhi ngicabange zonke izinketho ezingivulekele [iqiniso], ngakho-ke ngizethemba ukuthi ngenza konke okusemandleni ami kulo mzuzu [ithemba].”

Ingxenye enzima ukuzibamba esenzweni sokucabanga okungalungile futhi unquma ngamabomu ukucabanga ngokuhlukile. Kepha ngokuzijwayeza kancane, lokhu kuzoba lula.

5. Prakthiza izenzo ezingahleliwe zomusa

Ukuba nomusa kwabanye kungakusiza kukunikeze umuzwa wenjongo futhi kukwenze uzizwe unganakiwe.

Zama ukwenza okuthile okuhle komunye umuntu ngokungahleliwe:

• Khokha ukuncoma umuntu ongamazi.
• Thenga uzakwenu ukudla kwasemini.
• Thumela ikhadi kumngani.
• Nikela kumuntu oswele.

"Uzoqaphela imizwa yakho iphakama kancane lapho wenza okuhle ngenjabulo enkulu yalokho," kusho uRoantree. khombisa ukuthi ukubala nje izenzo zomusa isonto elilodwa kungakhuphula injabulo nokubonga.

6. Yidla okungenani isidlo esisodwa ngengqondo

Uma ubanjwe phakathi nosuku olumatasa, kuyalinga ukushesha ngesidlo sakho ngaphandle kokulalela umzimba wakho.

Ukudla okucabangayo kukunikeza ithuba lokuhlola imizwa yakho yomzimba kanye nemizwa yakho.

Khetha ukudla, noma ngabe kuyisemishi nje, bese uzinika isikhathi sakho ukusidla. Phawula okuthandwa nokuthungwa okungafani. "Luhlobo lokuzindla okuncane olungenza njenge-'dressor 'elula," kusho uRoantree.

Awuqinisekile ukuthi uzoqala kuphi? Umhlahlandlela wethu ekudleni okunengqondo ungasiza.

7. Lala ngokwanele

Ukungazizwa uphumule ngokuphelele kungenza uzizwe unamahloni futhi ungakhiqizi usuku lonke. Zama ukulala amahora ayisikhombisa kuya kwayisishiyagalombili ubusuku ngabunye.

Thola izindlela zokuthuthukisa ikhwalithi yokulala kwakho ngokunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwakho kwe-caffeine emini, uthathe isengezo se-melatonin, noma uphumule kubhavu oshisayo noma eshaweni ngaphambi kokulala.

Bheka lezi ezinye izeluleko zokuthola ukuphumula okungcono ebusuku.

8. Phefumula ngokuqaphela

Thatha isikhashana esitobhini sebhasi, kulayini esitolo, noma ngaphambi kokuvuma ngekhanda ulale ukugxila ekuphefumuleni kwakho. Ukuprakthiza ngisho imizuzu embalwa ngosuku lokuphefumula okujulile kukhonjisiwe ukuqala impendulo yokuphumula komzimba wethu nokulawula ukucindezeleka.

URoantree uphakamisa ukuzama le nqubo elandelayo:

• Donsa njengoba ujwayele ukwenza.
• Khipha umoya, uqiniseke ukuthi uthatha isikhathi eside kunaleso osithathile ukuhogela.
• Phinda le nqubo uze uqale ukuzizwa ukhululekile. Uma ukhetha ukubala, zama ukuphefumulela ukubala okungu-4, ubambe ukubala okungu-7, bese ukhipha umoya ukubala okungu-8.

9. Hlanza imizuzu engama-30

Indlela ozizwa ngayo ngekhaya lakho ingaba nomthelela ekutheni isikhathi sakho lapho sibuyiselwe noma sinengcindezi.

Ngokuzayo lapho unemizuzu engu-30 eyisipele, setha isibali sikhathi bese wenza imisebenzi yasekhaya esheshayo ezokwengeza ukukhanya okuncane osukwini lwakho, njenge:

• ukuhlanza isibuko sakho sokugezela
• ulenga leso sithombe osithandayo kodwa ungakafiki ekuboniseni
• ukusula edeskini lakho

Zivuze ngokuthatha isikhashana ukujabulela isikhala sakho esivuselelwe - yenza imaski yobuso endlini yakho yokugezela esanda kuhlanzwa, isibonelo.

10. Zithethelele wena nabanye

Ukubamba ukuzisola, ubuhlungu, nentukuthelo kulimaza abanye. Kepha futhi kuyakulimaza. Uma uzwa noma iyiphi yale mizwa, ithinta imizwa yakho nokuthi ubaphatha kanjani bonke abantu, kufaka phakathi wena uqobo.

"Ukugcina ukungathetheleli kudambisa imicabango engemihle," kusho uCatherine Jackson, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo somtholampilo nelayisensi yezinzwa. "Nquma ukuyidedela bese wenza uhlelo lokuthi ungalali uthukuthele."

Bheka amathiphu ethu wokuvumela okwedlule.

11. Bamba iqhaza ekuzinakekeleni

Sivame ukucabanga ngokuzinakekela njengokwelashwa kwe-manicure kanye ne-spa (okuyizindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuphazamisa). Kepha ngokusho kukaJackson, ukuzinakekela nsuku zonke kudlulela ngaphezu kokutotosa. "Kuphathelene nokudla kahle nokuthola umsoco owenele ukuxhasa ubuchopho nomzimba wakho," uyachaza.

Ngokufanayo, qiniseka ukuthi uzivocavoca umzimba noma uhambisa umzimba wakho engqondweni, uzinike isikhathi sokuxhumana nabanye, futhi ube nesikhathi sokuphumula noma sokuphumula.

Lokhu akudingeki kube yimizamo edla isikhathi. Funa amaphakethe esikhathi esisheshayo ayimizuzu eyi-10 noma engama-20 osukwini lwakho lapho ungaphumela ngaphandle ukuze uhambe noma uzilungiselele isitsha sezithelo ezintsha.

12. Yiba nomusa kuwe

Abaningi bethu banomkhuba wokuhlala isikhathi eside entweni esitshelwe yona, siyiphinde kaningi emiqondweni yethu.Esikhundleni sokuthatha izinto uqobo nokuzigxeka, uJackson uncoma ukuthi sinikeze uzwela nokuqonda komunye umuntu, kanye nakithi uqobo.

Cabanga ngazo zonke izindlela owenza ngazo umthelela omuhle kulabo abaseduze kwakho bese uzama ukuzibhala phansi usuku ngalunye. Futhi, lokhu akudingeki kube yizenzo ezinhle kakhulu.

Mhlawumbe uvule umnyango womuntu ophethe izikhwama ezisindayo. Noma uqale ukwenza ibhodwe elisha lekhofi emsebenzini lapho uqaphela ukuthi sekuya phansi.

Uma uthola ukuthi usalwela ukushintsha isimo sakho sengqondo, uJackson weluleka ukuthi ucabange ngale ndlela: “Kusasa usuku olusha, ngakho-ke uma uzishaya namuhla ngokuthize, ziyeke bese uyaqala kabusha kusasa . ”

Zama ukuziphatha ngendlela ozoziphatha ngayo othandekayo. Ngabe uhlala ukhulumela phansi umngani wakho omkhulu uma bebenosuku "lokuphumula" bese belahla ibhola entweni ethile?

Sethemba ukuthi akunjalo. Futhi akufanele ukhulume wedwa ngaleyo ndlela, futhi.

Okubalulekile

Kujwayelekile ukubambeka ekuzameni ukuba yinguqulo yakho uqobo. Kepha ukuba umuntu ongcono kuqala ngokuziphatha ngomusa wothando ofana nowabanye.

Lokhu kusho ukuthi ungazihluleli kanzima lapho wehluleka ukufinyelela ezinhlosweni zakho futhi uzibonisa ukubekezela nozwela ezinsukwini zakho ezimbi.

Khumbula ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi zokuba umuntu ongcono, futhi lezo ezinikezwa lapha zimbalwa nje. Thola ukuthi yini ezwakala ijabulisa kakhulu futhi ikondla bese uzama ukuyakha empilweni yakho yansuku zonke.