Izeluleko eziyi-10 zokubhekana nobuntu beNarcissistic

-Delile

• 1. Babone ukuthi bangobani ngempela
• 2. Phula umlingo futhi uyeke ukugxila kuwo
• 3. Khulumela wena
• 4. Beka imingcele ecacile
• 5. Balindele ukuthi babuyele emuva
• 6. Khumbula ukuthi awunaphutha
• 7. Thola uhlelo lokusekela
• Phikelela esenzweni esisheshayo, hhayi ezithembisweni
• 9. Qonda ukuthi umuntu othanda ukudlala angadinga usizo lochwepheshe
• 10. Qaphela lapho udinga usizo
• Uzoqhubeka nini

Sijwayele ukusebenzisa igama elithi narcissist ukuchaza umuntu ozicabangela yena futhi omfushane ngozwela. Kepha kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi i-narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) yisimo esisemthethweni sempilo yengqondo esidinga ukuxilongwa ngungoti wezempilo yengqondo.

Noma kunjalo, abantu bangabonisa ezinye izici ze-narcissistic ngaphandle kwe-NPD. Lokhu kungafaka:

• ukuzikhukhumeza
• edinga ukunconywa njalo
• ukuxhaphaza abanye
• ukungaboni noma ukunakekela izidingo zabanye

Ukwenza izinto zibe nzima kakhulu, abantu abane-NPD noma ukuthambekela kwe-narcissistic bavame ukuzwela kakhulu ekugxekweni, yize bezethemba kakhulu.

Nakhu ukubheka ezinye zezindlela ezingokoqobo zokubhekana nomuntu one-NPD noma ukuthambekela kwe-narcissistic - kanye namathiphu wokuqaphela lapho sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubeka.

1. Babone ukuthi bangobani ngempela

Lapho befuna, labo abanobuntu be-narcissistic bahle kakhulu ukuvula i-charm. Ungazithola ukhangwa yimibono nezithembiso zabo ezinhle. Lokhu kungabenza badume ikakhulukazi kuzilungiselelo zomsebenzi.

Kepha ngaphambi kokuthi ungene, bheka ukuthi babaphatha kanjani abantu uma bengekho “esiteji.” Uma ubabamba beqamba amanga, bekhohlisa, noma bengabahloniphi ngandlela-thile abanye, asikho isizathu sokukholelwa ukuthi ngeke benze okufanayo nakuwe.

Ngaphandle kokusho kothile onobuntu obuthombisayo, okufunayo nezidingo zakho akubalulekile kubo. Futhi uma uzama ukuveza le nkinga, ungahlangabezana nokuphikiswa.

Isinyathelo sokuqala ekubhekaneni nomuntu onobuntu obuthakathaka ukwamukela nje ukuthi yilokho ayikho - akukho okuningi ongakwenza ukuguqula lokho.

2. Phula umlingo futhi uyeke ukugxila kuwo

Uma kukhona ubuntu be-narcissistic ku-orbit yakho, ukunakwa kubonakala kuthaka indlela yabo. Lokho kungokwakhiwa - noma ngabe ukunakwa okungekuhle noma okuhle, labo abanobuntu obusebenzayo basebenza kanzima ukuzigcina besendaweni ebonakalayo.

Ngokushesha ungazithola uthenga kuleli qhinga, ucindezele eceleni izidingo zakho ukuze uzigcine wanelisekile.

Uma ulinde ikhefu ekuziphatheni kwabo okufuna ukunakwa, kungahle kungaze kufike. Akunandaba ukuthi ulungisa impilo yakho kangakanani ukuze ivumelane nezidingo zabo, ayisoze yanele.

Uma kufanele ubhekane nobuntu obuthandayo, ungabavumeli ukuthi bangenele umuzwa wakho wobuqu noma bachaze umhlaba wakho. Nawe ubalulekile. Zikhumbuze njalo ngamandla akho, izifiso zakho, nezinhloso zakho.

Thatha umthwalo futhi uqophe "isikhathi esithile" Zinakekele wena kuqala futhi ukhumbule ukuthi akuwona umsebenzi wakho ukuzilungisa.

3. Khulumela wena

Kunezikhathi lapho ukunganaki okuthile noma ukumane uhambe kuyimpendulo efanele - khetha izimpi zakho, akunjalo?

Kepha okuningi kuya ngobudlelwano. Isibonelo, ukusebenzisana nomphathi, umzali, noma oshade naye kungadinga amasu ahlukile kunokubhekana nalowo osebenza naye, ingane yakini, noma ingane.

Abanye abantu abanobuntu obuthakathaka bayakujabulela ukwenza abanye baxokozele. Uma kunjalo, zama ukungakutholi ukubonakala ukhungathekile noma ukhombise ukucasuka, ngoba lokho kuzobanxusa kuphela ukuthi baqhubeke.

Uma kungumuntu ongathanda ukumgcina eseduze empilweni yakho, khona-ke kufanele uzikhulumele. Zama ukukwenza lokhu ngendlela ezolile, emnene.

Kufanele ubatshele ukuthi amazwi abo nokuziphatha kwabo kuyithinta kanjani impilo yakho.Yisho futhi ungaguquguquki ngalokho okungamukeleki nokuthi ulindele ukuphathwa kanjani. Kepha zilungiselele iqiniso lokuthi kungenzeka bavele bangaqondi - noma bakhathalele.

4. Beka imingcele ecacile

Umuntu onobuntu obuthakathaka uvame ukuzithanda.

Bangacabanga ukuthi banelungelo lokuya lapho bethanda khona, bahlole izinto zakho siqu, noma bakutshele ukuthi kufanele uzizwe kanjani. Mhlawumbe bakunikeza izeluleko ongazicelanga futhi bathathe udumo ngezinto ozenzile. Noma ukukucindezela ukuthi ukhulume ngezinto eziyimfihlo endaweni esesidlangalaleni.

Bangase futhi babe nomqondo omncane wesikhala somuntu siqu, ngakho-ke bathambekele ekuweleni imingcele eminingi. Kaningi kunalokho, ababoni nokubabona. Yingakho kufanele ucace ngokuningiliziwe ngemingcele ebalulekile kuwe.

Kungani imiphumela ibabalulekile kubo? Ngoba umuntu onobuntu obuthakathaka imvamisa uqala ukunaka lapho izinto ziqala ukubathinta uqobo.

Vele uqiniseke ukuthi akuyona usongo olungenzi lutho. Khuluma ngemiphumela kuphela uma usukulungele ukuyenza njengoba kushiwo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ngeke bakukholwe ngokuzayo.

Ngokwesibonelo

Ithi unomuntu osebenza naye othanda ukupaka iloli labo elikhulu ngendlela eyenza kube nzima ukuthi uhlehle emuva. Qala ngokubacela ngokuqinile ukuthi baqiniseke ukuthi bakushiya isikhala esanele. Yibe ususho imiphumela yokungazihloniphi izifiso zakho.

Isibonelo, uma ungakwazi ukubuyela emuva ngokuphepha, uzohudulwa imoto yabo. Okusemqoka ukulandela futhi ushayele inkampani yokudonsa ngokuzayo lapho kwenzeka.

5. Balindele ukuthi babuyele emuva

Uma umelana nomuntu onobuntu obuthandayo, ungalindela ukuthi baphendule.

Uma usukhulumile futhi ubeka imingcele, bangabuya nezimfuno zabo ezithile. Bangase futhi bazame ukukukhohlisa ukuze uzizwe unecala noma bakholelwe ukuthi uwena ongenangqondo futhi olawulayo. Bangenza umdlalo wokuzwelana nabo.

Zilungiselele ukuma umile. Uma uthatha isinyathelo sokubuyela emuva, ngeke bakuthathe ngokungathi sína ngokuzayo.

6. Khumbula ukuthi awunaphutha

Umuntu onenkinga yobuntu be-narcissistic akunakwenzeka ukuthi avume iphutha noma athathe umthwalo wokukulimaza. Esikhundleni salokho, bathambekele ekuvezeni imikhuba yabo emibi kuwe noma komunye umuntu.

Ungahle ulingeke ukuthi ugcine ukuthula ngokwamukela ukusolwa, kepha akudingeki ukuthi uzilulaze ukuze usindise ukuzazisa kwabo.

Uyalazi iqiniso. Ungavumeli noma ngubani akuthathele lokho.

7. Thola uhlelo lokusekela

Uma ungakwazi ukugwema umuntu, zama ukwakha ubudlelwano bakho obunempilo kanye nenethiwekhi yokusekela yabantu. Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ebuhlotsheni obungasebenzi kahle nomuntu onobuntu obuthambisayo kungakushiya ukhathele ngokomoya.

Vuselela ubungane obudala bese uzama ukunakekela abasha. Hlangana nomndeni kaningi. Uma umbuthano wakho wokuxhumana nomuntu umncane kunalokho ongakhetha kukho, zama ukuthatha ikilasi ukuze uhlole umdlalo wokuzilibazisa omusha. Sebenza emphakathini wakho noma zinikele ngokuzithandela esizeni sendawo. Yenza okuthile okukuvumela ukuthi uhlangane nabantu abaningi ozizwa ukhululekile ukuhlangana nabo.

Buyini ubudlelwano obunempilo?

Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nomuntu onobuntu obucasulayo kungenza kube nzima ukukhumbula ukuthi ubuhlobo obunempilo buzizwa kanjani.

Nazi izimpawu ezimbalwa okufanele uzibheke:

• bobabili abantu bayalalela futhi benza umzamo wokuqondana
• bobabili abantu bayawavuma amaphutha abo futhi bayazibophezela ngawo
• bobabili abantu bazizwa sengathi bangakhululeka futhi babe yibo uqobo phambi komunye

Phikelela esenzweni esisheshayo, hhayi ezithembisweni

Abantu abanobuntu obuthakathaka bahle ekwenzeni izithembiso. Bathembisa ukuthi bazokwenza okufunayo hhayi ukwenza leyo nto oyizondayo. Bathembisa ukwenza ngokujwayelekile kangcono.

Futhi bangase babe qotho ngalezi zithembiso. Kepha ungalenzi iphutha ngakho: Lesi sithembiso siyindlela yokuthola usizo kumuntu onobuntu obuthandayo.

Lapho sebethole abakufunayo, ugqozi alusekho. Awukwazi ukuthembela ezenzweni zabo ezifanayo namazwi abo.

Cela okufunayo futhi ume umile. Gcizelela ukuthi uzofeza kuphela izicelo zabo ngemuva kokuthi sebeqede ezakho.

Unganikeli kuleli phuzu. Ukungaguquguquki kuzosiza ukuyishayela iye ekhaya.

9. Qonda ukuthi umuntu othanda ukudlala angadinga usizo lochwepheshe

Abantu abane-NPD kaningi abayiboni inkinga - okungenani hhayi ngokwabo. Ngenxa yalokho, akunakwenzeka ukuthi bayoke bafune ukwelulekwa ngokomsebenzi.

Kepha abantu abane-NPD bavame ukuba nezinye izinkinga, njengokusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, noma enye impilo yengqondo noma ukuphazamiseka kobuntu. Ukuba nesinye isiphithiphithi kungaba yikho okwenza umuntu afune usizo.

Ungasikisela ukuthi bafinyelele osizweni lochwepheshe, kodwa awukwazi ukubenza bakwenze. Kuwumthwalo wabo ngokuphelele, hhayi owakho.

Futhi khumbula, ngenkathi i-NPD iyisimo sempilo yengqondo, ayithetheleli ukuziphatha okubi noma okuhlukumezayo.

10. Qaphela lapho udinga usizo

Ukusebenzelana njalo nomuntu onobuntu obuthombisayo kungayilimaza impilo yakho engokwengqondo nengokomzimba.

Uma unezimpawu zokukhathazeka, ukudangala, noma ukugula okungachazeki ngokomzimba, bheka udokotela wakho oyinhloko kuqala. Lapho usuhlolwe, ungacela ukuthunyelwa kwezinye izinsizakalo, njengabahlengikazi namaqembu okusekela.

Finyelela emndenini nakubangane bese ushayela uhlelo lwakho lokusekelwa lusebenze. Asikho isidingo sokuhamba wedwa.

Uzoqhubeka nini

Abanye abantu abanobuntu obuthambisayo bangaba nokuhlukumeza ngamazwi noma ngokomzwelo.

Nazi ezinye izimpawu zobudlelwano obuhlukumezayo:

• ukubizana ngamagama, ukuthukana
• ukuxhasa, ukuhlazisa umphakathi
• bememeza, besabisa
• umona, izinsolo

Ezinye izimpawu zokuxwayisa okufanele uzibuke komunye umuntu zifaka:

• sikusola ngakho konke okungahambi kahle
• ukuqapha ukunyakaza kwakho noma ukuzama ukukuhlukanisa
• ukukutshela ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngempela noma kufanele uzizwe kanjani
• ujwayele ukuveza ukushiyeka kwabo kuwe
• ukuphika izinto ezisobala kuwe noma ukuzama ukukukhanyisela
• ukunciphisa imibono yakho nezidingo zakho

Kepha ngasikhathi sini isikhathi sokuphonsa ithawula? Bonke ubuhlobo bunezikhathi ezithile ezinhle, angithi?

Yize lokhu kuyiqiniso, ngokuvamile kungcono ukushiya ubudlelwano uma:

• uhlukunyezwa ngamazwi noma emoyeni
• uzizwa ulawulwa futhi ulawulwa
• uhlukunyeziwe ngokomzimba noma uzizwa usongelwa
• uzizwa ukhishwe inyumbazane
• umuntu one-NPD noma umuntu othanda ukukhombisa ukukhombisa izimpawu zokugula ngengqondo noma ukusebenzisa kabi izidakamizwa, kepha ngeke aluthole usizo
• impilo yakho yengqondo noma yomzimba ithintekile

thola usizo

Uma wesaba omunye umuntu, ungafinyelela ku-National Domestic Abuse Hotline ku-800-799-7233, enikeza ukufinyelela okungu-24/7 kubahlinzeki bezinsizakalo nezindawo zokukhosela kulo lonke elase-United States.

Njengoba uvumelana nezinqumo zakho zokubushiya ubudlelwano, kungasiza ukukhuluma nenqubo.

Lezi zinsiza zempilo yengqondo zingakusiza ukuthi uthole umelaphi ofanele:

• I-American Psychiatric Association: Thola Udokotela Wengqondo
• I-American Psychological Association: Isikhungo Sokusebenza Kwezengqondo
• Izindaba Zama-Veterans: Abeluleki Abaqinisekisiwe be-VA

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