Nakhu Ukuthi Ukuzindla Kungabuqinisa Kanjani Ubuhlakani Bakho Bomzwelo

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• Amathiphu wokuzindla

Ukuqhubekela phambili kusukela ekuzindleni okucabangayo, sekuyisikhathi sokukhuluma ngokuzicabangela kwakho. Ukuzibandakanya nokuba matasa kwempilo yansuku zonke kungenza kube yinselele ukungena ngaphakathi bese sicabanga ngemicabango nemizwa yethu. Kepha ukuzazisa - noma ukuzibonakalisa ngokwakho - kungadala ukuqonda, okungashintsha indlela esizibona ngayo thina nalabo abasizungezile.

Amathiphu wokuzindla

Uzibuza ukuthi uzokuqondisa kuphi ukuzindla kwakho? Nayi eminye imibuzo eshukumisa ingqondo ukuze uqalise:

1. Ngabe ukwesaba kuvela kanjani empilweni yami? Kungibamba kanjani?
2. Iyiphi enye indlela engingaba ngayo umngane noma umlingani ongcono?
3. Yikuphi okunye ukuzisola kwami ​​okukhulu? Ngingayidedela kanjani?

Elinye icebo eliwusizo, ngokusho kwezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo yomphakathi, ukuhlola imicabango nemizwa ecindezelayo kakhulu ukude.

Ukufeza lokhu, zama ukukhuluma nawe kumuntu wesithathu. Lo "muntu wesithathu okhuluma yedwa" anganciphisa ukucindezeleka futhi adambise imizwa engemihle.

UJuli Fraga yisazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esinelayisense esizinze eSan Francisco, eCalifornia. Wathweswa iziqu ze-PsyD e-University of Northern Colorado futhi wahlanganyela ebudlelwaneni basemva kwezobudokotela e-UC Berkeley. Unentshisekelo ngempilo yabesifazane, usondela kuzo zonke izikhathi zakhe ngemfudumalo, ukwethembeka, nozwela. Bona ukuthi wenzani kuTwitter.