Izimpawu ze-5 zobuchopho bakho nomzimba wakho zicela 'Isikhathi Esisodwa'

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• 1.Ayikho into ezwakala imnandi manje
• 2. Ngizithola sengifuna ukudla ZONKE izinto
• 3. Ngikhungathekile ngezinto ezincane
• 4. Ngiqala ngicuphe engibathandayo
• 5. Ngifuna ukucasha ekamelweni… noma endlini yangasese… noma ekhabethe…
• Ukwazi izimpawu kungisiza ukuba ngithathe isinyathelo

Lezi yizimpawu ezinhlanu zokuthi ngidinga kakhulu isikhathi esithile sodwa.

Kungaba noma yikuphi ukuhlwa okujwayelekile: Idina liyapheka, umlingani wami wenza izinto ekhishini, kanti ingane yami idlala egumbini labo. Ngingaba sosofeni ngifunda noma ngigoqe izingubo ekamelweni lapho umlingani wami eza engibuza okuthile, noma ingane yami iqala ukwenza imisindo ngenkathi idlala.

Ngokungazelelwe inkhulumomphendvulwano yami yangaphakathi iluchungechunge olude lwe uuuuggggghhhhh imisindo ngenkathi ngizwa i-adrenaline yami iphakama.

Lokhu kungumzimba wami omemeza ukuthi ngidlulelwe isikhathi esithile "mina".

Njengomama, umlingani, nowesifazane kulo mphakathi, kungaba lula ukubanjwa umjikelezo wokuhlala wenzela abanye abantu izinto. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuthi siyazinakekela, nathi. Kwesinye isikhathi lokho kusho ukwehla kukho konke ukuze uchithe isikhathi esithile uwedwa.

Ngokungaziniki lesi sikhathi sokuzivuselela, sibeka engcupheni yokusha, ngokomoya nangokomzimba.

Ngenhlanhla, ngiye ngabona izimpawu eziyisixwayiso zokuthi ngiyazisunduza ngokweqile. Ngezansi kunohlu lwezindlela ezinhlanu ezingumqondo nomzimba wami ezikhombisa ukuthi sengibambezeleke isikhathi esithile ngingedwa nokuthi yiziphi izinguquko engizenzayo ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ngizinakekela kahle.

1.Ayikho into ezwakala imnandi manje

Esinye sezinkomba zokuqala ukuthi ngidinga isikhathi esithile kimi lapho izinto zizwakala zingathandeki nje. Ngingazithola ngikhononda ngaphakathi ngokuthi nginesithukuthezi noma ngizihlehlise ngamaphrojekthi wokudala engangikulangazelele kakhulu ukukwenza.

Kunjengokuthi umoya wami udinga ukuvuselelwa ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe noma yini ehilela ukusebenzisa amandla okudala.

Lapho ngibona lokhu kwenzeka, ngiyabona ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi "ngithandane nami." Lokhu kungahle kube lula njengokuya kumtapo wezincwadi nokuphequlula ihora lonke noma ukuzitholela itiye futhi ngibheke iPinterest ngemibono emisha yephrojekthi yobuciko.

Ngokungenakugwenywa, ukuhlanganiswa kwesikhathi esincane sodwa kanye nogqozi olusha kuzokwenza ukuthi amajusi wami wokudala ageleze futhi.

2. Ngizithola sengifuna ukudla ZONKE izinto

Ngifunde eminyakeni edlule ukuthi ngingumuntu odla imizwa. Ngakho-ke, lapho ngithola ngokungazelelwe ngifisa konke ukudla okulula endlini, kuyisikhumbuzo esihle ukungena nami ngibone ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphakathi.

Ngokuvamile, uma ngizithola ngifinyelela kuma-chips noma ushokoledi, kungenxa yokuthi ngifuna ukuphunyuka ngokusebenzisa ama-buds wami wokunambitha.

Kwesinye isikhathi ngiyavuma ukuthi nginengcindezi bese ngizigezela ngamanzi okugeza ashisayo, ngithatha incwadi nokudla kwami ​​okulula. Kwezinye izikhathi ngizozibuza ukuthi ngidingani empeleni; akusikho ukudla okulula kepha kunengilazi enkulu yamanzi nolamula kanye nesikhathi esithile sokuthula sihleli kuvulandi ongemuva.

Ngokuqaphela isifiso sami sokudla ngokomzwelo nokuzihlola nami, ngiyakwazi ukubona ukuthi ngabe ngukudla engikufunayo ngempela yini (kwesinye isikhathi kuyikho!) Noma engikufisayo empeleni ikhefu.

3. Ngikhungathekile ngezinto ezincane

Imvamisa ngikwazi kahle ukwenza imithwalo yemfanelo eminingi ngenkathi ngithule. Kodwa-ke, kwesinye isikhathi ngizithola ngicindezelwa yizinto ezincane kakhulu.

Mhlawumbe ngibona phakathi nokwenza ukudla kwakusihlwa ukuthi ngiphuthelwe isithako futhi ngikhubazeke ngokomzwelo ngizama ukuthola okunye. Noma ngiyabona ngemuva kokuphuma esitolo ukuthi ngikhohliwe ukuthenga imoto futhi ngakhala izinyembezi.

Noma kunini lapho ngibona ukuthi angisakwazi ukugoqa ngalezi zinto futhi kunalokho ngimiswa yizo, kuyisibonakaliso esihle kimi ukuthi nginokuningi epuletini lami futhi ngidinga ukuthatha ikhefu. Imvamisa lesi isikhathi esihle sokuthi ngizijwayeze ukuzinakekela. Lokhu kufaka:

• Ukuzinika isheke eliqinile leqiniso. Ingabe lesi simo ngempela ukuphela komhlaba?
• Ukuthola ukuthi izidingo zami eziyisisekelo ziyahlangatshezwa yini. Ngilambile? Ngidinga ukuphuza amanzi? Ngingazizwa ngingcono uma ngilala phansi imizuzu embalwa?
• Ukuthola usizo. Isibonelo, ngingacela umlingani wami ukuthi athathe i-shampoo ngenkathi bephumile.

Ngokususa ezinye zalezo zinto ezincane epuletini lami, ngiyakwazi ukubuyisa isikhathi kimi ukuze ngiphumule kahle futhi ngishajaze.

4. Ngiqala ngicuphe engibathandayo

Ngiyaziqhenya ngokuthi ngiba muhle ngokwanele. Ngakho-ke lapho ingane yami yenza imisindo emincane engena ngaphansi kwesikhumba sami, noma lapho ngicasulwa umlingani wami engibuza umbuzo, ngiyazi ukuthi kukhona okuvukile.

Lapho ngizithola ngicasuka futhi ngijabula nabantu engibathandayo, ngizozibeka kulokho mina nomndeni wami esikubiza ngokuthi "yisikhathi sokuzibophezela." Lokhu kugcinelwe lapho omunye wethu ebona ukuthi bafinyelele umkhawulo wabo futhi badinga ukuthatha imizuzu embalwa ukusuka lapho.

Kimina, ngivame ukungena ekamelweni lokulala ngidonse umoya futhi ngizijwayeze amasu okubeka phansi, njengokuhlikihla itshe elibushelelezi noma ukuhogela amafutha abalulekile. Ngingahle ngidlale umdlalo ocingweni lami okwemizuzu embalwa noma ngifuyile ikati.

Ngalesi sikhathi ngizophinde ngicabange ngalokho engikudingayo ngaleso sikhathi.

Lapho ekugcineni sengikulungele ukuxhumana nabantu futhi, ngizobuyela emuva ngiyoxolisa ngokuthwebula. Ngizokwazisa ingane yami noma umlingani wami ukuthi kwenzekani, futhi, uma kunesidingo, ngibazise ukuthi kukhona engikudingayo.

5. Ngifuna ukucasha ekamelweni… noma endlini yangasese… noma ekhabethe…

Ezikhathini ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ngiye ngacathamela endlini yangasese ngocingo lwami, hhayi ngoba bengidinga ukuya, kodwa ngoba bengifuna nje ukuthula isikhashana. Lesi senzo sokuzisusa ngempela emndenini wami umzimba wami ungitshela ukuthi ngidinga kakhulu isikhathi esiningi sodwa - hhayi nje endlini yami yokugezela imizuzu emihlanu!
Lapho ngizithola ngenza lokhu noma nginesifiso sokuzivalela ekamelweni (okungaphezu nje kwesikhathi sokuphuma esichazwe ngenhla), khona-ke ngiyazi ukuthi yisikhathi saso ngempela sokubaleka. Ngizokhipha i-planner yami bese ngifuna isikhathi esithile sokuhlela isidlo sasemini nami nje. Noma ngizobuza umlingani wami ukuthi singakhuluma yini ngesikhathi esimnandi sokuthi ngihambe izinsuku ezimbalwa bese sihlela ukubaleka ebusuku.

Cishe njalo ngibuya kulezi zikhathi ngiqabulekile nomama onothando ngokwengeziwe, umlingani okhona manje, futhi ngokwami ​​ngokwengeziwe.

Ukwazi izimpawu kungisiza ukuba ngithathe isinyathelo

Zonke lezi zimpawu ziyizinkomba ezinhle kimi ukuthi angizinakekeli ngendlela engidinga ngayo. Lapho ngiqala ukuzwa lezi zinto, ngiyakwazi ukuzihlola ngisebenzise imikhuba yami ehlukahlukene yokuzinakekela.

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