Kuyini Ukuba ngumzali weHelicopter?

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• Kuyini umzali onophephela emhlane?
• Kubukeka kanjani ukuba ngumzali we-helicopter?
• Ingane encane
• Isikole samabanga aphansi
• Iminyaka yobusha nangaphezulu
• Ziyini izimbangela zokukhuliswa kwezindiza ezinophephela emhlane?
• Ukwesaba ngekusasa labo
• Ukukhathazeka
• Ukufuna umqondo wenjongo
• Ukunxephezelwa ngokweqile
• Ukucindezela kontanga
• Ziyini izinzuzo zokuba umzali wezindiza ezinophephela emhlane?
• Iyini imiphumela yokuba ngumzali wezindiza ezinophephela emhlane?
• Ungakugwema kanjani ukuba ngumzali we-helicopter
• Ukudla okudlela endlini

Iyiphi indlela engcono yokukhulisa ingane?

Impendulo yalo mbuzo wakudala iphikiswa kakhulu - futhi kungenzeka wazi umuntu ocabanga ukuthi indlela yakhe iyona ehamba phambili.

Kepha uma uletha ekhaya umntwana omncane omncane kungazizwa sengathi inhloso yakho eyinhloko ukuwavikela kunoma yikuphi ukulimala - okungokoqobo noma okubonakalayo - okungase kwenzeke kubo.

Lesi sidingo sokugcina ingane yakho iphephile futhi ijabule ingaba yingxenye yokuthi isitayela sokubeletha esivame ukugconwa ngaso sonke isikhathi sihlala sikhona e-United States: ukuba ngumzali ngezindiza ezinophephela emhlane.

Ngenkathi ngandlela thile izici zalesi sitayela zingabonakala njengenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokukhulisa izingane ezijabule, eziphumelelayo, ukuba umzali wezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kwesinye isikhathi kungabuyela emuva futhi kulimaze kakhulu kunokuhle.

Kuyini umzali onophephela emhlane?

Wonke umzali ufuna izingane zakhe zijabule futhi zizenzele kahle. Ngakho-ke uma unikezwa ithuba, ngubani ongeke agxumele ethubeni lokwenza impilo yengane yakhe ibe lula?

Lokhu kungukuziphatha okungokwemvelo, kepha abanye abazali bathatha "ukuba ngabasekeli" baye kwelinye izinga bese bezulazula phezu kwezingane zabo njengendiza enophephela emhlane - yingakho ukuzalwa kwethemu.

Indlela engcono yokuchaza ukuba ngumzali ngezindiza ezinophephela emhlane (okubizwa nangokuthi i-cosseting) "ukuzibandakanya ngokweqile empilweni yengane."

Kuphambene nokuba ngumzali osebenza ngokukhululeka lapho kukhuthazwa khona ukuzimela nokuzicabangela, kepha kuhlobene kakhulu nokukhulisa izingane ngotshani lapho umzali “ewa phansi” - ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso - noma iyiphi inkinga ingane engase ibhekane nayo ukuze ingazizwa ilimele, ingezwa buhlungu, noma ukudumala.

Ngenkathi ukukhuliswa kwezindiza ezinophephela emhlane sekuxoxiswane ngakho kabanzi eminyakeni yamuva, akusilo igama elisha lelo. Isingathekiso empeleni sisetshenziswe okokuqala encwadini ka-1969 enesihloko esithi “Between Parent and Teenager” eyabhalwa nguDkt Haim Ginott.

Kubukeka kanjani ukuba ngumzali we-helicopter?

Noma ngabe kumile phezu kwehlombe lentsha njengoba benza umsebenzi wabo wasekhaya, noma kufiphaza ingane encane njalo lapho begibela ibhayisikili labo, ukuba ngumzali ngezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kuza ngezindlela eziningi.

Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi kuthinta kuphela intsha kanye nabafundi basekolishi, kepha kungaqala besebancane kakhulu futhi kuqhubeke kube ngabantu abadala. Nakhu ukubheka ukuthi umzali onophephela emhlane ubukeka kanjani ezigabeni ezahlukene zempilo.

Ingane encane

• ukuzama ukuvimbela konke ukuwa okuncane noma ukugwema izingozi ezifanele iminyaka
• angalokothi avumele ingane ukuthi idlale yodwa
• njalo ebuza uthisha wasenkulisa ngemibiko yenqubekela phambili
• ukungakhuthazi ukuzimela okufanele ngentuthuko

Isikole samabanga aphansi

• ukukhuluma nabaphathi besikole ukuze baqinisekise ukuthi ingane inothisha othize ngoba babonwa njengabahamba phambili
• ukubakhethela abangane bengane
• ukubabhalisa emisebenzini ngaphandle kokufaka kwabo
• ukuqedela umsebenzi wesikole kanye namaphrojekthi wesikole engane yakho
• ukwenqaba ukuthi ingane ixazulule izinkinga yodwa

Iminyaka yobusha nangaphezulu

• ukungavumeli ingane yakho ukuthi yenze izinqumo ezifanele iminyaka
• ukuzibandakanya ngokweqile emsebenzini wabo wezemfundo nakweminye imisebenzi yangemva kwesikole ukuze bavikele ukwehluleka noma ukudumazeka
• ukuxhumana noprofesa wabo wasekolishi ngamabanga aphansi
• ukungenelela kokungezwani nabangane babo, osebenza nabo, noma umqashi

Ziyini izimbangela zokukhuliswa kwezindiza ezinophephela emhlane?

Ukukhulisa izingane ngezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kunezimbangela ezahlukahlukene, futhi kwesinye isikhathi, kunezinkinga ezijulile empandeni walesi sitayela. Ukwazi lokhu kungakusiza uqonde ukuthi kungani umuntu (noma wena uqobo) unesifiso esinamandla sokuzibandakanya ngokweqile empilweni yengane yakhe. Izimbangela ezingaba khona zifaka:

Ukwesaba ngekusasa labo

Abanye abazali bakholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi okwenziwa ingane yabo namuhla kunomthelela omkhulu ekusaseni labo, futhi izindiza ezinophephela emhlane zithathwa njengendlela yokuvimbela izingxabano kamuva empilweni yabo.

Ingane ethola amamaki aphansi, ukusikwa eqenjini lezemidlalo, noma ukungangeni ekolishi elizithandayo kungadala ukwesaba kokungaqiniseki ngekusasa lazo.

Ukukhathazeka

Abanye abazali bakhathazeka futhi bahlukane ngokomzwelo lapho bebona ingane yabo ilimele noma idumele, ngakho-ke bazokwenza konke okusemandleni abo ukuvimbela lokhu ukuthi kungenzeki.

Kepha abangase bangakuqapheli ukuthi ukulimala nokudumala kuyingxenye yempilo futhi kusiza ingane ukuba ikhule futhi ikwazi ukubekezela. (Cabanga nje ukuthi thina, njengabantu abadala, sivame kangaki ukuthi isimo esinzima sisenze saqina.)

Ukufuna umqondo wenjongo

Ukuba ngumzali ngezindiza ezinophephela emhlane nakho kungavela lapho ubunikazi bomzali busongwa ngokufezwe yingane yabo. Impumelelo yengane yabo ibenza bazizwe bengumzali ongcono.

Ukunxephezelwa ngokweqile

Mhlawumbe umzali wendiza enophephela emhlane akazizwanga ethandwa noma evikelekile ngumzali wabo futhi wafunga ukuthi izingane zabo azisoze zazizwa ngale ndlela. Lokhu kungumuzwa ojwayelekile ngokuphelele futhi obabazekayo. Kepha yize lokhu kungaqeda umjikelezo wokunganakwa, abanye abazali badlulela ngokweqile banikeze izingane zabo ukunaka okujwayelekile.

Ukucindezela kontanga

Ukucindezela kontanga akuyona nje inkinga yobuntwana - kuthinta nabantu abadala.Ngakho-ke abazali abazungeze abazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane bangezwa ingcindezi yokulingisa le ndlela yokuba ngumzali, ngokwesaba ukuthi abanye bazocabanga ukuthi abalungile njengomzali uma bengenalo.

Ziyini izinzuzo zokuba umzali wezindiza ezinophephela emhlane?

Umbuzo wesigidi samarandi: Ingabe ukuba ngumzali we-helicopter kuyasiza?

Ngezinga elithile, kungenzeka kube, okungenani kumzali.

Kuyisitayela sabazali banamuhla esinempikiswano, kodwa empeleni kukhona ucwaningo oluphakamisa ukuthi abazali ababambe iqhaza elikhulu ezimpilweni zezingane zabo bathokozela injabulo enkulu nencazelo ezimpilweni zabo.

Kodwa-ke, inzuzo yokuba ngumzali we-helicopter ingahle ingadluleli ezinganeni.

Ngenkathi abanye abazali bezulazula ukuze banikeze ingane yabo ithuba, olunye ucwaningo luveza ukuthi ukuzibandakanya njalo kungahle kudale ezinye izingane zibe nesikhathi esinzima esikoleni nangaphezulu.

Iyini imiphumela yokuba ngumzali wezindiza ezinophephela emhlane?

Yize abanye abazali bebona ukuba ngumzali we-helikopta kuyinto enhle, kungabuyisa futhi kubangele ingane ukuthi izethembe noma izethembe.

Lokho kungenxa yokuthi njengoba ingane ikhula kungenzeka bangabaze amakhono abo ngoba abakaze babone lutho bebodwa. Bangase babe nomuzwa wokuthi abazali babo ababathembi ukuthi bangazenzela izinqumo, futhi baze baqale ukubuza ukuthi bakulungele yini ukuphatha impilo yabo.

Imizwa yokungazethembi nokuzethemba kungabi kubi kangangoba kuholele kwezinye izinkinga, njengokukhathazeka nokudangala. Futhi le mizwa ayimane isuke nje ngoba ingane iba mdala.

Kunzima ukwenza ucwaningo ngoba ibinzana elithi "umzali onophephela emhlane" akulona igama elisemthethweni lezokwelapha noma lezengqondo - futhi lisetshenziswa ngendlela ehlambalazayo.

Kodwa-ke, isifundo esisodwa sango-2014 esihlola umthelela walesi sitayela kubafundi basekolishi sathola ukuthi abafundi abakhuliswa yilabo ababizwa ngabazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kungenzeka babe semithini yokukhathazeka nokudangala. Ucwaningo lwalunqunyelwe, kepha, njengoba lwalubhekisa kubantu abancane eTurkey iningi labo okungabesifazane.

Kukhona nengozi yokuthi ingane ithuthukise izingqinamba zelungelo lapho ikholelwa ukuthi ifanelwe amalungelo athile, imvamisa njengomphumela wokuthola njalo lokho ekufunayo. Bakhula bekholelwa ukuthi umhlaba uzoguqa ubabhekele emuva, okungaholela ekuvukeni okungenangqondo kamuva.

Ezinye izingane zenza noma zibe nobutha lapho zizwa ukuthi abazali bazo bazama ukulawula impilo yabo ngokweqile. Abanye bakhula benamakhono amabi okubhekana nesimo. Ngoba abafundanga ukuthi bangabhekana kanjani nokwehluleka noma ukudumazeka ngesikhathi samabanga aphansi, esikoleni esiphakeme, noma ekolishi, bangahle bangabi namakhono okusombulula izingxabano.

Ungakugwema kanjani ukuba ngumzali we-helicopter

Ukuxegisa izintambo kungaba nzima, kodwa lokhu akukwenzi ube ngaphansi komzali onothando, ohilelekile. Ungakhombisa ingane yakho ukuthi uhlala ukhona ngaphandle kokuxazulula zonke izinkinga zayo.

Nakhu ukuthi ungagqashula kanjani futhi ukhuthaze ukuzimela ngaphandle kwengane yakho:

• Esikhundleni sokugxila esikhathini samanje, cabanga ngemiphumela yesikhathi eside yokuba ngumzali we-helicopter. Zibuze, ingabe ngifuna ingane yami ithembele kimi njalo ukulungisa izinto, noma ngifuna ukuthi ithuthukise amakhono empilo?

• Uma izingane zakho sezikhulile ngokwanele ukuthi zingazenzela okuthile, ziyeke futhi zilwe nesifiso sokungenelela. Lokhu kungafaka izinto ezincane njengokuzibopha izicathulo, ukuhlanza ikamelo labo, noma ukukhetha izingubo zabo.

• Vumela izingane zizenzele izinqumo ezihambelana neminyaka yazo. Vumela ingane eyisiqalo ukuthi ikhethe umsebenzi wayo wesikole owuthandayo noma izinto zokuzilibazisa, futhi vumela izingane ezindala ukuthi zikhethe ukuthi yimaphi amakilasi ezizowathatha.

• Ngemuva kokuthi ingane yakho ibe nokungaboni ngaso linye nomngani, osebenza naye, noma umphathi, ungangeni phakathi noma uzame ukukulungisa. Bafundise amakhono okuxazulula ingxabano bebodwa.

• Vumela ingane yakho ukuthi yehluleke. Siyazi ukuthi lokhu kunzima. Kepha ukungakwenzi iqembu noma ukungena ekolishi abazikhethele lona kubafundisa indlela yokubhekana nokudumazeka.

• Bafundise amakhono empilo njengokupheka, ukuhlanza, ukuwasha izingubo, ukuxhumana ubuso nobuso, nokuthi bangakhuluma kanjani nothisha babo.

Ukudla okudlela endlini

Nganoma yisiphi isitayela sokuba ngumzali, kubalulekile ukuthi ucabangele ukuthi izothinta kanjani ingane yakho manje nasesikhathini esizayo.

Vele, wonke umzali ngesikhathi esithile wenze okunye okungeziwe ukwenza impilo yengane yakhe ibe lula. Inkinga yilapho ukukhuliswa kwezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kuba yinto ejwayelekile futhi kuvimbela ukukhula okunempilo.

Uma "ungumzali we-helicopter," ungahle ungazi, futhi akungabazeki ukuthi ufuna okungcono kakhulu kwengane yakho. Ngakho-ke cabanga ngomuntu noma ngomuntu omdala ofuna babe yibo, bese usekela isitayela sakho sobuzali kulo mphumela. Ungathola ukuthi ukubuyela emuva kwehlisa umthwalo - emahlombe akho, nakwabo.