Yini u-Enneagram Test? Futhi, Okufanele Ukwenze Ngemiphumela Yakho

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• Ungayithatha Kanjani i-Enneagram?
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Uma uchitha isikhathi esanele ku-Instagram, ngokushesha uzobona ukuthi kunenkambiso entsha edolobheni: isivivinyo se-Enneagram. Ngokuyisisekelo, i-Enneagram iyithuluzi lokuthayipha komuntu (à la Meyers-Briggs) elihlakaza ukuziphatha kwakho, amaphethini okucabanga, nemizwa ibe "uhlobo" lwezinombolo.

Ngenkathi indaba yemvelaphi ka-Enneagram ingaqondile ngqo — abanye bathi ingalandelwa emuva eGrisi lasendulo, abanye bathi isuselwe enkolweni, ngokusho kwe-Enneagram Institute - kulungile ukucabanga ukuthi sekunesikhathi ikhona. Ngakho-ke, kungani ukwanda okungazelelwe kokuthandwa?

Njengoba izinsuku zokuzinakekela zikhula futhi kanjalo nentshisekelo ekufundweni kwezinkanyezi nemibono efana nenhlalakahle engokomzwelo, kunengqondo ukuthi u-Enneagram alandele maduzane. "I-Enneagram inikeza ukujula okuphawulekayo nezendlalelo eziningi zokutholwa komuntu siqu, ukuhlola, nokukhula engingakutholanga kwamanye amathuluzi," kusho uNatalie Pickering, Ph.D., isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomqeqeshi eHigh Places Coaching & Consulting, osebenzisa i-Enneagram ukwakha uhlaka lokuqeqesha amaklayenti akhe.

I-TL; i-DR — kubonakala sengathi kunesifiso esikhulayo sokuziqonda ezingeni elijule kakhulu futhi, ngokusobala, i-Enneagram isiza abantu ukuthi benze lokho. Kodwa Kanjani ncamashi? Ukubekezela, intethe encane. Okokuqala, izisekelo ...

Luyini Uvivinyo lwe-Enneagram, Ngqo?

Okokuqala, ukuhumusha okuncane: I-Enneagram isho ukuthi "ukudweba kwabayisishiyagalolunye" futhi inezimpande ezimbili zamaGrikhi, ennea okusho ukuthi "ayisishiyagalolunye" futhi igremu okusho "ukudweba" noma "isibalo." Lokhu kuzokwenza umqondo owengeziwe ngesekhondi—qhubeka ufunda.

I-Enneagram ngokuyisisekelo uhlelo lwezengqondo olusiza ukuchaza ukuthi kungani senza lokho esikwenzayo, futhi luxhuma ndawonye ukucabanga kwethu, imizwa yethu, imizwa yethu, kanye nezisusa zethu, kusho uSusan Olesek, umqeqeshi omkhulu kanye nomsunguli we-Enneagram Prison Project, lapho esebenza nabantu ababoshiwe.

"Abantu abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi yini ebangela izenzo zabo kwasekuqaleni," esho, futhi kulapho i-Enneagram ingena khona. Inhloso yesivivinyo ukuletha ukuqonda okungcono kwesisusa sakho, amandla akho, nobuthakathaka bakho noma "yini ukwesaba," ngokukaGinger Lapid-Bogda, Ph.D., umbhali we I-Enneagram Development Guide futhi Ubuciko bokuthayipha: Amathuluzi Anamandla we-Enneagram Typing.

I-Enneagram ikwenza lokhu ngokukunikeza "uhlobo" noma inombolo eyodwa kuye kweziyisishiyagalolunye, ebekwe kumdwebo oyisiyingi onamaphuzu ayisishiyagalolunye. Ngalunye "lwezinhlobo" lusakazwa emaphethelweni endingilizi futhi luxhunywe kwelinye ngemigqa ediagonal. Ukuhlola akugcini nje ngokunquma uhlobo lwezinombolo zakho, kodwa futhi kukuxhumanisa nezinye izinhlobo ngaphakathi kwendingiliza, kusize ukuchaza ukuthi ubuntu bakho bungashintsha kanjani ngaphansi kwezimo ezahlukene. (Okuhlobene: Abalandeleli Abahle Bokuqina Kobuntu Bakho)

Lokho kumane nje kuyiphuzu le-Enneagram iceberg, ngokusho kochwepheshe. Kungasiza futhi ukuletha uzwelo nokuqonda kuwe nakwabanye abantu, ukhombe futhi ulahle imikhuba engakhiqizi, futhi uthole ukulawula okungcono ekuphenduleni kwakho, kusho u-Olesek.

Ungayithatha Kanjani i-Enneagram?

Kukhona izivivinyo eziningi nokuhlola okuhlose ukunquma uhlobo lwakho lwe-Enneagram, kodwa akuzona zonke ezidalwe zilingana. U-Olesek uncoma i-Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI) evela e-Enneagram Institute, nokuhlolwa okutholakala ku-inthanethi ngama- $ 12. “Yilona [lo] engilisebenzisa futhi ngisebenza kulo ngokuyinhloko,” usho kanje.

Imibuzo ngokwayo ihlanganisa izitatimende ezipheya, futhi ukhetha leso ekuchaza kahle kakhulu nesisebenza kahle kakhulu ekuphileni kwakho konke. Isibonelo: "Ngijwayele ukuba manqikanqika nokuhlehlisa NOMA isibindi nokubabusa." Inani eliqondile lemibuzo liyahlukahluka, kodwa imibuzo edumile engu-144 ethi RHETI ithatha cishe imizuzu engama-40 ukuqeda.

Enye inketho ebhekwe kakhulu yokuthola uhlobo lwakho yi- I-Enneagram Ebalulekile nguDavid Daniels, MD, owayenguprofesa wezokwelapha wezifo zengqondo eStanford University's Medical School. Ngokungafani neRHETI, le ncwadi ayisona isivivinyo kodwa kunalokho iwukuzibika ngokwakho. "Akuyona inqubo yemibuzo nezimpendulo," kusho u-Olesek. "Esikhundleni salokho, ufunde izigaba eziyisishiyagalolunye ubone ukuthi yisiphi esihambisana naso."

Ngokuqondene nenani elikhulu kakhulu lezivivinyo ze-Enneagram online? Bheka imininingwane yokuthi ukuhlolwa kuqinisekiswa kanjani ngokwesayensi (okusho ucwaningo olubonisa ukuthi abantu bahlangana kanjani nezinhlobo zokubonisa ukwethembeka) nokuthi ngubani owenze lolu cwaningo oluthile, kusho uSuzanne Dion, uthisha oqinisekisiwe we-Enneagram. "Labo abaneziqu ze-Ph.D noma ze-master baqeqeshelwa inqubo elandelwayo yesayensi futhi maningi amathuba okuthi baqeqeshwe ukuthi bangenza kanjani ukuhlolwa kwengqondo. Banamathuba amaningi okuthi bahlakulele ukuhlolwa okunokwethenjelwa futhi okusemthethweni." Ukusebenzisa ukuhlola okuningi nezincwadi ukuze ufunde ngohlobo lwakho elinye isu elihle. "Kubalulekile ukuyibuka emithonjeni ehlukahlukene," kusho uLapid-Bogda.

Lapho usuqinisekisile ukuthi ukuhlolwa kuthembekile, ungangena engxenyeni emnandi: ukuthola uhlobo lwakho.

Izinhlobo Eziyisishiyagalolunye ze-Enneagram

Uhlobo lwakho oluvelayo luphathelene nokuthi uhlangana kanjani nokuzivumelanisa nendawo ekuzungezile. Imininingwane eqondile yencazelo ngayinye iyahluka ngokuhlolwa okuthile, kepha konke kumboza izisekelo: ukwesaba, isifiso, izisusa, nemikhuba ebalulekile, kusho u-Olesek. Isibonelo, izincazelo zoHlobo loku-1 ukuya kohlobo 9 ngezansi zivela ku-Enneagram Institute.

Uhlobo 1: “UMguquli” unomuzwa onamandla wokulungile nokungalungile. Bahleleke kahle futhi balwela ushintsho nokwenza ngcono, kepha besaba ukwenza iphutha. (Okuhlobene: Izinzuzo Ezihle Zokumangala Zokuba Ngumuntu Okhathazayo)

Uhlobo 2: “UMsizi” unobungane, uyaphana, futhi uyazidela. Zisho kahle, kepha futhi zingaba ezijabulisa abantu futhi zibe nobunzima bokuvuma izidingo zazo.

Thayipha 3: "I-Achiever" ifuna ukuvelela, iyazethemba futhi iyathandeka. Ukuwa kwabo kungaba ukusebenza ngokweqile nokuncintisana. (Ehlangothini le-flip, kunezinzuzo eziningi zokuncintisana.)

Thayipha 4: "I-Individualist" iyazazi, iyazwela, futhi inobuhlakani. Bangaba nokuzikhukhumeza nokuzethemba futhi babe nezinkinga ngokudangala nokuzidabukela.

Uhlobo 5: "Umphenyi" uyiphayona elinombono, futhi uvame ngaphambi kwesikhathi salo. Bayaphapha, banokuqonda, futhi banelukuluku, kepha bangabanjwa yimicabango yabo.

Thayipha 6: I-"Loyalist" ingumxazululi wezinkinga ngoba ithembekile, isebenza kanzima, inomthwalo wemfanelo, futhi ithembekile. Bangabona izinkinga ezizayo futhi benze abantu babambisane kepha banokuthambekela kokuzivikela nokukhathazeka.

Thayipha 7: "Umshisekeli" uhlale efuna okuthile okusha nokujabulisayo ukuze agcine amathalente akhe amaningi ematasa. Ngenxa yalokho, bangaba nomfutho futhi baphelelwe yisineke.

Thayipha 8: I- "The Challenger" iyisikhulumi esiqinile, esinamasu aqondile. Bangakususa kude kakhulu bese beba namandla futhi babangisane.

Uhlobo 9: "UMenzi Wokuthula" unobuciko, unethemba, futhi uyasekela. Ngokuvamile bazimisele ukuhamba nabanye ukuze bagweme izingxabano futhi banganaki. (Psst...ingabe uyazi ukuthi kukhona *kwesokudla* indlela yokuba nethemba?!)

Uma Usulwazi Uhlobo Lwakho ...

Manje njengoba usufunde izinhlobo ze-Enneagram, ingabe uzizwa ubonwa? (Cue: kuzwakala "yebo.") Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi ubufakazi besayensi obusekela i-Enneagram buyaxokozela. Ukubuyekezwa kwezifundo eziningi kutholwe ukuthi ezinye izinguqulo zohlolo lwe-Enneagram (njenge-RHETI) zinikeza imodeli yomuntu ethembekile nephindaphindekayo. Ucwaningo lwe-Buuuuut ngesihloko luyantuleka, uma kubhekwa ukuthi lusekelwe kakhulu kwifilosofi yasendulo kunasesayensi esekwe ebufakazini.

Ukuthi isayensi ayilusebenzi ngokuphelele uhlelo lwe-Enneagram akusho ukuthi alunamsebenzi — kuye ngokuthi wenzani ngemiphumela yakho.

"Uma isetshenziswa ngenhloso enhle nelukuluku, amasistimu afana ne-Enneagram anganikeza umkhombandlela oqinile wezindlela zethu zokwenza izinto eziqondayo nezingazi lutho - kuyisiqalo ukusisiza ukuthi siqhubeke sikhula futhi sikhule," kusho uFelicia Lee, Ph.D., umsunguli we-Campana Leadership Group, ehlinzeka izinhlangano ngezikhathi zokuthayipha ze-Enneagram. "Amandla akho okufunda nokukhulisa njengomuntu awapheli."

Akekho uhlobo olulodwa nje, noma. Uzoba nohlobo olulodwa oluvelele kepha futhi ungaqaphela ukuthi unezici ezivela kolunye lwezinhlobo ezimbili ezincikene kumjikelezo womdwebo, ngokusho kwe-Enneagram Institute. Lolu hlobo oluseduze, olufaka izinto eziningi ebuntwini bakho, lwaziwa ngokuthi "iphiko" lakho. Isibonelo, uma ungowesiThoba, uzokwazi ukubona ezinye zezici zeSishiyagalombili noma eyodwa, zombili eziseduze nesishiyagalolunye kulo mdwebo futhi zibhekwa njengephiko elingaba khona.

Ngaphezu kwephiko lakho, uzophinde uxhumeke kwezinye izinhlobo ezimbili kuya ngokuthi inombolo yakho iwela kuphi kumdwebo we-Enneagram, ohlukaniswe "izikhungo" ezintathu. Isikhungo ngasinye sifaka izinhlobo ezintathu ezinamandla afanayo, ubuthakathaka, imizwa enamandla, ngokusho kwe-Enneagram Institute.

• Isikhungo Sokwemvelo: 1, 8, 9; intukuthelo noma ukufutheka imizwa evelele
• Isikhungo Sokucabanga: 5, 6, 1; ukwesaba umzwelo obusayo
• Isikhungo Sokuzwa: 2, 3, 4; amahloni umuzwa ovelele

Uma ubheka lo mdwebo, uzobona ukuthi uhlobo lwakho luxhunywe ngemigqa ehlukanisiwe kwezinye izinombolo ezimbili ezingaphandle kwesikhungo noma kwephiko. Umugqa owodwa uxhuma ohlotsheni olumele indlela oziphatha ngayo lapho usondela empilweni nasekukhuleni, kuyilapho omunye uxhumeka ohlotsheni olumelela indlela okungenzeka wenze ngayo lapho ungaphansi kwengcindezi nengcindezi eyengeziwe, noma lapho uzizwa ucindezelekile. abasilawuli lesi simo, ngokusho kwesikhungo i-Enneagram Institute.

Yini okufanele ngiyenze ngemiphumela?

I-Enneagram ikunikeza ngengcebo yokuqonda ngezisusa zakho nokuthi uxhumana kanjani nalabo abaseduze kwakho. Incazelo ngayinye yohlobo olujulile yabelana ngendlela oziphatha ngayo ngokusemandleni akho nalapho ucindezelekile. Ngenxa yalokho, ingakusiza uthuthukise ukuzazi, uthuthukise ubuhlakani bakho bemizwa, futhi uzulazule ebudlelwaneni emsebenzini nasempilweni yakho yomuntu siqu. Eqinisweni, isifundo esiyisibonelo esishicilelwe kujenali I-Contemporary Family Therapy ibonise ukuthi imiphumela ye-Enneagram ikhuthaza ukuqwashisa futhi ingasiza ekwelashweni kwezithandani. Besebenzisa i-Enneagram, labo bantu bakwazi ukuqonda kangcono umlingani wabo futhi baveze izidingo zabo kanye nezifiso zabo.

Bheka incazelo yohlobo lwakho bese ubheka ukuthi ikwenza uzizwe kanjani (okuhle, okubi, nakho konke okuphakathi), kusho u-Olesek. Kungokwemvelo ukuzizwa unengwa yizici ezithile zohlobo lwakho — akuzona zonke ezinhle noma ezincomayo — kodwa thatha lokhu njengamathuba. Gcina usebenzisa uhlu lwalokho okucabangayo, okuzwayo, nokufunda njengoba ungena ujula ku-Enneagram yakho, uyancoma.

Ukusuka lapho, u-Lee uncoma ukuthi kuqale kugxile ekuqondeni "amandla akho amakhulu" omuntu siqu—amandla ayingqayizivele asekelwe ohlotsheni lwakho lwe-Enneagram—nokuthi ungawasebenzisa kanjani lawo mandla ebuhlotsheni bakho bomsebenzi kanye nobomuntu siqu, uthi. "Ngokufanayo, uhlobo ngalunye lunezindawo 'ezehlukene ezingaboni' kanye 'nokubuka' okufanele lizinake. Yilapho ukukhula okuphawulekayo kwenzeka khona ngoba uthola ukuthi ulingisa nini nomthelela ongemuhle onawo empilweni yakho njengoba kanye nabanye. "

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngoba ingakusiza ukukwazisa ngamandla nobuthakathaka babanye abantu — njengoba befana noma behlukile kobakho — ingakusiza "ukuthuthukisa ukuqonda kweqiniso, okuhlala njalo, ukwamukelwa nokuzihlonipha wena nabanye," kusho Dion.

Ungakusebenzisa Kanjani Lokho Kuzazi Ukuze Usebenze

Thayipha 1: Ukuze usebenze ekuthambekeleni kokuphelela, u-Lapid-Bogda uphakamisa ukunaka imininingwane, njengembali engadini. "Yonke inhle, yize wonke amacembe, ngokwesibonelo, engase angaphelele," kusho yena. Ukuphinda umsebenzi kusiza ukuzifundisa ukuthi ukungapheleli nakho kuhle.

Uhlobo 2: Gxila ekuxhumaneni nemizwa yakho ukuze ugweme ukusebenzela abanye. "Uma ukwazi ukuxhumana nawe kakhulu, ungazinakekela kangcono," kusho uLapid-Bogda. "Awudingi ukuntweza phezu kwabanye noma uzizwe udabukile noma uthukuthele noma ukhathazekile uma othile engafuni lokho ozokunikeza. Uma usuqaphela ukuthi unezidingo, uqala ukuzinakekela kangcono izidingo zakho."

Uhlobo 3: "Abathathu bathambekele ekucabangeni ukuthi 'ngisezingeni eliphezulu njengokufeza kwami ​​kokugcina,'" kusho uLapid-Bogda.Uzwakala ujwayelekile? Bese uzama umsebenzi omusha bese unaka indlela ozizwa ngayo esikhundleni sokwahlulela ukusebenza kwakho ngesikhathi somsebenzi. Uma ungayithandi, yeka. Ukuthatha nje isikhathi sokubona ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngomsebenzi othile kungakusiza ukuthi uzibeke ingcindezi encane yokuthi uphelele kokuthile, kuchaza uLapid-Bogda. (Okuhlobene: Izinzuzo Eziningi Zezempilo Zokuzama Izinto Ezintsha)

Thayipha 4: Kungenzeka ukuthi uwuhlobo lomuntu "ongena ngolwazi ngaye, ongokoqobo noma obonakalayo, futhi enqaba impendulo enhle," kusho uLapid-Bodga. Khomba ukulingana ngokomzwelo ngokulungiselela izincomo ezinhle ongaziba noma uzichithe.

Uhlobo 5: Into enhle yokwenza imishanguzo yempumu ukuphuma ekhanda lakho ngokuxhuma ngokwengeziwe emzimbeni wabo. Ukuhamba ngezinyawo kuyindlela elula yokwenza lokho, ngokusho kukaLapid-Bogda.

Thayipha 6: Abayisithupha ngokwemvelo banokuskena kwe-antenna ukuthola ukuthi yini engase ihambe kabi. Ukuze uguqule umbhalo olwazini olusakazwayo, u-Lapid-Bogda uncoma ukuthi uzibuze le mibuzo ebalulekile: "Ingabe lokhu kuyiqiniso? Ngazi kanjani ukuthi kuyiqiniso? Yini enye engase ibe yiqiniso?"

Thayipha 7: Uma uneminyaka eyisikhombisa, amathuba okuthi "umqondo wakho usebenze ngokushesha," ngakho uvame ukugxila "ekuvuselelweni kwangaphandle" ukuze uyishune, uyachaza. Sebenzisa lolu lwazi ukuze uzuze futhi uzijwayeze ukungena "ngaphakathi" kaningi ngokuzindla nokugxila esikhathini samanje, noma ngabe imizuzwana emi-5 esheshayo phakathi, yithi, izabelo zomsebenzi. (Ngaphambi kokuthi uqale, hlola lezi zinhlelo zokusebenza ezingcono kakhulu zokuzindla zabaqalayo.)

Thayipha 8: U-Lapid-Bogda uphakamisa ukuthi uzibuze: "Kusengozini kangakanani ukuba sengozini hhayi ukuba buthakathaka? "Bese, cabanga ngezimo lapho ungazizwa usengcupheni kepha empeleni kungamandla. Isibonelo, uthi omunye umuntu angathi," Ngizwela omunye umuntu. Ngiyakuzwa enhliziyweni yami. Ngazizwa ngisengozini lapho ngizizwa ngaleyo ndlela, kodwa kungenza ngibe nozwelo, okwenza ngiqine. "

Uhlobo 9: AmaNines afana ne-TV enevolumu ephansi, ngokusho kukaLapid-Bogda. Ithiphu yakhe: Qala ukukhuluma kakhulu ngezinqumo ezilula, njengokukhetha indawo yokudlela ozoyidla nomngani. "Bangakwazi ukuqala futhi bakhulume izwi labo ngezindlela ezincane kakhulu," usho kanje.

Okubalulekile:

I-Enneagram ihlinzeka ngezifundo zokuzicabangela wena ngokwakho kanye nokuzinakekela, ezingazuzisa noma ubani—ngisho noma ungelona ngempela uhlobo oluthile ukuhlolwa okukukhafulayo noma uma yonke into ikuzwakalisa ukuthi woo-woo kancane ngawe. Masibhekane nakho: Umhlaba ungathuthukiswa kuphela ngokuthi wonke umuntu abe nokuzazi kancane. Futhi noma yimaphi amathuluzi owasebenzisela ukusebenzela kulokho — i-Enneagram, ukufundwa kwezinkanyezi, ukuzindla, uhlu luyaqhubeka — kuhle lokho.

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