Kungani Kufanele Uchame Lapho Usondela Kakhulu Ekamelweni Lokugeza?

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Uyazi ukuthi umuzwa owesabekayo othi "kufanele uhambe" obonakala uqina futhi uqina lapho usondela emnyango wakho wangaphambili? Uphuthazela okhiye bakho, ulungele ukuphonsa isikhwama sakho phansi bese wenza indawo yokugezela. Akukhona konke ekhanda lakho-into yangempela ebizwa ngokuthi i-latchkey incontinence. (I-Psst... Lezi Izinto Ezimangalisayo Ze-pelvic Zokuchama Eshaweni.)

"Ukubuka nje kwento esihlotshaniswa nesenzo kungase kuqalise inqubo yobuchopho esidingweni esiphuthumayo sokuyizwa-konke ngokungazi," kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Ginnie Love, Ph.D.

Kusukela sisebancane, sifundiswa ukuhlobanisa indlu yangasese nokuchama. Ngakho-ke lapho sisondela kokukodwa, lolo hlelo, olutholakala ekujuleni kwemifula yengqondo enganakile, luvula umcabango futhi umzimba usebenze ngokwezinto eziphilayo ngokwenza lokho okwenziwa yimvelo, kuchaza Uthando.

"Kufana nokuhlolwa kukaPavlov," kusho uDkt. Ocwaningweni lwesayensi olwaziwayo, isazi sokusebenza komzimba saseRussia u-Ivan Pavlov wakhalisa insimbi lapho sipha izinja zaso ukudla. Ngemuva kwesikhashana, wazama ukushaya insimbi yodwa wathola ukuthi inja yaconsisa amathe noma ukudla kwakungekho.

Luhlobo olufanayo lokuvuselelwa kokuphendula okunesimo esinyeni sakho, kuchaza uWakamatsu. Uthola umkhuba wokuthulula esinyeni ngokushesha nje lapho ungena emnyango, ngakho uvele uzwe sengathi kufanele uchame-noma ungachami. (Ingabe ichame lakho libukeka lihlekisa noma liyanuka? Hlaziya Izinto Eziyisi-6 Ichama Lakho Elizama Ukukutshela Ngalo.)

Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uma uqhubeka nokunikela esinyeni esikhundleni sokuvumela ubuchopho bakho bulawule, ungase uqale ukuvuza noma ukuchama okubi kakhulu esinyathelweni sangaphambili. (Hey, kuyenzeka!)

Ngenhlanhla, kunezinto ezimbalwa ongazenza ukuze ukungalingani kwakho kwe-latchkey kungafiki kulelo phuzu. "Ukungena ngomnyango ohlukile wendlu yakho kungasiza ekwehliseni isifiso sokuchama, kepha uma lokho kungeyona indlela, udinga ukumelana nesifiso sokukhipha isinye sakho lapho ungena endlini," kusho uWakamatsu.

Amasu okuphazamisa angakusiza futhi ukuthi ungasinaki isinye sakho esishaya ngamandla. Qala ukupheka isidlo sakusihlwa ngokushesha lapho ufika ekhaya noma uvula iposi ukuze ususe ingqondo yakho emuzwa, kuphakamisa uWakamatsu. Kungaba inqubo ehamba kancane ukuze ungabi nemibandela, ngakho-ke qala ngokubona ukuthi ungakwazi yini ukulinda kuze kube yimizuzu emihlanu ufikile ekhaya, bese kuba imizuzu eyi-10, futhi kancane kancane wandise isikhathi.

Enye indlela ayiphakamisayo ukukhipha isisu sakho ngamabomu ngaphambi kokuba uhambe uye ekhaya. Ngemuva kwalokho, uzokwazi ukuthi ubuchopho bakho bumane buthumela izimpawu ezingezona uma usazizwa sengathi kufanele uhambe lapho ufika ekhaya, ngoba kuthatha cishe amahora amathathu kuya kwamane ukuze isinye sigcwale. Njengokucindezela ukuzivocavoca kanzima, kwesinye isikhathi kumane kungaphezu kwengqondo.

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