Izigaba Eziningi Zokulala (noma Ukungabi Nakho) njengoMzali

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• Ingane
• Ingane encane
• Inkulisa
• Iminyaka yesikole
• Izidingo ezikhethekile
• Ukulala kufanele kube yingxoxo eqhubekayo

Kujwayelekile ukuthi ubunzima bokulala budlule isigaba somntwana. Ngakho ake sikhulume ngakho kabanzi.

Uma sikhuluma ngokungalali kahle njengomzali, iningi lethu licabanga ngalezo zinsuku ezintsha zosana - lapho uvuka ukondla umntwana osanda kuzalwa ngaso sonke isikhathi sasebusuku, uphelelisa “ukuqhuma uhambe” egumbini lakho lokulala , noma ukusebenzisa idrayivu yamaphakathi nobusuku ukuze unciphise omncane one-colicky.

Kepha iqiniso liwukuthi kunezinhlobo eziningi ezahlukahlukene kanye nesikhathi sezinselelo zokulala kubazali abanezingane ezindala futhi. Futhi kwesinye isikhathi, lapho ungaphandle kwesigaba sengane futhi usabhekene nengane engalali, kungazizwa njengendawo enesizungu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ngabazali bezingane kuphela okufanele baphuthelwe ukulala, akunjalo?

Yiqiniso, lokho akulona iqiniso. Kunezimo eziningi emjikelezweni wobuntwana lapho ukulala kungaletha khona inselelo kuwe nakwingane yakho. Ake sihlole ezinye zezigaba nezinselelo zokulala ongahlangabezana nazo.

Ingane

Isigaba sokuqala nesisobala kakhulu empilweni yomzali lapho ukulala kungaba yinselele yasebuntwaneni. Ngokwe-American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), izingane ezisanda kuzalwa zilala amahora angaba ngu-16 kuya kwayi-17 ngosuku. Kodwa-ke, lobo buthongo abujwayeleki ngokuphelele, futhi izikhathi zabo zokulala zingaba yimizuzu embalwa nje ukuya emahoreni ambalwa.

Kwenzeka kanjani lokho ngemininingwane engasizi ngalutho, ha? Empeleni, lapho ungumzali omusha, kungenzeka ukuthi awazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela ebuthongweni futhi kungathatha isikhashana ukuthola amaphethini womjikelezo wokulala wengane yakho, okuzoshintsha njalo emavikini ambalwa noma kunjalo.

Ngingakhuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​lapha nginezingane ezine ezazilele kahle futhi bese kuba munye owenqaba ukulala noma ukulala, njalo, futhi ukukuqinisekisa ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi, uthola umntwana ongalali - futhi akusho ukuthi ' Ukwenza noma yini engalungile.

Yebo, ukujwayela nokwazi izinkomba zokulala kwabantwana kungasiza, kepha esigabeni esisanda kuzalwa, izindlela zokulala ebuchosheni azikakasungulwa okwamanje, ngakho-ke kuyinto okufanele uzulazule kuyo.

Ingane encane

Ngakho-ke udlula esigabeni sengane bese ukhululekile, akunjalo? Ukulala ekugcineni kukusasa lakho, akunjalo?

Ngeshwa, hhayi ngqo.

Isici esinzima kakhulu kwesinye isikhathi sokulala esigabeni sentsha okulindelwe okubandakanyekile. Ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho kufanele ukuthi ilele kangcono, kanti akunjalo, okuholela ekukhungathekeni ekugcineni kwakho, okwenza ukuyibeka embhedeni kukhathazeke, okwenza ubuthongo babo bube nzima, futhi ugcine ubhajwe kumjikelezo omubi wokungalali.

Iqiniso liwukuthi, isigaba esincanyana isikhathi esivamile sokuphazamiseka kokulala. Izingane zingamelana nokulala, zivuke kaningi ebusuku, zidlule emuva ekulaleni, futhi zizwe ukwesaba ebusuku ngisho namaphupho amabi wangempela.

Ukulala kwezingane kungaba nzima kakhulu ukubhekana nakho, ngenxa yokukhula okumangalisayo nentuthuko eyenzeka ebuchosheni nasemizimbeni yabo, kanye nomzabalazo wakho wokubafundisa amakhono okulala enempilo.

Yize kungaba yinselelo ukubhekana nokuphazamiseka kokulala kwezinsana, futhi kube nzima ukungena kwesinye isigaba sokulala kabi kuwe, kungasiza ukuqonda ezinye zezici ezibangela ukuphazamiseka kokulala kwezinsana.

Isibonelo, usana lwakho kungenzeka luhlangabezana:

• ukuzimela okusha
• ukukhathala ngokweqile
• ukukhathazeka ngokwehlukana
• izinguquko ohlelweni lwe-nap

Futhi bayakhula! Bangakwazi ngokoqobo ukukhuphuka emibhedeni yabo manje - kungani ulala lapho ukwazi ukukhuphuka futhi udlale? (I-AAP incoma ukuphuma kwesibhedlela uye embhedeni omncane lapho ingane yakho ingamasentimitha angu-89 ubude.)

Inkulisa

Ichazwe njengesigaba esiphakathi kweminyaka emi-3 nengu-5 ubudala, iminyaka yasenkulisa nayo ayiphumuli ncamashi. Iningi lezinselelo ezifanayo izingane ezisencane ezibhekana nazo, izingane zasenkulisa nazo zingabhekana nazo.

Bangase baqhubeke (noma baqale) babe nobunzima bokulala noma bavuke kaningi ebusuku. Kule minyaka, bangahle balale ngokuphelele, balahle uhlelo lwabo futhi baholele ezikhathini zokulala ezikhathele kakhulu nezinenselele.

Futhi njengebhonasi emnandi, ukwesaba ukulala kanye nobusuku obuthusayo kungahle kudlale cishe iminyaka engu-4, ngakho-ke uma ubhekene nezimo ezingazelelwe zengane evuka ikhala ebusuku, yingxenye yangempela (futhi ejwayelekile) yalesi sigaba.

Iminyaka yesikole

Lapho nje ingane yakho ingena esikoleni futhi njengoba ikhula, ukuphazamiseka kokulala kungagudluka kusuka ezinseleleni zangaphakathi kuya kwezangaphandle.

Isibonelo, ngenkathi ingane encane kungenzeka ukuthi ibhekane namaphupho amabi avela ekukhuleni, osemusha angabhekana nokuphazamiseka kobuchopho kusuka ezikrinini nasekusebenziseni amaselula.

Vele, izingqinamba eziqhubekayo njengokukhama embhedeni, i-apnea yokulala, noma isifo semilenze esingenakuphumula kungenzeka sithinte ukulala kwengane yakho njalo.

Ngokwengeziwe, kunokuphakama kokudla kwe-caffeine (okuvela ezintweni ezinjenge-sodas, iziphuzo ezikhethekile zekhofi, neziphuzo zamandla “ezipholile”) kanye nemisebenzi yesikole eqoqiwe kanye neyezinye izinto ezingenza ukulingana kwenani elidingekayo lokulala kube nzima kakhulu.

Izidingo ezikhethekile

Kanye nezinguquko zentuthuko ezingenzeka lapho ingane ikhula futhi iphazamisa ukulala, izingane ezinezidingo ezikhethekile nazo ziyovame ukubhekana nezinselelo ezihlukile emaphethweni azo okulala.

Isibonelo, ucwaningo lwango-2014 lwathola ukuthi izingane ezine-autism spectrum disorder (ASD) zinezinkinga eziningi zokulala kunezingane ezineminyaka efanayo ngaphandle kwe-ASD ezingathinta izinga lazo lokuphila jikelele.

Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi izinselelo zokukhulisa ingane enezidingo ezikhethekile kanye nokuphazamiseka kokulala kanye nokuntuleka kwe "camaraderie" okuvame ukuhambisana nesigaba sokunqamuka kokulala kwabazali abanezingane ezisanda kuzalwa kungenza noma yimuphi umzali obhekene nalesi simo azizwe ekhethekile futhi ekhungathekile.

Ukulala kufanele kube yingxoxo eqhubekayo

Kukonke, njengabazali, sidinga ukuqala ukukhuluma ngezinselelo ezahlukahlukene zokulala esihlangabezana nazo kuzo zonke izigaba, hhayi isigaba sesana kuphela. Bonke abazali bangabona futhi bazi ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kokulala kuvamile kunoma yisiphi isikhathi.

Impela, isigaba sengane sokuncishwa ubuthongo sinakwa kakhulu. Kubazali abaningi, leso sigaba ngesesikhashana abangabheka emuva bahlekise ngaso - kepha uma ubhekene nezinkinga zokulala ezinzima eminyakeni eyedlule, azizwa zihlekisa kakhulu.

Kulula kumzali - ikakhulukazi umzali wokuqala noma obhekene nesimo esisha, njengokuxilongwa kwe-ASD kwakamuva - ukuzizwa sengathi benza okuthile "okungalungile" lapho belwa nobuthongo. Lo muzwa ungabenza bagweme ukukhuluma ngezinselelo zabo zokulala ngenxa yokwesaba ukwahlulelwa.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingane yakho ineminyaka emingaki noma yisiphi isigaba ongahle ubhekane naso ezigabeni zokulala, into ebalulekile okufanele uyikhumbule ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho mayelana nokuthi yini engabangela noma yiziphi izingqinamba zokulala, ukuxhuma nezinsiza ezingasiza, nokufinyelela ukuphuma kubazali abasesimweni esifanayo.

Ngoba njalo ngo-3 ekuseni odlula lapho usavukile, kuhlale kunomunye umzali obheke phezulu ezinkanyezini, afise ukuthi nazo zilele.

UChaunie Brusie ungumhlengikazi wezabasebenzi kanye nowokubeletha ophenduke umbhali nomama osanda kuqanjwa wabahlanu. Ubhala ngayo yonke into kusuka kwezezimali kuye kwezempilo ukuthi ungaphila kanjani ngalezo zinsuku zokuqala zobuzali lapho konke ongakwenza ukucabanga ngakho konke ukulala ongakutholi. Mlandele lapha.