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Bheka, akunakuphikwa ukuthi kubonakala kuyindlela enhle, ezolile yokuqala usuku lwakho ngonyawo olulungile. Kepha, kubantu abaningi, kubukeka sengathi akunangqondo.

Ngabe kuzwakala kanjani lapho umuntu ojwayelekile, onenkinga yesikhathi abona abathonya, osaziwayo, noma abantu abangafihli iqiniso ababaziyo abanendlela yokuphila ehluke kakhulu, bephindaphinda kubalulekile uhlobo lomkhuba wasekuseni - ohlanganisa ama-latte enziwe emshinini obizayo we-Starbucks-grade kanye nenqwaba yemikhiqizo yokunakekelwa kwesikhumba ebizayo, konke okwenziwa ngemuva kwekhaya elikhethwe kahle? Isimanga! Hhayi kuhle.

Eqinisweni, umphumela wokubuka kaninginingi lezi zimpawu "eziphelele" zingalimaza impilo yakho yengqondo, ngokusho kukaTerri Bacow, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo emtholampilo eNew York City. (Okuhlobene: Indlela Izinsiza Zokuxhumana Zabantu Abasaziwayo Ezithinta Ngayo Impilo Yengqondo Yakho Nesithombe Sakho)

"Abantu abanelungelo, ngingaphikisana, babe nesikhathi esengeziwe, babe nemali eningi, babe nomkhawulokudonsa omningi, kusho uBacow. "Uma unemisebenzi emibili, uma udonsa kanzima ukuze uphile, ngeke ucabange. of [ukudala lolu hlobo lwenqubo yasekuseni] njengecebo lokubhekana nesimo. I-psychology eminingi igxila ekuzethembeni. Ukubona lokhu okuqukethwe akusizi, ikakhulukazi uma usuvele uzizwa unaleyo nkinga yesisekelo. "(Okuhlobene: Ungasenza Kanjani Isikhathi Sokuzinakekela Uma Ungenakho)

Futhi abantu abaningi kukhona ukuzwa lokho kungavikeleki njengamanje. Mhlawumbe ungumzali ozama ukuphatha ukusebenza ekhaya ngaphandle kokunakekela izingane.Mhlawumbe ungomunye wabantu abaningi abalahlekelwe umsebenzi phakathi nalolu bhubhane. Mhlawumbe unenkinga yokubambelela ebudlelwaneni bakho bomuntu siqu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi, uma kakade ukhathazekile ngokuthi awufinyeleli okulindelekile endaweni eyodwa yokuphila, le milayezo emayelana "nokuphila impilo yakho engcono kakhulu njalo ekuseni" ingenza lowo muzwa ube mubi kakhulu, kuchaza u-Bacow. Futhi noma ngabe ungazizwa sengathi uyasilela, umlando wokuthi udinga ukubeka phambili ukuzinakekela ngaphambi kokuthi uqale ngisho nosuku lwakho ungakhathaza okungenani. Njengokungathi ibingekho kakade ingcindezi eyanele yokumane uyeke ukushaya inkinobho yokusnuza (okungukuthi, ukwenza kanjalo kungakwenza uthukuthelise), manje utshelwa ukuthi udinga ukuvuka kusenesikhathi ukuze ube nesikhathi esanele sokwenza i-litany izinto uma ufuna impilo enhle. (Okuhlobene: Abasebenzi Abamnyama Ababalulekile Abayi-10 Babelana Ngendlela Abenza Ngayo Ukuzinakekela Ngesikhathi Sobhubhane)

"Ukucaca, ngicabanga ukuthi ukuzinakekela kubaluleke kakhulu," kusho uBacow. "Kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi ithathwe kancane futhi mhlawumbe iya ohlangothini oluncane ... olwengeziwe. Kufana nento enobuthi enobungozi. Kuyinto enhle kakhulu. [Ngifunde udaba lapho umbhali] wathi ukuzinakekela kusebenza kangcono uma ukhipha uma kuqhathaniswa nokwengeza. Abantu bacabanga ukuthi 'ake ngingeze ukuzindla. Ake ngingeze i-yoga.' Kodwa ubani onesikhathi?Uphikisa ngokuthi ukuzinakekela kusebenza kangcono kakhulu uma uthatha izinto icishiwe ipuleti lakho. Lokho kungithinte kakhulu njengomzali. "

Kubazali, ikakhulukazi, ukubona okuqukethwe kwesimiso sasekuseni kungase kungahlobani (kanye nokuzethemba), kusho u-Bacow no-Amanda Schuster, bobabili omama bezingane ezimbili. USchuster, imenenja yabahlengikazi eneminyaka engu-29 ubudala eToronto, ukhumbula ehlangana nevidiyo ye-Instagram yomuntu onethonya ebonisa indlela yakhe yasekuseni nengane esanda kuzalwa. Le vidiyo ibandakanya ukufaka imikhiqizo yakhe yokunakekelwa kwesikhumba (ebonakala iyingxenye yeposi exhasiwe) nokushushumbisa ingane yakhe embhedeni owenziwe ngobuciko. USchuster, okholelwa ukuthi lolu hlobo lokuqukethwe lungenza abanye omama bazizwe sengathi bayahluleka, uzizwe ephoqelekile ukuthi aphawule futhi aveze ukuthi le vidiyo ayisiyo indlela ekuseni ebukeka ngayo kubazali abaningi abasha.

"Ngesikhathi ngiqala ukuyibona [le vidiyo] yangicasula," kusho uSchuster. "Ukubona umuntu eqamba amanga aluhlaza kanjeya ngesikhangiso bekungimangaza, ikakhulukazi njengomama, ngokwazi ukuthi kuyingozi kangakanani ukubona lolu hlobo lwempilo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Sonke siyazi ukuthi akulona iqiniso, kodwa kumuntu osemusha. Umama ongenalo uhlelo lokusekelwa noma obheka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngalolo hlelo lokusekelwa futhi abone lokho kungathatheki, kungalimaza kakhulu. "

Uchwepheshe wezokwelapha uKiaundra Jackson, L.M.F.T, uyavuma ukuthi abazali basengozini enkulu kule milayezo. “Omama abaningi abakwazi ukugeza noma ukusebenzisa indlu yangasese ngokuthula, ingasaphathwa eyokuba nomsebenzi wasekuseni amahora amabili,” usho kanje. "Imithombo yezokuxhumana yinhle kodwa futhi, ngezinga elithile, i-facade. Ngibona abantu abadabukile ngoba bacabanga ukuthi kufanele babe nale ndlela yokuphila ephelele. Impilo yabo ibukeka yehluke kakhulu kuleyo, futhi bazizwa sengathi kukhona akulungile. "

Ngale migede engqondweni, uJackson noBacow bayavumelana ngalezo zikhathi zasekuseni kukhona kuseyinto enhle - akumele nje babandakanyeke njengalabo ovame ukubabona ku-inthanethi.

"Ukwazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela nokwenza imikhuba kwenza kube nomuzwa wokuhleleka nokulawula," kusho uBacow. Ukuba nesakhiwo kunciphisa ukukhathazeka nokudangala. "Kodwa inqubo ayidingi ukuba inkinga yamahora amabili ... noma enhle. Idinga nje ukulawulwa futhi ifake ukuphindeka." Ukuphindaphinda kubalulekile ekwenziweni kwento ejwayelekile ngoba kubandakanya okuthile okubizwa ngokuzilolonga kokuziphatha, [okuthuthukisa] ukufunda futhi kuholele kumuzwa wobuciko, "uyachaza" Kwenza nokuthile okujwayeleke kakhudlwana; ukujwayela kuholela ekududuzekeni nasekududuzekeni, nakho kukhuthaza umuzwa wokulawula nenhlalakahle. "

“Kunezinto eziningi esingaphezu kwamandla ethu, futhi siyaphumelela ngokungaguquguquki,” kusho uJackson. "Yilokho kanye okuyizinqubo zasekuseni nezindlela zasebusuku - lokho kungaguquguquki kusenza sizizwe sisekelekile. Kuletha izinga lokuzinza eliduduzayo kubantu."

Ufuna futhi ukugcina izinto zilula uma kuziwa ekwakheni inqubo ephumelelayo yasekuseni. "Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuguquguquka futhi ukwenze kukusebenzele," kusho uBascow. "Uma inqubo ingeyona eyeqiniso noma engafinyeleleka, maningi amathuba okuthi iwe, okuyinto engeyona into enhle ukuzethemba." (Okuhlobene: Kungani Sidinga Ngempela Ukuyeka Ukubiza Abantu Nge- "Superwomxn")

"Yenza isikhathi salokho okubaluleke kakhulu," kuchaza uJackson. Uma uwazisa ngempela umthandazo ekuseni noma uzivivinya, ungathola indlela yokukwenza. Kepha lokho akusho ukuthi kuzoba lula noma kufanele i-IG. "Kungenzeka ukuthi kuvulwa ividiyo yokuzivocavoca kanti unengane eyodwa engalweni ngenkathi uzama ukwenza ama-squats," esho. Futhi uma wena ngeke ngikwazi thola indlela yokukwenza noma unamathele enkambisweni? Ungazishayi. "Impilo iyenzeka," kugcizelela yena. "Izimo eziphuthumayo ziyenzeka, izinhlelo zokusebenza ziyashintsha, izingane zivuka phakathi kwamabili. Ziningi izinto ezihlukene ezingenzeka." Futhi kaningi (ikakhulukazi selokhu kwaqala ubhadane), "kufanele ugqoke izigqoko eziningi," uyanezela.

Bobabili u-Bacow no-Jackson baphawula ukuthi ilungelo lingene embonweni womphakathi mayelana nakho kokubili izinqubo zasekuseni kanye nokuzinakekela ngokuvamile. Ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, leyo mibono yethulwa ngezindlela ezibeka ukunethezeka phambili naphakathi nendawo. Ngenxa yalokho, ungase uzizwe njengawe isidingo amaphijama kasilika, amakhandlela kanokusho, ijusi eluhlaza okotshani, okokuthambisa okubizayo, igajethi yokuqina ephezulu - kanye nokuthi imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke kufanele yakhelwe kulezo zinto.

Kepha iqiniso liwukuthi, awuhluleki uma ungenaso isikhathi kanye / noma izinsiza zokwakha imikhuba yasekuseni efana naleyo yabathonya bakho be-fave noma umngani ocebile nomzanyana. Noma ngabe inqubo yakho ihilela ukufaka inkomishi yekhofi, ukulalela umculo ngenkathi ugqoka, noma ukwanga ingane yakho ngaphambi kosuku lwakho .... kusakusebenzela.

Futhi uma leyo nto uyenza njalo ekuseni - okusho ukupheqa imithombo yezokuxhumana— akuyona ukukhonza kahle? Hhayi-ke, mhlawumbe isimiso sakho se-a.m. singaba ngcono ngaphandle kwaso. "Uma uphaphama into yokuqala oyenzayo ukungena ezinkundleni zokuxhumana uphatheke kabi ngoba omunye ushadile kanti wena awuyena noma omunye umuntu ucebile kanti wena ungeyena, futhi uthwala lolo laka kuzo zonke ezinye. kosuku, lokho akunempilo,” kusho uJackson. "Kodwa uma uqala [ngento enhle], igudluza amandla akho ikubeke phezulu usuku lonke."

Uyanezela: "Gxila ezintweni ongazilawula." "Uma uthola into eyodwa noma ezimbili ongabambelela kukho, lokho kuzosiza impilo yakho yengqondo ibe sezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu."

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